Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

So now you know that there are little bonuses that come with transition that we couldn't have anticipated, but did you know even more comes along with it? Sometimes there are changes to yourself and the way you exist in the world that you also could have never anticipated. And where those can lead you is sometimes surprising. Geeky ttrpg-er Kristine Chester joins us to discuss being present in your life and how ttrpgs really are evil! (no they're not) (this episode includes my Only At Comic-con wild experience from SDCC 2023!) KRISTINE CHESTER Twitter: @12thKnight FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Body Hair, Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, Finding Our Trans Style, Hair, Hair 2, Four Year Retrospective, Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Confidence 2: Into the Unknown (A Whole New World, What is Happening), Pandemic Transition, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, A Trans Re-wedding Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

There's a whole lot that every trans and nonbinary person hopes to get out of transition, but sometimes you also get small, wonderful little bits of joy you never could have anticipated. And they're all due to the world transition opens up to you. Photographer, filmmaker, and writer Rachel Kendra returns to discuss film scores, Robotech, and not hating the person in the mirror. Am I for real? Thanks so much, Reagan! RACHEL KENDRA Twitter: @rachelxkendra Threads: @rachelxkendra Insta: @rachelxkendra Bluesky: @rachelxkendra Website: rachelkendra.com FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, A Trans Re-wedding, Gendered Childhoods, Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

I've been out publicly as trans for four years, and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long! So let's dive in to my annual check-in and see what new developments (ahem) have occurred! We're going to cover body hair, photos, exercise, confidence, voice, clothes, getting married all over again, and multiple new body changes! Photographer, filmmaker, and writer Rachel Kendra joins us to discuss the dying film industry and how it's so L.A. to first meet on a podcast! Let's just see what happens. For fun! RACHEL KENDRA Twitter: @rachelxkendra Threads: @rachelxkendra Insta: @rachelxkendra Bluesky: @rachelxkendra Website: rachelkendra.com FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) One, Two, and Three Year Retrospectives, Transition Setbacks, 2022 US Trans Survey Report, Pandemic Transition, Body Hair, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, Performative Allyship, Body Hacking, Hair, Hair 2, Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Confidence, Confidence 2 (aka Into the Unknown aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), A Trans Re-wedding, Trans Voices 1-3, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Finding Our Trans Style Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

Do you know what boymoding and girlmoding are? Do you know why trans and nonbinary people would do it, especially when the chances are high that we REALLY don't want to? Guess what you're gonna learn all about this week? Let's talk about what it is, why we do it, and why it absolutely SUCKS for many of us. Priest, playwright, and theologian Shannon TL Kearns returns to discuss connecting with our bodies and trusting yourself. Feel your feelings! SHANNON TL KEARNS Twitter: @shannontlkearns Facebook: @shannontlkearns Insta: @shannontlkearns Tiktok: @shannontlkearns Website: shannontlkearns.com In the Margins: A Transgender Man’s Journey with Scripture - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802879489 FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, A Pandemic Transition, Confidence, A Trans Re-wedding, Gender Dysphoria, Legal Name and Gender Marker Changes, 2022 US Trans Survey Early Insights Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

Too many folks confuse or conflate sexuality and gender, when they're entirely different things. But the relationship between them can definitely make figuring out that you're trans more difficult. Let's talk about why that is! Priest, playwright, and theologian Shannon TL Kearns joins us to discuss vitriol from faith-based people and how churches don't do their homework! Wait... you mean every guy who sees a pretty lady doesn't want to BE her? Are you sure?? SHANNON TL KEARNS Twitter: @shannontlkearns Facebook: @shannontlkearns Insta: @shannontlkearns Tiktok: @shannontlkearns Website: shannontlkearns.com In the Margins: A Transgender Man’s Journey with Scripture - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802879489 FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Gender Dysphoria, Photos and Reflections, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Heavily Gendered Childhoods, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

What do you do when one of the happiest days of your life was still mostly miserable due to dysphoria, and trying to live up to the lie of who you had to be? Well, my friends, you re-marry your wife as the real you! And what an absolutely mind-blowing experience it was. So my lovely wife and I are gonna talk all about it (and bouquet duels)! This is YOUR life. Be YOU. Do what makes you happy. FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Gender Dysphoria, Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Trans Grief, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Finding Our Own Representation (P!nk), Confidence, Parents Who Will Never Know the Real You (aka my dad), Cis Spousal and Partner Support REFERENCE MATERIAL Tilly and Susan's Re-wedding playlist - https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vTbRK7WdmDTdNp14ZRP0V9ImfbiScCJUpBHi0XJsfDysYko4-MNfTjMAVKe0WsMg5u0qnxzhtsZxgEq/pub Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

There's an epidemic of cis spouses and partners leaving trans people when we come out. Worse, some cis spouses and partners hold relationships, homes, even children over us, with the threat of losing them if we transition. So let's talk about why the support of our cis partners is so vital, what it looks like, and why the opposite is so entirely devastating (and wrong). Artist Andy Alves and writer Ben Crane join us to discuss what transition was like for them and their relationship (find them at HeroesCon June 14-16)! I'm Susan's pal, and shits are fine. ANDY ALVES ArtStation: artstation.com/andyalves BEN CRANE Insta: @benacrane Bluesky: @bencrane.bsky.social FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) The 2022 US Trans Survey report, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Privilege (time and money), Trans Intersectionality, Body Hacking, Finding Our Own Representation (P!nk), Gender Dysphoria, Cis Grief, The Signs Were Always There, Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia REFERENCE MATERIAL Cosmic Cadets - https://bookshop.org/p/books/cosmic-cadets-book-one-contact-ben-crane/18747133 A Man of Lies - https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-man-of-lies/18940042 Divorce Issues for Transgender People - https://www.mundahllaw.com/divorce-issues-transgender-people/ Divorce Court Can’t Deal With ‘A Different Category of Spouse’ - https://www.glad.org/tfl/stories/divorce-court-cant-deal-different-category-spouse/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

We wrap up our discussion on the early insights from the 2022 US Trans Survey, and dig into familial support (or lack thereof), harassment, interactions with police, legal identification, and more! Social worker Charlie Hutchinson returns to discuss living life on autopilot and nature blogs! And remember, every trans selfie is an act of resistance. CHARLIE HUTCHINSON Insta: @c_t_hutchinson Facebook: Charlie Hutchinson FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, The Erasure of Trans Men, Proactive Allyship, The Fetishization of Trans Women, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1) REFERENCE MATERIAL 2022 USTS Early Insights Report - https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/2024-02/2022%20USTS%20Early%20Insights%20Report_FINAL.pdf Why LGBT Advocates Say Bathroom ‘Predators’ Argument Is a Red Herring - https://time.com/4314896/transgender-bathroom-bill-male-predators-argument/ Reforming Police and Ending Anti-Transgender Violence - https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/resources/NCTE%20Federal%20Blueprint%20Chapter%206%20Police%20and%20Ending%20Violence.pdf Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

In 2022, the largest ever survey of transgender Americans was conducted, and provided an absolute wealth of data on trans life in the United States. Let's dig in to the early insights from the report, and see what existing as trans in this country is like for everyone who's not cisgender. Social worker Charlie Hutchinson joins us to discuss how we're living our glory days right now! CHARLIE HUTCHINSON Insta: @c_t_hutchinson Facebook: Charlie Hutchinson FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Complete Trans Healthcare (or lack thereof), Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Trans Intersectionality REFERENCE MATERIAL 2022 USTS Early Insights Report - https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/2024-02/2022%20USTS%20Early%20Insights%20Report_FINAL.pdf Regret in Surgical Decision Making: A Systematic Review of Patient and Physician Perspectives - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9 Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

Another installment of Tillyvision comes to a close, as we wrap up the trans allegory of Barbie! Her egg cracked, she experimented, she pulled back and overcompensated, she shed the false male simulacra for good... so what now? Now you have a heart to heart with your heart, and you transition! Self-actualization awaits! Millicent Alexis Book returns one last time to discuss Superman ice cream! Emo? It's all for you. MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Trans Day of Visibility (yes, you are trans enough) REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions