Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

This week we examine our dreams, very specifically the ones where we imagine we'll someday get to be our true selves. And we dive into the subconscious, which holds the answers, but they're not always easy to see. And when we first get a glimpse of the truth within... it can be scary as hell. Kent Eigengrau returns to discuss having fun with transition, and red angels! KENT EIGENGRAU Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kent-eigengrau-444447268/ GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/83ea7687f Art: https://www.dmsguild.com/en/browse?artist=%22Kent%20Eigengrau%22 Tabula Rasa game: https://wildestworlds.itch.io/tabula-rasa-discovery TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/25/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-4/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) The Trans Allegory of Lisa Frankenstein parts 1-3, The False Dichotomy, Trans Parents (Mother's Day), Gender Euphoria, The Trans Allegory of Barbie, Cis Grief, Tucking and Binding, Sexuality is Not Gender, Trans Day of Visibility (You Are Enough) REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BY2FCSVX/ The Art of Patrick Nagel - https://patricknagel.com/ Elvira and Cassandra Peterson - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cassandra_Peterson Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

This week we see what happens when we're rejected by those we love when we come out, do some Latin deciphering, and discuss two of the most important single images that drive the transness of this film home. Kent Eigengrau returns to discuss Raiders of the Lost Ark, and how Dungeons and Dragons is great at teaching your friends your pronouns! How do you check your nails? KENT EIGENGRAU Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kent-eigengrau-444447268/ GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/83ea7687f Art: https://www.dmsguild.com/en/browse?artist=%22Kent%20Eigengrau%22 Tabula Rasa game: https://wildestworlds.itch.io/tabula-rasa-discovery TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/18/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-3/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) The Trans Allegory of Lisa Frankenstein parts 1-2, Photos and Reflections, Trans Tabletop Roleplaying Games REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BY2FCSVX/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Tillyvision rolls on with our discussion of Lisa Frankenstein! This week we get into all the things society says we have to do to be women and men, and how awful it is to be perceived when your entire existence is a painful performance! Production assistant, writer, and artist Kent Eigengrau returns to discuss horrible grandpa ties and the ever-changing winds of liberty! Hey cis people: don't be weird! KENT EIGENGRAU Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kent-eigengrau-444447268/ GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/83ea7687f Art: https://www.dmsguild.com/en/browse?artist=%22Kent%20Eigengrau%22 Tabula Rasa game: https://wildestworlds.itch.io/tabula-rasa-discovery TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/11/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-2/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) The Trans Allegory of Lisa Frankenstein part 1, Photos and Reflections, The Trans Allegory of Real Genius, Gendered Childhoods, Cis People Get Gender Affirming Care Too, Hormone Replacement Therapy, Gender Dysphoria, Sexuality is Not Gender, Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Trans History 1, Boymoding and Girlmoding, The Trans Allegory of Barbie, Trans Motivation REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BY2FCSVX/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

LISA FRANKENSTEIN is funny, goofy, heartwarming, and delightfully weird. It's also a really deep trans allegory that speaks to transness in a lot of ways, and very specifically to transmasc folks. So let's talk about how the filmmakers might have made an unintentionally intentional allegory, the meaning of names, the metaphoric use of color, and start examining by timestamps! Production assistant, writer, and artist Kent Eigengrau joins us to discuss marrying film and literature, and Victorian gentlemen! KENT EIGENGRAU Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kent-eigengrau-444447268/ GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/83ea7687f Art: https://www.dmsguild.com/en/browse?artist=%22Kent%20Eigengrau%22 Tabula Rasa game: https://wildestworlds.itch.io/tabula-rasa-discovery TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/04/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-1/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) The Trans Allegories of The Matrix, The Trans Allegory of Barbie, The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, The Trans Allegory of I Saw the TV Glow, The Erasure of Trans Men, Trans Roles and Stories, The False Dichotomy, Gendered Childhoods, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Gender Dysphoria REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BY2FCSVX/ Everything queer in 'Lisa Frankenstein' according to Diablo Cody - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l05TPtyK5tQ Zelda Williams Talks 'Dead of Summer' Transgender Role - https://www.etonline.com/tv/192811_zelda_williams_talks_dead_of_summer_transgender_role_memories_of_dad_robin_williams In ‘We’re All Going to The World’s Fair,’ Director Jane Schoenbrun Found Their Voice and Their Identity - https://www.indiewire.com/features/general/were-all-going-to-the-worlds-fair-jane-schoenbrun-trans-film-1234717052/ Progressively Horrified: We're All Going to the World's Fair! w/ Katie, Sian, Tilly, and Tomi - https://shows.acast.com/progressively-horrified/episodes/worlds-fair Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Halloween was always a bit rough for me. Free candy's great, but how do you put a costume on top of the costume of the cis person people tell you that you have to be? Even when I had a costume, I was terrified of using any makeup or hair dye... because what I was really afraid of is that I would LIKE those things, and then what would that say about me? Comic and novel writer Ben Kahn returns to discuss respect for the clowns and Marie Kondo-ing your way through transition! Are you smart-headed?? BEN KAHN Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/benkahncomics.bsky.social Insta: https://www.instagram.com/benkahncomics/ Website: https://www.benkahncomics.com/ TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-fear-of-embracing-your-true-self-halloween/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Gender Dysphoria, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), The False Dichotomy, Boymode and Girlmode, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Gendered Childhoods, Internalized Transphobia, 2022 Trans Rep in Media, 2023 Trans Rep in Media, 2024 Trans Rep in Media, Trans Tabletop Roleplaying Games, Coming Out Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Listen, I love being trans, I really do. I don't want to be cis. But I'd also love to be able to just exist in the world as a human. Transness is just one (big and important) part of who I am, and I'd really like ALL of me to be seen as a whole person and not constantly have to be reminded how I'm "the other." YOU can help make it better! Truly. Comic and novel writer Ben Kahn joins us to discuss wecomics and strategy guides! Some people are not worth the full experience of you. BEN KAHN Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/benkahncomics.bsky.social Insta: https://www.instagram.com/benkahncomics/ Website: https://www.benkahncomics.com/ TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/no-escape/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Hormone Replacement Therapy, Transition Setbacks, Names and Pronouns, Good Representation: Cyberpunk 2077, Cis Privilege, Trans Tabletop Roleplaying Games, Ask Tilly Anything part 5, Gender Dysphoria, Body Hair, Gendered Childhoods, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://ko-fi.com/tillybridges/shop Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

The indie, 8-bit graphic style videogame "When Summer is Over" was so remarkable, and so deeply trans, I had to talk to the lady who made it, CicadaQueenV! We get into why she made it, what she was trying to say with it, and what the response to it has been. Definitely check it out, but heed the content warnings! Videogames can be art! And we can just say "trans," it's not a bad word! CICADAQUEENV Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/cicadaqueen.buzz When Summer is Over: https://cicadaqueen.itch.io/when-summer-is-over Itch.io: https://cicadaqueen.itch.io/ Website: https://cicadaqueen.buzz/ TEXT VERSION Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Coming out can be such a complicated and difficult thing for so many of us. Let's talk about what's involved, how often we have to do it, and why we do it at all... and how the most important thing is that you do it when and how is right for you. Nobody else gets to tell you how to do it! Storyboard artist Nazul "Suli" Sobrino returns to discuss jumping all the way in and how spite is a great motivator! Gimme those goosebumps! NAZUL "SULI" SOBRINO Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/suli.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/10/07/coming-out-as-trans/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Body Hacking, Gender Dysphoria, Boymode and Girlmode, Pandemic Transition, What is Trans Tuesday?, Discriminatory Bureaucracy, Inclusive Bureaucracy, 2022 US Trans Survey Report part 4, Cis Spousal and Partner Support, Cis Grief, This is Not for You (aka Trans Day of Visibility, aka Yes You Are Trans Enough) REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://ko-fi.com/tillybridges/shop Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Birthdays can be rough for many people, but they can be extra difficult for trans people pre-transition... because why is a waking death worth celebrating? We discuss how tough they were, and how discombobulating it was during transition when that all started to change. Storyboard artist Nazul "Suli" Sobrino joins us to discuss how there's so many good things, and sometimes there's no other option. Why would you give a five year old a mug for a gift? Persistence in existence is resistance. NAZUL "SULI" SOBRINO Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/suli.bsky.social TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/16/trans-birthdays/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) The Past and Why it Haunts Us, The Past 2: The New Past, The Past 3: Trans Grief 1, The Past 4: Trans Grief 2, The Past 5: Recovering Trans Childhoods, Gender Dysphoria, Courage, Confidence, Confidence 2: Into the Unknown aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World, Freeing Up My Brain (lunch with Tilly), Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Unexpected Changes from Transition Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

So what happens when trans youth are old enough for puberty blockers? What do they have to go through to get access to that care? Let me tell you how difficult it was for me, as an adult, and you'll maybe see how many barriers trans kids actually face. And we discuss the lengths good parents will go to in order to keep their kids safe. Karla, the cis mom of a trans kid, returns to discuss finding your humanity. Trans care is more important than cis mistakes, and children are people, not property! TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/09/23/trans-kids-2-the-intake-exam-and-trans-flight/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com) Trans Kids 1: Facts and Dangers, Gender Dysphoria, Trans Day of Visibility (yes you are trans enough), Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), The Trans Allegories of The Matrix, The Trans Allegory of Barbie, The Trans Allegory of I Saw the TV Glow, The Trans Allegory of Star Trek: Strange New Worlds' "Ad Astra Per Aspera", The Trans Allegory of Real Genius, The Trans Allegory of The Twilight Zone's "Nervous Man in a Four Dollar Room", Trans Politics 1-2, Performative Allyship, Performative Allyship 2: False Allyship, Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice), No Escape 2: Some Escape REFERENCE MATERIAL Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://ko-fi.com/tillybridges/shop Informed consent/assent in children - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12884032/ Housing and Homelessness - https://transequality.org/issues/housing-homelessness Jobs and Housing - https://ustranssurvey.org/report/jobs-housing/ What I Wish I Knew Before My Child Came Out As Transgender - https://vanessaleenic.wordpress.com/2019/08/18/what-i-wish-i-knew-before-my-child-came-out-as-transgender/ What I Wish People Knew About Raising A Trans Child - https://www.sparklesandstretchmarks.com/what-i-wish-people-knew-about-raising/ I'm raising a transgender son. My child is not a threat - https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2025/08/07/parent-trans-kids-gender-affirming-care-trump/85428839007/ Anguish lingers as transgender kids’ families seek medical care outside Texas - https://www.cnn.com/2024/01/27/us/texas-families-transgender-youth-gender-affirming-care-ban New state laws force families with trans kids to seek gender-affirming care elsewhere - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/new-state-laws-force-families-with-trans-kids-to-seek-gender-affirming-care-elsewhere These families say they're leaving the U.S. because of its anti-transgender climate - https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/families-say-leaving-us-anti-transgender-climate-rcna206560​ Families With Trans Kids Are Fleeing the U.S. - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/trans-youth-trump-leaving-u-s-1235256729/ Trans Relocation Guide: Finding Trans Asylum and Safe Havens - https://translash.org/resources/trans-relocation-guide-finding-trans-asylum-and-safe-havens/ Emergency Funds for Relocating and Supporting Families and Transgender Individuals - https://transbar.org/emergency-funds-for-relocating-and-supporting-families-and-transgender-individuals/ Trans Relocation Assistance - https://translifeline.org/resource_category/relocation-assistance/ Utah lawmakers’ own study found gender-affirming care benefits trans youth. Will they lift the treatment ban? - https://www.sltrib.com/news/politics/2025/05/22/utah-lawmakers-own-study-found/ Helen Joyce reveals plans to use fears around trans kids as stepping stone to eliminate “trans” in public life - https://transsafety.network/posts/joyce-speech-plans-to-abolish-trans-rights/ BOOKS FOR TRANS KIDS It Feels Good to be Yourself - https://bookshop.org/p/books/it-feels-good-to-be-yourself-a-book-about-gender-identity-theresa-thorn/7b755052cac75b9d My Shadow is Pink - https://bookshop.org/p/books/my-shadow-is-pink-scott-stuart/e7c85ad37127bf61 Call Me Max - https://bookshop.org/p/books/call-me-max-max-and-friends-1-max-and-friends-1-kyle-lukoff/d56c062a3dc543da Me and My Dysphoria Monster - https://bookshop.org/p/books/me-and-my-dysphoria-monster-an-empowering-story-to-help-children-cope-with-gender-dysphoria-laura-kate-dale/62a8e561b592613f Pink , Blue or Rainbow... It's Okay to Be you! - https://bookshop.org/p/books/pink-blue-or-rainbow-it-s-ok-to-be-you-hayley-m-davidson/f1c120b62d13623b Being You - https://bookshop.org/p/books/being-you-a-first-conversation-about-gender-jessica-ralli/11c616ec30704929 Pink, Blue and You! Questions for Kids About Gender Stereotypes - https://bookshop.org/p/books/pink-blue-and-you-questions-for-kids-about-gender-stereotypes-elise-gravel/52b0ecb2491f81df Fred Gets Dressed - https://bookshop.org/p/books/fred-gets-dressed-peter-brown/d2910c2ceef81d84 Who Are You? The Kid's Guide to Gender Identity - https://bookshop.org/p/books/who-are-you-the-kid-s-guide-to-gender-identity-brook-pessin-whedbee/424832cc1ecb65d6 Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬