Tapping to regain focus (Pod #545)

After working with clients for many years, I have come to the realization that we are notoriously bad eyewitnesses to our own experiences. We are great at telling stories about our experiences, our past, and our traumas, but unfortunately they aren't always true. This can hinder our transformation because without a clear understanding of our experience, it is hard to heal. We can spend time tapping on issues that feel big and important, only to find out that they have nothing to do with the root cause of the issue at hand. In this week's podcast I share a phrase that will make it easier to get accurate information about your own experience and speed the healing process. You can use this phrase when tapping on your own and when working with clients. You can even use the phrase in a normal conversation when helping out a friend. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Sometimes we have to do tasks that we just don't like because they are no fun, such as having to scrub the inside of a smelly old garbage can, or doing yard work at three in the afternoon on a hot summer's day. There are other tasks where the reason we avoid doing them is less clear. Hidden behind our reluctance is the key to understanding our resistance to taking action. When we are able to decode our resistance and uncover the hidden meaning behind it, then we have a powerful tool for clearing our self-sabotaging behaviors. This week in the podcast I share with you three lenses you can use to find hidden limiting beliefs in the tasks you don't like. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Just because we know what to do, how to do it, and have everything we need to take action, it doesn't mean we actually take action. For me, this is one of the most frustrating places to be because it is clear that I am set up for success AND I am the one getting in my own way. The tricky part of this situation is identifying the resistance hindering us from taking action because it is seldom obvious. We wind up frustrated and confused by our inaction, and then we beat ourselves up for not taking action. This week in the podcast I share two simple questions you can ask yourself to help uncover the root causes of your reluctance to move forward. I use these questions every day when tapping on my own and when working with clients. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

As humans, we are great at complaining! And I don't mean that as a put-down because there is a sound evolutionary reason why we excel at complaining. A complaint is a recognition of something that is bad, painful, or distasteful. This is the subconscious mind's way of keeping us safe. When we point out what is negative, it makes it easier to recognize and avoid it in future. The problem is that the subconscious is good at avoiding the undesirable, but poor at finding what is better. This week we are continuing the My Favorite Tapping Phrases series with a phrase that will help you to find what you want instead. This is a phrase I use with my goal setting AND with my tapping, and I know you will love it too. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

It is so common to apologize when we get emotional in front of others. You may feel like you are overreacting, or being extra, or that you are burdening the people around you. Awareness of how our emotions can impact others is a good thing, BUT it is also important that we don't just bottle up or suppress strong emotions. In this week's podcast, we are continuing the My Favorite Tapping Phrases Series with the phrase I use for myself and with clients when strong or difficult emotions arise. AND it is a phrase that will make you feel better just by saying it, though of course tapping with the phrase will be even more powerful. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Our subconscious mind is brilliant at figuring out cause and effect relationships. That is how we learn. If I touch a hot stove and it hurts, I learn not to touch a hot stove again. I smile at someone and find that they are more likely to be nice to me, so I learn that people often reflect my behavior. Because all of this happens at an unconscious level, we don't notice these connections. Instead, we are constantly learning from observation and experience in the background. This is great…EXCEPT when we learn the wrong lessons! One of the ways in which the subconscious mind learns the wrong lesson is by assuming that because something was a certain way in the past, it will be that same way in the future. Our past impacts and informs our future, but it does not predetermine what comes next. This week, as we continue the My Favorite Tapping Phrase Series, I share the tapping phrase I use to help create a shift from feeling stuck in the past, to creating a new path forward. I also explain how easy it is to add this phrase to your current tapping practice. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

One of the biggest obstacles to transformation and healing is our history. It would be one thing if we were simply trying to add a new worldview or belief, but trying to replace an old belief with a new one is a completely different process. When trying to create change, we are trying to unroot the lessons that our history has taught us. In this week's podcast we are continuing the My Favorite Tapping Phrase Series with my go-to phrase for work on replacing the past beliefs that no longer serve us with something that is more useful today Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Our healing journey doesn't always go as planned. Sometimes we stall. Sometimes progress is slower than we'd like. And sometimes (heaven forbid) we actually backslide. Hitches and delays are an inevitable part of the healing and transformation process. How we respond to these moments determines how quickly we return to the healing path. This week, as we continue the My Favorite Phrases Series, I am sharing the tapping phrase I find most valuable when things are not going as planned, why it is such a hard phrase to say out loud, and why that is actually good news. It is a phrase I use daily when tapping on my own and with my clients. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

A key characteristic of the subconscious mind is how it tends to perceive the world in black and white. Given this all-or-nothing disposition, it can sometimes be difficult to see a way forward or believe that better is possible. In this week's podcast, we talk about the power of the tapping phrase "I am open to the possibility..." and how it can soften the subconscious mind's "all-or-nothing" stance. Not only do I share why the phrase is useful, I also share all the ways in which I use it when tapping on my own issues and with clients. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

One of the exciting prospects that tapping opens up for us is the possibility of creating meaningful change in our lives. AND tapping creates that internal change much faster than many other tools. This speed is great, except for the fact it can also give rise to unrealistic expectations about how quickly we believe transformation should happen. When the change we want does not happen instantaneously (or as quickly as we would like), it is easy to feel frustrated, or even demotivated, in the midst of the healing process. This week I share my favorite tapping phrase to help with this frustration. As an added bonus, of all the tapping phrases I use with my clients, this is the one that is most likely to cause them to laugh (and humor can be a great tool in the healing process). Let me know how you incorporate a phrase like this one into your tapping in the comments below. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio