WTF Does “Choose Yourself” Actually Mean?

Today we’re in Peru and we're enjoying ourselves. Through conversations and meeting new people I’m learning that dating standards look completely different depending on where you are — and I’m comparing it all to the culture I know best, which is American dating.To be clear:I’ve met good men in America. They’re just few and far between, and it’s hard out there to find someone decent, let alone actually get to know them. The biggest difference I’m noticing here is how normal it is to be valued — effort isn’t a special occasion, it’s the baseline.This one’s really for the girls who haven’t had a decent man yet, or who had one and then threw themselves back into the pool and found this mess.I’m also getting into the part we don’t love talking about — how we condone it and let it continue when it isn’t what we want.Let’s dive on in :)

In honor of spooky season, let’s talk about the scary things we are and aren’t doing in life.This isn’t about comfort. This is the opposite. We’re getting into the things our soul is screaming for that we’re too scared to go after — because we might fail, be uncomfortable, or simply look stupid.As this episode releases I’m in Lima, Peru, listening to the scary calling in my soul and seeing where in the WORLD it takes me.Let’s risk it all and do those SCARY THANGS!! 🫶🏼

Of course there's a new episode today because there's literally always more where that came from… which is of course what we're talking about ;)Switching your mindset from lack to abundance is scary but rewarding. If our thoughts create our reality and we're constantly living in fear, lack and scarcity — well, there's your answer for why it keeps getting mirrored back to you. It's not proof you don't deserve more. It's proof of our thoughts creating our reality.It's not an easy journey to make these changes. But it's not easy living in lack either. Do you want the chance to change it, or is that just the way it is for you???LFGGGGG 🫶🏼

Two years ago I started this podcast in my bedroom at my mom's house. I was terrified, so I made "who cares what other people think" my very first episode — to fight the fear by doing the thing.Two years later my perspective has grown a lot. Now I see how much power is sitting in the limiting beliefs we don't even call limiting beliefs. We call them worrying. We call them being realistic.Let's dive in and say F*** WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK :) heheHAPPY 2 YEAR ANNIVERSARY TO MY OWN EFFORTS & DEDICATION :)

In today's episode I'm talking about why dating has FINALLY become fun for me. I'm treating it like the last possible time I'll be single rather than hunting for a husband.Obviously nobody can predict the future — but that's the whole point. It's mind over matter. I'd rather enjoy this stretch than spend it waiting for it to end.Getting into why I stopped putting all my eggs in one basket, why I'm dating around on purpose, and the thing that changed everything: you can't ruin the right thing with the right person, and you can't be good enough for the wrong one.

In this week's episode I'm diving into age gaps in dating and the double standard behind the narrative. Whether the girl is older or younger, she's the one being judged in the scenario. But I think if we look a little deeper we can see it in a different light — or at least give it the chance to be seen differently.Not to mention age is just a number and doesn't define anyone's maturity level.Let's try to figure out why the girls are always in the wrong… and then maybe stop putting them there. Wouldn't that be nice?? Hehe

My Saturn return is OVER and I've never been so happy to say anything.This week I'm recapping 365 days of being 30 — losing my job, my apartment and a few people, moving back into my mom's house, and cutting out every distraction I had to figure out what actually matters to me.I took huge steps back on purpose. Here's what I got out of it :)

Who cares if the guy who's been with 50 this year isnt interested in you? That's not winning or losing.So this week we're talking about how where men are falling short became our issue. Why a girl being interested doesn't mean she wants to marry you. And why if a man isn't trying for you, you're never even going to find out if he's interesting

This week we’re unlearning body shaming — the kind we see online and the kind we hear in everyday conversation. Peptides, body comments, “well-meaning” opinions — I’ve heard it all, and it makes my blood boil. Because here’s the thing: if someone’s doing something to help themselves, you have no idea what mindset they’re in or what got them there. We need to work on being happy with ourselves instead of policing what the next person is doing. Let’s dive deep and rewrite some norms.#bodyimage, #bodyshaming, #selflove, #bodypositivity, #mentalhealth, #selfacceptance, #healingjourney, #podcast, #realtalk, #confidencebuilding

Everyone is out here building a picture of who they are through what they have and what they’ve done. So we’re all reading each other off half a story — and then filling in the rest with potential. No wonder we can’t see clearly.This week I’m getting into how we actually end up with rose colored glasses on. Why we blame ourselves instead of listening to our intuition. Why shame keeps us in situations way longer than we ever needed to be there. And the question I keep coming back to — is shame just the rose colored glasses pointed at ourselves?Let’s dive in :)