How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Date Brazen Podcast, where we’ll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She’s here to help you do the same. If you’re looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.
162. The complete dating detox guide
21:07This week, Lily takes you through the complete dating detox guide. This guide will help you release the pressure on your dating life and create more spaciousness and ease. A Date Brazen listener inspired this episode when they asked: “I have just decided to take a break from everything. Even though I'm good at taking this break, do you have any methods for healing or building back good feelings around dating?” The dating detox guide will help you make way for more time and mental energy to envision the right partnership apart from the dating noise. Lily is going to tell you exactly how to get the clarity that you need and reignite your dating life with even more forward momentum than you've had before. Some Episode Hot-Takes: “So many people are in that download, delete cycle, download, delete cycle. During this dating app pause, plan to get the most out of this time because intentional effort leads to intentional results.” “Allow the worry to be seen through the lens of self-compassion.” Dating Detox Guide Steps Recap: Step 1: Detox from Dating Step 2: Detox from other's dating advice Step 3: Detox from dating worry Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass 140. My bless and release strategy for letting go Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/the-complete-detox-dating-guide
161. Am I doing enough in my dating life? (here's a checklist to see)
34:31We are back with brand-new episodes! This week, Lily provides an in-depth and actionable coaching answer to the question, “Am I doing enough in my dating life?” Listen to Lily’s take on why you may ask yourself this question. Plus, she shares ten suggested action steps that will help you create momentum in your dating life and lead to the right relationship. “If you are not treating yourself like you would your best friend in your dating life, if you are swimming in self-doubt, self-blame, shame, and you're not addressing those things first, then doing these action steps in your dating life is not going to get you into the best relationship of your life.” If you do just one of the things mentioned in this episode, know it is beautiful enough. Celebrate yourself today (and every day)! Print out the checklist below and give yourself a heaping dose of self-compassion. Some Episode Hot-Takes: “I don't care about you getting into a relationship. I care about you knowing how to get into the best relationship of your life. Which begins with how you treat yourself.” “Allowing yourself to be yourself will lead to the right relationship online and in person.” “Celebration is a dating strategy.” Links: 121. Dating apps: Ask me anything 131. How your coupled friends can help you135. How to create your essence-based preferencesBraving the Wildnerness, Brené BrownSelf-compassion.orgKara Lowentheil’s podcast, Unf*ck Your BrainThe Loveland FoundationPsychology TodayNational Institute for the Psychotherapies Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/am-i-doing-enough-checklist ========================== “Am I doing enough?” Checklist Am I practicing self-compassion? Have I done my Essence-Based Preferences? Have I chosen my co-conspirator? Am I getting my brain coached/supported by the right coach or therapist? What support could I bring to my team to start making strides forward? Do I have a joy-building plan? Am I getting out into the world to do fun things? Am I asking people out when I feel led? When my energy allows, am I making new connections and discussing what I want in my dating life? Am I swiping with the boundaries I need? Am I bringing community to my dating life? Am I celebrating myself?
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Episode Spotlight: "It doesn't take time; it takes alignment." (here's how to build it)
15:55Over the next two weeks, we are inviting you to enjoy Date Brazen Spotlight episodes. We’re dusting off some of the most listened-to episodes and sharing them with you! This week, In this episode, Lily shares some exercises that can help you better align with what you desire. “It doesn’t take time; it takes alignment.” With this new thought, you move from a place of stagnation to one of action. What action can you take to get into alignment? Think about what you can do today to align with your values and move towards the life you desire tomorrow. SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-align-with-your-desires
Episode Spotlight: Three steps to be the boss of your dating life (and kiss overwhelm goodbye)
24:17Over the next three weeks, we are inviting you to enjoy Date Brazen Spotlight episodes. We’re dusting off some of the most listened-to episodes and sharing them with you! This week, we are taking a trip all the way back to when The Date Brazen podcast first started, with an episode about how to be the boss of your dating life! Let’s get into it. BAD ADVICE ALERT: "Dating is a numbers game." Lily tackles one of the biggest problems people face in dating - the “Numbers Game.” This common piece of dating advice is hurting your dating life. Lily shares why and what you can do about it. Listen to this episode to hear the three steps to find better dates in less time! Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-1
160. Steph’s Main Character Energy Story: Growing together with a coven of cheerleaders
50:10This week we have the pleasure of introducing you to Steph! Steph is a former Date Brazen client who joined Main Character Energy Mastermind last year to deepen her self-trust and self-pleasure and to date with unbothered energy. Lily and Steph get into topics such as bragging, being celebrated, and belonging. Steph also shares some of her breakthroughs from pursuing her desires and pleasures without apologizing or qualifications. No matter your circumstances, we know Steph’s story will support and inspire you to embrace the main character energy in your love life. Hot-takes and takeaways from this episode: Breaking up with perfectionism and instead dating messy can be freeing Being witnessed and celebrated by a group of women cheerleaders The importance of normalizing belonging If Main Character Energy Mastermind resonates with you, applications are open. Click here to apply! 🎉 Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/a-coven-of-cheerleaders
159. Hana’s Main Character Energy: The ROI of Investing In Her Love Life
48:21This week, Hana joins Lily to share her main character energy story. Hana participated in the Main Character Mastermind last year. In this episode, Hana shares what it was like to invest in her love life and how she overcame the resistance she felt doing so. Main Character Energy is more than answering the question, “Can I date, and how do I do it?” Prioritizing other areas of your life, as you’ll hear Hana did, doesn’t need to take away from dating. Engaging in play can amplify the results you see in your love life and beyond. This conversation is exciting and permissive as hell! Hot-takes and episode takeaways: Identifying resistance when it comes to investing in your love life The importance of celebrating yourself! Owning the ability to make your own rules and step into your power Links: Get on Main Character Energy Mastermind Waitlist! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/investing-in-your-love-life
158. Karin’s Main Character Energy: Creating a Dating Life Full of Joy
51:06Karin felt like a badass in every other area of her life and had so much joy - except in her dating life. When she came to Main Character Energy Mastermind last year, she knew she wanted to learn how to become a badass in her dating life. In this episode, we explore perfectionism, specifically letting go of it, and how to create a dating life full of joy. Listen as Karin shares how releasing perfectionism helped her quickly create her desired results and how Main Character Energy seeped into every area of her life moving forward. Hot-takes and episode takeaways: Releasing perfectionism is what creates results fast Creating a safe space for yourself in your life All of the answers you are looking for are inside you, and learning to internalize self-trust in a soft and new way Links: Get on the Main Character Energy Mastermind waitlist! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/creating-a-joyful-dating-life
157. Christine's Main Character Energy: Growing self-compassion and a sparkly new relationship
31:34You are in for a treat this week because today, you will hear from a former Date Brazen client, Christine, who participated in The Main Character Energy Mastermind. You’ll hear how Christine grew self-compassion and confidence, leading to a sparkly new relationship! Before joining us in Main Character Energy Mastermind, Christine did work on her dating life. Then she expanded her main character energy beyond dating. We are excited for you to hear Christine’s perspective and her breakthroughs throughout this process. Over the next four weeks, we’ll showcase four client interviews to inspire you to embody your main character energy. These four individuals have so much wisdom to share, including their breakthroughs and how they learned to give themselves permission to trust themselves harder and take massive (albeit sometimes messy) action. Hot-takes and takeaways from this episode: What do you want your rules to be? Embracing the messiness of dating and doing self-reflective work How Main Character Energy Mastermind provides the opportunity to go deeper Links: Get on the Main Character Energy Mastermind waitlist!Episode 129. Behind the Scenes of Main Character Energy Retreat Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/christines-main-character-energy
155. Episode Spotlight: How to feel your feelings when rejected
38:33This week we invite you to enjoy a Date Brazen Spotlight Episode! This episode is all about feelings. Lily created it as a practical guide for feeling your emotions, even the hard ones, and in the toughest times (like being rejected). You’ll learn how to address your emotional needs with safety and self-compassion. Some hot takes from this episode: Feelings are a bodily function, feeling them does not mean you’ll get stuck in them, feeling them is a means for moving them through your body You are not going to miss out on life when you slow down to practice self-compassion or feel your feelings - you are going to experience a more meaningful depth of life Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/feel-your-feelings-when-rejected/