Fighting Fair: What Took Us Years To Learn

Ever Googled “Am I gay?” You’re not alone.In this hilarious and heartfelt episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla react to the internet’s most-searched coming-out questions — from “How do I know if I’m gay?” to “Can queer people still travel?” They share their own coming-out stories, red flags (or rainbow flags), gay panic moments, and what it’s really like navigating identity, family, and love in 2025.00:00 – Online slang test: “Serving cunt,” “shipping,” & other chaotic lingo09:30 – The most Googled coming-out questions11:00 – “How do I know if I’m gay?” signs, red flags & rainbow flags18:00 – Getting turned on by girls in movies — curious or queer?25:30 – Alix’s coming-out story: Rome, gay panic, & family reactions40:00 – Kayla’s story: falling for a girl abroad, the art of downplaying it52:00 – Labels, fluidity & self-acceptance55:00 – Can gay people still be successful & travel?1:03:30 – “Who’s the Problem?” segment — Griselda betrayal & dirty dishes#WivesNotSisters #ComingOutStory #AmIGay #LGBTQPodcast #QueerLove #LesbianPodcast #RelationshipGoals #WLW #ComingOutTips #QueerStoriesConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

In this episode, Alix and Kayla get real about what it means to fight fair after six years together. From weirdly specific compliments to the unspoken rules that keep their relationship grounded, the couple unpacks how they’ve learned to communicate, manage triggers, and find humor in the chaos. Expect laughter, honesty, and a little courtroom energy.Timestamps:00:00 – Weirdly specific compliments 💕10:50 – Why we fight and how it’s changed over time14:30 – Ground rules for healthy conflict20:00 – Common triggers and communication styles31:40 – “Building the case” & learning to self-regulate44:00 – Healing attachment styles + therapy breakthroughs51:00 – How to turn fights into inside jokes54:10 – “Who’s the Problem?” segment (Bathroom counters & true crime)#Hashtags:#WivesNotSisters #CouplesPodcast #FightingFair #RelationshipGoals #QueerLove #MarriageHumor #CommunicationTips #AttachmentStyles #LGBTQPodcast #PodcastClipsConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alex and Kayla dive deep into Jojo Siwa’s rise from Dance Moms to queer icon status. From the origins of her bow empire to Nickelodeon fame, child star controversies, her bold coming out, and her highly public relationships—this is a full WLW Lore Series breakdown you don’t want to miss. The hosts unpack Jojo’s “karma era,” viral moments, her mom’s controversial role, and whether the internet’s obsession is fair or fueled by queerness and celebrity culture.00:08 – Intro & two truths and a lie04:35 – Beginning Jojo Siwa lore: from Dance Moms to stardom10:50 – Jojo’s fame, social media dominance & bow empire19:03 – Coming out story, Nickelodeon backlash & DWTS same-sex partnership27:59 – XOMG Pop group & exploitation allegations42:14 – The “Karma Era” and viral controversies47:50 – Relationship history: Kylie, Avery, Cass, and more1:00:15 – Celebrity Big Brother drama, Chris Hughes & queer identity#JojoSiwa #QueerPodcast #WLWLore #CelebrityCulture #LGBTQPodcast #DanceMoms #PopCultureBreakdown #WivesNotSisters #LesbianPodcast #QueerRepresentationConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

This week, Alix and Kayla dive into the long-standing dynamics between bisexual women and lesbians—myths, stereotypes, and the cultural nuances that shape queer relationships. From playful debates (Renee Rapp vs. Cara Delevingne) to candid reflections on identity, cancel culture, and representation in media, this episode explores queerness, binaries, and belonging in both private and public conversations.⏰ Timestamps00:01 – Intro + community shoutouts01:21 – Bi vs. Lesbian: celebrity edition05:46 – History of the “feud” & The L Word rewatch09:01 – Cancel culture and honest conversations13:17 – Stereotypes, myths, and personal rules23:20 – The dating pool & “gay math”32:08 – Marriage, monogamy & bisexual identity47:08 – Queer street cred & bi representation57:32 – Betty Who & Renee Rapp discourse01:07:37 – “Who’s the Problem” segment: WikiFeet + socks#QueerPodcast #LGBTQVoices #Bisexuality #LesbianVisibility #QueerLove #CancelCulture #RepresentationMatters #QueerIdentity #PodcastClips #WivesNotSistersConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla put their relationship to the test with a compatibility quiz led by producer Lex. From cover-stealing confessions to worst vacations, love languages, chores, intimacy, and financial teamwork, the couple dives deep into what makes their partnership thrive (and where it needs work). This candid and hilarious conversation shows that compatibility is about more than just matching answers—it’s about laughter, growth, and resilience.Timestamps:00:01 – Intro + Producer Lex joins the mic01:09 – Who steals the covers?03:07 – Best and worst trips together05:22 – Karaoke or dance party?12:25 – Talking finances + shared goals18:54 – Communication struggles & therapy wins32:33 – Gratitude and love languages38:34 – Intimacy + the lesbian deathbed55:16 – Conflict styles & growth over time58:25 – Future goals + Pele energy#WivesNotSisters #QueerPodcast #CouplesGoals #CompatibilityTest #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipGoals #QueerLove #LesbianCouple #PodcastLife #LoveAndLaughterConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla unpack the “propaganda we’re not falling for”—from self-help catchphrases to fitness influencers and even avocado toast—before diving deep into their three-year fertility journey. They share candidly about choosing a sperm donor, navigating IUIs and IVF, pregnancy loss, and ultimately turning to surrogacy. Honest, funny, and vulnerable, this episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about queer family building, fertility challenges, or simply enjoying heartfelt conversations on love, resilience, and partnership.⏰ Timestamps:00:01 – Intro & what we’re not falling for04:16 – Fitness influencers & unrealistic promises06:46 – Heterosexuality as “propaganda”08:35 – Avocado toast and Mercury retrograde12:38 – Eight-step morning routines & mouth tape13:11 – Beginning our fertility journey15:15 – Choosing a sperm donor23:43 – Painful procedures & women’s health advocacy33:14 – Costs and realities of IUI38:34 – Shifting to IVF and mental health challenges53:10 – Pregnancy loss and moving forward58:29 – Choosing surrogacy over adoption01:02:06 – Strengthening marriage through challenges01:04:57 – “Who’s the problem?” popsicle editionConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alex and Kayla dive deep into the lore of Shannon Beveridge—from her early YouTube days and first love with Cammie Scott, to her rollercoaster relationships with Fletcher, Becky, and Becca. They unpack parasocial dynamics, viral breakup videos, the infamous Becky So Hot moment, and what it means to navigate queer identity in the public eye. Expect gossip, internet sleuthing, and lots of laughs along the way.⏱️ Timestamps00:00 – Welcome & “Would You Rather” game (Shannon edition)04:30 – What “lore” means & why it matters in queer culture09:00 – Shannon’s coming out story & early YouTube fame15:00 – Relationship with Cammie Scott + iconic breakup video26:30 – Fletcher era: secret dating, Sex Tapes, and queer icon status42:30 – Becky + the chaos of Becky So Hot59:00 – Becca, breakup podcasts, and lessons in queer loveConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

Alix & Kayla break down The Ultimatum: Queer Love—from boundaries and exes to chosen family, romance, and what true compatibility looks like. Expect laughs, hot takes, and some real talk on queer representation in reality TV.Timestamps:    •    00:01 | “This or That” game to kick things off    •    07:36 | Why queer reality TV matters (even when it’s messy)    •    15:22 | Boundaries, exes, and “open energy” in WLW relationships    •    26:16 | The “cake” conversation: monogamy, polyamory, and doubt    •    33:46 | Family acceptance, chosen family, and queer representation    •    41:23 | Romance vs. real intimacy (bubble baths or secure attachment?)Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

Alix and Kayla are back for episode two! They share each other’s “toxic traits” before diving into loneliness, friendship struggles, and how one genuine connection can shift everything.Timestamps:    •    00:01 – Intro + playful “toxic traits” game    •    09:39 – Matching outfits & why the podcast is called Wives Not Sisters    •    10:07 – Admitting loneliness + challenges of making friends in your 30s    •    18:31 – Coming out, shifting friendships, and craving queer community    •    41:06 – How one neighbor opened the door to a supportive friend circle    •    51:22 – Closing segment: “Who’s the problem?”Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

In their very first episode, Alix and Kayla dive into spicy hot takes, share lessons on love, and tell the hilarious, heartfelt story of how they met and fell for each other.Episode Timestamps:    •    1:56 – Hot Takes: Pop culture, Jojo Siwa, queerness, and the “trad wife” trend.    •    11:19 – Marriage tips: What a 103-year-old couple taught them about lasting love.    •    18:03 – The Story of Us: From parallel lives to meeting in Nicaragua.    •    33:36 – Early crushes: When friendship blurred into more.    •    39:00 – Buying land together (before they were even a couple!).    •    48:50 – Soul marriage under the stars.    •    53:17 – First kiss at SFO: The start of forever.Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker