Two Roads Travelled

This is the very last podcast episode of the series and for the time being. Paula and Jo have decided to take a break from podcasting. It seemed appropriate to end on an episode about the journey of recovery from active use to abstinence. The only person that Paula and Jo wanted to interview was Harry, if you have been following the podcast, you'll know that Harry was the very first person Paula and Jo interviewed, so it seemed reminiscent of the first ever episode. Harry has now been in recovery since 18th March 2019, so around 18 months. He now enjoys better health and is sleeping a lot better, he now has a relationship with his children, lives in a nice place, he has his finances under control and he is able to engage with people and behave in a polite way. Many of these things were not possible when Harry was deep into his alcohol addiction. He has come a long way and is able to enjoy his hobbies and is actively involved with Alcoholics Anonymous on a daily basis, who support him in his recovery. The journey of recovery is one that has peaks and troughs, there is much to learn if you want to ensure you keep your sobriety and many stop and start over the years. Thankfully Harry is here to tell Jo and Paula about his experience, so let's hear how's he's got on since his interview last year. If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it. Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media. Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

Welcome to the second to last episode of the series. In this episode Paula and Jo are talking to Elliott about repairing broken relationships. Something that many families of drinkers find very difficult to do. When you live with or are affected by someone's drinking, you endure a lot of heartache and heartbreak. Watching someone you love destroy themselves with alcohol, being let down, lied to, manipulated and someone's physically and mentally abused. You can understand then why for some families, it seems like an impossible task to find forgiveness and when relationships break down, it can be a long process to repair them. Elliot joins in the conversation today to share his story of how he rebuilt the relationship with his Dad, after many years of alcohol abuse. He now enjoys a sober life and they have rekindled a new relationship. If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it. Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media. Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

Paula and Jo will be chatting to Christine in this episode, all about alcohol and spirituality. You might think the two couldn't be more opposite ends but when people are in recovery it's the ONE thing that can keep them sane. Lots of people have misconceptions about Alcoholics Anonymous and that the group is a cult and very much focused in religion. It isn't either of those things. People fear what they don't know. In this episode Jo and Paula will discuss with Christine how her drinking impacted on her spirituality, what the connection is between AA and spirituality and comparing the two as well as barriers to spirituality. Christine Website: http://habitbreaker.org/ If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it. Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media. Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

It's time for episode 29 of the series, and Paula and Jo are talking to Jane about bullying and how fitting in at school was at the very start of her relationship with alcohol. Jane now helps stressed mums in Bournemouth, and globally via online platforms, to get Clear, Calm, and Confident, through effective online Life Coaching courses, Confidence Coaching sessions and Holistic Therapies. For many children fitting in is really important and there are many ways they do that, for some, once they've chosen alcohol it can be the start of a longer relationship with it that they could have never foreseen. In today's episode they'll be sharing how alcohol can be used as a crutch, and without realising it become something so much more. Looking at how available it is and how it's rarely frowned upon because it's so acceptable in society. No one starts of using alcohol because they want an addiction, it grows over time. If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it.  Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl  Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media.  Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

Today in the podcast Jo and Paula will be talking about what our home lives are missing and where we fill those gaps elsewhere. Jo and Paula will be chatting to Natasha about her experience of living with her Mum's various addictions. With lots of tension in her parents' marriage, Natasha assumed the role of the fixer. she had a lot of freedom as a child to do what she wanted, to her that was normal. As she reflects as an adult she can see how her anxiety manifested, worrying about not being collected from school was an example. As with many daughters of alcoholics, safety was an issue for Natasha, which continued into her adult life. She joined the military to avoid her home life, battled anxiety and lost her brother and Mum to Leukaemia. This is a typical example of how the life of a child of an alcoholic can be impacted with anxiety, feeling unloved and unsafe and searching for that in other ways. Let's find out more about how the army helped Natasha's journey. If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it. Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media. Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

Today in the podcast Jo and Paula will be talking about drink spiking.  In the interview Paul and Jo will be discussing what it is, what happens when someone is spiked, how do pubs and other drinking establishments react and what can we do to prevent this. Joining in the conversation with Paula and Jo today is Dawn Dines. Dawn has worked for Children’s Services, and for nearly 7 years was a residential social worker. This involvement fuelled her desire to help young people. The fears expressed to Dawn by parents and children about drink spiking motivated her to do something about the hugely under-reported crime. She came to realise it is a massive problem in which both the fear of being spiked, and the crime itself can impact on families. In the interview Dawn will be telling us which is the most popular way of spiking, and it's not the one you might think! Here are some links for Dawn if you'd like to get in touch with her: https://stoptopps.com https://www.sosuk.org.uk https://www.sosglobal.org If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it. Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media. Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

This episode Jo and Paula are talking to Lisa Boucher about co-dependency. This is a very large topic to discuss and affects most people that have lived with someone's drinking. When people are co-dependent, their focus is on the drinker, much like the drinker's focus is on the alcohol. The parallels between the drinker and the family can be seen in lots of ways. The discussion will cover what co-dependency is and how family members can so easily get caught up in it. As well as that, Jo, Paula and LIsa will be looking at those parallels, how it impacts on adult life and the family members after the drinker has sought recovery. Lisa Boucher, Author of the Multi-Award Winning book, Raising the Bottom: Making Mindful Choices in a Drinking Culture. As a recovering alcoholic, she has been sober for thirty-one years and understands the complex nature of addiction and how childhood trauma is often at the root of what ails us. A registered nurse, Lisa believes that traditional healthcare does little to incorporate the mind-body connection, nor does our current culture appreciate the healing power of nature. https://www.amazon.com/author/lisaboucher If you'd like to feel connected in a safe place with others just like you, join the Daughters of Alcoholics Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, if you want a chat with Jo about something you're struggling with, click here to book a call: https://cozycal.com/joannehuey42 In the meantime, you can have a look at this brochure that answers and explains some of the basics of dealing with a drinker. Click here to get your copy. Remember to share the podcast with others so those still struggling feel supported. Jo and Paula are passionate about changing the perceptions and judgments around alcohol misuse. They work hard to raise awareness about the trivialisation of alcohol and have created a video and blog about it. Stop Alcohol Trivialisation Video: http://bit.ly/jhamcpcl Respect for Alcohol Blog: http://bit.ly/jhrfa Please use the hashtag #respectforalcohol, if you'd like to support their cause. Using it when you see examples of trivialisation and disrespect, remembering to tag us on social media. Twitter:   @Joanne_Huey Instagram:  @johuey_acoa Subscribe to You Tube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/JoHueybusiness

We open the first episode of series 4 with an interview about resentment. Many families and specifically daughters and sons of alcoholics hold resentment towards the drinker.  This is totally understand based on the chaos and drama they endure.  In this interview Paula and Jo talked to Jordan, he shares his story and insights into his own resentment to a father that was fairly absent in his life. It's the awareness he now has as an adult that has made him realise how much resentment he had. 

It's episode 24 and the last one of series 3. Jo and Paula are chatting to Lori about the very common struggle for families, people pleasing. When you grow up in a household where a parent drank too much, children can often do whatever they can to please their parent, to get their approval. All the while losing themselves along the way. If they're good and perfect, then maybe they won't drink. Sadly, it isn't about what anyone else does but as a child you just don't understand that. Lori Bruton lives in Western New York, is the mother of two grown sons and the adult child of an alcoholic. Lori is a passionate, faith-filled, fun-loving entrepreneur who shares her stories and adventures about love, travel, faith, fun, writing, essential oils, wellness, and living the Oola Lifestyle creating balance in the key areas of your life. She's inspiring, transforming, and enriches many lives. She teaches people how to tell their story, live their purpose, and bring their dreams to life. Let's find out how Lori has used her lived experience to cope with her people pleasing tendancies. Thanks for listening and remember the "Daughters of Alcoholics" closed Facebook group, we're in there ready to support you and offer you comfort in whichever way we can. Here are Lori's details:  She have a free gift for you:  It’s a 3-Step Transformation Guide that gives you actions steps to get started. http://bit.ly/3stepTransform You can find her book on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/HoleToWhole, Visit my website at:  http://bit.ly/joinLori Connect with me on social media: www.facebook.com/loribrutonbiz www.instagram.com/loribrutonbiz www.linkedin.com/in/loribrutonbiz www.twitter.com/loribruton

How often is domestic abuse spoken about? The amount of negativity and shame that surrounds domestic abuse can mean that many do not speak up about it. They hide the fact they are victims. What impact does this have on the children in the relationship? The ones who may not be physically hurt although witness horrific situations and a breakdown in their parent’s mental health. What support do they gain as they transition through their teenage years and an adult when they are following similar patterns as it is all they know?  Jenny is a business coach working with directors to ensure resilience and sustainable growth. She is passionate about supporting business owners who are survivors as they are often overlooked due to them seeming like they are a success and not in need of support. Jenny is a survivor of a lifetime of domestic abuse that transpired to an alcoholic parent who was suicidal. With Jenny’s experience of mental health, alcohol misuse and domestic abuse both as a child and an adult, she's the perfect person to interview about domestic abuse and how alcohol misuse can be missed.  Get in touch on Instagram: @johuey_acoa or follow on Twitter @joanne_huey If you want to know more about alcohol misuse, find out answers to the many questions you have and learn some tried and tested self help tips from the child of a alcoholic then order a copy of Jo's book Transition here: bit.ly/JHtransition.  You can also join our community on Facebook: facebook.com/groups/daughtersofalcoholics  If you'd like to ask any questions about today's episode feel free to email [email protected] or call on: UK (+44) 07732 403305