Sisterhood: Connecting Through Meaningful Conversations

In this share, I’m talking about what can happen when one or more of your basic needs isn't met in childhood and how to break any behavioural habits that are not supporting your mental and emotional well-being or your relationships. I had friends over one afternoon and we got into a discussion about how the way we grew up impacted who we are and how we behave in certain situations today. This conversation was a great reminder that no matter what your life was like growing up, it does inform who you are today. Good or bad, it made you, YOU. Journal Questions From Episode: - Are you a problem solver who believes you have to solve everyone’s problems even when they don’t ask for help? - Are you a protector who comes to everyone else’s aid, putting your own wellbeing aside? - Are you constantly people pleasing, making sure that everyone else’s emotional state is where you think it should be, but you yourself feel out of control, unloved, or not supported? - Do you feel like not doing these things will somehow make people abandon you, or not love you? It can be helpful to ask yourself some questions before you go into any of these default roles. - Am I the one who needs to be solving this problem? - Does this situation, or event require me to plan for a worst-case scenario, or can I just relax and enjoy myself? - Do I need to be the protector in this situation - Is it the adult me that is needing to people please, or have I just reverted back to a childhood behaviour where I feel it is my responsibility to keep the peace? - Or, you can simply asking yourself, why am I not feeling safe? Or, is this behaviour supporting me? - What do you do today that is from an old childhood behaviour? It kept you safe then, it would be good in a certain situation, but you don’t need it all the time. Think of the things that don’t feel mentally, emotionally or physically supportive and give you anxiety. Embracing all part of YOU: - What can you do to embrace who you are, what makes you, YOU, but change the pattern that doesn’t serve you in every situation? - What reaction, response, behaviour, action or decision would be more supportive? - If you felt the way you want to feel, what would you do differently? Connect with Laurie-ann Instagram  Facebook  Website  Additional Resources + Support Mentioned In The Episode For additional support, these are some more resources mentioned in the episode. Laurie-ann’s Digital Workshops  Book Recommendations: Melody Beattie, Codependent No More Internal Family System, No Bad Parts

There is no denying that we are faced with daily work/personal stressors that cause us stress throughout the day. Which is why in this episode, I’m sharing 4 easy, quick and practical ways I manage stress when I’m working, either at home or when I’m in an office. Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive

We have been taught to measure our worth by how much we earn. And because of this, so many of us feel unworthy, even when we meet a certain level of financial success. That's because self worth is an inside job. In this episode I am talking about self-worth from the perspective of no longer defining your self worth by what you earn. I explore why we develop these beliefs, changing the way we communicate with each other and ourselves, and how to create a new value system that supports yours (and each others) mental and emotional health.  Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive Workshops & Resources Mentioned In The Episode For additional support, these are some more resources mentioned in the episode. https://laurieannsheldrick.mailchimpsites.com/digital-workshops Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) For Self Worth: https://youtu.be/sJs-ET9Vr0k

In this solo episode, I’m talking about some steps you can begin to take to communicate your needs. Whatever it is that you are not saying out loud, doesn’t go away just because you are not voicing it. It festers and grows and gains momentum. All of a sudden you are having an argument that doesn’t even have anything to do with the original thing that was bothering you. You end up saying ALL THE THINGS, a lot you wish you could take back. Now the defences are really up and you are probably left feeling unsupported, unseen, unheard and resentful.  So let's try to do it differently so that yours (and their) needs are getting met.  People don't know what they don't know, which makes communicating your needs so important. Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive

In this solo episode, I’m talking about releasing some of the pressure you put on yourself. Whether that is the pressure to always be performing or creating, or the pressure to be everything and do everything for everyone, you deserve peace. My hope is that you really take in this weeks short and sweet as a powerful permission slip to give yourself a much needed emotional, mental and physical break. Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive

In my first solo episode back, I’m talking about taking off our protective masks, and why we put them on in the first place. I’m also sharing what I’ve been learning and experiencing over the past few months during my content creation hiatus and even just the past couple of years. Like I do with most shares, I end the podcast with some journal prompts to help you reflect on the conversation and topics discussed even deeper. Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive

Don’t have the mental, emotional, and physical bandwidth to deal with even the smallest thing some days? You are not alone! Burnout these days is the talk of the town. We are pushing ourselves to the limit to do and be ALL the things, even the things we don’t want to do or be. Jen Jones and I talk about how hard is it to set boundaries with ourselves and with the people in our lives especially with the people that we love so dearly. We spend so much time not wanting to disappoint anyone that we end up disappointing ourselves. Jen also shares how to protect our energy and give ourselves energy audits. Not spiritual or universal energy, but the energy within ourselves. Our emotional, mental and physical energy so that we can really begin to pay attention where we're burning out and where we don't have the mental, emotional and physical bandwidth to do the things that we want to do, like enjoy our life. We also talk about: - The pros and cons of being a high achiever and how to recognize both. - Expectations we have on ourselves, learn growing up, and take on from others. - Why it is so important to allow yourself to change your mind. - What is teaching her kids today that she wished she had learned growing up. And so much more! Connect With Jen Jones You can find all her magic in the links below. www.facebook.com/introvertentrepreneursconnect www.connectandelevate.com/ Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive

There have probably been times in your life when you felt unsafe and insecure. In those experiences, your fight or flight kicks into high gear and fear can take over your entire body. Soul embodiment and business mentor Meghan Weir joins the Sisterhood conversation to share tools and practices that help us to feel safe. Sometimes you don’t know how to name what you are feeling and Meghan’s embodiment practices can help you to release the emotions that you don’t know your body is holding on to. This is a conversation about feeling safe. Feeling safe with your emotions. Feeling safe with your body. Feeling safe with being your authentic self. Feeling safe with taking off the mask you have been wearing that provided you with protection, but are not serving you. And regulating your nervous system when you don’t feel safe and secure. Connect With Meghan You can find all her magic over at her website: www.instagram.com/themeghanweir Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive

A practice for your when your thoughts turn to worry is something I think most of us can use.  I don’t know about you, but sometimes, I catch myself in a spiral of future-tripping, which is usually triggered by worry. One worried thought creates another worried thought on top of another…and now I’m down the rabbit hole.  Like many of us, I have had to learn many tools to help me when I’m in this spiral, and one thing that has been supportive lately is to be unattached from the future outcome of what I’m worrying about.   I have needed this reminder so much lately, as I find my thoughts turning towards worry more often than I would like. So this practice is just as much for me as it is for you.  Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive Written Blog Transcript For Episode: www.contagiouslypositive.ca/a-practice-for-when-your-thoughts-turns-to-worry/

“The spiritual part of being human is feeling all the feels. It’s not unspiritual to have emotions.” If you feel like your emotions are constantly being bypassed, or that you are a pressure cooker with emotions that are needing to be released, this episode will be so supportive. I wanted to have a conversation about toxic positivity, so I brought in the expert.  Shulamit Ber Levtov is The Entrepreneurs Therapist. For more than 2 decades Shula has been working in the field of mental health and personal growth, and has helped hundreds of women (and men) recover their resilience after experiencing stress and trauma.  She's been an entrepreneur for more than 27 years, and in 2017, founded an award-winning holistic stress and trauma clinic in Kemptville, Ontario. She  has an MA in Counselling and Spirituality and she is a registered social worker. She is also certified in Focusing, Nonviolent Communication, the Tapas Acupressure Technique and Kripalu Yoga. She is a certified clinical trauma professional who is also trained in assessing and teaching resilience skills.  In this conversation, Shula shares what we can do to be truly positive, without it being toxic. We talk about: What toxic positivity is. How we use toxic positivity methods on ourselves. What we can do and say instead. How to feel your feelings in a healthy and supportive way. How we can support someone else’s feelings in a healthy and supportive way. Understanding what a negativity bias is. How feeling your feelings is the way to true positivity. A funny metaphor about your emotions and poop :-) How we can show ourselves self-compassion. And so much more! Connect With Shula You can find all her magic over at her website: www.shula.ca Connect with Laurie-ann & The Sisterhood Community www.instagram.com/laurieannsheldrick/ www.facebook.com/contagiouslypositive https://linktr.ee/contagiously_positive Workshops & Resources Mentioned In The Episode For additional support, these are some more resources mentioned in the episode. How To Be Positive Without Being Toxic: Realistic Optimism: https://www.shula.ca/toxic-positivity-realistic-optimist/ Feeling negative emotion? Here are 3 steps to take: https://www.shula.ca/negative-thoughts-emotions-women-entrepreneurs/ Self-Compassion Break: https://self-compassion.org/exercise-2-self-compassion-break/ https://taramcmullin.com/parents-deserve-more-than-positive-thinking-6d26436638c9 Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org