When Queer Love Changes: Trans Partners, Privilege & Progress

This week on Wives Not Sisters, Alix & Kayla dive into your juiciest queer write-in questions—identity shifts, relationship changes, generational LGBTQ+ tensions, age-gap love, and what really counts as “queer representation.” It’s honest, hilarious, vulnerable, and very, very gay. 🌈We also play Underrated or Overrated (spoiler: baths don’t stand a chance), confront who’s the problem this week, and unpack the Sydney Sweeney “good jeans” chaos.00:00 – Intro: Married, codependent, and chaotic00:50 – Write-ins & why reviews matter02:00 – Naming the listeners: “Sister Wives”?02:33 – Underrated/Overrated (baths, therapy, matcha, astrology memes + more)06:21 – Queer Rants: Anonymous #1 – Identity shifts in a transitioning relationship10:15 – Lesbian identity vs. partner transition20:05 – Opening the relationship? Boundaries & self-trust25:56 – Queer Rant #2 – Older gays, younger gays & language policing30:25 – LGBTQ+ history, AIDS crisis & generational tension36:37 – Queer Rant #3 – Should only queer actors play queer roles?41:35 – Queer Rant #4 – Age-gap relationships & community judgment47:09 – Who’s the Problem? Hair-washing edition50:28 – Sydney Sweeney “good genes/jeans” debate54:50 – Outro & call to action#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #WivesNotSisters #QueerStories #LesbianPodcast #TransSupport #QueerCommunity #LGBTQHistory #AgeGapRelationship #QueerRepresentation #RelationshipAdvice #PodcastersOfYouTube #BuzzsproutPodcastsConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Alix and Kayla dive deep into the wild, chaotic, endlessly fascinating lore of Caroline Calloway — from Instagram fame and ghostwritten captions to book-deal drama, retreat controversies, and the blurred lines between “scam,” self-mythology, and survival. The wives break down the friendship between Caroline and Natalie Beach, the homoerotic tension, the internet cancellation, the workshops, the snake-oil era, and why queer audiences are obsessed with this story.If you love scammers, internet culture, WLW lore, or messy influencer history, this episode is for you.00:00 – Intro: Reviews, comments & community love01:30 – Who is Caroline Calloway?01:50 – Scam or Stan game (NFTs, Erewhon smoothies, retreats, astrology apps)04:50 – Breakup brands, viral masterclasses & influencer culture10:00 – Why Caroline’s story is “entertaining, not dangerous”11:00 – The WLW lore + homoerotic friendship dynamic18:00 – How Caroline built her Cambridge-era Instagram persona21:00 – Natalie ghostwrites captions & the early partnership28:20 – The $500K book deal & $100K advance30:30 – Addiction, missed deadlines & the fallout34:20 – Whose side are you on?35:20 – The infamous “workshops”37:00 – Is it a scam if people willingly pay?38:20 – The cancellations & venue chaos42:30 – Snake oil, villain era & Caroline’s pivot43:40 – “I Was Caroline Calloway” & Natalie’s takedown essay48:40 – Natalie’s book deal + riding coattails49:55 – Caroline’s tragic family news amid cancellation53:45 – Obsession, shamelessness & survival mode54:40 – New York era, OnlyFans, and rising again#CarolineCalloway #ScamOrStan #InfluencerCulture #NatalieBeach #InternetDrama #Podcast #QueerPodcast #WLWLore #MessyInfluencers #BookDealDrama #CarlowayLore #OnlineScams #InternetHistory #WomenWhoWrite #CouplePodcast #AlixAndKaylaConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

If you’ve ever argued about groceries, avoided showing your partner your skincare receipts, or wondered how to merge finances without losing your mind, this one’s for you! From $300 facials to $3,000 handbags, Venmo-requesting girlfriends, U-Haul financial disasters, queer throuple budgeting, and how not to commit tax fraud as a married couple — this episode has answers to the questions YOU submitted about managing money.01:35 – Splurge or Save: Dyson dryers, facials & quiet luxury05:26 – $3,000 handbags & the lost purse saga08:30 – Gear talk, e-bikes & used surfboards10:23 – Listener Q&A: Power dynamics & “my treat” vacations16:55 – Merging finances without losing your identity23:04 – Allowances, budgets & guilt-free spending31:16 – Queer throuple money management36:12 – Financial secrets & student loan surprises41:46 – Investing, retirement, & balancing present vs future45:01 – Gift giving gone wrong: The $1200 suit49:03 – U-Hauling & the IKEA spending spiral51:31 – Eloping, wedding budgets & cake regrets57:54 – Who’s the problem? (Hint: taxes.)01:01:00 – Closing & community love#LGBTQPodcast #QueerCouples #LesbianPodcast #MoneyTalks #RelationshipAdvice #WivesNotSisters #BudgetingTips #CouplesFinance #QueerLove #PodcastEpisodeConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into the internet discourse that blew up:Are lesbians allowed to have dating preferences—specifically around bi women or trans women—without being labeled discriminatory or TERFs? Check out the post that started the comments war HERE!This conversation isn’t about exclusion—it's about autonomy, nuance, and consent in queer dating.🎙️ Whether you agree or disagree, you’ll want to be in the comments for this one.02:00 – Why real conversations matter02:32 – Gay This or That (gay brunch vs. gay rave, U-Haul vs. slow burn, etc.)06:10 – Episode topic reveal: The TERF Talk07:40 – The viral reel that started everything10:39 – When “preferences” go viral12:15 – What TERF actually means16:44 – “Are we TERFs?”22:28 – Sexual preference vs. discrimination30:02 – Should we question our preferences?38:30 – “Why say it out loud?”43:26 – Preferences in queer culture (femme for femme, masc, etc.)51:06 – Why gay men don’t get this backlash56:21 – My body, my choice—also applies to dating01:02:17 – Who’s the problem? (Queer Ultimatum being cancelled)#LGBTQ #LesbianPodcast #QueerDating #TERFConversation #DatingPreferences #QueerRepresentation #PodcastClips #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #BuzzsproutPodcast #QueerCommunity #BiWomen #TransWomenAreWomen #MyBodyMyChoice #SapphicConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this queer culture deep-dive, Alix and Kayla revisit The L Word — the iconic show that shaped lesbian visibility for an entire generation. From nostalgic favorites to problematic storylines, they unpack what the series got right (and wrong) about queer representation, trans inclusion, family, and chosen community. If you’ve ever debated who you’d be on The L Word, this one’s for you.00:08 – Intro + Spotify love from listeners01:13 – Would You Rather: The L Word edition05:30 – Why The L Word still matters07:04 – Queer representation on TV then vs. now11:08 – Gay marriage and adoption rights in 200416:34 – Family acceptance, healthcare, and “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”22:21 – How The L Word handled trans identity (Max’s storyline)33:18 – Casting, representation, and the male gaze41:01 – Chosen family and queer community46:02 – The Planet: where queer culture thrived50:26 – Why lesbian spaces are disappearing52:10 – Why watching The L Word is still a queer rite of passage55:18 – Who’s the Problem? (Underwear + queer community incest)#TheLWord #QueerPodcast #LesbianCulture #LGBTQHistory #WivesNotSisters #QueerRepresentation #ChosenFamily #QueerMediaConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla cover the shocking story of college basketball star Sedona Prince — from her rise to fame as a gender equality advocate to the disturbing domestic violence and assault allegations shared by multiple exes. This episode dives deep into power, manipulation, and healing after abuse during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.⚠️ Trigger Warning: discussions of domestic violence, sexual assault, and emotional abuse.00:00 – Intro + Domestic Violence Awareness Month01:10 – Who is Sedona Prince? Rise to fame on TikTok07:00 – Early relationships & toxic patterns15:00 – Money, control, and manipulation17:00 – Domestic abuse allegations surface31:00 – The viral Mexico trip: Liv’s 10-part storytime42:00 – Power, fear, and gaslighting in queer relationships57:00 – Additional victims come forward1:03:00 – Legal fallout, silence, and accountability1:07:00 – Healing, empathy, and advice for survivorsIf you or someone you know has been affected by domestic abuse, please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 or Text "Begin" to 88788 Their services are free and confidential, 24/7. Find out more at thehotline.org#WivesNotSisters #SedonaPrince #DomesticViolenceAwareness #LGBTQPodcast #QueerLove #AbuseSurvivor #RelationshipAwareness #TrueStory #ToxicRelationships #PodcastClipConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Ever Googled “Am I gay?” You’re not alone.In this hilarious and heartfelt episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla react to the internet’s most-searched coming-out questions — from “How do I know if I’m gay?” to “Can queer people still travel?” They share their own coming-out stories, red flags (or rainbow flags), gay panic moments, and what it’s really like navigating identity, family, and love in 2025.00:00 – Online slang test: “Serving cunt,” “shipping,” & other chaotic lingo09:30 – The most Googled coming-out questions11:00 – “How do I know if I’m gay?” signs, red flags & rainbow flags18:00 – Getting turned on by girls in movies — curious or queer?25:30 – Alix’s coming-out story: Rome, gay panic, & family reactions40:00 – Kayla’s story: falling for a girl abroad, the art of downplaying it52:00 – Labels, fluidity & self-acceptance55:00 – Can gay people still be successful & travel?1:03:30 – “Who’s the Problem?” segment — Griselda betrayal & dirty dishes#WivesNotSisters #ComingOutStory #AmIGay #LGBTQPodcast #QueerLove #LesbianPodcast #RelationshipGoals #WLW #ComingOutTips #QueerStoriesConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this episode, Alix and Kayla get real about what it means to fight fair after six years together. From weirdly specific compliments to the unspoken rules that keep their relationship grounded, the couple unpacks how they’ve learned to communicate, manage triggers, and find humor in the chaos. Expect laughter, honesty, and a little courtroom energy.Timestamps:00:00 – Weirdly specific compliments 💕10:50 – Why we fight and how it’s changed over time14:30 – Ground rules for healthy conflict20:00 – Common triggers and communication styles31:40 – “Building the case” & learning to self-regulate44:00 – Healing attachment styles + therapy breakthroughs51:00 – How to turn fights into inside jokes54:10 – “Who’s the Problem?” segment (Bathroom counters & true crime)#Hashtags:#WivesNotSisters #CouplesPodcast #FightingFair #RelationshipGoals #QueerLove #MarriageHumor #CommunicationTips #AttachmentStyles #LGBTQPodcast #PodcastClipsConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alex and Kayla dive deep into Jojo Siwa’s rise from Dance Moms to queer icon status. From the origins of her bow empire to Nickelodeon fame, child star controversies, her bold coming out, and her highly public relationships—this is a full WLW Lore Series breakdown you don’t want to miss. The hosts unpack Jojo’s “karma era,” viral moments, her mom’s controversial role, and whether the internet’s obsession is fair or fueled by queerness and celebrity culture.00:08 – Intro & two truths and a lie04:35 – Beginning Jojo Siwa lore: from Dance Moms to stardom10:50 – Jojo’s fame, social media dominance & bow empire19:03 – Coming out story, Nickelodeon backlash & DWTS same-sex partnership27:59 – XOMG Pop group & exploitation allegations42:14 – The “Karma Era” and viral controversies47:50 – Relationship history: Kylie, Avery, Cass, and more1:00:15 – Celebrity Big Brother drama, Chris Hughes & queer identity#JojoSiwa #QueerPodcast #WLWLore #CelebrityCulture #LGBTQPodcast #DanceMoms #PopCultureBreakdown #WivesNotSisters #LesbianPodcast #QueerRepresentationConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

This week, Alix and Kayla dive into the long-standing dynamics between bisexual women and lesbians—myths, stereotypes, and the cultural nuances that shape queer relationships. From playful debates (Renee Rapp vs. Cara Delevingne) to candid reflections on identity, cancel culture, and representation in media, this episode explores queerness, binaries, and belonging in both private and public conversations.⏰ Timestamps00:01 – Intro + community shoutouts01:21 – Bi vs. Lesbian: celebrity edition05:46 – History of the “feud” & The L Word rewatch09:01 – Cancel culture and honest conversations13:17 – Stereotypes, myths, and personal rules23:20 – The dating pool & “gay math”32:08 – Marriage, monogamy & bisexual identity47:08 – Queer street cred & bi representation57:32 – Betty Who & Renee Rapp discourse01:07:37 – “Who’s the Problem” segment: WikiFeet + socks#QueerPodcast #LGBTQVoices #Bisexuality #LesbianVisibility #QueerLove #CancelCulture #RepresentationMatters #QueerIdentity #PodcastClips #WivesNotSistersConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!