You're Working Hard for the Wrong Reason, and It's Breaking You | S2S 550
You're working hard for the wrong reason, and it's breaking you. Not because you're lazy. Not because you're not talented. But because what's driving you isn't God. It's trauma. It's fear. It's pride. And until you deal with that, all the work in the world won't save you.
This week the crew brings their wives to the table. Candis and Dede join CJ, ET, and Karl for one of the most transparent conversations about faith, work, and what it really means to let go and let God. Because here's the truth most people don't want to hear: you can have the title Christian, but the devil can still be driving you.
Candis opens up about working herself into the ground at GE. Senior management, six figures, the whole dream. But she was miserable, burnt out, crying in the closet. When CJ told her to quit, she was ready to walk. But ET stepped in with something that changed everything: your job isn't to influence her, it's to get her to talk to God. So Candis went to a hotel for two days. Just her and God. And God told her three things: be still, have peace, be humble. Everything shifted. Not because she quit, but because she stopped letting fear drive her.
Dede gets real about thinking she had the backup plan. The insurance, the retirement, all of it figured out. Until God started breaking the stuff off of her that was keeping her from trusting him. Because brokenness isn't God trying to destroy you. It's God breaking the trauma, the pride, the self reliance off of you so he can multiply you. And the multiplication only comes after the breaking.
They also unpack the AI love letter. A man sent his wife a heartfelt message using ChatGPT. She loved it, until he admitted he used AI. Now she's upset because it wasn't really from him. Dede's response is priceless.
This episode will challenge everything you think about work, faith, and trust. Because faith without works is dead. But works without faith is empty. Stop letting your backup plan replace God. Stop letting your job be your security. And stop thinking brokenness means you're broken. God isn't breaking you. He's breaking that stuff off of you.
CHAPTERS
Chapters
00:00:00 Opening: Which One Do You Want Sir - AI or the Real Thing
00:01:20 Welcome and Introducing the Queens: Candis and Dede Join the Pod
00:09:09 Fair or Foul: The ChatGPT Love Letter Debate
00:11:45 Computer Love: When Your Heart Message Comes From a Machine
00:17:29 The Real Question: Faith Without Works or Let Go and Let God
00:19:33 Before You Work With God You Got to Know God
00:22:26 Candis Revelation: The Only Work God Wants Is Belief
00:25:16 Be Still Doesn't Mean Stand Still: Redefining Stillness
00:29:03 How to Hear From God When You Don't Hear Audibly
00:32:11 The Cheat Code Confession: When Your Spouse Has a Deeper Walk
00:33:43 Don't Compare Storms: Your Hurricane Versus Someone Else's Rain
00:34:55 Candis GE Breakdown: Working Crazy Hours and Missing Peace
00:43:35 The Two-Day Hotel Revelation: When God Said Be Still, Be Humble, Have Peace
00:46:46 CJ's Obedience Test: When Quitting Would Have Been Easier
00:49:20 The Financial Security Idol: When Insurance Becomes Your God
00:50:35 Dede's Confession: I Will Burn the Bridge to Prove I Can Swim
00:54:01 The Mental Weight That's Breaking You: It's Not the Work, It's What's Driving It
00:54:20 What's Driving You: When Trauma Becomes Your God
00:55:27 The 3am Question: What's So Evil About You That You'd Rather Suffer
01:04:24 Does God Get Glory From What You Do: The Jealousy of God
01:06:00 Didi's MS Story: When God Has to Stop You From Your Disobedience
00:58:31 Brokenness Isn't Breaking You: It's Breaking Stuff Off of You
01:01:04 The Multiplication Comes After the Broken: Stop Running From It
01:08:21 Closing: Join A Place to Change Ministry and Get Community
JOIN US LIVE ON PATREON
New audio every Tuesday, video every Wednesday, plus live recordings with the S2S fam.
https://www.patreon.com/c/S2SPodcast120
PRE-ORDER "WE IS GREATER THAN ME"
The debut book from Eric Thomas and CJ Quinney.
https://www.amazon.com/We-Greater-Than-Me-Highest-ebook/dp/B0GPGXXD5D
SUBSCRIBE
https://www.youtube.com/@S2SPodcastChannel?sub_confirmation=1
LISTEN ANYWHERE
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/secret-to-success/id123456789
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0GrMsi1Cxj3nipnI9HR1QX?si=f057018bcba44c15
FOLLOW
Instagram: @s2spodcast
A PLACE OF CHANGE MINISTRY
Join the women's ministry with Candace and Dede. Follow @apocministry on Instagram or visit www.aplacetochangeministry.org
ABOUT THE PODCAST
The S2S podcast is hosted by Eric Thomas, Karl Phillips, the Bajan Sensation, CJ Quinney, and Jemal King. Four friends, four journeys, one mission, real conversations on faith, family, business, and the work it takes to build a life that lasts. New episodes every Thursday.