Love Doesn't Need to be Sh*t

Both silent, both ignoring each other, both not willing to give a hand. Sounds familiar? A deadlock situation is not uncommon in a relationship - but how can you get out of it? Evie and Ben figured out that they need to be friends in order to start resolving their conflict. But it’s not only that. It also helps to them to remember that they support each other and that they want the best for each other. AANNDD find out why Ben is the one that says No way more than Evie.… and why Evie asks more, although that’s not statistical relevant whatsoever. This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love What being each others friend mean How the simple question of asking whether you’re friends can open a conversation Positive side effects of asking: Are you my friend? Join our community here: ⁠https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com⁠ Get in touch with us on Insta: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/⁠ Youtube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit⁠ Mail: ⁠[email protected]

Have you ever found yourself jumping from relationship to relationship without ever figuring out what you actually want from it? Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship? Realising that you never knew what you wanted in the first place. How do you actually figure out what you want from a relationship? short answer: date yourself. But what does that mean? Evie and Ben talk in this episode on how Ben used to distract himself with countless situationships on the „seeing each other“ level that didn’t come to fruition and how Evie and her female friends thought that they would be the bad guys if the guy didn’t like them. ‚course you‘ll get tons of tips from pur fuck it toolkit - like deleting all your dating apps (obvs). This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love Why self-reflection is an important part of it What steps it takes to date yourself How dating yourself ACTUALLY benefits your relationship Things we’ve talked about: Join our community here: ⁠https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com⁠ Get in touch with us on Insta: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/⁠ Youtube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit⁠ Mail: ⁠[email protected]

If you ever thought; wow, I didn’t know who I was in that relationship. That wasn’t me - this episode is for you! I didn’t know who I was in that relationship. Does this resonate with you? In this episode it’s all about identity in relationships. Not only what makes your identity, but rather how you ARE in a relationship and how you CHANGE. Ben proposes 3 stages in a relationship: The pre, the during and the post relationship phase. So basically with which identity you went into the relationship, how you developed your identity during the relationship and how you reflect on your identity after the relationship, aka. which things on your identity have permanently changed. This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love What the important factors are before entering a relationship How you can actively check on if you feeling like yourself during the relationship What to do after a relationship to get back on the ground and align you with yourself again Join our community here: ⁠https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com⁠ Get in touch with us on Insta: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/⁠ Youtube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit⁠ Mail: ⁠[email protected]

Who's the person that fights for their ideas and who's the person that wants to save the relationship? In this episode we're talking about the two types of relationship dynamic: the activist and the pacifist. This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love Why some people are more prone to say yes in a relationship (pacifist) Why some people fight for their ideas (activist) Why fighting over power isn’t fighting over power Things we’ve talked about: Jay Shetty & Esther Perel Episode 🙏 Join our community here: https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com 😘 Get in touch with us on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit Mail: [email protected]

Because you said xyz, your partner thinks you hate them now. Sounds familiar? Welcome to the world of false assumptions (yay). False assumptions are beliefs we make up in our heads and we tend to believe are true simply because we assume so. In this episode Evie and Ben will chat about how they formed their false assumptions and how they started to resolve them. How? Listen to the ep and get ALL of the insights! Take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love Be aware of the existence of false assumptions Never underestimate your imaginative power Don’t stop resolving false assumptions 🙏 Join our community here: https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com 😘 Get in touch with us on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit Mail: [email protected]

Early in their relationship, Ben met a friend he used to have sex with and was wondering whether or not he should tell Evie… So, do you need to tell your partner everything you get up to? Or are some things easier to just keep to yourself? In this episode you'll hear all of the uncomfortable truths we've had to share in our relationship, what really happens when you're honest, and if we think that complete honesty helps or hinders a relationship. If you’re trying to build trust and open communication in your relationship, this episode is for you. #Sh*t-Free-Love episode highlights: The real reasons we’re scared to tell our partners everything What happens when you **are** completely transparent in your relationship Get the answer to “Who’s responsibility is it to deal with the consequences of transparency” How to actually be transparent in your relationship and support each other with this 🔥 Join our community 🤳 Get in touch with us on 🫡 Insta 🤤 Youtube 🫨 Mail

Have you ever felt like your partner is, instead of finding a solution, just trying to prove you wrong? If this sounds familiar, you should definetly listen to this episode where Evie and Ben unpack the magic of mutual understanding, respect and empathy. A.K.A the basics of a healthy relationship. It won’t surprise you that this magic is all about the holy f$%&ing trinity of a relationship: The YOU, the ME and the WE. What will surprise you, however, is, how widely you can use this tool/concept/framework. Because it does not only help to understand, as Evie puts it, “what do I want/think/feel, what do you want/think/feel and what does that mean to us” but also to realise for yourself whether you’re just blinded by the moment or if you really want something. Oh and be prepared for Ben to butcher the English language… 😅 Take-aways for #Sh*t-Free-Love - You’ll learn how to implement the YOU, ME & WE - We’ll teach you the premises of this concept - And we’ll give you a wide range of use cases in your relationships (spoiler: it’s more than just resolving conflicts…) Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:01 Start Episode 24:03 Community Question 36:08 Community Quest 38:39 Outro 🔥 ⁠Join our community⁠ 🤳 Get in touch with us on 🫡 ⁠Insta⁠ 🤤 ⁠Youtube⁠ 🫨 ⁠Mail

Have you ever been in a situation where you got super frustrated because your boyfriend / girlfriend / partner didn’t understand what you said? Spoiler: It’s not because they’re a bit slow, daft, OR because they DON’T WANT to understand you. The real reason? Communication. Evie and Ben talk in this episode how they misunderstand each other but also how they worked on improving their communcation. Their credibility stems obvs from Bens degree in communication (which is also why he comes up with frameworks and theories 🙈). Also 65% of marriages break down due to poor communication…so hit the play button! Your take-aways for #Sh*t-Free-Love - Learn how to understand each other better - Tools to have more in-depth communication - Easy applicable Do’s and don’t’s when you speak with your partner Things we’ve talked about: - Non Violent Communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3l8l4prc-_Q - Four ears / four sides model: https://www.nottingham.ac.uk/helmopen/rlos/practice-learning/communities/transcultural-healthcare-practices/transcocon-germany-uk/screen07.html Join our community here: https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com Get in touch with us on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit Mail: [email protected]

Arguably THEE most important thing in a relationship, is trust. BUT WHY IS IT SO HARD TO TRUST EACH OTHER? Well, trust comes in many facettes and has a lot of faces. Find out, how you can improve the trust in your relationship and why it's really f-ing helpful to trust each other in this episode.

In the first episode, we set the scene of what a sh*tty relationship is and what a healthy relationship is. We explain you what you'll need to create a healthy relationship and where we will start. Oh, and we tell you how we met in Mexico. 👩‍❤️‍👨