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If you’re someone who seems to struggle in love, or you keep having the same fights in relationships - it might have something to do with what you learnt in your childhood. In this ep, Dee chats to psychotherapist Nichlolas Purcell about how much our parents/caregivers shape the patterns we emulate in love and how to start ‘doing the work’. SHOW NOTES:Nicholas Purcell’s Guardian article - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jun/22/childhood-trauma-learnt-behaviours-narcissist-mother-avoidant-father-dysfunctional-adulthood1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Attached book - https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/about-the-book/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

 If you’re hooking up with someone who says they’re on a break, non-monog, ENM, or in an open relationship - do you need to do your homework and find out if they’re telling the truth? In this episode, we debate whether the ethics of investigating someone’s relationship status and hear your takes on whether it’s important to get evidence, if the burden of proof is on them, or if it’s none of your business.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Summer Robert’s breasts have been growing excessively since she was 8 years old. She has an extremely rare and under-researched condition called Macromastia which means she doesn’t know when that growth will stop.In this chat, she shares her experience and her journey with large boobs, her diagnosis, the impact it’s had on her life including dating and having sex, but also getting to a place where she’s really embraced them after becoming a huge creator on OnlyFans.SHOW NOTES:Most Extreme Humans: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2yrVMmiF9UEating Disorder Support - https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

We all know the classic hotspots when it comes to places on your body that turn you on like lips, breasts, nipples and genitals. But what about your undiscovered underdogs of pleasure - like belly buttons, outer thighs, fingers, ears and wrists? We find out all your erogenous zones from head to toe, how you discovered them and how you tell your partners to get all up in them.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When she was younger Bella Davis thought in order to be loved she needed to be thin. After years of hating her body and dating people who made her feel shit about herself, she decided she’d had enough and started posting about fatphobia on socials. Now Bella is a popular body acceptance content creator, happily married and about to become an author. In this chat, she shares her journey and advice on how to have a better relationship with your body. SHOW NOTES:Would You Still Love Me If I Looked Different? Episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQtbAV4jzMA&t=1225sBella Davis IG - https://www.instagram.com/isabelladavis6/?hl=enEating Disorder Support - https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

The way you look can completely change over the course of a relationship. Maybe your weight has fluctuated. Or you’ve drastically changed your style. Maybe you’ve been in an accident. Maybe you’re dealing with an illness or taking medication that’s changed your physicality and features. In this episode, we want to explore what it’s like when you or a partner looks different from when you first started dating - and how it affects the relationship.SHOW NOTES:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/201701/why-physical-attraction-matters-and-when-it-might-nothttps://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/may/20/the-perfect-partner-how-age-affects-what-men-and-women-find-attractiveDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot of manosphere influencers create content about how ‘masculinity is under threat’ and we’re seeing this impact how young guys are learning about what it means to be a man.So in this episode, we chat to Josh Glover from The Man Cave and Dr Jacko Jackson from The Global Institute for Women’s Leadership to find out what the research shows when it comes to ‘masculinity threats’, the impact of rigid gender expectations, and how guys can feel more confident in embracing all parts of themselves.  SHOW NOTES:1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 Mensline  - 1300 78 99 78Manosphere episode with Flynn Martin -https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asleRk17rD8&list=PLGjIpVhuuWXk The State Of Man documentary - https://iview.abc.net.au/show/state-of-manJosh Glover, The Man Cave - https://themancave.life/about/our-people/Dr Jacko Jackson, The Global Institute for Women’s Leadership - https://giwl.anu.edu.au/people/jacko-jacksonDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Over the last few years, the manosphere has been a hot topic. We’ve watched investigations by doco makers, interviews with incels and pick up artists, and popular manosphere podcasters continue to go viral on social media. But what about the “red pilled” men who’ve changed their mind and come out the other side with a new POV? In this ep, special guest Flynn Martin joins us to tell us his story of being radicalised by manosphere content and how he got out, alongside hearing your experiences of the manosphere - whether you started to resonate and adopt its ideology, or if a sibling, parent or partner in your life did.  Watch The State Of Man documentary on ABC iView: https://iview.abc.net.au/show/state-of-manDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Alpine Divorce has been a big convo this year, with people all over the world sharing stories of a partner abandoning them in a remote or dangerous place like a hiking trail or mountain. So does someone storming off mean they need to cool down, or is it a sign of abuse?In this ep, Elisabeth Shaw from Relationships Australia helps us learn the signs. SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Mensline Australia - 1300 789 97813 YARN - 13 92 76Relationships Australia - https://www.relationships.org.au/Alpine Divorce Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0aAfN1MDpkWomen are being abandoned by their partners on hiking trails. What’s behind ‘alpine divorce’? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/ng-interactive/2026/mar/17/alpine-divorce-abandoned-hiking-trailDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

“Alpine divorce” is when someone abandons their romantic partner in a remote or dangerous outdoor setting like a hiking trail, bushwalk or mountain. The term went viral this year, and women all over the world started sharing their own stories of being left behind by their male partners in the wilderness. But can it happen to anyone regardless of gender? And is it happening in places other than out in nature? In this episode, explore this phenomenon with your stories of abandonment and hear your theories as to why it happens.SHOW NOTES:1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Mensline Australia - 1300 789 97813 YARN - 13 92 76Relationships Australia - https://www.relationships.org.au/Women are being abandoned by their partners on hiking trails. What’s behind ‘alpine divorce’?https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/ng-interactive/2026/mar/17/alpine-divorce-abandoned-hiking-trailAustrian climber found guilty of leaving girlfriend on mountainhttps://www.theguardian.com/world/2026/feb/20/austria-climber-convicted-manslaughter-girlfriend-kerstin-g-grossglockner-mountainUN - what is domestic abuse?https://www.un.org/en/coronavirus/what-is-domestic-abuseThe National Domestic Hotline - Types of Abusehttps://www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.