640 Family Enmeshment: Codependency, Self-Abandonment + Bad Boundaries

Have financial boundaries been hard for you? Do you tend to spend more than you make? Does "budgeting" sound unappealing? Then you're in the right place, because I am talking with Jill Sirianni, co-author of Buy What You Love Without Going Broke: Transform Your Spending and Get More of What Money Can’t Buy and co-host of the @FrugalFriends podcast.  The book is all about connecting with your values and ensuring your financial life aligns with them. Jill is also a licensed clinical social worker and speaks to how finances affect ALL areas of our life. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/663  

When something good happens for you, do you ever think, “Wow, I hope I don't get found out!” or, “I don’t deserve this”? Do you start doubting yourself? Do you think it must have been a mistake? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about imposter syndrome, how to navigate it, and how to boost your confidence.  Imposter syndrome is fresh in my mind as I ran into it writing my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to High-Functioning Codependency. I hope hearing about my experience can normalize it for you and give you some ideas on how to deal with it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/662

Do you ever get so close to achieving a goal, and then something stops you from achieving it? Do you find yourself getting in your own way and self-sabotaging? Then you'll want to tune in because I have Dr. Sophie Mort on the show talking about her newest book, (Un)Stuck: Five Steps to Break Bad Habits and Get Out of Your Own Way, which I think we could all use! We talk about all the ways you can get unstuck and shift from feeling disempowered to empowered, the reasons why changing habits is hard, the compulsion to repeat our past, and the drama triangle (which can explain a lot about the ways we relate to others). I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/661

Do you feel heard in your relationships with your spouse, kids, colleagues, friends, and family? Do you find you get the results you’re seeking when talking to people? Do you feel understood?  If the answer is no or sometimes, this episode is for you. I’m covering what effective communication is, what it looks like, how to get better at it, and giving you scripts to use to be more accurately understood. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/660

I am so excited to share this conversation about building epic love with my pal, psychiatrist and relationship expert Dr. Ish Major.  We met at the Real Love Ready Relationship Summit in Vancouver only to realize we were both heading to LA after to the set of Nick Cannon's Counsel Culture.  We talk about how Dr. Ish's interest in psychology came to be and how his childhood experiences impacted him, and then the conversation turns to codependency in relationships.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/ Dr. ish says he was a "card carrying captain of team codependence" for the first 40 years of his life, which I think a lot of us can relate to! He shares the lessons he learned and he offers so much wisdom in really simple, accessible terms. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/659

Are there people in your life who are conflict connoisseurs? People who really love stirring the pot, who are addicted to drama? In response to you being upset, these types of people might rile you up or suggest you should be angrier rather than talking you off a ledge. I know many of you are not into stirring the pot but find yourselves with high conflict lovers in your life, which can be stressful. That’s why I’m talking about high conflict versus healthy conflict, how to identify high-conflict people and protect yourself from them, and steps for more constructive ways to manage conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/658

I am thrilled to have Dr. Mindy Pelz back on the show in celebration of her new book, _Eat Like A Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat._ Who doesn't want that?! Dr. Mindy and I talk about everything from why we struggle to lose weight with age, our philosophies on aging, how to eat for the stage of life you're in, and how to produce GLP-1 hormones naturally within your own body.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes about today's episode at terricole.com/657

Are there couples who make you think, what do they know about love that I don’t? How do they do it? Or do you see couples on TV and wonder, how can I get that kind of love? Where can I even find it? If so, this episode is for you because I am sharing reflections from 25 years of marriage (I can’t believe it!) to my one and only, Vic, about how we’ve kept it good, and how to apply these lessons to your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/656

I am so excited to welcome my pal Tamsen Fadal back to the show to talk about her new documentary, The M Factor: Shredding the Silence On Menopause. It's available to stream right now on PBS!  Tamsen is an award-winning news anchor and menopause advocate, and she combined her skills and passion to create this amazing documentary.  During our conversation, Tamsen and I talk about our experiences with perimenopause and menopause, the lesser-known symptoms many women have, how the documentary came about, the hope Tamsen has for how it will impact the healthcare we receive as women, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/655

How do you react to seeing a friend, sibling, or partner having a rough time?  Not how do you respond, but how do you react? Do you immediately jump to share ideas or thoughts to try to fix their problem?  Or do you inadvertently invalidate their feelings by saying, “Hey, it’s not so bad. It’ll be better tomorrow”?  If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking about the transformative power of learning to sit with emotional discomfort, why you may feel compelled to avoid it by taking action, and what you can do instead. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/654