Lala's old podcasts

In this episode Lala is joined by Sarah Smith and Mark Harrington from Breck Foundation. Breck Foundation was created by Breck Bednar's mother Lorin following Breck's tragic murder by the person who groomed him online. www.breckfoundation.org.uk

This podcast is sponsored by www.beducated.com - with my code: LALALA you can get 70% off the annual fee! I could not recommend them more highly. In this episode Lala is joined by ex Love Islander Kaz Crossley. Kaz is an amazing influencer who has recently fundraised to build a house for disadvantaged children in Thailand. This podcast covers dating dilemmas sent in by followers and discussions around experiencing domestic abuse.

In this episode Lala is joined by fat rights activist Danica Marjanovic (@danica_marjanovic) and Life Coach Kayleigh Dixon (@kdlifecoach) to discuss fatness and dating. We discuss questions from followers including: What is fat? Thickness is a trend but where is the line? Is the word fat OK or offensive? Is it wrong to utilise angles and lighting to hide your weight on dating apps? How do you differentiate between being someone’s type and being fetishized? The worry that they have underestimated your size in photos and how they will react in person and feeling the need to alert them to the fact that you are fat before meeting? Is it fatphobic to not find fat people attractive? How do I get rid of the feeling that I am not thin enough to be attractive to men? I internalise thoughts like ‘I can start dating again when I’ve lost a bit of weight’ Do I need to decrease my standards after gaining 15kg? Handsome men feel out of my league now. Men are definitely less interested in me now that I am larger. Lack of confidence during sex due to weight. Especially being on top.

In this episode Lala is joined by Lucy Whittaker from Alpha Vesta CIC training to discuss some less commonly spoken about aspects of domestic abuse, including spiritual abuse, pet abuse, BDSM and abuse, and employer's responsibilities for training and supporting staff.

In this episode Lala is joined by author and founder of the Everyday Sexism Project Laura Bates to answer questions sent in by followers including, how can we change the minds of misogynistic men in our lives, how can we educate the young men in our lives, how to spot a fake feminist man, how to deal with sexism in the workplace, how can we shift the negative perceptions of feminism, how to keep the faith in good men existing......and much more.

This week Lala is joined by US based singer, dancer, and actress Mila Jam to answer questions sent in by followers including, how to stay authentic in a world full of fakes, dating as a trans woman, dealing with bullying at school and trolls online, dismantling the patriarchy and much more.

In this episode, Lala is joined by Kate Sanger from Jo's Cervical Cancer Trust to discuss HPV. There is so much confusion around the subject of HPV so we have answered followers questions to try to give more clarity on the issue.

In this week's episode Lala is joined by the amazing Lemar! Lemar rose to fame after staring in BBC's Fame Academy and went on to release 5 platinum albums. Lemar now has his own podcast 'The Lemar Show' where he delves into the music industry highs and lows with a range of special guests. This week Lemar and Lala discuss: Adjusting to fame Gender and race equality in the music industry Can you suggest tips for approaching a guy who isn't interested What will you be telling your daughter about boys and your son about girls? I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years but we haven't met each other's families or friends because he says he isn't ready. Am I being too demanding by trying to push it? Would it matter to you if a woman had been with one of your friends before you?

This week's podcast is a dating and disability special featuring journalist and disability activist Cathy who has dwarfism(Insta @thatsinglemum) and podcaster Joy who has visual impairment (@joysworldthepodcast). In this podcast we discuss questions sent in by followers on the topic of disability and how that impacts on dating. Including: I have an invisible disability. When is the right time to bring it up when dating, and how? How do you calm anxiety when dating? How do you have conversations with disabled people, about their disability without being offensive? What should we not say to disabled people? Ableism is so rife. Can we discuss people feeling sorry for disabled people, and how they think we are sexless? Is fetishization a fear of yours? Is there anything that a person could do to allay those fears when starting a relationship with a person with a disability? How do you date as a single mum? Men always ask to come over when my child is asleep and I get called boring if I say no. I don’t get a lot of free time so it’s hard to navigate.

For this episode Lala was joined Robin and Claire, two ex child abuse investigation detectives who are experts in the field of child safeguarding to discuss child sexual exploitation and sexual abuse. Robin Watts is a specialist trainer and you can hire him to deliver training to your organisation www.rawtrainingltd.com This podcast will give you the tools to understand how to protect your own children and children around you. I just listened back to it and I thought that there were a few bits that we missed out so I wanted to add them here.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ If you suspect that a child has been the victim of sexual abuse do not ask leading questions. If it's proven that you asked leading questions it can impact the outcome in court. So don't ask "Did Daddy touch you?" ask "Can you tell me what happened with Daddy?"⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Have professional curiosity. If your gut tells you that something is wrong then hang on to that. Keep that child on your radar. Talk to other professionals in that child's life. Try to connect the dots. If a child is acting out and behaving in ways that make you dislike them then make an even bigger commitment to show up for that child. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Sometimes victims become abusers, but that doesn't take away from their abuse. For example, sometimes gangs do 'line ups' where they will have one girl in a room who has to have sex with a line of boys. We might look at all of those boys as abusers, but a 13 year old boy who is forced to lose his 'virginity' in this way in a room full of his friends is also experiencing trauma. Sometimes female victims of CSE recruit friends for abuse, again, we need to see the bigger picture. They are all victims. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When talking to victims of CSE we need to be careful about the language we use about the perpetrator. Calling him a disgusting piece of shit and saying he doesn't love you might be true, but the child has been groomed and feels loved. It might make them feel more defensive and less likely to listen. If you are a health care professional look for signs such as frequent hospital attendances. Ensure that you speak to the patient alone, if their boyfriend/girlfriend/alleged relative is always with them, then find a way to see them alone. If you need to report then contact the police or the children's service based in the area where the child lives. Google the child's local authority. Even if you don't have a lot of evidence it is still worth having a chat with a social worker. You can report anonymously to NSPCC too.