Grace Based Families Podcast

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Grace Based Families Podcast Dec 06, 2023 Episode 113 Hosts: Michelle Broek, Karis Murray In this episode, we delve into the depths of toxic shame, a misunderstood and complex emotion. We explore its differences from guilt and embarrassment, drawing from Brene Brown's research, highlighting the connection between shame and detrimental behaviors such as addiction, violence, and depression. Focusing on the impact of shame on mental health, particularly those struggling with undiagnosed ADHD, we discuss how messages from significant individuals can fuel shame. We emphasize the importance of accepting one's identity and the role of professional counseling and medication in managing ADHD symptoms. The episode concludes with a call to embrace 'neurodivergence', view it as a gift, and create safe spaces for it. We discuss the power of parental love in disengaging from shame and how modeling vulnerability can help children grow into emotionally intelligent adults. Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast Nov 22, 2023 Episode 112 Host: Karis Murray Guest: Sam Melvin, Executive Director of Church and Race Karis and Sam explore the deeply rooted issue of racism within the church. Sam shares his personal experiences as a black man attending a predominantly white church, and how his faith has guided him through these challenges. Our conversation delves into the interpretation of racism in the Bible, systemic racism ingrained in the U.S., and the role of the church during the Civil Rights Movement. In the latter part of the episode, Sam provides valuable insights on the importance of repentance, forgiveness, and open dialogue in the pursuit of racial unity and reconciliation. Through his powerful analogy of racial unity to a marriage, Sam underscores the need for mutual respect, submission, and understanding. We also reflect on the critical work done by the Church and Race ministry, emphasizing the importance of sticking to their mission to achieve racial unity. This episode serves as an eye-opening journey towards racial reconciliation in the church, and we invite you to join us in this essential conversation. The Church and Race website coming soon Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast Nov 8, 2023 Episode 111 Host: Michelle Broek Guest: Dr. Tim Kimmel Q1. How can people navigate the changes and differences that inevitably occur in marriages? Michelle asks Tim to provide insights into the common challenges couples face as they evolve over time. The discussion touches on how changes can sometimes lead to disconnect, and the host asks for practical strategies to help couples manage these differences, maintain a strong bond, and promote healing and growth in the relationship. Q2. How can parents encourage their children to take on more responsibility around the home? In this question, Michelle explores the issue of instilling responsibility in children, particularly in relation to chores. The discussion seeks to understand the best approaches for motivating children to participate in household tasks and contribute to the family unit. Q3. How can parents effectively guide their children in a world heavily influenced by digital media and potentially harmful content? Michelle raises the concern about children's exposure to potentially harmful content on digital platforms and asks Tim for advice on how to manage this. The question aims to gather strategies for parents to help their children navigate the digital world responsibly and safely. Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast October 25, 2023 Episode #110 Host: Karis Murray, Michelle Broek Michelle delves into the personal experience of growing up in a family plagued by codependency. Primarily revolving around the struggles of her brother's mental illness, she shares her journey of misunderstanding the concept of codependency, often confusing it with mere neediness. Michelle describes how she adopted a posture of self-sufficiency and people-pleasing to alleviate her family's turmoil. Michelle's personal narrative aims to highlight the roots of codependency in fear and deep concern for others, ultimately demystifying its manifestations in various relationships. The conversation transitions into the importance of setting boundaries, stressing that it is not an act of selfishness but a necessity for personal well-being. Karis & Michelle discuss common misconceptions about boundaries and address the pressure of being constantly available for others. They emphasize the importance of establishing boundaries not just with others but also with oneself. The discussion leads into the exploration of false beliefs, fear-based emotions, and the need to please others, identifying these as potent drivers behind unhealthy codependent patterns. The episode concludes on a hopeful note, underscoring the power of taking small moments of autonomy for self-care and discovering one's identity outside the context of relationships. Putting Jesus in the center of one's life can lead to healthier thinking and behavior. This episode presents an enlightening discussion on navigating codependency and setting boundaries, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding of these complex concepts and their importance in maintaining personal well-being. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Celebrate Recovery: https://www.celebraterecovery.com/resources/issue-pamphlets?view=article&id=303:ip-co-dependency&catid=117/ Parents of Addicted Loved Ones: https://palgroup.org/ Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast September 27, 2023 Episode 109 Host: Karis Kimmel Guest: Ted Wueste, founder and director of the Spiritual Formation Society of Arizona Karis & Ted shed light on how one can critically reassess Christian doctrine, beliefs, and practices, while still maintaining their faith. We also discuss the role of digital age in the public view of faith deconstruction, the wisdom of early church on this transformational process, and the inherent dangers and fear that come along with it. As we delve further into the conversation, we explore the challenges of parenting during faith deconstruction. Drawing from Ted's personal experiences, we discuss how to support children during their own process of deconstruction and lean on God for guidance. Finally, we share valuable insights on maintaining relationships amid Christian faith deconstruction, creating a safe space for exploration, and celebrating the divine work happening in their lives. Whether you're wrestling with your faith or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights. The Spiritual Formation Society of Arizona website: sfsaz.org/ Dr. Ted Wueste at Amazon.com Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast Sep 27, 2023 Episode 108 Host: Karis Murray Guest: Adrienne Gibson In this podcast episode, host Karis shares her personal experience with divorce and the often overlooked aftermath that follows. Joined by Adrienne Gibson, a licensed counselor specializing in complex trauma, they delve into the intricacies of trauma and abuse within marriages, emphasizing the importance of support networks, therapy, and the role of the church. They explore the phenomenon of complex trauma caused by chronic stress, often unnoticed, which further adds to the harm experienced by individuals. The episode underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing trauma and advocates for professional therapeutic help. They discuss the need for a robust support group and creating a safe space during trauma recovery. The conversation further emphasizes the importance of mindful emotional processing, even when challenging, and the continuous evolution of healing. This episode is a candid exploration of the commonality of divorce, its profound impact, and the need for improved understanding and support in communities. Adrienne's counseling group: valorcounselingaz.com Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast September 13, 2023 Episode 107 Host: Karis Murray & Michelle Broek Karis and Michelle address the modern trend of prolonged adolescence and how to navigate the fine balance between preserving childhood innocence and instilling financial responsibility. The episode provides practical strategies and insights on helping children understand the value of money, manage it wisely, and learn the difference between a helping hand and a constant handout. The importance of allowing children to fully experience their childhood while also preparing them for adulthood is also discussed. The episode is filled with advice and reassurances for parents dealing with children at different stages of maturity. Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast August 30, 2023 Episode 106 Host: Michelle Broek Guest: Tim Kimmel Michelle and Tim navigate some of the most challenging aspects of Christian parenting as we discuss bedtime routines, choosing schools, and addressing the topic of alcohol in a Christian home. Q1: How can parents transform the often stressful bedtime routine into a meaningful bonding time with their children? Dr. Kimmel emphasizes the need to start winding down the household early and create a bedtime ritual that fosters an environment of love, security, and purpose. He also highlights the importance of reading to your kids and viewing bedtime as a gift from God. Q2: How can parents navigate the complex task of choosing the right school for their kids? This involves weighing the trade-offs of each educational option and considering essential questions such as which school is best for a particular child, which one fits best with the family's configuration, and if the school helps your child become a truly great person. Dr. Kimmel warns against fear-based decision making and underscores the importance of raising strong, not just safe, kids. Q3: How should parents handle the controversial topic of alcohol in the home from a Christian perspective? Dr. Kimmel advises parents to explore the biblical stance on moderation and abstention, understand the dangers of teenage drinking, and have open conversations with your children on this subject. He also emphasizes the importance of prayer and self-reflection when making decisions about alcohol in the home. Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Grace Based Families Podcast August 16, 2023 Episode 105 Host: Michelle Broek & Karis Kimmel Michelle and Karis discuss strategies for preparing children for the new school year. They discuss the importance of proactive communication, balancing school with other pursuits, and nurturing individual talents. The episode also covers fostering an open dialogue with children, encouraging critical thinking skills, and supplementing school learning with real-world experiences. Chapter Summaries: (0:00:06) - Preparing Kids for the School Year (12 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss the emotional roller coaster that comes with the start of a new school year. They emphasize the importance of teaching kids that school is important but not the only thing that matters. (0:12:27) - Preparing Kids for School and Beyond (7 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss the importance of open conversations with kids where they feel that they are not being judged. They also stress the importance of teaching kids to use their imagination and critical thinking skills. (0:19:49) - Nurturing Communication With a Quiet Kindergartner (5 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss the importance of creating an open dialogue with kids where they feel safe to communicate their fears and doubts. (0:24:40) - Parenting Tips and Building Strong Relationships (7 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss how to approach sensitive topics with children, reminding them that they are loved and valued regardless of their accomplishments. Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: [email protected] Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website