#632 "Good" vs "Bad" Perfectionism - Katherine Morgan Schafler

Erin Williams is an author, illustrator, and healthcare researcher who joins Paul to discuss chronic pain and how her own struggles with it have served her art. Look for her new book What's Wrong?: Personal Histories of Chronic Pain and Bad Medicine More about Erin:website: https://www.erinrwilliams.com/homeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/erin_r_williams/WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Michael Laurie is an actor, a small group facilitator, and a parent. He talks with Paul about his road to recovery and shares his unusual story of becoming a foster parent, with all the love and pain that entails. More about Michael Laurie:www.MichaelLaurie.comIG @MichaelLaurieusWAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Jeff Karp is a Harvard Medical School professor and bioengineer. He works in the fields of drug delivery, medical devices, stem cell therapeutics, and tissue adhesives and has been recognized by MIT as being one of the top innovators in the world. He talks with Paul about his work, his relationship with nature, and how life led him to where he is now. Watch for his new book, LIT* Life Ignition Tools: Use Nature's Playbook to Energize Your Brain, Spark Ideas, and Ignite ActionFor more about Dr. Karp go to www.JeffKarp.comWAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dana Killion is an author of mystery and memoir whose work is informed by her own life’s turmoil. She opens up about her marriage to a high-functioning alcoholic and how she has worked on her issues of codependency. Be sure to check out her new book, Where the Shadows Dance: He Got Sober. I Got BrokenThis episode is sponsored by The ASPCA Pet Health Insurance program. To explore coverage, visit www.aspcapetinsurance.com/mentalThis is a Paid Advertisement. Insurance is underwritten by either Independence American Insurance Company or United States Fire Insurance Company, and produced by PTZ Insurance Agency, Limited. The ASPCA is not an insurer and is not engaged in the business of insurance.Connect with Dana KillionPurchase her book Where the Shadows Dance: He Got Sober. I Got Brokenhttps://www.danakillion.com/https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B076YL6VSBInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dana_killion_author/To watch a video of Paul’s political satire (right-wing congressman Richard Martin), here is an old clip that’s still pretty funny. It’s from 2013. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Y-P44ZkLS4. There are other clips but this is a good place to start.WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Kate Truitt is a psychologist and neuroscientist who wants to share her own story of how she came to this work. Armed with her knowledge of the mind, she has worked to process her difficult childhood and the personal tragedy of losing her fiancé right before their wedding. Look for her new book Keep Breathing: A Psychologist's Intimate Journey Through Loss, Trauma, and Rediscovering Life.More About Dr. TruittHer new book, Keep Breathing (link below) comes out April 2ndWebsites:Personal: www.drkatetruitt.comClinic: www.drtruitt.comEducational: www.truittinstitute.com Social Media Links:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrKateTruittTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.katetruittLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkatetruitt/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.katetruitt/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrKateTruitt Books & Give Aways for Promotion:Keep Breathing: A Psychologist’s Intimate Journey Through Loss, Trauma, and Rediscovering Life (NEW)               - Free Keep Breathing Companion Toolkit on my website : www.drkatetruitt.com Healing in Your Hands: Self-Havening Exercises to Harness Neuroplasticity, Heal Traumatic Stress, and Build Resilience⁃                    Free building resilience with neuroplasticity worksheets on my website: www.drkatetruitt.comResources Paul Mentioned on the podcast for someone feeling suicidal or having suicidal thoughts (in addition to filling out a safety plan):Local Urgent Care ServicesNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: dial 988Crisis Text Line: text the word “home” to 741-741Emergency Medical Services 911WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Donn Bradley is a therapist (LMFT) and a former first responder who shares his journey to discovering how much therapy and emotional processing is needed for EMTs, police, and anyone whose work requires the witnessing of violence and tragedy. Donn also opens up about his childhood and the death of his mother when he was young. More about Donnhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/donn-bradley-brentwood-ca/746276It would greatly help Paul get advertisers if you took this anonymous survey (no personal info or tracking to worry about) gum.fm/mental. Note some browsers, especially phones, seem to have issues and don’t go to our podcast-specific page.WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Margo Steines is a Dominatrix turned welder turned author. She opens up about her experiences as a sex worker, her battles with addiction, and her attraction to pain. She also discusses her memoir, Brutalities: A Love Story, where she reflects on her various lives while pregnant with her first child. This episode is sponsored by Cerebral. For a prescriber, therapist, or both go to www.Cerebral.com/podcast and use offer code MENTAL for 15% off.This episode is sponsored by The ASPCA Pet Health Insurance Program. To explore coverage, visit A-S-P-C-A pet insurance dot com slash MENTALInsurance is underwritten by either Independence American Insurance Company or United States Fire Insurance Company, and produced by PTZ Insurance Agency, Limited. The ASPCA is not an insurer and is not engaged in the business of insurance.More about MargoWebsite: https://www.margosteines.comCreative coaching: https://www.margosteines.com/coachingTwitter @margosteinesIG @redstatebluesIt would greatly help Paul get advertisers if you took this anonymous survey (no personal info or tracking to worry about) gum.fm/mental. Note some browsers, especially phones, seem to have issues and don’t go to our podcast-specific page.WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Swamy Gopalsamy is a coach who specializes in helping people recover from depersonalization and derealization. As someone who has lived through it himself, he has first hand knowledge of these conditions and what can help you manage them. In this episode, he shares his own personal journey and offers management tactics that have worked for him and his clients. More about SwamyYou can find his coaching courses at [email protected]/DR Recoveryhttps://heal.acoachcalledlife.com/dp-no-more?utm_source=signature&utm_medium=emailThese are links to the Mayo Clinic info (a partial list) about Mood & Personality Disordershttps://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mood-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20365057https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/personality-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20354463It would greatly help Paul get advertisers if you took this anonymous survey (no personal info or tracking to worry about) gum.fm/mental. Note some browsers, especially phones, seem to have issues and don’t go to our podcast-specific page.WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Devika Bhushan is a pediatrician and the former acting Surgeon General of California. She is also someone who lives with Bipolar Disorder. She opens up about her personal journey to finding a diagnosis and how she’s on a professional and personal mission to fight the stigma associated with mental health struggles. This episode is sponsored by Cerebral. For a prescriber, therapist, or both go to www.Cerebral.com/podcast and use offer code MENTAL for 15% off.More about (or recommended by) Dr. Bhushanhttps://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2022-08-26/california-surgeon-general-bipolar-disorder-mental-healthhttps://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2022/10/15/1124400056/bipolar-disorder-mental-healthhttps://slate.com/technology/2024/02/mental-health-breastfeeding-formula-bipolar.html (I referenced this piece in our chat)https://askdrdevikab.substack.com/p/my-top-9-mental-health-hacks (relevant to much of our conversation)Well-being newsletter: https://askdrdevikab.substack.com/aboutYouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBGW0BNOdQBPEjboUE6jb6AApple podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/spread-the-light-with-dr-devika-b/id1668618305Spotify podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1G7RClk776bX8rf4bjAwzNInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdevikab/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devika-bhushan-md-183702149/Website: https://www.devikabhushan.com/It would greatly help Paul get advertisers if you took this anonymous survey (no personal info or tracking to worry about) gum.fm/mental. Note some browsers, especially phones, seem to have issues and don’t go to our podcast-specific page.WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kendra Petty is an author who opens up about her life story, which is full of both devastation and hope. She talks about being raised in a cult, the tragic death of her brother, the abuse she suffered as a child, and how she’s gotten through it all. Be sure to check out her book, I Can't Believe I'm Not Dead: Escaping Abuse, a Cult, Attempted Murder and Other Insanities...A Story That Cannot Be True, But Is.This episode is sponsored by The ASPCA Pet Health Insurance Program.  To explore coverage, visit A-S-P-C-A pet insurance dot com slash MENTALInsurance is underwritten by either Independence American Insurance Company or United States Fire Insurance Company, and produced by PTZ Insurance Agency, Limited. The ASPCA is not an insurer and is not engaged in the business of insurance.More About KendraWebsite - https://kendrapettyofficial.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kendrapettyofficial Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/p/I-Cant-Believe-Im-Not-Dead-100090168579222/ Goodreads - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123000088-i-can-t-believe-i-m-not-dead Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Believe-Not-Dead-Insanities/dp/1952491509/Bookshop - https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-can-t-believe-i-m-not-dead-escaping-abuse-a-cult-attempted-murder-and-other-insanities-a-story-that-cannot-be-true-but-is-kendra-petty/19820175 It would greatly help Paul get advertisers if you took this anonymous survey (no personal info or tracking to worry about) gum.fm/mental. Note some browsers, especially phones, seem to have issues and don’t go to our podcast-specific page.WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media.  It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod  Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to [email protected]) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod Try Our Sponsor’s Products/ServicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.