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This week I’m talking to friend and guest SYDNEY Zwicker, a Holistic Pelvic Care practitioner based in Colorado. Syd's one of those people who has that time traveller quality about her - wise beyond her years and has an ability to push boundaries and facilitate healing for women of all ages. We met when we were both doing our Qoya teacher training and she felt I’d known forever. Sydney came to her work through her own healing from sexual abuse in her late teens. In her words, she tried it all. From alcohol and meaningless sex, to talk therapy, dance therapy, jade eggs, energy healings, hitting a giant foam block with a baseball bat, screaming into a pillow, and everything in between. Though each time she removed a layer of the hurt, she always felt like there was something she couldn’t reach physically. Then she discovered Holistic Pelvic Care, and her world opened. She was finally able to de-armour and heal and for the first time, she was able to release it from the physical body. Sydneys mission is to shed the stigma around the female lived experience through awareness, education, and holistic healing. Sydney shares with us the power of holistic pelvic care and the value of de-armoring ourselves. How society teaches us that our female bodies are dangerous and dirty yet as women of age we are expected to be empowered, godesses! We discuss the effects this has on fertility and how we can heal our relationship with our body - end the war with our physical self and teach our daughters to the same. We talk about: The journey to healing from sexual trauma Pelvic care, how it can help and what treatment looks like The fertility path Myofascial release, yoni massage and yoni eggs Starting the conversation with your daughters Sydney Zwicker - https://zwickerhealingarts.com Yoni Egg course - https://zwickerhealingarts.com/yoni-egg-online-course Lois Bickerton, Womankind Health (based in Poole, Dorset) - https://www.womankindhealth.co.uk

Welcome part 2 of my conversation with Jillian Redrow, an intuitive eating and living coach based in Texas. I could talk all day about this subject, as someone who has consciously yoyo dieted most of my life and has worked hard on self love, and healing my relationship with my body. We began in part one talking about what lead Jillian to the work - her relationship with food and alcohol and how she found healing.  In this episode we talk about how we don't 'become worthy' - we are born worthy. How diet culture is a 7billion pound industry - and yet it's the only product that's sold to us with a 97% failure rate and when it doesn't work - we blame ourselves - how nuts is that? Industries thrive on us playing the 'when then' game. Us versus our bodies.. When you lose weight, longer hair, better skin, smaller waist, a new wardrobe - then you'll be happy - so we invest in more and more - yet the truth is that when we have a core belief that we are not worthy - happiness is hollow.  Jillian talks about how we can shift from body shame to body neutrality and body acceptance and then to body love. How shifting to gratitude and acceptance really starts to reroute our inner pathways, helping us come into trust.. moving from judgment to acceptance.  Jillian shares valuable tools on how to dial in and listen and be in relationship with your body - to stop seeking happiness outside of ourselves and using food as a drug.  What we metabolise/ ingest/ digest - is more than food, its words, beliefs, patterns of behaviour, experiences and daily choices. Waking up to this we get to be the ones that break the pattern for ourselves and future generations. This is a really powerful episode and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. We talk about:  How to be in communication and at peace with your body How people pleasing is attached to the belief that by putting others first with make you more loveable The power of inner child work The 'when then game' How dieting works against the wisdom of our body How feelings and emotions are signals to listen more closely to your body How we can't change others - only do the work ourselves and choose what we engage with Recognising the patterns and beliefs we inherit We are as developed as the least developed part of our parents - but when we take our power back - that's where we get to rewrite our story Guilt is never a part of what our bodies want or desire or deserve. CLICK HERE >> for Jillians' website CLICK HERE >> to sign up for the free webinar on June 25th 2021 CLICK HERE >> to be the first to hear about the She Heals Society - launching July 2021 CLICK HERE >> to contact Jillian

Before we start, this episode contains some subjects that may be triggering for some listeners. If that sounds like that could be you, do check the show notes for more detail This week I’m talking to Jillian Redrow, self love coach and healing facilitator - Helping women ditch the diets for good and heal our relationship to our bodies and ourselves. Like my conversation with Nas - it was so juicy, I’ve split it over two parts - you won’t want to miss a thing! In this powerful and personal episode we talk about how growing up she was athletic and strong, but how comments from others at a vulnerable point in her teens, along with a experience at a High school party, left her self esteem in pieces - and how she began using food to regain some control. She shares really vulnerably how it the eating disorder derailed not only her teens but her college years. With eating disorders skyrocketing during the pandemic, this conversation speaks not only to that but to people with a complicated relationship to food - emotional eaters, dieters, carb ditchers, etc. In part two Jillian shares what helped her heal and how she helps others do the same If you, you are based in the UK and you or someone know is affected by any of the subjects we discussed - please check out all the resources for seeking support and guidance in the show notes. Enjoy! We talk about: That we can’t shift what we are in resistance of. Changing your body alone - won’t heal the beliefs About being in a toxic relationship in college and being jailed for 77 days That the one thing we all seek is to be seen and heard. And how to shift from being disconnected and numbed out to reconnecting to our heart and bodies and feeling empowered. How connecting to our inner child - and addressing our pain with love and compassion is the key to healing And finally how she found sobriety through AA, re - met her now husband but it wasn’t until she had a relapse that she was finally able to face healing her whole self and that included her relationship with her body. And finally how mindfulness and facilitate can reconnect you to your body and heart Resources: Jillians website - jillianredrow.com Follow Jillian on Instagram The freephone UK, 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline 0808 2000 247 Womens Aid - https://www.womensaid.org.uk Holly Whitaker - https://www.quitlikeawoman.com Laura Mcowen - https://www.lauramckowen.com Home Podcast https://soundcloud.com/thisishomepod/ Hungry for happiness - Samantha Skelly

Welcome to part 2 - where my guest is Nasreen El-Mariesh. Naz is an Empowerment + relationship Coach: helping professional women fall back in love with their life and their relationship - Her unique style of transformational coaching,  helps women to change their belief systems, connect with their heart and and take the starring role in their life. She's also the Co-Founder of Tonic Retreats and Events Director at Wellbeing by The Lakes - an annual boutique wellness festival in Dorset. We talk about reaching that point in life when your body/mind is screaming at you to do something different. When you accept that you need to make changes in your relationship, job or life. I share my own experience of therapy and getting help when I most needed it. Naz talks about how transformational coaching can empower you to listen to your heart and do what's right for you whether that's to stay in the relationship and to find happiness AND to get your needs met, to leave knowing your worth and to be a peace with your decision and how to navigate co parenting with compassion and confidence. We talk about: How when making a decision feels impossible - don't make it until you feel like you're making it from a solid place. The transformational power of coaching and how it can really help you in all areas of life. A simple but powerful exercise to get a visceral yes or no in the body. If one person in a relationship is unhappy - it's likely that they both are. That by one person in the relationship doing the work - you can both benefit. Esther Perel describes that in a relationship, you are in a constant evolution and that you go through many versions of yourself over the years. That the growth is in the discomfort and as we step out of the shadows and into our truth - that's where the magic happens. The joy of skinny dipping, Qoya and breathwork, cold water swimming and how a daily practice however short is so valouable. Finally Naz shares a powerful meditation exercise for getting clarity. Website: https://www.nasreenel-mariesh.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/secrettolovinglife

This week’s guest is Nasreen El-Mariesh. Naz is one of those friends who will lift you up, inspire and remind you of your limitless potential - she's an Empowerment + relationship Coach: helping professional women fall back in love with their life and their relationship - but really she can coach anyone on anything.  She's one of a kind. She's also the Co-Founder of Tonic Retreats and Events Director at Wellbeing by The Lakes - an annual boutique wellness festival in Dorset Naz and I met originally, when she was working in PR, Marketing and Events and I was working in another job in a familiar pattern - frustrated and being called to speak up and recognise my worth! She shares how she got into coaching and was invited to learn with Jayne Jewell, a renowned Tony Robbins Platinum and master trainer. And how coaching transformed her own life and how she's passion about sharing the ways of how we can do the same. We talk about: Growing up in Dubai and her parents separating How a family tragedy shaped her life irreversibly How she rescued her dad from China - and how supported you are when you let go and trust The connection to our parents/caregivers and how that relationship often shapes what you choose in a romantic partner About her relationship: how taking ownership for her part, releasing control, the never-ending list of hoops to jump - they went from THAT couple  (constantly bickering) to THAT couple, that people admire and come to for relationship advice! And they recently got engaged! You can't go back into the darkness when you've seen the light. The difference between coaching and therapy. How we tell ourselves such stories and how coaching is about undoing them Your heart is the compass, which you use to make the decision and your brain is the tool that you use to get you there. Website: https://www.nasreenel-mariesh.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/secrettolovinglife

Donna Lancaster is a coach and therapist with over 25 years of experience working individuals, couples and groups and she's co founder and a facilitator of The Bridge Retreat - a six day personal development experience offering life transformation through deep healing. She’s passionate about the subject of grief and the grieving process which she believes offers the missing link for many, in our search for wholeness. This interest stemmed from her own personal experience of ‘depression’ which she suffered from for many years and later recognised as unprocessed grief. She talks about going through life - like so many of us -as a ‘warrior woman’ with a focus on strength, tenacity, and being ‘indestructible’! And how her body literally shutdown, forcing her to re-evaluate life and explore new ways of being. Donna suports people ‘to return to the truth of who they are’. “Through allowing and supporting the natural order of the grieving process to flow, people find themselves remembering who they really are and living from this true place. When there is ‘unfinished business’ in our lives, it is very hard to move on and engage with life fully. Grieving allows us to cross the bridge from past hurts and sorrow into a place of lightness and joy.” We talk about: How healing is a return to wholeness How she worked as a child protection social worker for many years How carrying on warrior style may keep you feeling safe in the short term, but it's not sustainable The physical manifestations of mental pain can be ME, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia.. The deeper you go in healing, the more joy you can access That mental health is still shrouded in shame, but it's changing and we can all be a part of the change That to move forward - we have to deal with the painful parts of our past  How important space is to do the grief/ soul/inner work. Her upcoming first book The Bridge, a practical, supportive, seven-step programme empowering you with the tools needed to gain clarity and learn how to release the pain, fear and anger keeping you trapped and  move towards whole-hearted living. The Bridge retreat - thebridgeretreat.com The Love(d) documentary - https://www.loveddocumentary.com Find Donna on instagram @donnalancs

This week I’m talking to Lili Petit, an inspiring intuitive home organiser and breathwork healer, based in LA. Lili and I met a couple of years ago online as I loved seeing her epic organising for clients and her beautiful aesthetic - but more than that, I loved how she worked with her clients to understand and heal more than their spaces. Lili matches expert organisation with intuitive energetic cleansing to evaluate, coordinate and completely rejuvenate a home. Trained in a series of respected and time-honoured traditions,She works one-on-one with clients to identify and uncover emotional attachments to their possessions and takes them on a gentle path toward releasing and removing them from the home. Leaving spaces clean and clients feeling relaxed, energised and inspired to begin a new lighter way of living. We share our love of organising and talk about how this was a valuable coping mechanism, growing up. We talk all things energy, the connection between making space in your home and the process of healing ourselves. If you’d like to tackle you home or spaces - check out amazing online her course, Sacred space - held over 8 weeks you’ll get to the root of your clutter and where it all began, so that when things feel unmanageable, you’ll know how to reset You’ll learn expert tricks of the trade on how to organise your things Plus the tools to keep yourself accountable, emotionally stable and grounded through the process.  You’ll find her at clutterhealing.com and join instagram as @clutterhealing We talk about: Her 12 year career as a fashion stylist Her love of organising and how it helped her navigate and feel safer as a child How 12 step program led her to discover meditation then to breathwork We are put on the planet to help each other and to connect How moving physical energy and emotional energy is connected How organising our homes is a pathway to healing Emotional attachment and how to let go of things Everything you purchase has an energetic weight Sacred Space an 8 week journey tom physical and emotional freedom How she became an expert mover and learnt to create supportive and nurturing spaces How do you want your house to feel?

This week, I’m talking to Keri Bainborough, Human design expert and manifesting generator based in Cape Town, SA. You’ve probably heard of Human design - but if you haven’t - this conversation will give you a great insight! Human design brings together the principles of The I Ching, astrology, Kabbalah, the Hindu-Brahmin chakra system, and quantum physics. Your Human Design Chart, also called a BodyGraph, is calculated using your birth date, time, and place, to reveal your genetic design.In short, its a system that explains how you were built, and how to best respond to the world. Keri has worked with hundreds of clients all around the world to help them live in alignment with their unique Human Design and energetic gifts. She has a gift for being able to structure complex conceptions into layman’s terms makes her popular with clients of all ages and backgrounds. She also a passionate social and environmental activist My reading with her was really illuminating as a generator I love starting things and should wait until I get that pelvic energy stirring before I commit to things like creative endeavours.. I also get tired and burnt out if I don’t conserve energy as the generators internal motor can keep running if you don’t take time out. Sound familiar?! We talk about: The different HD types and how society is made up of the different types Focus on Manifesting Generators and generators Intuitive eating Listening to your intuition and recognising your calls to action Your gifts and challenges Relationships Managing your energy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keribainborough/ Website: https://keribainborough.com To book a reading - email Keri at: [email protected] CLICK HERE to find out your Human design type and basics CLICK HERE TO LEAVE A REVIEW to show some love, leave some stars! Thank you so much!

Welcome to episode 9 This week I’m taking to Jame Wythe, aka @HealthylivingJames His story is pretty extraordinary. 10 years ago he fell seriously ill, out of the blue and was admitted to hospital with a suspected brain tumour. He was eventually diagnosed ME  - also known as chronic fatigue syndrome. This left him bed bound for the next two years an unable to leave his house for the next 4 years. He shares the devastation of life being indefinitely on pause, in your twenties, without any hope of a cure. James talks about how he started to explore food as medicine and how as he changed his diet his health dramatically improved. James’ story is so inspiring. From not knowing how to cook, he has become a self confessed foodie, a fully qualified Health Coach and hugely successful food blogger - inspiring millions of people around the world to create quick, healthy and easy recipes. All of which are gluten-free, dairy-free, egg-free and mostly plant-based! If you’ve heard of ME or chronic fatigue, or know someone who has it, or has been recently diagnosed with it, this episode is such a valuable insight. It’s also a story about courage and tenacity and how your biggest challenge can become your biggest opportunity for transformation. Find James on Instagram @HealthylivingJames or at his website  Healthylivingjames.co.uk Find me on insta: @_ellieloves or at ellieloves.com ** Please share the love by leaving a review and rating at Applepodcasts // Click here // Your support means the world and helps me share the magic further and wider**

So Welcome to episode 8! This week I’m excited to share a conversation about the power of plant medicine with Marta Wanderlust, space holder, spiritual mentor, Yoga teacher and a Breathwork facilitator. I’ve long been intrigued by ayahuasca, listening to friends, watching documentaries wondering if the opportunity arose if I’d feel called to try it. Ayahuasca’s appeal has become widespread over the last 10 -15 years and now you don’t have to travel to source to experience it - you can find ceremonies in your neighbourhood, in apartments in London and New York but you also hear a lot of negative stories of people feeling blown open, even traumatised and questioning their desire to try it in the first place. Marta shares her experiences living in the Amazon jungle and the High Andes, working with the Shipibo people and plant medicine, and being immersed in community. She brings rich context the power of plant medicine, its history, its place in amazonian shamanism and how the importance of being held in a safe container with experienced practitioners, either directly or directly from the communities - with which it holds its roots. Its a fascinating conversation about healing, self awareness, and Marta has such reverence and respect for the medicine. I’m still not sure if its for me - but I definitely feel I can make an informed decision and understand the care necessary in the preparation before and the integration afterwards! Marta also opens up about her own journey and how plant medicine has help her heal from trauma and addiction - and how it has helped her to guide others on the healing path. Enjoy! Find Marta on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martawanderlustyoga/ And at her website: https://www.martawanderlust.com