How To Become An Authentic BDSM Dominant

In this episode, I talk about slave as a Lover. When we think of the term "Lover," our minds conjure images of passion and romance. Yet, within BDSM relationships, this archetype takes many dimensions, including empathy, connection, innocent energy, vulnerability, and ego.   But it's not all light and love. In its darker aspect, the Lover can become the Addictor, the Disconnector, or the Nihilist.   Join me as I challenge stereotypes within the gay fetish scene, urging communication for a deeper connection – one that goes beyond the hardness and alphaness often portrayed. It's a call to embrace both strength and vulnerability, to ask for the tenderness we crave, and to push boundaries for a richer, more authentic experience.   BUY THE BOOK Get the BOOK about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW LINKS Mediation for connection - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/connection  Addiction In the US, SAMHSA’s national helpline is at 800-662-4357 In the UK, Action on Addiction is available on 0300 330 0659. Other countries can be found at [https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm](https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm)   SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle   Episode breakdown Slave as a Lover from sensitivity to vulnerability Shadow slave as a lover - understanding grief and hurt and how a slave can hide from connection through obedience Actions a slave can take to improve their lover

Dive into the story of Michael. This episode takes you on his extraordinary journey through the complex world of FinDom (Financial Domination). Find out about Michael and his story as a submissive who later transitioned into a Dominant within the FindDom community, only to confront and overcome the alluring, addictive nature of this facet of the power exchange scene. And how now, in the end, he is discovering his authentic self.   Key Points of the Episode: An Unusual Beginning: Explore the roots of Michael's foray into the world of BDSM, beginning as a submissive as a sports fetish. A Transformative Path: Witness the transformation from a submissive to becoming a Dominant in the FinDom scene and the allure of power and control that defines this unique subculture. The Addiction of Control: Delve into the seductive and often addictive aspects of Findom. Micahel candidly shares personal experiences of the power dynamics and the challenges they present. Awakening and Recovery: Learn about Michaels's critical moments of self-awareness and the decision to step away from the world of Findom.  Reflections and Insights: Gain valuable insights into the complexities of identity, power, and addiction in the context of FinDom. Micahel reflects on the lessons learned and how they have shaped a new perspective on his life and relationships. Journal Find out more about the Master/slave Journal - your compass and lighthouse for moving forward in the Master/slave Lifestyle - Find out more - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/journal   1:1 KINK IDENTITY COACHING Want to find your kink identity? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Find out what it is you really want and desire. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/   GUEST INFORMATION Podcast episodes from Michael's podcast that go deeper into who he is Trainers, chavs and peacocks  Reflections on Trains, chavs and peacocks Michaels submissive fantasy   SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle       BE INTERVIEWED And if you are interested in being interviewed, you can contact me at [email protected]

In this episode, I peel back the layers to uncover the often overlooked aspect of the Master/slave dynamic – the Master as a Lover. When we think of the Lover, our minds instinctively turn to thoughts of sex. However, within the realm of BDSM, particularly Master/slave relationships, the Lover archetype takes on a deeper meaning. It becomes a conduit for connection, a bridge between desires and the profound need for authentic human connection. In "Master as a Lover," we embark on a journey beyond the surface of dominance and submission. We delve into the realm where vulnerability meets control and where the desire for connection transcends the physical. It's an episode that challenges preconceptions, encouraging both Masters and slaves to consider the emotional intricacies that underpin their dynamic. We examine the shadows that can cast themselves over Masters – from being unfeeling and unconnected to the allure of addiction. Unveiling these shadows is crucial, as they often emerge from a lack of connection, leading to dehumanization and negative consequences within the BDSM relationship. Join me as I navigate the complex landscape of the Master as a Lover, exploring how genuine connection, vulnerability, and self-exploration are key ingredients for a healthy and fulfilling Master/slave dynamic.   BUY THE BOOK Get the BOOK about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW   LINKS Books: Sacred Power – Holy Surrender  (affiliate link) Jolted Awake  Links Mediation for connection - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/connection Does a slave have needs? Master Drew from the Duality blog  Addiction In the US, SAMHSA’s national helpline is at 800-662-4357 In the UK, Action on Addiction is available on 0300 330 0659. Other countries can be found at [https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm](https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm) SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle  

In this episode, we sit down with the enigmatic Sir Kaiju, delving into the journey that led him from the realm of submission to the commanding world of dominance and as an expert fister. The episode includes an informed primer on the intimate art of fisting without the influence of drugs, the importance of mindset in opening up to this unique experience, and how dominance intertwines with this visceral act, and why Sir Kaiju finds profound satisfaction as a Top doing this.   Discover the nuanced approach of Sir Kaiju in establishing safe containers for his submissives, fostering trust, and the art of growing and developing within the BDSM dynamic. What's in the episode: Sir Kaiju's candid exploration of his transformation from submissive to dominant. His love for fisting An informed primer on fisting: How to engage without the use of drugs and the importance of mindset How he uses fisting in his dominance Power dynamics in fisting and the unique satisfaction Sir Kaiju finds as a Top. The importance of creating a safe space and container for his submissive so they can enjoy his sadism How he grows and develops his slaves BOOK Get a about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW     1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/     GUEST INFORMATION Recon -  Twitter - https://twitter.com/completefilth1 SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle       BE INTERVIEWED And if you are interested in being interviewed, you can contact me at contact@masterslaveli

In this episode, we navigate the intricate dynamics of a BDSM slave, viewing their journey through the lens of the magician. Including the importance of openness to training and how critical growth and reflection are in order for a slave to be successful. Join me as we unravel the "Safety Officer" concept within, a guardian that protects and potentially obstructs our desires. We'll dive deep into the shadows cast by the Magician archetype, examining the powerful emotion of shame and its intricate dance within the BDSM and kink communities. From the struggles faced by slaves to the nuanced experiences of Masters, we explore the layers of shame that shape our identities. But that's not all—we'll shine a light on specific shadows, from the Innocent one and the Manipulator to the Escaper. Throughout this journey, we'll discuss how these shadows manifest and offer insights on confronting and integrating them for personal growth. So, whether you're a seasoned practitioner of BDSM, someone curious about the psychological underpinnings of human behaviour, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of personal development, this episode has something for you. LINKS: Coaching - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching M/s Online community - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/community The support group - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/support-you/support-group/  Mast.net BUY THE BOOK Get the BOOK about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW       SPECIAL OFFER - NEXT STEP 1:1 COACHING It's halfway through the year. Do you feel stuck moving forward with the Master/slave Lifestyle? If so - check out my next step coaching - And SAVE $50 with a LIMITED-TIME SPECIAL OFFER. FIND OUT MORE   1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/     SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle    

In this thought-provoking episode, I embark on a deeply personal journey with Nate, who shares their remarkable story of self-discovery and acceptance. Raised in a staunchly religious and conservative environment, Nate grappled with a secret, a truth about themselves that they were initially afraid to confront. Join me as I explore the moments of realisation, the weight of a conservative upbringing, and the profound spiritual awakening that ultimately led to the liberation of Nate’s identity. This episode delves into the challenges of coming out and embracing one's true self, taking us from the confines of a deeply closeted existence to a place of self-assured authenticity. It's a tale of courage, resilience, and the pursuit of fulfilment, told with openness and vulnerability by this guest   BOOK Get a about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW   1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/   GUEST INFORMATION Recon - https://www.recon.com/sextween Twitter - https://twitter.com/jordandragon11 (PG version) and https://twitter.com/baronangelwings (Kink version) Instagram https://www.instagram.com/divavalue/  https://www.instagram.com/sexyameninternational/ (Please note that he is soliciting sexy pictures from all ethnicities and of ALL body types for this page) Podcast (Unofficially Opinionated)  - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAmfw9JW0LkU-r0Re3eU0rA    SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle       BE INTERVIEWED And if you are interested in being interviewed, you can contact me at [email protected]

In this thought-provoking episode, we peel back the curtains on the enigmatic interplay between the Master and the archetype of the Magician.   We cover how this can make the Master unique with the ability to transform the slave to new levels of submission, but also, when in the shadow, can turn the Master into an unfeeling manipulator who cares nothing for his slave.   BUY THE BOOK Get the BOOK about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW   1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/     SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle  

Find out the importance of the role of slave as a warrior and how it helps the slave to serve well and to give up on materialism for the greater good of serving a Master. But also how in the shadow it can lead to a slave to destroy themselves. The warrior, often associated with courage, strength, and purpose, has long captivated our imaginations through epic tales and cinematic portrayals. But what happens when we explore the warrior archetype in the realm of BDSM, where power dynamics and submission take center stage? Join us as we unravel the complexities of the heart-centered slave as a warrior. We'll dive into the profound concept that being a warrior isn't solely confined to the battlefield but can be embodied in the context of BDSM. Discover how the qualities of an action taker, dedication to a higher cause, strength, discipline, boundaries, and protection intertwine with the role of a slave. But as we delve deeper, we also confront the shadow aspects of the warrior archetype within the realm of submission. We'll explore the boundless, nihilistic tendencies, the pursuit of perfection, the denial of self, and the wounds carried by those who navigate the warrior's path in the world of BDSM. Through thought-provoking discussions and insightful perspectives, we aim to shed light on the intricate interplay between the warrior archetype and the complexities of BDSM dynamics. Whether you're new to the concept or well-versed in these realms, prepare to challenge your perceptions and explore the depths of the human psyche.   1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/   BOOK Get a BOOK about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW     SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle       BE INTERVIEWED And if you are interested in being interviewed, you can contact me at [email protected]

Step into the alluring world of Master Richard, a realm where power, desire, and unyielding dominance intertwine.  Master Richard’s journey is a testament to the transformative power of self-realization. Discover the pivotal moment when he embraced his true nature as a Master and embarked on an extraordinary path of self-discovery. Delve into the captivating stories and intimate reflections as Master Richard shares the trials and triumphs of his journey. From his humble beginnings as a submissive to his evolution into a commanding Master, he unravels the profound intricacies that define the Master/Slave dynamic. But it doesn’t stop there. Hear how Master Richard envisions a future where the Master/Slave community receives the support, visibility, and understanding it deserves. Join him as he advocates for change and challenges the norms of perception.   1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/   BOOK Get a about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW   GUEST INFORMATION TASHRA – https://www.tashra.org FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/12752 Recon: MasterRAS Email: [email protected]   SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle       BE INTERVIEWED And if you are interested in being interviewed, you can contact me at [email protected]

Join us in this thought-provoking episode of Master/slave Lifestyle as we explore the intriguing world of archetypes and delve into the warrior archetype in particular. In our exploration, we shed light on the profound connection between the warrior archetype and the role of a BDSM Master. Discover the essence of the warrior archetype as the embodiment of action, power, and purpose. We examine how the archetype represents integrity, as individuals who dedicate themselves to a higher cause and strive for personal growth. Drawing inspiration from beloved characters like Maximus in 'Gladiator' and Jedi Knights in 'Star Wars,' we unravel the qualities that define the archetypal warrior. However, no archetype is without its shadows. In this episode, we dive deep into the shadows that can affect a Master's journey, focusing on the feeling of not having the right to exist. We explore how past experiences of shame related to identity, fetishes, or desires for control can impact a Master's confidence and manifest in various ways. Moreover, we shed light on the shadow aspects of a Master as a warrior, highlighting potential pitfalls such as overinflation, contradiction, and the risk of engaging in non-consensual behavior or dehumanizing others. Tune in to this captivating episode as we unravel the layers of the warrior archetype and its relevance to the world of BDSM Masters. Gain insights, explore the depths of human psychology, and discover how these archetypes shape our identities and relationships.     1:1 COACHING Ready to explore the profound depths of the Master/slave lifestyle? Whether you're a newcomer or an experienced player, my coaching is tailored to guide and enhance your journey. Let's transform and delve into the intricacies together, fostering growth, understanding, and fulfillment within the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. FIND OUT MORE - https://masterslavelifestyle.com/coaching/   BOOK Get a BOOK about the Light and Shadow of the Master/slave Lifestyle - DOWNLOAD NOW     SUPPORT THE PODCAST Become a Patreon member and help support the production of this unique podcast. Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle       BE INTERVIEWED And if you are interested in being interviewed, you can contact me at [email protected]