My First Thanksgiving Alone

I've been married, divorced, and maybe dated a few questionable people in between. Now it’s time for a list—not of my regrets, but of what I actually want in a partner. In this episode, I share my dating checklist that isn’t about perfection—but about clarity. In making a list, I focused on defining my core values, distinguishing between wants and needs, and being determined to stop repeating patterns that didn’t serve me the first time around. I've learned that making a list isn’t shallow—it’s self-respect on paper. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

After the divorce dust settles, there comes a new kind of freedom — the power to choose what’s next. For me, that means choosing not to have more kids. In this episode, I share my feelings of the relief, the guilt, the clarity, and the joy of embracing life as a one-kid mom who’s done making babies. I also share how I've had to become intentional about my dating life. Deciding to only date men who have children already and if you've had a vasectomy, you might be the perfect man for me. After divorce, we get an opportunity to create the life we want and deserve. It's our body, our life, our choice. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week's episode I share my journey of coparenting. For some reason, I thought that divorce and coparenting meant complete shared responsibility. I soon realized that although I was now divorced, my role as 'Primary Parent' still remained. All the decision-making and managing our child’s life still falls on me. I quickly became resentful. Even though my responsibilities haven’t changed, our relationship has. I could not expect a show of appreciation or a thank-you. I learned not to expect acknowledgment of all the physical and mental work I put in to make our new dynamic work. Having expectations leads to disappointment. I’ve learned to do what I need to do for our child. If a thank you comes, that’s great. If it doesn’t, it’s not going to stop me from being the best mom I can be. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

As women, we are innately powerful beings. We have the ability to give life and the ability to create the lives we deserve. In this week's episode I share the journey of some of the strongest women in my life, my grandmothers and my mother. The women that came before me didn’t have many options. Growing up in a time when women, especially women of color, lacked access to resources, education and independence. They lived in a time when leaving an unhealthy marriage was nearly impossible. They spent most of their lives enduring instead of living. Because of the women that came before me, I found the courage to choose to live instead of enduring. Through this episode, I hope you are able to find your inner power to do the same. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

As a mom, one of the hardest things you may ever do is explain to your child that their family life is about to change — and that they'll be living in two separate homes. In this week's episode, I share how I've handled having this conversation with my son. I've learned that the best thing to do is to validate their feelings, comfort them and leave your feelings out of the conversation. Whether you're just starting this journey or adjusting along the way, this episode is here to remind you: you don’t have to do it perfectly — just with love. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Dating after divorce comes with its own set of emotional challenges—but introducing your child to a new partner can be one of the most sensitive steps in the process. In this week's episode, I share my journey through dating and finally getting to the point where I feel okay with introducing my son to the man that I'm dating. It took me a long time to finally feel comfortable with the idea. I worry about how my son will react, whether it's too soon, or if this new relationship might disrupt the fragile post-divorce balance. There's also fear of rejection—from either my son or my partner. I've realized that introducing someone new to my son is not just a milestone in the relationship—it’s a bridge between two worlds, and it's okay to take my time building it. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Dating after divorce can be more than just a step toward a new relationship—it can be a powerful part of your healing journey. In this week's episode I discuss how dating has helped me reconnect with myself, rediscover my values, rebuild confidence, and practice healthier emotional boundaries. I've learned that it's not about rushing into love—it’s about learning, growing, and choosing yourself first. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week’s episode I share my experience of coping with the fact that I would have to share custody of my child once I filed for divorce. As a working mom, I worried about the moments I would miss with my child once I went back to work. I never thought about missing moments because I would get divorced and have to share custody. The thought of missing even more time with my child left me full of sadness, anger and anxiety. In the beginning, I spent most of my time away from my son depressed, spending a lot of time in his room and going through pictures of him. After a while, I realized not only is this not healthy, but it’s a missed opportunity! I started to use my time away from my son to spend time getting to know myself. I began to embark on new hobbies and experience all the things I wanted to do before, but never had the free time. What started off feeling like a punishment turned into a blessing. I discovered having that time away to reenergize and rediscover myself allowed me to have a more balanced life. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week's episode I share the emotional reality that many moms face during and after divorce: the crushing weight of grief, anxiety, and sadness — and the constant demand to keep going. The often-overlooked truth is that moms don't always have the luxury of fully processing their pain, because life doesn't stop when your marriage does. There are lunches to pack, homework to help with, bills to pay, and kids who still need you to show up — every day, no matter how broken you feel. I carried the guilt of not being able to "fall apart", resentment built up from always being the strong one, and depression quietly crept up because I didn't 'have time' to acknowledge it. I encourage moms to honor their emotional struggles without judgment, and to find small, sustainable ways when they're in survival mode. I've learned that being a mom doesn’t cancel your pain — but it does mean you often have to carry it differently. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week's episode I discuss the steps I took to co-parent with my ex while also healing from the pain of the divorce. I realized that emotionally disconnecting, establishing boundaries, effectively communicating, expressing my feelings in healthy ways and separating who he was as my spouse from who he was as a parent helped us have a respectful and productive co-parenting relationship. It took time and a lot of blow ups to get to where I am now, but by implementing those steps and giving myself grace, I’ve finally achieved a peaceful co-parenting relationship. While going through all the trials a divorce brings, remember it’s not about your ex, it’s about what’s best for your children. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr