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Have you ever felt like you were meant for more? What would you do if money wasn’t a factor? Today, Jay joins The Pivot Podcast for a conversation that explores the beauty, discomfort, and transformation found in life’s biggest pivots. Sitting down with hosts Fred Taylor, Channing Crowder, and Ryan Clark, Jay opens up about the fear of being seen starting from zero, the discipline forged through solitude, and the inner strength that comes from committing to a life of purpose. Throughout the episode, Jay and the hosts dive into the difference between passion and purpose, the value of consistency over talent, and why the most meaningful success often starts small. With candor and warmth, Jay also shares insights on love, authenticity, and mindfulness, reminding listeners that who we become is shaped not by how the world sees us, but by how we see ourselves. The conversation is raw, reflective, and often humorous, touching on everything from identity and appearance to relationships and emotional maturity. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Start from Zero Without Fear How to Build Confidence Through Solitude How to Stay Grounded in a World of Noise How to Know If It’s Time to Pivot How to Let Go Without Calling It a Failure How to Make Stillness Your Superpower How to Discover Purpose by Collecting, Then Connecting Whether you're rebuilding, realigning, or simply reflecting, this episode offers the grounded wisdom and practical tools to navigate it all. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:26 The Power of Practicing Public Speaking for 10 Years 03:10 Why People Seek Inspiration from Others 05:41 Discovering the Purpose That Fuels Motivation 08:52 Ways to Integrate Mindfulness Into Daily Life 12:43 A Glimpse Into the Discipline of Monk Life 14:16 How Deep Connection Leads to Greater Learning 18:23 Understanding Why Similar Actions Have Different Intentions 24:46 Exploring Whether Appearance Really Matters 28:38 Learning to Be Alone Without Feeling Lonely 34:16 Embracing Stillness and the Strength of Solitude 37:16 The Impact of Meeting the Right Person at the Right Time 41:08 What It Takes to Practice Celibacy 44:43 Unpacking the Biggest Misconception About Love 48:33 The Most Challenging Part of Loving Someone 51:46 Why Choosing the Right Leaders Truly Matters 54:37 How Failure Can Lead to Growth and Insight 56:41 Can Real Love Be Found on Dating Apps? 01:01:16 Taking the First Step Toward Finding Purpose 01:04:16 Why Consistency and Practice Outshine Talent 01:06:48 Defining the Moments That Mark a Major Life Pivot 01:11:32 Reframing Failure as a Simple Pivot 01:15:06 What to Expect in the Live Tour Episode Resources: The Pivot Podcast | YouTube The Pivot Podcast | X The Pivot Podcast | Instagram The Pivot PodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever struggle with your self-worth? What helps you get through your darkest days? Today, in the first-ever live episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty— not in a studio, but live on stage in front of thousands. To kick things off, Jay sits down with actress, author, and cultural disruptor Julia Fox for a raw, unfiltered conversation about pain, transformation, and purpose. What begins as an unlikely pairing unfolds into something profoundly human. Julia takes us deep into her story, one marked by emotional neglect, addiction, survival, and self-erasure, but with that also comes incredible grit, self-awareness, and resilience. Julia speaks about living with the trauma of not feeling worthy, and the long, complex journey of unlearning that narrative.  Together, they explore what it means to numb emotions through substance or toxic relationships, the role of compartmentalization as a survival mechanism, and the beauty of reclaiming identity through motherhood, celibacy, and sobriety. Julia shares how prayer, manifestation, and divine timing helped shift her path and how writing her memoir became the therapy she needed. Through tears, laughter, and confessions, this episode reminds us that healing doesn’t always look linear. Sometimes it looks like chaos, courage, and the difficult choice to keep going. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Break the Cycle of Feeling Unworthy How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Peace How to Reclaim Control After Addiction How to Be Okay With Being Seen How to Heal Without Needing Closure How to Build a Life Without Numbing Yourself How to Accept What You Can’t Change Your truth is not too much. Your past does not define your future. And you are worthy, always.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:01 Owning Your Main Character Energy 03:15 Finding Beauty in Everyday Moments 04:29 The Art of People Watching 05:04 How Childhood Trauma Shapes Self-Worth 08:15 Growing Up in Emotional Isolation 09:42 Coping by Shutting Down 14:21 Entering a World of Survival & Power 18:21 The Power of Setting Boundaries 19:36 How Prayer Became a Path to Change 23:13 Escaping Her Darkest Moments 25:30 A Friendship That Changed Everything 26:34 How Motherhood Became Her Lifeline 28:31 The Freedom of Living Your Truth 31:12 Why Parental Support Matters 33:30 Navigating a Difficult Parental Relationship 34:50 Accepting What You Can’t Control 35:59 The Lasting Impact of Emotionally Unavailable Parents 36:53 Surviving Near-Death Experiences 38:38 Finding the Will to Live 39:31 What the Adult Industry Taught Her About Power 40:56 The Pressure to Prove Yourself 42:00 Letting Go of People’s Opinions 44:22 The Fear of Being Truly Seen 45:37 Reflecting on Past, Present, and Future 57:10 Processing a Traumatic Miscarriage 58:37 Finding Purpose in Helping Others 01:01:26 Julia on Final Five Episode Resources: Julia Fox | TikTok Julia Fox | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you often forget things or lose track of time? Do you find it hard to stay focused on everyday tasks? Today, Jay reunites with the ever-popular Dr. Daniel Amen, a pioneering psychiatrist and clinical neuroscientist, to unravel one of the most misunderstood mental health topics today: ADHD. With society bombarded by endless distractions, overstimulation, and information overload, many are left questioning whether they truly have ADHD or are simply overwhelmed by the modern world. Dr. Amen cuts through the confusion by drawing from over three decades of clinical experience and brain imaging research. He clarifies that real ADHD is not a trend or a convenient label—it’s a genetic, neurological condition that can be identified through consistent behavioral patterns and even brain scans. What makes this conversation especially transformative is its focus on practical solutions and healing. Rather than defaulting to medication, Dr. Amen emphasizes a whole-brain, whole-body approach—starting with sleep, nutrition, and screen time. He cites compelling evidence showing how dietary changes and digital detoxes can significantly reduce symptoms in children. Jay and Dr. Amen also explore the emotional toll of untreated ADHD, including its links to addiction, depression, academic failure, and fractured relationships. Together, they challenge the stigma, revealing that ADHD is often both overdiagnosed and underdiagnosed, particularly in women and individuals without hyperactivity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Naturally Improve Focus Without Medication How to Use Diet to Reduce ADHD Symptoms How to Identify the 7 Types of ADHD How to Reframe Negative Thoughts with Brain Training How to Create a Brain-Healthy Morning Routine How to Navigate ADHD in Romantic Relationships How to Advocate for ADHD Support in Schools and Work Your brain is not broken. By learning more about how your mind works, making intentional lifestyle shifts, and seeking the right tools, you can begin to show up in life with greater clarity, connection, and confidence.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 01:15 Why Is ADD Becoming So Common Today? 03:45 Is ADHD Overdiagnosed or Underdiagnosed? 05:37 Key Behavior Patterns That Signal ADHD 09:40 Are You Born with ADHD or Can It Develop Later? 12:18 Why Some People Only Perform Well Under Stress 15:33 How Adult ADD Shows Up as Conflict-Seeking Behavior 21:43 What Really Causes ADHD? Genetics or Environment? 28:47 Can You Learn to Regulate Emotions with ADHD? 30:23 The Long-Term Impact of Untreated ADHD in Children 31:25 Should Alcohol Advertisements Be Banned? 35:07 How an Elimination Diet and Digital Detox Can Help Kids 37:16 Why Nutrition Plays a Critical Role in Managing ADHD 38:58 How ADHD Leads to Learned Helplessness 42:10 Can You Break the Cycle and Prevent Passing ADHD to Your Kids? 44:05 Why ADHD Is More Common in Men 46:40 How ADHD Affects the People Around You 48:20 How Proper Treatment Can Transform Your Life 54:45 Start with Simple Lifestyle Changes 56:03 What to Know About Dating Someone with ADHD 01:00:10 How Untreated ADD and Chronic Stress Can Lead to Illness 01:07:40 Why Winning an Argument with Your Partner Is Still Losing 01:10:35 The Power of Active Listening in Relationships 01:12:28 How to Navigate Life with a Parent Who Has ADD 01:15:12 Is ADHD Curable or Just Manageable? 01:16:25 The Long-Term Consequences of Untreated ADHD 01:17:42 Rethinking Brain and Mental Health as One 01:19:52 Practical Ways to Become More Organized 01:21:19 You’re Not Stuck with ADHD Episode Resources: Dr. Daniel Amen | TikTok Dr. Daniel Amen | Instagram Dr. Daniel Amen | Twitter Dr. Daniel Amen | LinkedIn Dr. Daniel Amen | Facebook Dr. Daniel Amen | Books Dr. Daniel Amen | Website Amen UniversitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you still think about your ex a lot? What’s been the hardest part of moving on? Today, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical guide for anyone moving through heartbreak. He explains that the pain of a breakup often comes from more than just losing someone, but it’s grieving the life we imagined with them and the version of ourselves we felt when we were loved. Jay walks through seven clear steps to help listeners begin their healing journey. From gaining clarity to quieting the overthinking spiral and finding your own closure, he offers real, actionable tools to help you move forward. Jay reminds listeners that you’re not missing them, you’re missing the idea of them. And that pain doesn’t mean the relationship was meant to be, it means you cared. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Romanticizing the Past How to Stop Blaming Yourself How to Rebuild After a Breakup How to Trust Yourself Again How to Know It Wasn’t Love Healing is possible even if it doesn't feel like it right now. It’s not about getting back to who you were before, it’s about becoming someone stronger, wiser, and more self-aware. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:53 Are You Heartbroken? 03:18 Step #1: Let Go of the Fantasy You Created 07:08 The Three Most Important Things in a Relationship 08:45 Step #2: Stop the Obsession Spiral 13:39 Step #3: Kill the Narrative that It Was Your Fault 17:28 Step #4: Find Closure On Your Own Terms 19:42 Step #5: Feeling Pain Doesn't Mean It Was Meant to Be 21:37 Step #6: Redirect Your Energy  22:18 Step #7: Stop Waiting to Feel ReadySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does “financial freedom” mean to you? What’s one thing you wish you learned about money earlier? In this On Purpose compilation episode, Jay Shetty brings together leading voices in business, money, and mindset—Scott Galloway, Codie Sanchez, Lewis Howes, and Jaspreet Singh—to break down what it really means to build wealth in today’s world. This episode explores the gap between surviving and thriving—and why mindset, habits, and practical skills matter just as much (if not more) than how much you earn. Whether you're in your 20s navigating debt, in your 40s reassessing your financial goals, or simply someone who wants more clarity around money—this conversation is for you. You’ll learn how to: Shift From a Scarcity Mindset to an Abundance Mindset. Use The Skills You Have To Create Financial Freedom. Ditch the Lies You’ve Been Told About Money. Make Smarter, Long-Term Moves With Money—Without Overwhelm. Through personal stories, real strategies, and mindset shifts, Jay and his guests offer a new way to think about wealth—not as a number, but as a lifestyle built on freedom, stability, and purpose. Whether you feel stuck, uncertain, or just ready for a smarter approach to money, this episode will give you the mindset and tools to move forward with confidence. True wealth isn’t about how much you earn—it’s about how well you build. Start building the life you actually want, one smart decision at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction  01:16 Pursuit Of Wealth Vs Riches 08:08 Rewire Your Relationship With Money 12:04 Be Honest About Your Finances & Save Money 14:56 Transfer the Skills You Have Into Real World Value 15:50 How Bad Do You Want It? 18:28 Want To Quit Your Job But Don't Know What's Next? 21:52 The Mindset Of Financial Abundance 22:29 Shame Surrounding Making Money 26:38 Transform How You Think About Money 28:39 Unlock Wealth With This Mindset Habit 36:47 How To Contribute Without The Credentials 39:15 The Wealth Formula That Actually Works 39:50 The Two Ways To Create Wealth 42:13 The Scarcity Mindset Holding You BackSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever feel like you need others to approve of your choices? When was the last time you did something just for yourself? In this heartfelt episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with award-winning actress and singer Cynthia Erivo for a raw and inspiring conversation. Cynthia opens up about her whirlwind year—filming back to back movies, performing at the Oscars, and pouring her soul into her deeply personal new album, I Forgive You. Even in the busiest seasons of her life, Cynthia is discovering the power of stillness—making space to rest, reset, and care for herself mentally, emotionally, and physically.  Cynthia opens up about the emotional weight she’s carried—the pain of feeling abandoned by her father and the relentless pressure to keep proving herself. She and Jay explore the exhausting chase for external approval—and how it often leads to burnout, disconnection, and a version of success that doesn’t feel like yours. Cynthia’s path has been one of unlearning—releasing fear-based patterns and learning to create from a place of wholeness. Her journey is one of deep self-reflection and healing, which shines through in her new music. Together, Jay and Cynthia unpack what it really means to own your truth, make peace with your past, and finally feel at home in the present. Cynthia’s stories of heartbreak, transformation, and creative rebirth offer powerful insights for anyone navigating change or searching for their purpose. This episode is rich with wisdom, warmth, and a reminder that healing and growth are always possible. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Daily Habits That Ground You Anywhere How to Embrace Rest Without Guilt How to Heal from the Need for External Validation How to Let Go of the Pressure to Overachieve How to Share Your True Self Without Fear How to Create from a Place of Love, Not Pain Whether you’re navigating heartbreak, chasing your dreams, or simply learning how to slow down, know this: you are allowed to evolve, to let go, and to begin again. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:39 Have You Had a Moment to Take a Break? 04:34 How Do You Take Care of Yourself? 06:12 Are You Good at Slowing Down? 08:25 Why Your Body Needs to Follow Rituals 12:00 Difference Between Achieving and Overachieving 13:34 What Drives You to be an Overachiever? 16:59 Using Childhood Trauma to Transform Your Life 18:31 The Three Modes to Help You Achieve Your Goals 20:17 Missteps are the Steps We're Meant to Take 23:56 Choose to Live for Yourself First 26:16 Have You Ever Felt Like You Don’t Fit In? 29:23 Focus on Sharing Positive Energy 32:29 The Frequency Illusion 33:44 Empower People to Own Their Confidence 37:50 Teaching Kids About Confidence and Self Love 39:40 How to Show Up as Yourself 45:24 Behind the Glamourous Life of Celebrities 47:55 The Power of Music 51:00 How Do You Share Your Emotional Journey? 55:23 How Do You Live Through Heartbreak? 01:00:26 Can You Peacefully Disconnect Yourself from Someone? 01:05:16 Sometimes, It's Not About You 01:07:35 What is the Right Type of Validation to Crave? 01:14:20 The Core of Being a Good Person 01:21:13 The Experience of Abandonment Isn't Always Your Reality  01:25:10 Which Emotion is the Hardest to Face? Episode Resources: Cynthia Erivo | Website Cynthia Erivo | Instagram  Cynthia Erivo | Facebook Cynthia Erivok | TikTok Cynthia Erivo | YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What part of your life feels off track right now? Have you been listening more to your fear or your intuition? Today, Jay explores what it means to lose control—and why that may be exactly where transformation begins. When plans fall apart and expectations go unmet, the mind defaults to self-blame and shame. But Jay offers a different perspective: perhaps this is not failure, but the unplanned beginning of something better. Guided by his background in monkhood and supported by research from neuroscience and psychology, Jay introduces six transformative practices for navigating life’s plot twists with intention and grace. He explains how to distinguish between the loud voice of the inner critic and the quiet wisdom of intuition, why guilt and shame block growth, and how letting go of the illusion of control can create space for something far greater than imagined. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Quiet Your Inner Critic  How to Reframe Failure as Redirection How to Speak to Yourself with Kindness How to Respond to Setbacks Instead of Resisting Them How to Stay Grounded When the Plan Falls Apart How to Let Curiosity Lead You Forward, Not Fear Control isn’t about perfect plans, it’s about presence. And what seems like an ending might just be the beginning of a more meaningful path. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:43 Is Life Not Going According to Plan? 02:47 Step #1: Learn to Pause Your Active Inner Critic 11:03 Step #2: Let Go of the Control Illusion 20:39 Step #3: Reframe Failure as Redirection 22:19 Step #4: Use the Tiny Wins Framework 24:28 Step #5: Expect the Plot Twists 27:23 Step #6: Let Curiosity Lead You ForwardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you usually calm down? Have you heard about breathing for anxiety relief? Today, Jay welcomes back world-renowned breathwork pioneer and “Iceman” Wim Hof to explore how the human body and mind are capable of far more than we believe. Together, they dive into the origins of the Wim Hof Method and how it harnesses the transformative power of breath, cold exposure, and commitment to unlock profound healing, emotional resilience, and spiritual clarity. Wim shares the emotional story of how his mother’s invocation at his birth and the tragic loss of his wife became catalysts for his life’s mission: to help others reconnect with their inner strength and soul purpose. He explains how breathwork and cold immersion can help regulate the nervous system, reduce inflammation, conquer anxiety, and even break through grief and trauma. Jay and Wim also discuss the simplicity of the method, its scientific validation, and how surrender and intention unlock states of consciousness once thought to be out of reach. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Reduce Inflammation Naturally with Breathing Techniques How to Strengthen Your Immune System in Just 30 Minutes How to Calm Anxiety Through Simple Daily Breathwork How to Access Inner Peace by Controlling Your Breath How to Unlock Your True Potential in Just One Week You are far more powerful than you realize. Whether you're battling anxiety, feeling stuck, or simply looking to reconnect with yourself, the tools you need are already within you—your breath, your body, and your willingness to try.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty ⁠Safety Disclaimer: Don't do the Wim Hof breathing in a swimming pool, before going underwater, beneath the shower, or piloting any vehicle. Always practice sitting or lying down in a safe environment. Tinnitus symptoms may appear as a result of pushing too forcefully during the breathing exercise. If this happens, take a step back in your future practice – it's important to increase gradually, not forcefully! Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:41 Dedicating a Life to Wellness 05:04 The Benefits of the Wim Hof Method Explained  11:31 Unlocking the Untapped Power of Breath 13:45 Gaining Full Control Over Your Mind and Body 17:59 Cleansing the Body Through Proper Breathing 22:24 The Science-Backed Truth About Anxiety 24:11 Can Breathing Right Strengthen Immunity? 25:54 How Discomfort Training Builds Stress Resilience 28:22 Training the Body to Embrace Cold Plunges 31:37 The Origin Story of the Wim Hof Method 33:43 Finding Mental Clarity Through Cold Exposure 40:01 Simple Steps to Take Charge of Your Life 44:23 Exploring the Practice of Mantra Meditation 45:22 Defining and Strengthening Willpower 49:26 Overcoming Life’s Most Difficult Challenges 51:20 How to Self Soothe on Emotionally Tough Days 52:35 Revealing the Hidden Strength of the Body 54:21 How Ice Baths Can Benefit Society 55:49 The Role of Surrender in Facing Fear 58:22 Healing Grief Through Cold Plunge Practices Episode Resources: Wim Hof | Website Wim Hof | Instagram  Wim Hof | X Wim Hof | Facebook Wim Hof | TikTok Wim Hof | YouTube The Wim Hof Method: Activate Your Full Human PotentialSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you keeping this friendship out of habit or love? If they weren’t in your life today, would you try to be friends again? In this profoundly insightful episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with Simon Sinek, renowned leadership expert, bestselling author, and host of the podcast, A Bit of Optimism. Jay and Simon share a deeply vulnerable and powerful conversation about what it truly means to be human in a world that’s more connected than ever, yet so emotionally disconnected. Together, they explore the foundational role of friendships, belonging, and purpose in building meaningful lives and relationships. Jay opens up about his own transformation and the early influence of Simon’s book Start with Why, while Simon reflects on the personal journey behind his body of work, emphasizing that all leadership is, at its core, about human connection. They speak candidly about how burnout often stems from loneliness, the fragile nature of adult friendships, the difficulty many have in celebrating others’ success, and the healing power of emotional honesty in relationships. With wisdom, humor, and emotional clarity, Simon breaks down how we can show up more authentically for ourselves and for those we love—even when it’s uncomfortable. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Support a Friend Without Trying to Fix Them How to Know When It’s Time to Let a Friendship Go How to Create Belonging When You Feel Disconnected How to Celebrate a Friend’s Win Even When You’re Struggling How to Communicate When You Don’t Know What to Say How to Recognize Burnout as a Sign of Loneliness This episode is a powerful reminder that being imperfect is what makes us human, and that real connection isn’t built on perfection, but on the willingness to be present, authentic, and compassionate.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there!  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:26 How to Truly Connect with Others 03:45 The Universal Truth Behind All Human Problems 05:45 Why We All Really Just Want to Belong 09:33 Feeling Lonely? You’re Not Alone 12:10 Why Community is Disappearing & Why It Matters 18:33 Do Kids Really Need a Village? 22:17 Why We All Crave Safety  24:22 How to Find People Who Share Your Values 28:19 Understanding the Journey vs. the Goal 30:49 Knowing When to Persevere vs. Let Go 32:46 How to Know You've Outgrown a Friendship 35:22 Recognizing Why a Relationship Has Ended 38:08 Why Sincerity Beats Perfection Every Time 45:46 Learning to Trust Your Intuition  48:52 The Most Powerful Relationship Advice You'll Ever Hear 55:27 How to Share Your Wins With Friends Who Are Struggling  01:03:10 Stop Letting Insecurities Define Your Behavior 01:06:21 Can You Be Friends with People You Envy? 01:09:35 How to Respond to Skeptics with Grace 01:12:44 Your Worth Isn’t Measured by Numbers 01:15:45 Tune Into Your Needs, Not Others' Expectations 01:19:01 What Social Awkwardness Really Means 01:22:59 Real Communication Is About Understanding, Not Winning 01:29:44 Embracing Imperfection Is What Makes Us Human 01:31:40 Simon on Final Five Episode Resources: Simon Sinek | Website Simon Sinek | Instagram  Simon Sinek | LinkedIn Simon Sinek | X Simon Sinek | Facebook Simon Sinek | TikTok Simon Sinek | YouTube A Bit of OptimismSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever found yourself holding onto someone who couldn’t fully open up to you? Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have, hoping things would finally get better? In today’s episode, I’m doing something a little different. My good friend Lisa Bilyeu flips the script and interviews me. Lisa is the co-founder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition, founder of Women of Impact, and one of the most honest, fearless voices I know when it comes to growth, relationships, and empowerment. Together, we unpack some of the most misunderstood truths about relationships, from why we settle to how we can start making choices rooted in self-worth rather than fear. We talk about how to stop crowd-sourcing your most important life decisions and why learning to listen to your own voice—without all the outside opinions—is one of the most healing things you can do. I share the real reason many of us struggle with being alone, how to break the cycle of chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and why true love should feel like peace—not anxiety dressed up as passion. This episode is about so much more than dating. It’s about rebuilding your self-worth one choice at a time. I walk you through my 5 daily habits that help me build inner confidence, how to tell when you’re compromising in love versus losing yourself, and the honest questions you need to ask before deciding whether to stay—or walk away. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Settling and Start Choosing From Confidence How to Trust Your Intuition Without Second-Guessing Yourself How to Break Free From the Fear of Being Alone How to Create Peace In Order to Attract a Healthy Relationship How to Know If You’re Compromising or Abandoning Yourself How to Build Self-Worth With 5 Simple Daily Habits I’m so grateful to Lisa for creating this space. I hope it brings you a deeper sense of direction, healing, and the reminder that you are always worth choosing—especially by yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:21 The Three Reasons We Settle in Love 04:24 We All Have a Different Take on Love 06:36 The 7-Day Opinion Fast  13:15 Why Do We Keep Chasing the Wrong Person? 17:29 The Technique Men Use to Flirt with Women 23:44 The Difference Between Adapting vs. Diminishing Yourself in Relationships 28:39 This is the Biggest Reason for Breakups & How to Avoid It 31:50 Promoting a Healthy Relationship Through 'US' and 'WE' 34:52 Never Say these Two Words During An Argument  36:41 Is it Love or Just Lust? 38:24 Are You Comfortable or Complacent in Your Relationship? 45:24 Don't Let Your Insecurities Affect Your Current Relationship 48:06 The Three People You'll Fall With in Love in Your Life 53:29 Why Trust Should Be Given Easily 56:02 Fixing Someone Isn't Your Responsibility 01:00:39 Three Ways to Adapt to Your Partner's Personality  01:06:23 You Can't Live on Someone Else’s Timeline 01:12:29 This is the Type of Conversation You Should be Having With Your Partner 01:16:16 5 Daily Habits to Build Self-Worth 01:22:47 Best Nighttime Routine to Block Negative Thoughts 01:25:25 Jay's On Tour Update Episode Resources: Lisa Bilyeu | Website Lisa Bilyeu | Instagram  Lisa Bilyeu | TikTok  Lisa Bilyeu | Facebook Lisa Bilyeu | YouTube Lisa Bilyeu | X Lisa Bilyeu | LinkedIn Women of Impact Podcast Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You WantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.