Authentic Self v Adaptive Self; which is better? Ep 86

Most people dream too small. They set safe, achievable goals because they’re afraid to fail. But here’s the thing: the only way to create the life you truly want is to dream so big it scares you. It's the final week of The Playbook Challenge and today we're talking how to dream big, visualize your ideal life and develop the mindset to make it happen in 2025. This is your four-part series designed to set you up for success in 2025. Big dreams fuel motivation and give life purpose. When you allow yourself to dream beyond what feels possible, you tap into creativity, resilience, and potential you didn’t know you had.According to a study by Dr. Gail Matthews, people who vividly describe their goals are 1.4 times more likely to achieve them than those who don’t. Visualization works. And I share why you need an abundant mindset to make your dreams come true. It's the belief that there’s enough success, resources and opportunities for everyone. It shifts your focus from scarcity (“I can’t”) to possibility (“I can”). If you’ve been following along with The Playbook Challenge, I’d love to hear what you've loved & learnt. Drop a comment below and let me know your biggest takeaway from this series. And if you found this helpful, don’t forget to like, subscribe and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Let’s make 2025 what you really want to be! Powered by DiD Media.

Here’s the truth.... Big changes don’t come from big actions. They come from the small, consistent things you do every day. It’s called the power of marginal gains and whilst that might sound a whole lot less exciting, it’s a game-changer if you want to achieve your goals this year. Marginal gains come from making small, incremental improvements in various areas of your life. While each change might seem insignificant on its own, the compound effect is what gives you the big changes you're looking for. All you need to do is choose one area you want to improve and pick a habit that aligns with your values and goals. Now set a tiny goal - make it the smallest actionable step you can make it. Track your progress whether that's on an app or in a journal. And celebrate your wins because the goal is consistency not perfection. Studies show that about 40% of our daily actions are driven by habits, not conscious decisions. This could be your missing piece of the puzzle and why you haven't achieved your goals in the past. So shall we change that? Let the class begin. Powered by DiD Media.

Most people talk about values, but few actually live by them. Think about it—how many times have you written down a value like ‘honesty’ or ‘kindness,’ only to make decisions that don’t align with it? If that hit a nerve, then this week's challenge might be for you. Today, we’re not just talking about values; we’re diving into how to define, live, and make decisions based on them. By the end, you’ll know how to use your values as a compass to set powerful intentions for 2025. Your values are the foundation of who you are and how you navigate the world. They’re not just words on a page; they’re the principles that guide your actions and decisions. They help you stay grounded during tough decisions. They bring clarity when life feels overwhelming. They ensure you’re living authentically, not just reacting to external pressure When you define them and live by them, decision-making becomes clearer and life feels more aligned. This week, take the time to uncover what truly matters to you and set intentions that honor those values. Are you ready for challenge no.2? Let the class begin. Powered by DiD Media.

Let's ditch the new year, new me narrative. And instead let me take you through the tools you need to not just start your year strong but to really set yourself up for success, whatever that means to you. In episode 1, I'm sharing why the words you speak to yourself will always be the most important words you'll ever speak. And if you're being nonchalant about this, it's going to stop you achieving what you really want this year. The key points? Identify your most unhelpful story and change it. Go easy on yourself and stop trying to eliminate the negative thoughts, just learn the tools to navigate it. And stay tuned until the end where I'm sharing this week's challenge so you can re-write your story and achieve the goals you've created this year. It's time to step into a more confident and resilient version of you. Let me know how you get on this week. Powered by DiD Media.

In this episode, we’re switching things up and Louis takes the driving seat as today's podcast host. Together, we break down the concept of "marriage meetings," diving into why we started doing them, what we include in our meetings, and how they’ve helped us stay connected. Whether it’s discussing goals, checking in on each other’s feelings, or making plans for the future, these meetings have become a key part of how we navigate life as a team. We also share practical tips on how to start your own meetings whether that's family ones or relationships ones and share insights from friends who do this too. If you’re curious about a simple but effective way to stay on the same page with your partner, this episode has you covered.

In today's episode we're taking a deep dive into how we communicate, love and fight. You've heard us talk about the differences in our styles on social media but you'll hear how this plays out in our day to day life and the lessons we've learnt along the way. And yes we're getting real about how we fight too. It’s an open conversation about how we've learned to understand each other better, even when we don’t always speak the same language (literally!). We share our dynamics that shape our relationship, sharing both the moments we love and the ones that'll make you cringe. If you’ve wondered how to navigate the ups and downs of communicating in a relationship, this episode will give you a few insights—or at least make you feel like you’re not alone on the journey.

In this episode, Louis Q is back for part 2. We’re sharing the story of how we met (spoiler: no dating apps were involved) and reflecting on some of the healing we both had to do before we had even met. For me it was working through trust issues and for Louis this centred around processing loss. It’s an honest conversation about how those experiences shaped our relationship from the start and how we lean into hard conversation in our relationship today. We also take a look at some of the dating challenges in today’s world, offering our perspective on what it's like to navigate love in 2024. Whether you’re navigating love, loss, or dating apps, this episode is about growth, connection, and how we’ve navigated our journey together, not just the good.

Welcome back to a brand-new season of the podcast! We're kicking off this season with a very special episode, and I couldn’t be more excited (maybe a little nervous). This time, I’m joined by none other than my husband, Mr. Quaye, making his first-ever appearance on the podcast. To celebrate our one-year wedding anniversary, we’re sitting down for a candid chat about our journey together. In this season, we’re reflecting on the highs, the challenges, and everything in between from our first year of marriage. From the whirlwind of wedding planning to the small and big lessons we’ve learned, this conversation is a look into how we’ve navigated life as newlyweds. Join us as we celebrate love, growth, and the adventure that has been our first 12 months as husband and wife.

Does anyone ever really talk about how hard friendships can be? And why losing them can feel just as hard as a romantic break-up? In today's episode, Amira shares how to navigate and communicate through your changing friendships, why every friendship isn't for life and when your expectations might be misaligned. We tend to have rigid pre-conceived ideas of what friendships should look like but maybe it's time to break these myths so you can build healthy connections that light you up. Amira shares her experience with her friendships and why she's focusing on nurturing hers this year. Grab your headphones and join us for an insightful and relatable conversation that might change how you view the friendships in your life. Click the link in the bio and listen to your go-to podcast for valuable insights on communication and relationships.

In honour of International Women's Day earlier this month, how to show up confidently at work and speak up professionally, Amira's bringing you a medley of topics to equip you with the conversational skills you need. Think of this as your 101 work survival guide. She takes you on a deep dive through imposter syndrome and reminds you why it might not be the worst thing that's happened to you. And if you're not just struggling with self-doubt but you're wanting to ask for that pay rise, disagree with your boss professionally and walk into a hard conversation with the tools to do just that, Amira's going to be sharing her secrets to help you do exactly that. Click the link below to sign up for The Communication Expert’s newsletter where you can join us for weekly conversations, be the first to hear the latest updates & receive tips to level up your relationships to keep growing: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60b89a03c06f963776d906ef