How to Talk to Your Dating Partner About Your Open Relationship

As owners of lifestyle clubs, we hear all the common complaints from members about single guys, so we figured we make a video and share some things NOT to do as a single male at swingers clubs. ​ AVOID these at all costs if you want to connect and play well with others! ​ Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)

In this episode, John and Jackie tackle various aspects of navigating the swinging lifestyle based on questions from their audience.   "How do I deal with the emotional challenges in witnessing my partner's satisfaction with someone else outside group scenarios?"   Listen in for practical advice on handling attraction dilemmas, emphasizing communication and individual comfort levels in play situations.  

We went to an incredible open relationship workshop in Austin, Texas called "True Sex and Wild Love" and here is recap in case you missed it! (And yes we talk about the pink thing.) The event was hosted by Aubrey Marcus, CEO of Onnit, a company that makes and markets nutritional supplements, fitness equipment, and more in the spirit of optimizing human performance, and his fiance Whitney Miller, who is a relationship coach. (And they both happen to be in an open relationship.) The guest speaker at their event was Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of the award-winning book "Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free". It was incredible to hear Dr. Martin talk about the benefits of open relationships from her scientific perspective and the research about the critical time period when monogamous couples seek variety (is it the man or woman?!).   And finally of course, we talk about this mysterious pink thing. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)

In this episode, John and Jackie dive into a conversation about the positive impact of the lifestyle on women.   Jackie reflects on the acceptance and camaraderie among women in the lifestyle, where competition is replaced by celebration.   They explore how consensual non-monogamy can empower women, providing a platform for sexual growth, independence, and breaking free from societal constraints.

Want to have your cake and eat it too? ​ Well, it takes two to tango. ​ But, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. ​ And, that's enough old proverbs (for now) :) ​ Being in a swinging or poly relationship DOES take consent and understanding from all parties involved, but how do you do that? Well, we've got the video for you because that's the question we address today! ​ Let the discussion begin!

In today's episode, John and Jackie discuss the common experience of handling rejection and dealing with canceled dates.   They explore the emotional impact of these situations, sharing personal anecdotes and insights on how to navigate the complexities of dating in both single and married life. The discussion emphasizes the importance of not jumping to conclusions, maintaining open communication, and learning from rejection experiences.   John and Jackie offer practical advice for those new to the lifestyle, encouraging a positive outlook and resilience in the face of canceled plans.

When it comes to consent, what's usually discussed is getting consent from the person with whom you would like to have a physical interaction. What's not talked about as much is giving consent to your partner on what you're comfortable with them doing with others so that they don't cross any boundaries you may have. The tricky part to this whole thing is doing it without being too controlling or possessive. After all, shouldn't each person have the right to their own body and actions? (You're not the boss of me!) Let the discussion begin!

You know what they say, "The only thing constant is change." And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today. How we go about it. What we do while we're playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What's ok and what's not. Check it out!

In this episode, John and Jackie explore the concept of transforming negative experiences in the lifestyle into valuable learning opportunities.  The conversation revolves around handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and fostering positive communication within the swinging community. Reflecting on past experiences, Jackie shares personal insights on the significance of being an advocate for oneself. The discussion touches on the challenges of vocalizing boundaries and preferences, highlighting the evolution of communication skills over time.

Open Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in this week's episode! Do you have any advice or techniques to help alleviate self-doubt and stress and is it common for the wife to take the leadership role in the lifestyle adventure?   Listen hear John and Jackie's answer!