The School of Ownership with Danielle Gertner

The Dark Side of Your Light | The School of Ownership Ep. 05Your shadow might be the cheat code to the life you keep dreaming about.The part of yourself you’ve locked away.The one you’re convinced would make people stop loving you if they ever found out.The jealousy. The insecurity. The need for validation. The part that wants to be seen but is terrified of being known.In this episode, we’re exploring the shadow, and why recognizing, embracing, and welcoming those parts of yourself is one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself.Because the things you’re most proud of can have a shadow underneath them. And admitting that doesn’t make the light less real.You can love empowering women and still crave their approval.Be independent and desperately want someone to choose you.Be generous and want recognition.I’m getting honest about my own contradictions, including how deeply I love creating belonging for women, and how much of my life I’ve spent feeling like I didn’t belong with them.Sometimes, the things we’re most passionate about exist because somewhere underneath them lives a wound. And growth doesn’t always mean that wound stops speaking.You just remember that **both can be true.**Being an integrated human means making room for the parts of yourself that don’t fit the image you think you need to share with the world.Having a shadow doesn’t make you bad or wrong. Pretending it isn’t there is what gets dangerous.It takes a lot of energy to keep those parts hidden. And even then, they find ways to show up—in your relationships, your decisions, and the opportunities you talk yourself out of pursuing.We talk about:- What the shadow is, why we lock it away, and what happens when we do- How our gifts and passions can be connected to wounds and unmet needs- Why mixed motives don’t invalidate the good we bring into the world- How unacknowledged shadows show up as projection, jealousy, resentment, judgment, and self-sabotage- What our triggers can teach us about the parts of ourselves we’ve rejected- How meeting your shadow with honesty and compassion gives you more choice in how you show upYou don’t have to lock your shadow in a room. You can take its hand, listen to what it has to teach you, and learn to walk beside it.That’s the cheat code: **being willing to know yourself beyond the parts you’re proud to show.**If this episode hits, I’d love to hear from you.Leave a review, share it with someone who’s standing at their own start line, or send me a message and tell me what you’re choosing to begin.It goes a long way in helping this message reach more people.**Let’s Stay Connected!**Instagram: @daniellegertnerWebsite: daniellegertner.comWiggle Wednesday Newsletter: https://ownership-coach.mykajabi.com/danielle-newsletter

Meet Me at the Start Line | The School of Ownership Ep. 04You don’t need confidence to start. You need self-trust, self-belief, and faith that you can figure it out along the way.After leading thousands of athletes across HYROX start lines, I’ve witnessed how rarely everything goes according to plan and how much we discover about ourselves when we keep going anyway.In Episode 4, we explore confidence as a byproduct of starting: the evidence you build every time you take a step into the unknown, adapt when things change, and follow through for yourself.In this episode:Why confidence comes from taking actionThe difference between trusting yourself and trusting your planStaying flexible when things don’t go your wayBuilding self-trust through everyday practiceWhere are you waiting to feel confident before you begin?Meet me at the start line.🎙️ THE SCHOOL OF OWNERSHIPWatch here on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts + Spotify.New episodes every other Wednesday.Hosted by keynote speaker, emcee, and community builder Danielle Gertner.Because this isn’t just about learning about ownership.It’s about living it.LET’S STAY CONNECTEDInstagram: @daniellegertnerTikTok: @daniellegertnerPodcast: @theschoolofownershippodcastNewsletter → https://ownership-coach.mykajabi.com/danielle-newsletter

You Are More Than Who You Were | The School of Ownership Ep. 03There’s a version of you you’re trying to become.But you can’t fully step into her while you’re still tethered to who you used to be.In Episode 3 of The School of Ownership, Danielle explores the work of making amends—with other people, with your past, and with yourself.Making amends asks you to take responsibility for your past choices, patterns, and identities. It also asks you to release the belief that they must define you forever.Because you are responsible for who you’ve been.And you are still allowed to become someone new.In this episode:• What it actually means to make amends beyond simply saying sorry• The difference between taking responsibility and living in shame• How staying tethered to your past can keep you stuck• Why letting go doesn’t require abandoning who you were• How people, patterns, and old identities become sources of life force energy• Why owning your shit is a lifelong practice• What it looks like to try on new beliefs and identities as you evolveYour identity is not permanent.You’re allowed to try on a new version of yourself, discover that she doesn’t fit, and choose again.Every new version of your life will ask you to meet yourself again. The work is learning how to take responsibility for what came before without allowing it to dictate what comes next.Because you are more than who you were.If this episode hits, send it to someone who may be ready to release an old version of themselves.And if you’re loving The School of Ownership, subscribe and leave a review. It helps more people step out of autopilot and into ownership. THE SCHOOL OF OWNERSHIPWatch here on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts + Spotify.New episodes every other Wednesday.Hosted by keynote speaker, emcee, and community builder Danielle Gertner.Because this isn’t just about learning about ownership.It’s about living it.LET’S STAY CONNECTEDInstagram: @daniellegertnerTikTok: @daniellegertnerPodcast: @theschoolofownershippodcastNewsletter → ownership-coach.mykajabi.com/danielle-newsletter

The Stories You Mistake for Truth | The School of Ownership Ep. 02We don’t see the world as it is. We see it as we are.Every day, we’re creating stories about who we are, what’s possible, what other people mean, and why things happen the way they do.The problem? We often mistake those stories for the truth.In Episode 2 of The School of Ownership, Danielle breaks down how the stories you tell yourself shape the way you experience your life — and how quickly those stories can begin running on autopilot.We explore how your experiences, beliefs, and internal filters influence what you see, the meaning you make from it, and the choices that follow.In this episode:• How unconscious stories shape your decisions and emotions• Why your past experiences influence your present perception• How your mind fills in the gaps and creates meaning• The stories that keep you repeating the same patterns• How to interrupt reactive storytelling• What it means to become the conscious author of your lifeThe goal isn’t to replace one story with a prettier one.It’s to become aware of the story you’re already living inside so you can decide whether you still want to live there.Because when you realize the story isn’t necessarily the truth, you give yourself the power to rewrite it.If this episode hits, send it to someone who might be ready to rewrite a story of their own.And if you’re loving The School of Ownership, subscribe and leave a review. It helps more people step out of autopilot and into ownership. THE SCHOOL OF OWNERSHIPWatch here on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts + Spotify.New episodes every other Wednesday.Hosted by keynote speaker, emcee, and community builder Danielle Gertner.Because this isn’t just about learning about ownership.It’s about living it.LET’S STAY CONNECTEDInstagram: @daniellegertnerTikTok: @daniellegertnerPodcast: @theschoolofownershippodcastNewsletter → https://ownership-coach.mykajabi.com/danielle-newsletter

The Skill That Interrupts Autopilot | The School of Ownership Ep. 01Discernment isn’t just a word. It’s a skill and it might be the missing piece between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.In Episode 1 of Season 3 of The School of Ownership, I break down what discernment actually is, why it’s essential for self-trust and self-leadership, and how it helps us interrupt the patterns that keep us living on autopilot.Because you don’t create a new life by doing more.You create it by choosing differently.And that requires the ability to pause long enough to ask:Is this aligned with the version of me I say I want to be?In this episode, we talk about:• What discernment actually means (and why most people skip it)• The difference between reacting and consciously responding• How to interrupt old patterns in real time• Why growth requires you to think, choose, and show up differently• The role discernment plays in self-trust and self-leadershipIf you’ve been feeling stuck in the same cycle or wondering why you keep making choices you know aren't aligned with who you want to become, this episode is for you.This is where you stop outsourcing your power and start owning your choices.🎙️ THE SCHOOL OF OWNERSHIPWatch here on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts + Spotify.New episodes every other Wednesday.Hosted by keynote speaker, emcee, and community builder Danielle Gertner.Because this isn’t just about learning about ownership.It’s about living it.LET’S STAY CONNECTEDInstagram: @daniellegertnerTikTok: @daniellegertnerPodcast: @theschoolofownershippodcastNewsletter → https://ownership-coach.mykajabi.com/danielle-newsletter

In today’s episode, my mission is to end the shame cycle of being the one who gets more hurt at the end of a relationship.What if we allowed ourselves to wear our pain and hurt as proud representations of our ability to feel deeply and share love?This episode is for you if you want to learn or be reminded of how to… Navigate your humanness through pain Overcome the story of being the “weak” “hurt” one when a relationship ends Release the fear of judgment from yourself and others Allow yourself to be vulnerable through your heartbreak Meet yourself in unconditional love through your pain Turn your pain into purpose and your hurt into healingThis episode is a tribute to all those who have been broken up with, cheated on, or have been the one to initiate the breaking up but feel regret or grief after.This episode is a celebration of those who are brave enough to be vulnerable and to share their heart to the world, even when it feels like it’s broken.Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence.Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

Growing up, I didn’t have a lot of *real* female friendships. For me, women were nice to have around but at a safe distance because I was raised to believe there could only be one alpha female and it damn sure was going to be me. And then I moved to Austin and found myself thrown into more feminine energy, female friendships and sisterhood circles than ever before. It has been beautiful, overwhelming, powerful and expansive on so many levels and I feel so grateful to have the opportunity to open myself to a side of life that I always pushed away from. In this very special episode, I brought together 3 of my favorite girlfriends in Austin to talk about all things embodied femininity, true sisterhood, sex, building deep friendships and owning our power as women - both individually and collectively. We talk about the real, the raw and the necessary. Huge shout out to my incredible guests - Process and Mindset Architect Ellen B. Tsai, former pro volleyball player Becky Perry and Pleasure Coach Lauren Schaeffer for sharing their hearts (and their sass) with me and this community. In this episode we chat about… ✨ How we can connect more deeply with other women ✨ Being in integrity with your womanhood ✨ Taking personal responsibility for your pleasure ✨ How you can support the women in your life more fully ✨ How we move from competing to celebrating each other ✨ How female friendships can amplify your feminine power This episode is heartfelt, funny and a must-listen so get your headphones in, go on a walk and enjoy the beautiful sisterhood that unfolds. ******** Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence. Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

Right before every trip I have taken to Costa Rica in the last year, a book has found me before I left. It is never a book I go looking for but one that seems to find its way to me and without question, I read it. First it was The Monk who Sold His Ferrari, then it was the Celestine Prophecy and this trip it has been The Way of the Peaceful Warrior. As it usually goes in life, if we open our eyes to the synchronicities that exist all around us, every book has aligned perfectly with what was happening around me and has acted as a guide and a teacher to navigate my humanness. The Way of the Peaceful Warrior could not have come to me at a more perfect time. The book’s general theme: Responding vs Reacting to life (one of many, many powerful lessons awaiting you in the pages) was the inspiration for today’s episode. My most recent Own Your Shit retreat in Costa Rica was far from what I imagined it would be. As hard as it was, it gave me one of the greatest gifts I could ever ask for (as it also usually goes in life, if we choose to see it that way): Choose to react and lose myself or choose to respond and find myself. And so I chose to respond and the results of that choice will have ripple effects for the rest of my life. Listen to today’s episode if… 🤷🏻‍♀️ You have historically let your emotions control you and your decisions and you are ready to change it 🤷🏻‍♀️ You want to learn how to stay grounded when shit seems like it’s hitting the fan around you 🤷🏻‍♀️ You want to experience the unparalleled freedom that comes from not letting your automatic behaviors and responses rule your life There is so much power in choosing to take the space to consciously respond to life. I hope this episode inspires you to own that power of choice and choose your highest self Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

In this episode Danielle sits down with Life Experimenter, Podcast host and Sober Curious coach, Alex Zauner to chat about so much more than just exploring a sober lifestyle. Beneath the concept of being sober curious is the idea of being life curious, rewriting your story and taking your power back. This episode is for anyone who is… ✨ Curious about sober living ✨ Needs to be reminded that their past does not have to define their future ✨ Ready to get curious about who they were before “the world put their hands on them” Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence. Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

In this car episode, Danielle talks about the human experience and all of the levels we go through. Danielle talks about early morning conversations while running with friends, and the beautiful themes that can arise there — like the levels of the game of life. Danielle notes that while we didn’t create this game, we are players and we get to choose how we show up every day. Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence. Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].