The Parenting Reframe

You can run a company, close the deal, and solve any problem in the boardroom. Then you walk through the door at home and have no idea what to do when your daughter hands you a Barbie. If that sounds familiar, you’re not failing. Nobody trained you for this part.Albiona sits down with Gabe Shirey, executive father coach, speaker, and author of The Driven Dad Code, to talk about why being successful at work doesn’t automatically make you a connected dad. Gabe shares the simple frameworks he built for his own family (and the 1,000+ kids at the K through 8 charter school he founded), and why your relationship with your kids is built 15 minutes at a time.Inside, they explore:The fatherhood fallacy: why the skills that make you great at work (managing, correcting, optimizing) can backfire with your kids, who want connection, not a managerThe Five Ps from Gabe’s Dad Dashboard: Prime, Presence, Play, Praise, and Parting Words, plus the car ride game that turned into a year long family ritual“The drift”: how dads lose connection without any big blowup, and why what feels like disrespect is often a relationship that needs attentionWhy swapping “Why did you do that?” for “Help me understand” puts you on your child’s side, and how empathy lands only when you feel it firstConnection and correction: how to bring the two into balance so you’re not too harsh or too permissive, and why your legacy is the relationship your kids want to come home toAbout Gabe Shirey:Gabe Shirey is an executive father coach, speaker, and author who helps high-achieving fathers rethink how they approach parenting. His work focuses on helping dads move beyond the instinct to fix, correct, and optimize everything, and instead become more intentional about presence, connection, and the way they show up for their kids. Gabe is the creator of the Dad Dashboard, a practical system for building deeper connection with limited time, and author of The Driven Dad Code, which explores the “Fatherhood Fallacy” that success and discipline automatically translate into effective fatherhood. Today, he coaches executives and founders on applying the skills that make them successful in their careers to becoming more intentional fathers.A special invitation from Gabe:Gabe invites Parenting Reframe listeners to join his program, The Blueprint, and to subscribe at gabeshirey.com to be the first to know when The Driven Dad Code is released.Mentioned in this episode:The Driven Dad Code by Gabe Shirey (pre-order January 12, available March 3)The Parent Prompt Playbook: 100 free questions to ask your kids at drop off, dinner, wake up, and bedtimeThe Dad Dashboard and the Five PsDr. Will Dobud, past Parenting Reframe guestPARR: PAUSE, ACKNOWLEDGE, RESPOND, REFLECT®Connect with Gabe:Website, The Blueprint, and the free Parent Prompt Playbook: https://gabeshirey.com/Instagram: @gabeshirey (DM “better questions” for the free playbook)LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabeshirey/YouTube: @GabeShireySubstack: @gabeshireyConnect with Albiona:Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching): https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram: @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community: https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly: [email protected] this episode?Rate, review, and share it with a dad who crushes it at work and comes home wondering what he’s doing wrong. Or with the partner who keeps hoping he’ll listen to this one.Until next time,Albiona 🤎  The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

AI is changing how kids learn faster than anyone can keep up. So when Albiona took the stage at Columbia University’s Early Learning Summit, she made the case for something no app can offer: other humans. Here’s what she shared, who she shared the stage with, and the one simple question that had parents messaging her for days afterward.Inside, she explores:Raising kids alongside AI: why the struggle is where the learning happens, what her family’s “no GPS for a month” rule taught their new drivers, and the human skills (curiosity, critical thinking, conflict resolution) kids still need to build on their ownWhy community is one of the most overlooked emotional regulation tools for parents, how isolation and the “I’m the only one” story keep your nervous system on high alert, and why community can be as small as one other personThe dinner table question Albiona has asked her kids for years: “Who leaned on you, and who did you lean on today?” Plus how to weave connection into everyday life without adding one more thing to your to do listMentioned in this episode:Begin Learning’s Early Learning Summit and EdTech Week at Columbia UniversityDr. Joshua Sparrow, Touchpoints (panel moderator)Dr. Aliza Pressman, host of Raising Good HumansAlbiona’s Substack post on the summit, plus her new monthly live office hours for paid subscribersConnect with Albiona:Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching): https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram: @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community: https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly: [email protected] this episode?Rate, review, and share with a parent who feels like they’re doing this alone. They’re not.Until next time,Albiona 🤎  The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Some kids who are being bullied look like they're doing just fine. Good grades, a team, plenty of friends. And they still come home carrying something they haven't found the words to share. That's not a parenting failure. It's a reason to start asking better questions.In this episode, Albiona sits down with Craig Conover of Bravo's Southern Charm and Dr. Chad Rose, Director of the Prevention of Bullying Center at the University of South Carolina, to talk about Craig's new children's book, Patch Work: Bee Brave. Bee Kind. Bee You. Craig opens up about the bullying he experienced as a kid, why he never told his parents, and how those years resurfaced the day he signed his first TV contract. Dr. Chad brings the research, including what bullying actually is, the signs parents miss, and the one question every parent should be asking at conferences.Inside, they explore:Why Craig kept the bullying from his parents, even in a safe and loving homeThe behavior change that should always open a conversation, and how to get past "fine"The one question to ask at every parent teacher conferenceThe research definition of bullying, and what to do if you think your child is the one bullyingWhy most children's books about bullying end unrealistically, and how Patch Work handles it differentlyThe episode wraps with a quick fire round on what's on their nightstands, the rituals they rarely skip, and what their younger selves would tell them today.About Craig Conover:Craig Conover is a star of Bravo’s Southern Charm and the cofounder of Sewing Down South. He’s shared his story in his memoir, Pillow Talk: What’s Wrong with My Sewing?, and now in his first children’s book, Patch Work: Bee Brave. Bee Kind. Bee You., written for kids ages 4 to 7 and the grown ups who read with them.Connect with Craig Conover:Patch Work: Bee Brave. Bee Kind. Bee You. by Craig Conover, illustrated by Maine Diaz: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1967836884, https://www.worldofkidsbooks.com/pages/patch-work-preorderFollow Craig on Instagram: @caconoverSewing Down South: https://www.sewingdownsouth.com/ Connect with Dr. Chad Rose:USC Faculty Profile: https://www.sc.edu/study/colleges_schools/education/faculty-staff/rose_chad.phpEmail: [email protected] Dr. Chad on Instagram: @drchadrose About Dr. Chad Rose:Dr. Chad Rose is a Professor of Special Education at the University of South Carolina, where he leads the Bullying Prevention Center, a new resource helping schools and communities identify, prevent, and respond to bullying. A former high school special education teacher, he spent 12 years at the University of Missouri directing the Mizzou Ed Bully Prevention Lab. His research focuses on bullying prevention, school violence prevention, and supporting students with emotional, behavioral, and learning needs. He contributed the expert note and conversation guide at the end of Patch Work.Connect with Albiona:Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching): https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram: @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona's Paid Substack Community: https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly: [email protected] this episode?Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's noticed their child getting a little quieter lately, or the one who keeps hearing "fine" at pickup. Better questions open the door. And you've got this.Until next time,Albiona 🤎  The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Most parents want to know what to do when the meltdown is already happening. Albiona is starting earlier than that. This episode is about building the conditions for regulation throughout your day so the hard moments don’t take you completely off guard. For you and for your kids.Inside, she explores:The joy tracker: what it is, how Albiona uses it, and why tracking small moments of joy throughout the day is one of the most practical emotion regulation tools she teaches in coachingHow to set up your child’s environment for regulation before a meltdown ever starts: sleep, food, overscheduling, physical space, and the one question to ask about their daily activitiesWhy play, movement, and stretching regulate the nervous system, how to adapt the joy tracker for kids who don’t respond to “what are you grateful for,” and the question that gets real answers insteadConnect with Albiona:Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly — [email protected] this episode?Rate, review, and share with a parent who keeps asking what to do in the hard moment but hasn’t thought about what the rest of the day looks like.Until next time,Albiona 🤎  The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If the only thing that gets your child to cooperate is a threat, this episode is for you. Albiona breaks down why threats feel effective in the moment, why they stop working over time, and what to put in place instead so you’re not scrambling for leverage every time your kid pushes back.Inside, she explores:Why threats work differently on approval-seeking kids vs. strong-willed kids, and why strong-willed kids will test you every single time to see if you mean itThe real problem with empty threats: when your words and actions don’t match, kids stop listening to your words entirely, and why that’s harder to undo the longer it goes onHow to get ahead of the hard moments using framing and priming so you’re not reacting at the end of your rope, including a script for separation anxiety at school drop-offConnect with Albiona:Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly — [email protected] this episode?Rate, review, and share with a parent who’s tired of hearing themselves make the same threat over and over and knowing it’s not really working.Until next time,Albiona 🤎  The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What do you say when your child says “I’m fat”? What do you do when grandma makes a comment at the dinner table? How do you raise a kid who has a healthy relationship with food and their body without swinging into diet culture or untethered “anything goes” territory? Dr. Whitney Caceres has the answers — and they’re more nuanced and more doable than anything you’ll find in a parenting trend.Albiona sits down with Dr. Whitney, a board-certified pediatrician, founder of Modern Mommy Doc, and author of the new book Raising Body Confident Kids, to talk about breaking the generational cycle of body shame — starting with the stories we’re still carrying ourselves.Inside, they explore:How body shame gets passed from generation to generation — and why our own triggers are triggered hardest when our kids hit puberty at the same time we’re going through our own body changesWhat to actually say when your child notices someone else’s body, asks why a celebrity looks different, or says “I’m fat” — including what not to say and why false reassurance backfiresThe sweet spot between diet culture and body positivity — how to teach kids body literacy and function without labeling foods as good or bad or ignoring real healthHow to handle body comments from grandparents and extended family — what to prep your kids to say, when to step in as the parent, and when ignoring is actually the right moveYay or nay: overeating, birthday party food, the 20-minute pause rule, and when it’s okay to step in as the parent even when you’ve been giving your kid agencyAbout Dr. Whitney Caceres:Dr. Whitney Caceres is a board-certified pediatrician, speaker, author, and founder of Modern Mommy Doc. She holds an MPH in maternal and child health from UC Berkeley, a journalism degree, and completed her pediatric residency at Stanford. Her new book, Raising Body Confident Kids: A Balanced Approach to Breaking the Cycle of Body Shame and Diet Culture, is out September 1st.Resources mentioned in this episode:Get Raising Body Confident KidsVisit Modern Mommy Doc — modernmommydoc.comFollow Dr. Whitney on Instagram — @modernmommydocConnect with Albiona:Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coachingFollow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframeJoin Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/Email Albiona directly — [email protected] this episode?Please rate, review, and share this one with a mom who’s still untangling her own relationship with her body while trying to raise kids who don’t have to. This conversation is for every parent who has ever caught themselves about to say the wrong thing — and wanted to do better.Until next time,Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You asked Albiona where she stands on gentle parenting, attachment theory, highly sensitive kids, and strong-willed vs. defiant. She answered. This is the take you won’t hear from most people in the parenting space — no sides taken, no approach put on a pedestal, and no parent left feeling like they’re doing it wrong. Inside, she explores: Gentle parenting: what Albiona genuinely likes about it, where it tends to go sideways in practice, and why over-explaining often makes defiance worse instead of better Attachment theory: why it can leave parents burned out, how to take what works without adopting the whole framework, and what she looks for before bringing any guest into this space Strong-willed, defiant, highly sensitive, big feeler — what these labels actually mean, why Albiona thinks all kids are deeply feeling, and what to ask instead of reaching for a term Connect with Albiona: Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent who’s drowning in parenting approaches and doesn’t know which one to trust. Sometimes the answer is simpler than the label. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You asked, Albiona answered. This AMA covers the questions that came in most — reactive parenting, back-to-school transitions, and why pausing is so much harder in practice than it sounds. Practical, somatic, and honest. Inside, she explores: How to actually pause when you’re already activated — the somatic tools and breathing technique Albiona uses herself, including why the exhale matters more than the inhale Why telling yourself “I won’t yell today” keeps failing — the two real reasons parents overreact and what actually interrupts the pattern Back-to-school anxiety and transitions: how to help kids who dread the change, the difference between a transition problem and a frustration tolerance problem, and how to sequence routines so you’re not setting yourself up to fight every afternoon Connect with Albiona: •  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching •  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe •  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/ •  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a parent heading into back-to-school season running on fumes. Part 2 is coming. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is the conversation that resonated with thousands of mothers and keeps getting shared. Albiona’s interview with Neha Ruch — founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause — is back. If you missed it the first time, this is your moment. If you’ve already heard it, listen again. There’s something in here for wherever you are right now. Neha Ruch left a Stanford MBA and a dream job in brand marketing to make more room for motherhood — and instead of quietly disappearing from the conversation, she built an entirely new one. The Power Pause is the book she wrote for every mother who wants to pause, shift, or step back from a career and do it without guilt, without losing her identity, and without having to pick a side. Inside, they explore: →  Why “what do you do?” has become a proxy for “who are you?” — and how to reclaim your identity when the answer to that question changes →  The power pause reframe: why stepping back from a career isn’t a loss of ambition — it’s a redesign, and how to own that story confidently →  The mommy wars, where they came from, and why the research shows children thrive equally in both scenarios — what actually matters is a happy and healthy parent →  How to have the money conversations before a career pause, what to budget for, and how to make sure both partners feel equally valued during a season of unpaid caregiving →  Why your career isn’t linear — how to audit the experiences you’re accumulating right now and build them into a career story that’s more expansive, not less About Neha Ruch: Neha Ruch is the founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause, a guide for ambitious women navigating career breaks, career shifts, and the decision to make more room for family life. Her work sits at the intersection of identity, ambition, and modern motherhood — without judgment, and without telling you which choice is right. Resources mentioned in this episode: →  Get The Power Pause by Neha Ruch →  Visit Mother Untitled — motheruntitled.com Connect with Albiona: →  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe →  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/ →  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this one with a mother who’s in the middle of figuring out what comes next — whether she’s considering a pause, already in one, or trying to find her footing on the other side. This conversation was made for her. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is the episode that started it all. The most downloaded conversation in the history of The Parenting Reframe — Albiona’s very first interview with Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions — is back. If you’ve never heard it, clear your schedule. If you have, get your notebook out because you’ll catch things you missed the first time. Joe Newman has shaped Albiona’s work more than almost anyone else in this space. He doesn’t say what everyone else says. He doesn’t make it complicated. And this conversation — about why strong-willed kids need stronger boundaries, why your words have lost their weight, and what actually gets a defiant child to cooperate — is still one of the most useful hours you’ll spend as a parent. Inside, they explore: →  Why strong-willed and defiant kids aren’t broken — and why the accommodations most parents make are the exact opposite of what these kids need →  The real reason children use conflict: it’s not about the blue bowl, the red cup, or the screen time — it’s a question they’re asking, and most parents are answering it wrong →  How breaks work, why they’re not timeouts, and what to do when your child flatly refuses to take one — including what Joe did with a child who held out for 10 days straight →  Why excess information and over-explaining are making defiance worse — and the research-backed reason that saying less produces a 50% drop in off-task behavior →  What “eggshell parenting” is doing to strong-willed kids, why approval-based parenting fails power-seeking children, and how to stop parenting the child inside of you instead of the child in front of you About Joe Newman: Joe Newman is the author of Raising Lions and a behavior specialist with decades of experience working with defiant, strong-willed, and ADHD kids in schools, homes, and clinical settings. His approach combines psychoanalytic theory, cause-and-effect structure, and deep respect for children’s autonomy — and it works where other methods don’t. Resources mentioned in this episode: →  Get Raising Lions by Joe Newman →  Visit Joe’s website — raisinglions.com →  Joe’s YouTube channel — search “Raising Lions” for video demonstrations of his methods in action Connect with Albiona: →  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe →  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/ →  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who’s exhausted by a strong-willed child and running out of ideas. This conversation has already reached thousands of families — and it deserves to reach thousands more. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.