63. Are You Weaponizing Boundaries In Your Relationships?

The end of the calendar year often brings more time with family, whether that is a positive or not in your experience. On top of whatever that brings up for you, after this year's election in the US, there is some additional spice being included in the mix of family gatherings, especially as queer folks.We share about different perspectives that can be taken around this tender topic, as well as share some practical ways to implement what feels most in integrity with you. We would love to hear from you around what this time of year brings up for you and what helps you to move through it in a way that feels supportive to your needs. Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Everyone likes to feel appreciated, especially by those that hold so near and dear to our hearts. Gratitude is a value that can create profound connections with others, and it does not need to be complicated.This week we run through a DYAD exercise, which we have done on the podcast before, but consider this a refresher for yourself and relationships for this holiday season. We often get lost in the logistics and stress of end of year gatherings, so we hope that you can use this simple exercise to slow down and extend some gratitude to the people you love. P.S. Our next free Monthly Mentorship call is happening Saturday, December 14th, from 10am-12pm PST and it is all about Navigating Family Dynamics During the Holidays. Register here to save your spot and let's get into it! Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

It all starts with you. This is something we tell our clients and ourselves all the time. It is easy to think that you do not have the power to create expansive change in the world, but we are going to debunk that in this episode. Your self-healing work has the power to ripple out to your relationships, community and beyond.What has been some of the most impactful effects you have seen in your own relationships as a result of self-healing work? Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Choice. We want it in life. It is what allows us to feel free, yet in relationships, how often are we not actively choosing?And to answer that, what does it mean to choose your relationship? What does it mean to choose your relationship when it is messy and hard and challenging? We go in depth on this topic and share our own experiences with the power that comes when you actually choose to be with the reality of the situation and relationship. What blocks you from choosing your relationships? Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Phew, if you listened to last week's episode with Chamonix Penelope about Internal Family Systems then you learned A LOT. We know we sure did!We wanted to take some time today to offer our reflections and takeaways from that juicy conversation since we did cover a lot, and some of the topics were newer to what we usually cover on this podcast. If you haven't yet listened to episode 67, definitely go back and give it a listen! We would love to hear from you about your takeaways, as well as any lingering questions from either this episode or last week's! Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

We have our first ever guest on the podcast and we are so excited for you to listen to this in-depth exploration on Internal Family Systems (IFS). Whether you are new to IFS or you have experiences working with a practitioner trained in IFS, this episode is full of juicy perspectives and inquiries that can support you in your own relational growth. Chamonix Penelope is a multi-passionate artist, inner freedom guide, somatic Internal Family Systems & trauma informed coach and healer, 16yr master-trained yoga and tantric Buddhist meditation teacher, Laughter Yoga Leader, and Master of Theology from the University of St. Andrews.Chamonix breaks down IFS, makes the distinction between IFS and inner child work, and also weaves in ancestral healing work that can be done within IFS. There are a lot of concepts in this conversation that we do not often dive deep into on the podcast, which is why we are even more excited for you to listen because with new things, comes new insights and breakthroughs. We would love to hear from you around your takeaways from this episode, how you see it applying to your relationships (or not), and what else you would love for us to cover on this topic!If you want to learn more about Chamonix and her offerings with IFS, follow her on Substack here or you can check out her website! And if you are wanting to come to our next free monthly mentorship call all about navigating family dynamics with the holidays coming up, register here to save your spot! The call is Saturday, November 9th, from 10am-12pm PST on Zoom. Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Ready to talk about the awesomeness of queer sex? Great, we are too!We dive into some of our favorite things about queer sex that we also see as beneficial for any relational dynamic to deepen sexual intimacy - including an erotic intimacy game that you could play TODAY to spice up your sexual life. What have been some of your favorite aspects of queer sex along your own journey? We would love to hear from you!Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

It's true, this all started from a video E saw on TikTok. What does it mean to have a "soft life"? And what connection does that have for lesbian relationships? This added layer of consideration that comes when you are born AFAB and raised in what a girl/woman should be and act like translates into a different experience in most lesbian dynamics.E talks about her perspective in dating men in the past and how that relates to dating women, and Li offers their perspective on this topic from only having dated women and what it is like to date a woman who has only ever dated men before. What would you need from your relationships to help you have a soft life? Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Welcome back to another episode! Today is all about what we learned we need to be aware of in being an AFAB (assigned female at birth) couple in this world - whether it be a challenge or superpower of this particular dynamic. Sharing from both of our personal experiences and also as a couple, what is different about this type of relationship compared to others? What are the conversations that we have had to have with other AFAB partners as we navigate this heteronormative world? And what is absolutely amazing about being an AFAB couple?All this and more! And as always, we would love to hear from you and your experience in this realm! Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

New name, who dis? But, truly, welcome to the first episode with our new name!We are starting off with a bang with this episode that we have some opinions about...weaponizing boundaries in relationships. Is it actually a boundary or are you putting a rule on someone? This is something that is so common when we start to weave in the language of personal and relational development into our everyday conversations. The terms lose their meanings or get warped and then the person on the receiving end feels a bit trapped in the experience. What is your experience in this realm? We would love to hear it! Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or Twitter (@queerloverelationships). Need guidance in your own queer love experiences? Come to our monthly Mentorship calls. Want to work with us? Sign up for a Discovery Session!Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.