Case Study: Rethinking Discipline and Natural Consequences

Have you ever worried that being "too soft" might set your kids up for failure in the harsh realities of life? Or maybe you’ve heard that using connection instead of consequences will spoil your children. Today is a special episode for me because I sit down with my oldest daughter Esme, who’s just about to leave for college, to reflect on our 18-year parenting journey. Together, we debunk the myths surrounding connective parenting and explore how it has shaped her into a self-assured, empathetic young adult.In This Episode:Misconceptions about “soft” parenting and disciplineHow empathy fosters resilience and self-esteemBenefits of letting kids learn responsibilityThe impact of no punishments on long-term behaviorEncouraging independence through connection🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ever feel like you’re stuck between what you know is best and what your instincts tell you to do in the heat of the moment? You’re not alone! Today I am tackling a battle many parents face, choosing connection over consequences when setting limits for our kids.Today, I talk with podcast listener Cecilia, a mom of three, as we discuss the struggles many of us face when balancing connective parenting with the pressures to revert to punishments. We talk about everything from the challenges of setting boundaries with empathy to how we can reframe our kids’ misbehavior as a moment of dysregulation, not defiance.In This Episode:Reframing behavior as a moment of dysregulationWhy punishment doesn’t foster lasting changeStrategies for setting limits with empathy and playHow to build connection in tough momentsShifting your mindset to create lasting change🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are You Taking Care of Yourself as a Parent? We all want our kids to thrive, but what if the key to their success lies in our own happiness? In this episode, I dive into the research from the University of Ohio that explores the profound impact a mother’s happiness has on her child’s success. This study found that a mother’s well-being is the most crucial factor for a child’s development, more important than anything else. But what does that really mean for us as parents?In This Episode:The importance of parental happiness for child successBalancing self-care with parenting demandsHow children are attuned to their parents’ emotionsThe connection between self-care and parentingReal-life examples of managing happiness as a parent🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What if we didn't need to fix our children's feelings? Imagine if the key to a peaceful household lies not in solving every problem but in simply being present. Today, we explore the transformative power of witnessing our children's emotions.In today's case study, I chat with Shweta, a mother to two children, about the struggle of managing her nine-year-old daughter’s anxiety. Shweta shares the weight of feeling responsible for her child's emotional well-being and the pressure she places on herself to "fix" everything. We unpack the importance of validating our children's feelings without rushing to solutions and how this practice can lead to deeper connections and fewer anxiety-driven outbursts. In This Episode:Why the need to fix our children’s feelings is a mythThe importance of witnessing and validating emotionsLetting go of guilt and controlEmbracing tantrums for emotional releaseBuilding deeper connections through empathy🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today, I tackle one of the most common concerns I hear from parents: Am I doing my kids a disservice by not using punishments and consequences? Many argue that without experiencing the "real world" of control and manipulation, children won’t be able to cope when they face it as adults. But is that really true?I believe raising children with connection, empathy, and unconditional love doesn’t leave them unprepared for the real world, it actually makes them more resilient. Instead of learning to accept harsh treatment, my kids know how to walk away from it. They understand the value of boundaries, and they seek out relationships that nurture rather than control. Let’s redefine what it means to truly prepare our children for the world ahead. It’s not about toughening them up; it’s about teaching them to thrive.In This Episode:Why connection builds true resilience in kidsHow gentle parenting prepares kids for the real worldThe harmful myth of “necessary” consequencesTeaching children to walk away from toxic situationsEncouraging kids to expect kindness in relationships🔗 Join my Connected Parent Mastermind, designed for parents who want to strengthen their connection with their children, experience more love, and reduce frustration.🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is your child resisting potty training? What if the secret to smoother potty training is all about connection? Join me today as I tackle a common parenting dilemma: potty training with one of my Instagram followers, Jamie. We'll discuss her experiences with potty training her spirited three-year-old daughter.Jamie shares her challenges, from her daughter’s resistance to potty training to the battles around diaper changes. I'll share strategies prioritizing connection, empathy, and letting go of control and guide Jamie on adopting a more connective approach, highlighting the effectiveness of special time and play in resolving conflicts.In This Episode:Connecting through special timeSetting limits with empathyAvoiding control battles in potty trainingUnderstanding the impact of new siblingsReframing diaper changes with play🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ever feel like every request turns into a battle with your kids? You ask them to put their shoes on, help with chores, or even just sit down for dinner, and instead of cooperation, you get resistance or silence. It’s frustrating, right? But here’s the big question: What if their refusal has less to do with defiance and more about how they FEEL about the relationship?Today, I tackle why our kids may not cooperate and how it relates to our connection. I explore how common parenting techniques, like punishments and rewards, often backfire, creating distance instead of understanding. If we shift our approach, it can transform daily interactions with our kids, bringing more peace and cooperation into our homes without resorting to punitive measures.In This Episode:Why do kids refuse to listen or cooperateDefiance or disconnection, what’s really happening?The negative effects of punishments and rewardsHow to use empathy and play to encourage cooperationAdjusting expectations for more harmony at home🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is your child constantly glued to their screen? Do you feel torn between setting strict boundaries and fostering trust? In today’s world, technology is everywhere, and balancing it with real-life connection can feel overwhelming. How do we guide our kids through it without falling into the trap of punishments and control?In this episode, I talk with Melissa, a fellow mom, about the daily challenges of managing her daughters' screen time and maintaining a healthy relationship with them. I share with her the tricky balance between allowing technology in our kids’ lives and ensuring they are still grounded in the real world. We also tackle the challenges of not letting electronics become the villain in every sibling dispute and why letting our kids learn from their own screen habits can be more powerful than strict rules. In This Episode:Managing screen time without creating conflictHow to set limits without controlSibling fights: When the phone isn’t the issueThe importance of open conversations about online safetyWhy connection is the best defense against tech risks🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What if offering your child choices isn't really giving them autonomy? Have you ever considered that the choices you present might feel manipulative? Let’s delve into the nuanced world of offering choices and explore how to empower our children genuinely and constructively.In this episode, I unpack giving children choices, spotlighting its potential benefits and pitfalls. I illustrate how choices can sometimes come off as controlling rather than empowering. I also discuss the vital role of true autonomy in developing a child's independence and problem-solving skills.In This Episode:The importance of real choices in parentingExamples of fake choices and their pitfallsAutonomy's role in childhood developmentParental control vs. child independenceReal-life anecdotes on flexible parentingConnection strategies for more meaningful choices📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What are the modern challenges of raising teens in a Snapchat and TikTok world, and how should parents adapt? Does taking away their smartphone do more damage than good? Today, I sit down with Danielle, a dedicated mother of four navigating the challenging terrain of parenting a 13-year-old daughter in the digital age. Over the past year, a widening gap has formed between them, fueled by social media and smartphone usage complexities.Danielle opens up about her struggles setting boundaries around smartphone use while attempting to build trust and connection. We discuss why traditional punitive measures often backfire and explore alternative strategies prioritizing empathy and understanding. Together, I share the nuances of allowing social media access, addressing the temptations and pitfalls teens face online, and finding ways to remain a supportive and present parent.In This Episode:Rebuilding bonds with rule-resistant teensUnderstanding modern social pressures on adolescentsShifting from punishment to building trustNavigating social media challenges with empathyEmbracing the role of connection in discipline🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: [email protected]💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/* Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast* Check out Curex: getcurex.com* Check out Mochi Health and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.joinmochi.com* Need a new plant for your home? Check out the Palmstreet App: https://i.palmstreet.app/tjja/peaceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy