Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

There's a phenomena that happens a lot in the trans and queer community that's hard to define, but when you're so used to having to fight for every single little thing you deserve, it's too easy to sometimes go too far and end up hurting people. Let's go through some examples and talk about how to spot it and why we need to stop it. The 4400 and Clean Slate writer Shomari Kirkwood returns to discuss the joy of building yourself. Tired of working your core? Blow glass! SHOMARI KIRKWOOD Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/mxoberon.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/05/13/pushback-overkill/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Gendered Childhoods, The False Dichotomy, Trans Day of Visibility (you are trans enough), Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1), Bad Representation 2: Emilia Perez, Trans Intersectionality, Hormone Replacement Therapy REFERENCE MATERIAL Polyamory in the United States - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory_in_the_United_States Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

For many trans folks, hormone replacement therapy is a vital part of our transition. Let's talk about why that is, what it does and doesn't do, and a little thing we call... patience. The 4400 and Clean Slate writer Shomari Kirkwood joins us to discuss being part of the world and ewwphoria! The sun is in Aries and the moon is blue. SHOMARI KIRKWOOD Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/mxoberon.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/hormone-replacement-therapy/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Body Hair, Trans Voices 1-3, Gender Dysphoria, Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, Four Years Out and on HRT Check-in, Transition Setbacks, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Body Hacking, Gender Euphoria, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1), Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too REFERENCE MATERIAL The effects of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) on the human eye - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11944225/ Overview of feminizing hormone therapy - https://web.archive.org/web/20250427214738/https://transcare.ucsf.edu/guidelines/feminizing-hormone-therapy Estrogen Levels - https://transfemscience.org/articles/hormone-levels-female-puberty/#estrogen-levels Estrogen HRT Labs at FOLX - https://www.folxhealth.com/library/estrogen-hrt-labs Medical Association Statements in Support of Health Care for Transgender People and Youth - https://glaad.org/medical-association-statements-supporting-trans-youth-healthcare-and-against-discriminatory/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

The past can be difficult for those of us who transition as adults, so much so this is our fifth episode exploring it. But sometimes something surprises you, and gives you a little piece of the childhood you missed. Localization producer and comic creator Liam Coballes returns to discuss having a relationship with yourself, and how artists don't make money. Be jealous of my pony! LIAM COBALLES Insta: https://www.instagram.com/natural_nin/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/naturalnin.bsky.social https://bsky.app/profile/shifter-komiks.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/04/29/the-past-5-aka-the-new-past4-recovering-trans-childhoods/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) The Past and Why it Haunts Us, The Past 2: The New Past, The Past 3/The New Past 2/Trans Grief 1, The Past 4/The New Past 3/Trans Grief 2, Trans Birthdays, Gender Dysphoria, Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Heavily Gendered Childhoods, The False Dichotomy, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it) Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

It's time to talk about an topic that's literally uncomfortable! Tucking and binding can be awful but also amazing, so let's talk about what they are and why we do (or don't) utilize them. Localization producer and comic creator Liam Coballes joins us to discuss the cosplay community and how rocks are cool. Math is hard! LIAM COBALLES Insta: https://www.instagram.com/natural_nin/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/naturalnin.bsky.social https://bsky.app/profile/shifter-komiks.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/10/tucking-and-binding/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1), Gender Dysphoria, Trans Freedom, Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too, Misgendering and Passing, Boymode and Girlmode, Gender Euphoria, Privilege (time and money), Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People REFERENCE MATERIAL Inguinal canal - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inguinal_canal Chest Binding: A Physician’s Guide - https://www.prideinpractice.org/articles/chest-binding-physician-guide/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

Join me as I interview creators Alex L. Combs and Andrew Eakett about their new graphic novel, Trans History: From Ancient Times to the Present Day. We discuss their research process and all the love that went into this book about trans and nonbinary folks through history, and how important it is to get that information out into the world. Hey transphobes, have you tried not sucking? ALEX L. COMBS Website: https://alexlcombs.com/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/alexlcombs/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/alexlcombs.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/04/01/trans-history-3-interview-with-alex-l-combs-and-andrew-eakett/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Trans History 1: How and Why We Name Trans People in History, Trans History 2: Examples of Trans People in History REFERENCE MATERIAL Trans History: From Ancient Times to the Present Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/trans-history-a-graphic-novel-from-ancient-times-to-the-present-day-alex-l-combs/21746915 Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

We wrap up our REAL GENIUS trans allegory discussion with the importance of community, and changing the system so others don't go through the pain we had to, and see the beautiful ways that trans joy can change the world. Kestrel Clayton returns to discuss how you're stronger than you imagine you can be. It's getting queer around here! Smell our hot, buttery transness. KESTREL CLAYTON Fediverse/Mastodon: https://tech.lgbt/@sphinx TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-geniusrg-part-4/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Misgendering and Passing, Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1), Trans History 1: How and Why We Name Trans People in History, Trans Representation in Media 2024 REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

The intentional trans allegory of REAL GENIUS rolls on with part 3! We're going to talk about lyrics, gender-nonconforming women, pools, parties, and possibly having to pretend to be something we're not just to get what we need out of the system. Kestrel Clayton returns to discuss genuine support and gender envy! I love to be an Amazon. KESTREL CLAYTON Fediverse/Mastodon: https://tech.lgbt/@sphinx TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-genius-part-3/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Sexuality is Not Gender, Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1), Photos and Reflections, Trans Intersectionality, The False Dichotomy, Trans History 1, Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, The Trans Allegory of I Saw the TV Glow, Gender Dysphoria, Interview with Author Maya Deane REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

The intentional trans allegory of REAL GENIUS continues, and this week we talk about characters, names, and dive in by timestamps! Would you believe this movie has a chaser? It's true. Kestrel Clayton returns to discuss using your spotlight, and how intentions are not magic! Now say more about my great, beautiful face. KESTREL CLAYTON Fediverse/Mastodon: https://tech.lgbt/@sphinx TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-genius-part-2/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) The Trans Allegory of Barbie, The Trans Allegory of I Saw the TV Glow, The False Dichotomy, Gender Dysphoria, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Chasers and the Fetishization of Trans Women, Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Body Hacking, Gender Euphoria REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH/ Conversion therapy - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

Tillyvision's back as we dive into REAL GENIUS, a classic comedy from the 1980s that's so very incredibly trans... because it was written by a trans woman! We begin our four-part series by talking about its writer, PJ Torokvei, and the context of the time she wrote this in. Kestrel Clayton joins us to discuss bootleg tapes and art as a lifeline. It's a love fest! KESTREL CLAYTON Fediverse/Mastodon: https://tech.lgbt/@sphinx TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-genius-part-1/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Trans History 1, The Trans Allegory of Barbie, The Trans Allegory of I Saw the TV Glow, The Trans Allegory of The Twilight Zone's Nervous Man in a Four Dollar Room, Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1) REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions

Ask Tilly Anything concludes! This time we talk how to support someone you think is trans, how to tell if you're chaser, where crossdressers fall under the trans umbrella, my creative dreams, my fitness regimen, my hottest Star Trek takes, getting over transphobia, advice for people whose spouses just came out, and every installment so far of Tilly's Progesterone Dream Theater! (my brain's wild, y'all) TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/02/25/ask-tilly-anything-part-5/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Chasers and the Fetishization of Trans Women, Freeing Up My Brain (lunch with Tilly), Parents Who Will Never Know the Real You (my dad), Body Hacking, Four Years Out and On HRT Retrospective, Internalized Transphobia, Implicit Queerphobia, 2024 Trans Representation in Media 1-3, Bad Representation: Emilia Perez, Cis Spousal and Partner Support, Cis Grief Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Twitter: @pendantweb Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio Tumblr: pendantaudio.tumblr.com YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions