The Christie Hoffman Show

Ever look at someone else’s life and feel like you should be further along by now? Let’s talk about comparison, starting over, and the scary decisions we put off because we don’t want to disappoint anyone. Want to keep these conversations going? Join me on Patreon for live Q&As!https://www.patreon.com/cw/ChristieHoffmanFollow me on Instagram and TikTok: @christie.healsI love you! Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

I had hundreds of thousands of followers, and I was quietly about to lose my house. This week, I’m sharing how divorce, grief, burnout, and rebuilding my life brought me here, and what happened when I finally told you the truth. We’re talking about the shame of needing help, learning to receive love, and the hard conversations that change your life!Here's the video where I finally told the truth!(and the follow up) Join the Patreon <--- We're having major discussions in here, everyday! ❤️Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

We're talking about what happens when family traditions start feeling more like torture obligations, and why you're allowed to make different choices this year.  (Even if someone accuses you of tearing the family apart - you're not!!!)I'm sharing some of my own holiday horror stories, what it was like finally spending Thanksgiving without all the chaos, and some practical ways to handle the guilt trips, manipulation, and inevitable family drama.And whether you decide to skip the holidays entirely or show up for 90 minutes with your own getaway car, I want you to remember something:You can trust yourself to decide who gets access to you.The pain is a portal, cutie pie. Let's go through it. ❤️CONNECT WITH ME💜 Join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/ChristieHoffman✨ Book Time With Me: https://tinyurl.com/3undmryx📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christie.heals/🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christie.heals▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@christie.hoffmanSend Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Does your birth order help explain who you became—or did the role you were assigned in your family shape you even more? Let's break down the common patterns of firstborns, middle children, youngest children, and only children, then layering in the dysfunctional family roles of the golden child, scapegoat, and invisible child. I also share my own family's story, how those childhood roles followed us into adulthood, and what it took for me to finally break free of the expectations placed on me. Because the role your family gave you doesn't have to define who you are today. ❤️Videos mentioned in this episode:Golden ChildEnabled / Lazy Golden ChildScapegoat / Black Sheep ChildInvisible Child  The RECLAIM Method Click here - Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, set boundaries, rebuild your confidence, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you are very divinely protected. Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok and YouTube, for more videos! I love you, bye!!! ❤️@christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Does your attachment style explain why you keep ending up in the same relationship patterns? Let's break down secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment—and how childhood experiences can shape the way we handle closeness, conflict, rejection, and intimacy as adults. I share how my own attachment patterns changed after divorce, why healing can make dating feel even more confusing at first, and what it can look like to stop repeating the same emotional cycles. Then we answers listener questions on self-forgiveness, narcissistic parents, dreams, and why some people from our past still have such a strong hold on us.Books mentioned in this episode:Attached — Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving — Pete WalkerRyan Holiday / Stoicism resourcesMap of Human Consciousness episodeThe RECLAIM Method Click here - Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, set boundaries, rebuild your confidence, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you are very divinely protected. Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok and YouTube, for more videos! I love you, bye!!! ❤️@christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Boundaries are an act of love. You're not being cruel, you're saying what YOU need for the relationship to continue. Don't ever let anyyyyyyone tell you that you're not allowed to send boundaries. You're finding your voice - And you're allowed to use it!! ❤️Things I Mentioned 👇(Quiz) Trauma Response Assessment - I built this, send me feedback! (Book) The Book of Boundaries - EXCELLENT read!!(Book) The Wheels of Life - Chakras, spiritual awakenings (don't do audio book, there's too many diagrams and cool images) (Video) Foot Stomping Video metaphor for DARVO Don't forget, dreams that we remember are MESSAGES. It was a metaphor from your higher self. Decode it with AI, get a dream interpretation book. If you want to apply my advice to your real life, you'd love my quick course on how to stop getting manipulated. You won't come out of it the same person! Make sure to follow me on TT and Instagram! @christie.heals I love you, Byeeeee! Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Hi Cutie Pie! I love you. Here's some things I mentioned: My Eagle Spirit Guide (Soul Contract Video)My favorite Joe Dispenza Meditations Tuning into new potentialsMorning / Evening meditations (shorter meditations for every day)Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Why is happiness so hard to find, even when life looks good on paper? Let's explore how our brains are wired to scan for danger and chase the next milestone, causing us to still feel empty.I personally think happiness can't exist unless there's peace, first. The problem is... peace comes from setting boundaries, leaving unhealthy relationships, and quitting the job you hate. Finding your peace will make many people upset. You have to go to WAR to create peace (but it's worth it!). I answer listener ?'s about no contact, guilt, dating, and difficult in-laws. (Here's the course I mentioned!) LOVE YOU, bye! @christie.healsSend Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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