working through the fear of abandonment

idk im just like on my own timeline or something ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 HOKAYYY  00:35 gogi talk 03:22 the walls going up 09:46 uncovering the layers 11:36 shame is cyclical  13:44 social currency & legitimacy  16:31 finding worth internally  18:31 I’m not everyone’s cup of tea 22:19 I didn’t date until I was 22 24:18 using insecurities as motivation  27:50 I’m on my own timeline!! things mentioned~ Derrick gee - https://www.tiktok.com/@gee_derrick Maartebaby - https://www.instagram.com/maartebaby/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

i need ya'll to match my energy!! in relationships, friendships, life, i want to surround myself with like-minded, emotion-feeling people!! enough with the nonchalance and tryna be "cool". caring is cool. energy is cool. xx, hanakattt TIMESTAMPS 00:00 heyyyyy/gogi talk 04:39 Korean snack break 06:17 match my energy!! 08:18 apathy in the dating scene 12:16 texting etiquette  13:25 it takes two 15:21 wanting the same things 30:43 silly goose time 31:24 confessional 37:22 ARE YOU HAVING FUN? things mentioned~enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

what is loyalty? are we "choosing sides" after a breakup? what are your expectations of your friends? we're talking about how to earn loyalty and sustain relationships. xx, hanakattt TIMESTAMPS 00:00 gogi talk 08:03 “choosing sides” when friends go through a breakup 09:48 developing relationships with your friends’ partners 13:36 loyalty expectations 17:28 being considerate of others 21:22 who they are at the end of the relationship is their true selves 22:05 friendship loyalty 25:48 stuart cameo OK BYE HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

are they trying to lock you down early? is it too intense, too quickly? do you secretly enjoy the whirlwind excitement of a new talking stage? are you being love bombed?! we're talking about it all this week. xx, hanakattt SOURCES https://health.clevelandclinic.org/love-bombing https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202212/how-to-tell-if-its-love-or-love-bombing HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

do you ever feel like you can't share your problems? like you can't take up space? that you have to minimize yourself? this episode is for you. we're talking what it's like to feel like a burden and how to work on that. xx, hanakattt RELATED EPISODES https://youtu.be/qjmlqN-JveA?si=P9fu3Yk_j1enQFBv SOURCES my brain HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we're talking about loneliness. this is a reminder that spending time alone is beautiful and you can be alone and not lonely. sometimes finding our "group" or feeling like we belong can be tough and i'm here for you <3 xx, hanakattt RELATED EPISODES how-to-know-yourself-lead-with-honesty-in-relationships-feat--calebjooo to-anyone-feeling-lonely SOURCES my brain HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we're talking about the anxiety, stress, and unpleasant feelings that come with uncertainty. as things are constantly changing in our lives, we're talking about different mindsets to take on in times of transition and change!!xx,hanakattt RELATED EPISODES conflict, confrontation, and communicationi lost my job... now what? feat.  @joycechunvlogs  SOURCES https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-addiction/202110/understanding-the-process-changehttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-addiction/202110/understanding-the-process-change https://ed.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/annurev-psych-psychology_of_change_final_e2.pdf https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/mindfulness/definition https://hbr.org/podcast/2022/07/the-case-for-embracing-uncertainty https://open.spotify.com/episode/6gsu1D19tYvxpXkR6tt5GI?si=wn1tLP6zTIONPk2DgvfzOA https://youtu.be/vLpBR_AREPM?si=6aMW_RL7sXZadifr HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

IM IN A FIGHTING MOOD THIS WEEK but im tryna learn to fight better so we're here for an episode to learn how to be healthy, communicate clearly, and get in front of problems. i discuss the science behind conflict, use proven tools from the gottman institute, and what to do post-fight. xx, hanakattt RELATED EPISODES how to know yourself and lead with honesty in relationships feat. caleb joo communication in relationships & how to train your bf feat. jenny heo losing your best friend to their significant other should i be worried about my boyfriend having a girl best friend how to win in a fight with your s/o SOURCES https://hbr.org/2015/12/calming-your-brain-during-conflict https://www.fastcompany.com/90805500/this-is-whats-happening-to-your-brain-in-the-middle-of-a-conflict https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2808029 https://www.shondaland.com/live/family/a40436785/art-of-friendship-how-to-handle-conflict https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-feel-your-feeling https://www.tonyrobbins.com/personal-growth/self-awareness/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we have on ⁠jiggy yoon⁠ to talk all things asian mental health. i would like to take a moment to provide our listeners with a trigger warning. there is mention of su*cide in this episode. i understand that this is a sensitive and difficult subject for many, and i want to ensure that you are aware before continuing to listen. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). in this episode jiggy shares her upbringing as an immigrant, grieving the loss of loved ones, and understanding our asian parents. we're also learning tools around how to be vulnerable and set boundaries. xx, jiggy & hanakattt TIMESTAMPS 00:00 intro 00:40 trigger warning 02:00 asian mental health & jiggy's story 27:20 vulnerability is dope 38:07 boundary setting 46:22 ♡ understanding our immigrant parents things mentioned~ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/asianmentalhealthproject/⁠⁠ https://brenebrown.com/⁠⁠ https://parentsarehuman.com/⁠ JIGGY YOON⁠ https://www.instagram.com/jiggy_yoon/⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/vulnerabilityisdope/⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theenergyandheartpodcast/⁠ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we have los on the podcast to talk all things dating and music, my favorite things to talk about. we're going through what dating is like in la, in nightlife and why we're both single atm. be sure to check out los's album Silence Amidst the Infinite Noise and Cuffing Season!!! xx, Los & Hana check me out!!! Silence Amidst the Infinite Noise https://www.instagram.com/cuffingseasonparty/ Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi los!! 02:09 dating in la 04:32 attachment theory  06:11 reputation  06:40 dating within nightlife 08:44 expectations of dating 10:56 settling in a relationship  12:09 the perfect partner 27:22 Los’s album: Silence Admidst the Infinite Noise 35:47 producing your own music 38:42 putting out your art LOS https://www.instagram.com/doncarlo.wav/ https://linktr.ee/doncarlo.wav HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support