Never Would Have Guessed

Bethany Fray and Charissa Brim

Join us as we dive into the things others never would have guessed about sexual trauma.

10 Episodes

A Conversation on Purity Culture with Sheila Gregoire
7/13/2023
56:22
Charissa and Bethany talk with author, Sheila Gregoire, about her latest book, She Deserves Better. Learn more about Sheila at BareMarriage.com and follow her on Instagram @sheilagregoire and Twitter @sheilagregoire.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.com
Episode 9: How to know when it's time to take a break
11/22/2022
52:21
It's good and important to process our experiences, but no one can stay in the hard parts of their story forever. In this season finale we talk about 3 signs it's time to take a break, and what that can actually look like.Let's stay connected after the season! Bethany has some exciting things coming up in the new yearCharissa has a bundle of Audio Affirmations for the holidays, available to download later this week. Find out more about these offers and other resources we’ve been brainstorming as they become available -- sign up at charissabrim.com/tellmemore and bethanyfray.com. Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.com
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Episode 8: The things we don't say out loud
11/15/2022
59:10
There’s so much we don’t say about our experiences as survivors. This is where shame incubates, which can keep us trapped in our trauma responses. In today’s episode, we confess the things we don’t say out loud that leave us feeling so alone.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.com
Episode 7: What no one told me: sex after trauma
11/8/2022
48:50
It’s no surprise; sexual trauma impacts our sexuality. But sometimes this looks different than we may expect. Today we dish about how our different traumas impacted our sexuality, what feels tricky now, and what we’re doing to make sense of it all. Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.com
Episode 6: Healing also looks like...
10/25/2022
1:03:41
The path to healing is a lot wider than we perceive it to be. Bethany & Charissa share their experiences with therapy, surprising things that healed them, and healing lifestyles they embrace. What does healing look like for you? Call and tell us at (504)517-5966.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.comTo support the podcast, visit patreon.com/neverwouldhaveguessedpodcast
Episode 5: How trauma impacts your relationships
10/18/2022
49:05
Trauma doesn't just impact you, it impacts your relationships with friends and family, too. Why does this happen, and how can we hold the tension of trauma in relationship today? Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.comTo support the podcast, visit patreon.com/neverwouldhaveguessedpodcastShow Notes: Link to the trauma and relationship arch below https://i.postimg.cc/QMLH4tcv/The-Arch.png
Episode 4: Purity culture and trauma...help! Pt 2
10/11/2022
24:35
How does purity culture and trauma impact our present-day spirituality? Interestingly, the answer to that question reveals a lot about the embodiment of our sexuality too.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.comTo support the podcast, visit patreon.com/neverwouldhaveguessedpodcastResources:Here are a few others speaking on the topic of purity culture:Dr. Camden Morgante (@drcamden)Sheila Gregeoire (@sheilagregoire)Where Do We Go Podcast (@wheredowegopod)Sarah of @DesconstructingPurityCultureDr. Laura Anderson (@drlauraeanderson)
Episode 3: Purity culture and trauma...help! Pt 1
10/4/2022
38:06
What did ‘Purity Culture’ actually teach us, and why does it matter? Taking a closer look at its teachings can impact our understanding of our sexuality and the trauma we experienced.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.comTo support the podcast, visit patreon.com/neverwouldhaveguessedpodcastShow Notes:@sheilagregoire on Instagram
Episode 2: What our assumptions about consent are really saying
9/26/2022
46:27
What are your assumptions about consent? Naming these internalized beliefs can impact our understanding of consent. From the phrase “no means no” to power dynamics and people pleasing, flipping these scripts can help us cultivate self-compassion and a legacy of empowerment.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.comTo support the podcast, visit patreon.com/neverwouldhaveguessedpodcast
Episode 1: How trauma stereotypes are affecting you
9/16/2022
40:50
What’s behind the name "Never Would Have Guessed”? The story of how we met exposes the stigmas and negative assumptions we can carry about survivors of sexual trauma. We believe naming and confronting these stigmas can play a huge role in our healing.Follow us on Instagram @bethany_fray and @charissabrim and online at neverwouldhaveguessed.comTo support the podcast, visit patreon.com/neverwouldhaveguessedpodcast

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Never Would Have Guessed

Bethany Fray and Charissa Brim

10 Episodes

A Conversation on Purity Culture with Sheila Gregoire

Episode 9: How to know when it's time to take a break

Episode 8: The things we don't say out loud

Episode 7: What no one told me: sex after trauma

Episode 6: Healing also looks like...

Episode 5: How trauma impacts your relationships

Episode 4: Purity culture and trauma...help! Pt 2

Episode 3: Purity culture and trauma...help! Pt 1

Episode 2: What our assumptions about consent are really saying

Episode 1: How trauma stereotypes are affecting you