Season 6: Episode 7: Performative Mothers and when a Stepmom Disengages, with guest Kelly

Christina chats with Amber, a stepmom who is currently in her IVF journey. For any woman navigating the hormone and the emotional and physical tolls are difficult, but being a stepmom adds a unique layer to the ride. Amber chats her difficult feelings, what has been helpful and not so helpful and what she reminds herself everyday to keep her mindset strong. If you’re a stepmom navigating fertility or the journey to an ours baby, this episode is for you. Listen in! So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be a guest and share your story? -⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina welcomes Lori, a coach, speaker and author to discuss the unpaid labor of women, mothers and stepmoms. Lori is an advocate for amplifying the value of unpaid labor and influencing how families share the workloads in their homes. Through her children's book, " Our Home: The Love, Work, and Heart of Family" Lori breaks down the invisible labor that occurs in our homes and encourages children to take notice, appreciation and action into contributing to their family flow. Christina shares the stepmom perspective of how hard it is to carry the family load, especially when you don't always know "your role". How can the tasks and duties in the home be shifted? How can the kids become more involved? To the stepmoms who carry the invisible load and need some validation and conversation starters... listen in! Mentioned in the Episode: Season 4: Episode 21: When stepmoms carry the mental and emotional load of the home with guest, Laura Danger Fair Play Method About My Guest: Lori Sugarman-Li believes deeply in the power of families and is a passionate voice in the cultural shift aiming to articulate the value and visibility of unpaid work. Her career as a Communications Strategist, combined with a decade devoted to full-time care of her family, community, and children's charities worldwide, served as the inspirational backdrop for her professional relaunch as a Coach, Speaker, and Author. She is dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations within families, encouraging them to contemplate how they care for one another and their shared space. Lori, her husband, and two sons are Canadian-born and live steps from Lake Michigan in Chicago. https://ourhomeourpride.com/ So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

We talk about high conflict exes, but what do you do when your stepkids are the source of the drama? Christina welcomes Ava to discuss her stepmom journey, how she's navigating the teen years, parallel parenting and when it feels like the ex runs the show. Ava opens up about the complicated relationship she has with her stepdaughter and the confusion around her parenting role. Where's the balance between the compassion for the kids, and boundaries for yourself? How do you not lose your relationship in the hurt and conflict? Listen in! So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member ! ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

What would you do if the ex just called and gave up custody? Christina welcomes Emily to chat her experience of raising teens while transitioning to full-time step parenting. Emily shares how she has helped her kids manage their expectations of their mother, and how she jumped into full-time parenting without really knowing what is and isn't "my place". How do you manage first jobs, driving, and all of the things that come with being a teen? For the fulltime stepmoms, the teen raising stepmoms and any stepmom who's said "wtf?", this is for you. Listen in! Topics Discussed: - When the ex is managing her mental health - Long Distance stepmomming to full-time stepmomming - Finding what is "your place" as a full-time stepmom - Helping your stepkids mourn the relationship with their mom - Raising teens and all that comes with it So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina welcomes Chanda to offer her experience in being both a biomom AND a stepmom. Chanda shares what's it's been like to accept a stepmom into her kids' lives and how she's found her own footing in the stepmom role. Should stepmoms and biomoms have an official first meeting? What if the stepmom is the high conflict one? What do we ALL have in common, and what's required to bring the peace? Whatever hat you wear, this one is for you. Listen in! So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina welcomes back Coach Michelle to talk about how we are caring for ourselves this year. We've all heard of Self Care, but what is Soul Care? In the world of stepmotherhood, we need to advocate for our own happiness...but how? Michelle also answers your questions...like how to reduce the amount of messages you get from the ex. Listen In! Mentioned in this Episode: Connecting with Michelle Other Episodes with Michelle Our Family Wizard Episode Why We Only Email Blog Post So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina welcomes Nicole to chat about her decision to not have an ours baby, the outside pressure to change your mind, the grief that decision comes with, and all the feelings that follow. Christina and Nicole discuss the very normal feelings of feeling pressured to "love them like your own", feeling like an outsider yet feeling like you live in a fish bowl. Whether you're a new(er) stepmom, or a seasoned one you'll relate - listen in! So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina welcomes Sara who had been a stepmother for 3 years and had a great relationship with her stepson. Once her pregnancy was announced, coparenting dynamics changed for the worse. Sara will discuss what she learned while navigating a new ours baby during a pandemic with a high conflict coparent and how she protected her daughter from the chaos. Listen in! Mentioned in This Episode: Ours Baby Workshop So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina welcomes Brent Crandal, an author and family psychologist to discuss how the feeling of "family" is formed. As stepmoms, we can often feel like outsiders as we step into an "already established family", but we have to change the belief that there's only one way to "family". Not only does Brent speak from his professional knowledge, but he speaks as a partner to a stepmom. How has he helped facilitate the relationship between her and his kids? What have they done to form their own unique family unit? Listen in! If you're looking for a book to help your stepkid's understand how a stepmom can bring positivity to the family, check out Brent's debut children’s book, ⁠Opposititis: A Ridiculous Family Love Story ⁠is a silly heartwarming story for 4- to 9-year-olds and their families. About My Guest: Brent Crandal, PhD, is an author, child and family psychologist, and researcher. He also provides psychotherapy in San Diego and co-authored a widely adopted guide for therapists, Modular CBT for Children and Adolescents with Depression. He enjoys training professionals and teaching in higher education (e.g., UCSD, SDSU, and USD). His research has been published in several peer-review journals on mental health topics for children, youth and families. He created the Advancing California’s Trauma-Informed Systems project, funded by California Department of Social Services, and in partnership with the Ministry of Education, strengthened the supportive services available to children in El Salvador. He often geeks out at Comic-Con, including presenting several times on the intersection of behavioral health and Pop Culture. Learn more or connect with Brent through his website or Instagram So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest -⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message

Christina answers your holiday questions, everything from her own holiday plans, to navigating alienation, to implementing new traditions with or without an ours baby. What are some tips on how to keep your sanity and not lose the holiday spirit? Listen in! So much more than a podcast!!! Find me on the Gram ⁠⁠⁠@radicalstepmomspodcast ⁠⁠⁠ Want a little more support? Schedule a 1:1 session or become a Radical Member? ⁠⁠⁠Head to my website!⁠⁠⁠ I am excited for another amazing season! If you would like to be a guest - ⁠⁠⁠apply here⁠⁠⁠! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/radicalstepmoms/message