Freedom from Attachment

I came up with the term Accidental A$$hole years ago, as I found myself and others I knew to be in that category. Working hard to be ten steps ahead. You know, great at work, maybe believing you’re relationship ready; you might even be successful and seem like you have your sh*t together. And underneath? Worrying that they will find out the ugly flaw, the unforgiveable, the real disappointment that you are at heart. I used to feel like sooner or later people would figure out I was horrible. It stopped me from getting close and from being really seen or known. I kept pleasing others to keep them happy, but I did it to keep distance and often at my own expense. Now I don’t. The responsibility I mistakenly took on was that I controlled how other people perceived me. I also know that I am a good person [took decades to know it]. I may still be an a$$hole to someone, but it is not intentional, hence that’s why its the accidental a$$hole. Stop overperforming and keeping everyone at arm’s length and listen into my podcast for the first of a three episode series.

Do you love a fight? One for a promotion, a relationship, or even just being right? Man that sounds exhausting and unnecessary. As a psychic, I received a download five years ago: Cosmic Intelligence and its definition. With Cosmic Intelligence are five archetypes: The Survivor, the Judge, The Seeker, The Dweller and The Oracle. You want to know the real intelligence in the Universe, here it is. Today I am filling you in on The Oracle. Not a perfect specimen at the top of the cosmic food chain. It's the archetype that witnesses life doing life, and may never whisper WTF again or laugh and say WTF. It’s the individual who can manifest, who can take the risk, who loves and is vulnerable….and yet not perfect. Might even be a pain in the a** and insecure too. This episode gets into what it actually looks like to expand your spiritual connection — UNDERSTANDING YOU need to find your true motivation, while being a flunky or a winner who has peace, and how an Oracle can have it all. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. -> <- Tune in to learn more.

Ever think you should've had your big spiritual awakening by now? The one moment that everything is crystal clear? That's not how it works. Tracy's been on this path for over 30 years, and she still wakes up almost daily to something new. Some of it she's happy about. Some of it, not so much. Being highly sensitive as a kid meant she absorbed things that were never hers to carry, and spent years believing something was wrong with her because she couldn't find the flaw that she was told she possessed. This episode gets into three things she's learned along the way: what isn't yours will keep weighing on you until you name it as separate, growth isn't a hierarchy but an uncovering, and a decision made from self-love looks nothing like one made from fear. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. -> Click Here for the quiz <- Tune in to learn more.

You have one. The relationship that's never worked, no matter how hard you tried to fix it, understand it, or earn your way into it. Is it Mom or Dad? Bro or Sis? Who are you stuck with? Nobody has their shit together, not even the gurus. What some people have is more awareness, and awareness isn't a badge you earn, it's honesty you can't hide from. That honesty means admitting you've spent years feeling responsible for a relationship that was never yours to fix. It means letting go of who you thought you were through someone else's eyes. Tracy shares three decades of trying to make an impossible relationship work, and how she finally became an audience member instead of a performer in it. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. -> Take the quiz at https://uncomplicatedstore.com/pages/cosmic-archetype <- Tune in to learn more.

How long does it take you to decide what you’re wearing each day? What you’re having for breakfast, etc. Or any decisions that are focused on the little things I used to believe many of my choices were life or death, at least they felt that way! Don't disrupt, don't upset anyone, just go along with it. That was my 20s, and it never got me what I wanted, and that wasn’t clear either…what did I want? The ego doesn't care if you're happy. It only cares that you survive, so it drives you to win, to please, to avoid conflict, and calls it a decision. I watched my mother do this in real time — always to gain control, punish or prove a point. Unfortunately, most of it is self-sabotage, and she called it freedom. Surviving and being happy are not the same goal. Winning equals surviving. Happiness is something else entirely. Just because you won doesn’t mean you’re happy. Check out this episode on what actually matters for a happy and meaningful life. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. Tune in to learn more.

The problem child. The difficult one. Black sheep. The one who just couldn't get it right. It’s really not your story, even if you feel it deep inside. I thought it was my story for years. Being the scapegoat in your family means you have all sorts of peculiar labels that don’t belong to you. Like a pair of ill-fitting shoes, you made it work as you were hobbling along. Let’s talk about how perceptive we are as scapegoats and the spiritual path it takes you on. Cosmic Intelligence doesn’t grow without the contrast of being in survival mode. You, like myself, know the truth, so listen in to hear what may resonate with you. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. Tune in to learn more.

I bet you’re self-aware if you are reading this; you’re probably highly sensitive too and perceptive. Your awareness developed from observing the narcissistic parent in your life. Growing up with a personality-disordered parent doesn't just leave marks, it truly is a “normalized” operating system; the guilt, the shame, the belief that their chaos was somehow yours to fix. In having been on a spiritual journey of self discovery, and at one point wanting to stop anxiety, and other out of control feelings in Tracy’s life, this was one of the harder points of pain to get to the bottom of….. It was reflected in relationships, socially and professionally. The conditioning that made everything difficult when you believe you deserve nothing. Join Tracy as she shares a story of how the lunacy continues through a nutty story. Learn how her perspective has completely changed from feeling the familiar pull of a painful dynamic along with the blame for things that never belonged to her and into the present with the cosmic value of what she learned. Just one story for today. Tune in to learn more.

Being stuck in survival mode is to be a human being. Survival starts at birth, you have needs to be fulfilled or you won’t survive. Survival equals attachment. A cosmic connection utilizing spiritual intelligence has absolutely NOTHING to do with survival. Accessing it and moving into love and nonattachment is a beautiful commitment to thriving. Holding on to what you fear losing, will keep you in survival and therefore anxious, numb or depressed. The spiritual connection is always available, yet humans do the same shit, different day or year. And we haven't evolved internally from survival mode. The attachment you feel to people, money, outcomes; it's not love. Took me years to move from understanding what love is not, to actually inhabiting the space of nonattachment. Tune in to learn more. ****** Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz and discover your archetype — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's a mirror, not a test. And what it shows you might be the thing that changes the impossible to possible. → Take the quiz at https://uncomplicatedstore.com/pages/cosmic-archetype <-

What is “the thing” you are waiting for that you may not think you’re waiting for? I never thought that survival was such an overarching theme to my daily life. All that “had to” or “necessary,” was just an outpouring of survival. Life is f-ing short, if you’re like me you may not realize the amount of survival you’ve invested in rather than the good stuff. And doing the same shit, different day? That's not living. That's just waiting. Tune in if today seems like you’ve been waiting forever for “the thing!”

Are you waiting for your life to be perfect before you let yourself enjoy it? Waiting for the relationship to work out, the job to come through, the problems to resolve? Bullshit. You're wasting your life. Nobody is perfectly happy all the time. You're going to have anger, sadness, exhaustion, and happiness all mixed together. That's being human. Your circumstances might suck. Your roof might be caving in. Have fun anyway. Stop making someone else responsible for your joy. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why mixed emotions don't stop fun * How attachment to perfect circumstances strangulates your life * The power of "this moment" vs overpromising forever * Breaking patterns by inserting different movements "Life is short. I don't give a shit if you're attached to somebody and you allow that to define your life—you still want to be fully present emotionally, physically, mentally for fun."