We're all screwed up (and that's OK)

Can being selfish actually be a good thing? Why do we expect the people we love to read our minds? And why is it sometimes better to say "that sucks" than to try to fix someone's problems?In this episode, Dawn and Derek explore relationships, expectations, the roles we fall into and what happens when the way we've always seen ourselves starts to change.Along the way, they touch on the Karpman Drama Triangle and how we can get caught up in being the victim, rescuer or persecutor in our relationships. Dawn also shares some thoughts sparked by neuroscientist Andrew Huberman about therapy, change and whether we should need someone to help us manage our problems indefinitely.There are personal stories about marriage, motherhood and finding your place in life, along with some rather different perspectives on why we hold on to familiar patterns, whether good and bad experiences can exist at the same time, and the difference between believing something will happen and knowing it will.There are a few laughs, some disagreements and plenty to think about.Two friends. Two very different perspectives. And a shared understanding that we're all screwed up, and that's okay.

We start with Andrew Carnegie and the idea that dying rich is a disgrace.Which naturally leads to money, happiness, community, survival instincts, whether we're actually thriving, and Derek's fear that he might never learn to stop chasing the next thing.Along the way, we discuss why Dawn thinks our world can shrink from a lake into a puddle, what it means to feel at home, past lives, spiders on drugs, and why funerals don't always reflect the people we're supposed to be remembering.Somehow, we end up back where we started: what matters about a person's life, and the impact they leave behind.Two friends. Two very different perspectives. No script and absolutely no guarantee we'll stay on topic.Dawn's a trauma therapist. Derek isn't. We talk about psychology, life, relationships, the stuff we've got right, the stuff we've got spectacularly wrong — and whatever else comes up along the way.Sometimes we agree. Sometimes we really don't.Essentially, it's the conversation you'd overhear at the next table and find yourself listening to.

Why does it sometimes take life falling apart before we start actually living it?We start with a quote about being human and end up talking about telling people we love them while they’re still here, why we can’t fix everyone’s problems, and accepting the versions of ourselves we’d rather keep hidden.Derek shares the message he sent his grandad. Dawn talks about finally believing a friend actually wanted to be her friend. And we get onto the people who change our lives just by showing up — sometimes with nothing more complicated than “come for a walk with me”.Which brings us to Charlie. We all need one.There’s also a detour into Mormon cults that Derek really would rather we hadn’t taken.Here is the quote from the start:"WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE?" I WANT TO BE HUMAN.TO FEEL THE SUNRISE, FALL IN LOVE WITH SILENCE, AND NOTICE FLOWERS GROWING THROUGH CONCRETE.I DON'T WANT TO TRADE MY SOUL FOR SURVIVAL, MY DREAMS FOR SECURITY, OR MY PRESENT FOR A FUTURE I MAY BE TOO EXHAUSTED TO ENJOY.IN A WORLD THAT MEASURES WORTH BY PRODUCTIVITY, PERHAPS BEING HUMAN IS AN ACT OF REBELLION.I WANT A HEART THAT STILL FEELS, EYES THAT STILL LOOK UP, AND A SOUL THAT NEVER STOPS WONDERING.BECAUSE WHAT IS THE POINT OF CONQUERING THE WORLD IF I FORGET HOW TO EXPERIENCE IT?Two friends. Two very different perspectives. No script and absolutely no guarantee we'll stay on topic.Dawn's a trauma therapist. Derek isn't. We talk about psychology, life, relationships, the stuff we've got right, the stuff we've got spectacularly wrong — and whatever else comes up along the way.Sometimes we agree. Sometimes we really don't.Essentially, it's the conversation you'd overhear at the next table and find yourself listening to.

We started with a quote about regret. Somehow we ended up talking about fate, punk funerals, the different versions of us that exist in other people's heads, creativity, cavemen, men's mental health, Kanye West, Japanese pottery and whether sometimes you need to stop talking and just do something.We don't agree on all of it. That's rather the point.Dawn & DerekTwo friends. Two very different perspectives. No script and absolutely no guarantee we'll stay on topic. Dawn's a trauma therapist. Derek isn't. We talk about psychology, life, relationships, the stuff we've got right, the stuff we've got spectacularly wrong — and whatever else comes up along the way. Sometimes we agree. Sometimes we really don't. Essentially, it's the conversation you'd overhear at the next table and find yourself listening to.

Please note that this episode contains a conversation about abuse and trauma. This conversations is not explicit and is focused more on hope and overcoming trauma, however if you are feeling vulnerable, it may not be the best thing to listen to.In this personal podcast, Dawn is interviewed by her friend Derek about her journey to becoming a therapist. She talks about how she's used her past to make her a better therapist, about the struggles she faces in her day-to-day life, and the discoveries she's made when her struggles led her to reach out for help and go on anti-depressants for the first time. This is not a sad story. It's a story about hope and possibility.==============================================Series 3 of the "We're All Screwed up (and that's OK)" podcast, is made up of conversations with Dawn Walton and her clients. Each of her clients is remarkable, with their own story of moving from surviving to thriving. Conversations are informal, so grab a coffee and have a listen. About DawnDawn Walton MSc.Psych, MNLP is a Trauma Therapist and founder of the Rapid Trauma Reset approach to clearing trauma. She has written 4 books, the latest being "We're all screwed up (and that's OK)"She sees clients online globally, and trains other therapists and organisations to become trauma informed.Connect with Dawn⁠⁠www.thinkitchangeit.com⁠⁠Insta: Dawn_thinkitchangeitTik tok: ThinkitchangeitBuy me a coffee  ⁠buymeacoffee.com/thinkitchangeit⁠

What does it take to be a successful athlete when you have a voice inside of your head telling you that you are not good enough?Dawn first met Steffie at a talk she was doing up in Buckie, Scotland. She didn't know it, but Steffie had already read her book and turned up to learn more. At that stage she was Scotland Strongest woman, but wasn't able to enjoy her success because she was still just surviving. In this episode they talk about what it took to reach out to Dawn and what difference it made to her strongwoman journey to work with a therapist. They also explore the concept of performance coaching in sports and why Strongwoman doesn't get the same coverage as the men's competitions. Steffie is a competitive strongwoman from Buckie, Scotland, and is the reigning Scottish and British Champion.  A survivor of rape, bullying, and severe depression, she found purpose and power through strength sports — and hasn’t looked back since.  Since starting in 2019, Steffie has built a reputation for raw grit and honesty, both on the platform and off. She speaks openly about mental health and trauma, breaking stigma and showing that real strength goes far beyond what you can lift.  Steffie's next goal- World's Strongest Woman!links Instagram- @dawnstrength88 STRONGWOMAN Documentary - https://vimeo.com/832089908?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAafqO4tgHPLysYrB8mPMz2-8jR5gGuTy7H2Rg5rez9pLyyrNaZ-sl5D9NCFo7w_aem_0qRIj_2LNczvyYcir3YJYw==========================================Series 3 of the "We're All Screwed up (and that's OK)" podcast, is made up of conversations with Dawn Walton and her clients. Each of her clients is remarkable, with their own story of moving from surviving to thriving. Conversations are informal, so grab a coffee and have a listen. About DawnDawn Walton MSc.Psych, DipCHyp, MNLP is a Trauma Therapist and founder of the Rapid Trauma Reset approach to clearing trauma. She has written 4 books, the latest being "We're all screwed up (and that's OK)"She sees clients online globally, and trains other therapists and organisations to become trauma informed. Connect with Dawnwww.thinkitchangeit.comInsta: Dawn_thinkitchangeitTik tok: Thinkitchangeit

Welcome to Season 2 of the "We're All Screwed Up (and that's OK)" podcast - A Time Travellers Podcast.Episode 3 : A conversation with Derek Mawhinney.Derek Mawhinney is a Scottish entrepreneur, investor, and founder of Impact Sync an investment firm dedicated to transforming public infrastructure across the UK. With a background in infrastructure and a deep-rooted passion for solving systemic challenges, Derek is focused on enabling large-scale projects in housing, health, and education. His work sits at the intersection of business and social impact, driven by a belief that the private sector can play a powerful role in creating lasting, meaningful change. Derek is committed to building a legacy that blends visionary thinking with real-world results.In this episode of the Time Travellers Podcast, Dawn and Derek explore themes of trauma, personal growth, and the importance of community connections. Derek shares his journey of self-discovery, the impact of literature on his life, and the significance of embracing change during difficult times. The discussion highlights the power of storytelling, the need for purpose, and the importance of mental health support, particularly for men. They also delve into the challenges faced by communities and the role of institutions in fostering development. Ultimately, the conversation emphasizes the fluidity of identity and the importance of personal narratives in shaping who we are.===============================================This podcast is run by Dawn Walton, a trauma therapist, exploring the things that make us human, especially our flaws and screw ups. This is not your polished podcast, of if that's what you are looking for, move along, nothing to see here.Season 2 is an opportunity for you to listen in on conversations between Dawn and her friends and acquaintances. Grab a coffee. Get comfortable. And join us for a chat. www.thinkitchangeit.comInsta: Dawn_thinkitchangeitTik tok: Thinkitchangeit

Welcome to Season 2 of the "We're All Screwed Up (and that's OK)" podcast - A Time Travellers Podcast. Episode 2: A conversation with David Hamilton. David Hamilton is an author of 13 books, including his recent 📘"The Joy of Actually Giving a F**k". As a kindness expert and scientist, David's talks are a must if you get a chance to see him. He is engaging and full of useful information that will change the way you think about health and well being . As he had a previous career as a Pharmaceutical scientist, David approaches everything from a scientific point of view.Dawn has been connected with David for many years, ever since she read his third book "How your mind can heal your body". In this podcast they talk about many things. In fact, they get so caught up in conversation that it's at least a third of the way through the podcast before David gets a chance to properly introduce himself. This podcast covers topics including; the mind body connection and how healing works, why connection is important for humans, the physiological impact of feeling unsafe, dealing with the toxicity of social media, self-care, and many other topics. ===============================================This podcast is run by Dawn Walton, a trauma therapist, exploring the things that make us human, especially our flaws and screw ups. This is not your polished podcast, of if that's what you are looking for, move along, nothing to see here. Season 2 is an opportunity for you to listen in on conversations between Dawn and her friends and acquaintances. Grab a coffee. Get comfortable. And join us for a chat. www.thinkitchangeit.comInsta: Dawn_thinkitchangeitTik tok: Thinkitchangeit===============================================References from the podcastPhysical healing as a function of perceived time https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-023-50009-3Open-Label Placebohttps://programinplacebostudies.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Kaptchuk-PBM-OLP-2018.pdfMan's Search for Meaning by Viktor FranklThe Obstacle is the way by Ryan HolidayThe Slight Edge by Jeff OlssonThe Joy of Actually Giving a F*ck bt Dr David R. HamiltonLove, Medicine and Miracles by Bernie SiegelThe Biology of Belief by Bruce LiptonDavid's Linktree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/drdavidhamilton?fbclid=IwY2xjawJbop9leHRuA2FlbQIxMAABHWfcqPpr7NX4vvDTNIvepp-00zS3KdCwQZdMDtBqHwd4KySg977c051bng_aem_gw33mK-NZwM3jXfj8g8CGg⁠

Welcome to Season 2 of the "We're All Screwed up (and that's OK)" podcast - A Time Travellers PodcastThis podcast is run by Dawn Walton, a trauma therapist exploring the things that make us human, especially our flaws and screw ups. This is not your polished podcast, so if that's what you are looking for, move along. Nothing to see here 😄Season 2 is an opportunity for you to listen in on conversations between Dawn and her friends and acquaintances. Grab a coffee. Get comfortable. And join us for a chat.In this episode Dawn talks to Nickie O'Hara. Dawn and Nickie originally became friends on Twitter many moons ago (we are not allowed to talk about how long because it makes Dawn feel old!)They talk about community, internet regulation for kids, loneliness and many other topics. Enjoy!Instagram: Dawn_thinkitchangeitTik Tok: ThinkitchangeitNickie : @nickieohara on Instagram

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