More than a Single Mom

Sometimes break ups shake you to the core. They deplete your energy, make you question yourself and feel debilitating. Heartbreak is grief. These past few weeks have been a wake up call… A reminder I put my worth in someone else’s hands. I forgot who I was until I saw something today. I wanted to share it in case others are feeling lost. Even when working so hard to love themselves. With only 2 days left in 2021 I think this might be the wake up call we all need. ❤️ Please find me on Instagram @dreafecht and send me a DM. I want to know who you are and what you’re feeling about yourself.

Hey everyone! I was super excited when Case agreed to come on the podcast. I've been following him for a while. He has a super cool podcast called, New mindset who dis, which contains great bites of wisdom on mindfulness, dating and relationships. Case has also authored a series of workbooks designed to take people through the process of self-introspection and that's why I wanted to bring him on the podcast. I have his journal, Single is your Superpower, and I was really amazed at how helpful it was. Often we go through the motions of life and don’t take the time to really know ourselves. What we really dig into is how becoming mindful and more self aware is the biggest step in living a life without regrets. More on Case: Case Kenny is the Chicago-based writer, podcaster and recording artist behind The New Mindset Journal. Case (@case.kenny) refers to himself as a "dudebroguy" because as he says he isn't "any more enlightened than the average person" but what he does have is a "hunger and drive to become the best person" he can. It was that drive and passion for growth that inspired him to start the New Mindset, Who Dis podcast in the summer of 2018. Almost two years later, 8 million downloads and honors as an Apple Podcast top 30 podcast, Top 100 Mental Health, iHeart Radio Top 10, Deezer Editor's Choice and many more accolades, Case has made a name for himself as a prominent podcaster and mindfulness thought leader. Want the cliff notes of what we covered? Why Case started his podcast Where he gets his brilliant ideas for instagram Why being single is not a negative thing Why you shouldn’t buy into other’s perspectives Why “the wrong way to think about things is to believe there is a right way.” Why we shouldn’t villianzie people just because they fulfill our agenda The importance of asking why until you can’t “why” yourself anymore How we confuse honesty with the truth. Wanna follow Case? Instagram: @casekenny Website: https://newmindsetwhodis.com/ Wanna follow Drea? Instagram: @dreafecht Website: https://dreafecht.com/

And by “it” I mean “it” in other words: This is definitely a sensitive topic so don’t let the littles listen in. My amazing, brilliant, beautiful, friend and guest, Janna Denton-Howes is a Desire Coach for married women who want to want sex but just don’t. As someone who personally struggled with low libido for years, she understands the frustration of feeling like sex is just another chore on a very long to-do list. Now Janna empowers women to design experiences that feel nourishing, relaxing, and intimate through her program, Wanting it More, which has helped over 1000 women reconnect with their husbands again. Janna and I uncover (no pun intended) more than just sex. What you’ll find in this episode is that loving ourselves and respecting ourselves completely is the key to happiness and yes, even pleasure. Where to find and follow Janna: Instagram: @jannadentonhowes Website: https://jannadentonhowes.com/ Where to find drea: Instagram: @dreafecht Website/join email list: https://dreafecht.com/podcast

Divorce is hard. Leaving toxic relationships is hard. Rebuilding your life is hard. So how do you do it? Truth is when you take the time to really know and love who you are. You’ll find the strength to accomplish anything and live an amazing life. That’s why I brought Ashley Lane Adams on the podcast today. Ashley Lane is a coach who helps single moms drop the struggle and fall in love with themselves… which I know from experience is easier said than done. After traversing two back-to-back emotionally unhealthy relationships and finding herself divorced with two small children at age 40, Ashley Lane Adams took a deep dive into personal and spiritual development. Compiling all the tools that she learned on her journey through counseling, coaching, masterminds, emotional intelligence training, and learning coaching skills, Ashley empowers divorced women and single moms to let go of guilt, shame, and regret and step into their power, passion, and a life that they love! In today’s episode we discuss: Ashley Lane’s personal story How she left a toxic relationship How becoming more self-aware leads to happiness and healing What she did to heal. What she did to help find herself How she handles co-parenting with grace Why learning to forgive yourself is vital Taking responsibility for your life and happiness Her approach to dating Mentioned in this show: Follow Ashley Lane on: Instagram Website Podcast 6 weeks reclaim your identity challenge

Ohhh momma this one is for everyone. And it’s a pretty big deal because this is the first male I have interviewed on this podcast. So why bring a dude in our lady space? Perspective. Joe Romano has been a close friend of mine for several years. He’s a good dude. And like any of us… not perfect. When I met him he was in a dark place post-divorce and I was on the verge of leaving my husband. And since we’ve seen each other go through a lot and supported each other - I wanted him to share his story. P.S. This interview wasn’t pre-planned at all. Joe and I decided to have this conversation very last minute. We discuss so much but here’s a breakdown: Joe’s divorce story. His darkest times. His attachment style and why learning it has helped him to heal. Why he stayed in a toxic relationship for so long. Kiddos come first. Parenting as a single parent. Introducing kids to your new partner. How he’s found a great partner and the challenges they’ve overcome. His favorite relationship books. How you should go with your gut when it comes to relationships. Why we stay in stuck in the same relationship patterns. How it feels to be with a partner with a secure attachment style. Wanna hear more from Joe? He’s got an inspiring Instagram feed with positive messages, recipes, and health advice:  https://www.instagram.com/romano Books talked about: Attached 5 Love languages Getting the love you want

Oh Momma! Today I interviewed Maya Diamond, licensed therapist and expert on Attachment theory. Maya is an expert Dating and Relationship Coach who is known for helping women and men finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships. Maya believes that having a great relationship positively impacts all areas of your life, and that by following her simple process for calling in the partner you really want, you can have more success and abundance in your career, finances, social life, spiritual development, or anything else that is important to you. Maya is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) and holds a Master’s Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. If you feel you’ve been in a cycle of bad relationships and not getting your needs met… This is for you. Learning about your attachment style can be the catalyst for your personal healing and finding love in a healthy relationship. In this episode we’ll cover: Maya’s story and background What is attachment theory? The difference between attachment styles Can you heal your attachment style? Anxious and avoidant relationships How the different attachment styles relate with each other Independence between interdependence How we are wired for secure, loving relationships Links to this episode: Apply to work with Maya Rewire Your Attachment Style Podcast Now I want to hear from you. Duh! Tell me about your online dating experiences or why you haven’t tried it yet. Join the conversation on Facebook.  Hang with me on the “gram my handle is @dreafcht Get on the MTASM mailing list and be the first to hear about new episodes and extra content. Oh hey and if you like what you hear purty please write a little review and rate on Apple podcasts. If you do, I'd love to feature it on my podcast and for you to be my newest friend.

Today I got a hot topic for you…. Online dating. I sit down with my Magic MIke and I spill it. What I hope it does is give you some confidence and peace of mind to try online dating or see it from a different perspective. I’ve been using dating apps since 2014 and have learned A LOT my friend! So before you dive in or give up on it all together I want to normalize all the pros and cons… but mostly have fun! Dating should be fun ladies and it all starts with your attitude. (insert diva finger wag) Here’s what I cover: Shifting your mindset Handling rejection… psst it's not rejection. Not taking things personally Differences between a few dating apps...Tinder? Bumble? Match.com? Online dating is numbers game… not a Nicholas Spark book What kind of pictures you should use for your dating profile What is Ghosting? What is Breadcrumbing? Your dating funnel… yes it’s a funnel! My personal dating strategy. Coffee dates And a few general safety tips. Now I want to hear from you. Duh! Tell me about your online dating experiences or why you haven’t tried it yet. Join the conversation on Facebook.  Hang with me on the “gram my handle is @dreafcht Get on the MTASM mailing list and be the first to hear about new episodes and extra content. Oh hey and if you like what you hear purty please write a little review and rate on Apple podcasts. If you do, I'd love to feature it on my podcast and for you to be my newest friend.

I bring my friend and love coach Brenda Brewer back to the podcast to go a bit deeper. In this episode Brenda and I discuss… It’s about you not him/them Passion is not drama Beyond no contact (during break ups) Why you should date multiple men (in beginning stages or until he asks for exclusivity) How you can’t control a man but you can inspire him to meet your needs 4 rules on how to respect a man/masculine partner And a little about my experience Like what you heard? Wanna work with Brenda? Email: [email protected] Get her free workbook: hhttps://blowupbackfire.com/respect/ Here’s where you can find her: https://brendabrewercoaching.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendabrewerlove Wanna stay connected with me aka Drea? Let’s talk about this episode on Facebook  Or goof off with me on Instagram @dreafecht

If you’re going through a devastating break up or still missing your ex this one's for you. Today I interviewed Break Up Coach Kendra Allen. Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, blogger, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast and founder of Break Up Bestie. During this interview we go over… What the “No Contact” rule is and why it’s so important. Why it’s not a good idea to stay friends with your ex. Why journaling helps you process what you’re feeling. That it’s completely normal to go through a range of feelings and emotions. The difference between missing your ex and missing the benefits of your relationship. How to get through the initial feelings of shock and overwhelm. What is attachment theory? What are the 3 attachment styles? And to remember, this too shall pass - You won’t feel this way forever. If you are looking to get guidance and support during your break up you can find Kendra here: https://www.breakupbestie.com/ Instagram: @yourbreakupbestie Podcast: https://www.breakupbestie.com/podcast

Ohhh Momma! In this episode my love coach, Brenda Brewer, and I talk about all things relationship, self-love and how she’s greatly affected my love life and peace of mind. If you listened to my last episode: you’ll find out about how I’m doing and what happened after I walked away from my relationship… it’s pretty amazing. Brenda Brewer is a Love and Alignment Coach who helps women in pain over relationships realize their worth by shifting into alignment with their radiant nature and magnetizing their desires with ease. And she ain’t joking. In this episode - it’s long but SOOO worth the listen - we deep dive into: How Brenda became a love and alignment coach How I found Brenda How she helped me turn my relationship around with my boyfriend Why feeling messages make you desirable How we sabotage our relationships Self love - how to get started What men want and how they think. (it’s nothing like us) How to use our feelings to make ourselves irresistible to men Our relationship timeline vs. Mens’ timeline Letting go of control How loving ourselves and leaning back attracts a man Standing up for yourself How to talk to a man when your needs aren’t getting met or if he won’t help you around the house How to inspire a man Why men need us. What is circular dating Why dating multiple men is good for you Like what you heard? Wanna work with Brenda? Email: [email protected] Here’s where you can find her: http://brenda-brewer.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendabrewerlove Email: Brenda’s must read books for women: Have the relationship you want by Rori Raye Untethered Soul by Michael Singer Recovering from a broken heart by Philip Golabuk Wanna stay connected with me aka Drea? Let’s talk about this episode on Facebook  Or goof off with me on Instagram About me: I’m a twice divorced single mom who is living life her way and wants what you want -  Love and happiness...duh. I skateboard, play guitar, hit the gym, read all the books on self-love, write FB ads for living and make really bad Tik Tok videos.