042. Attachment Styles Explained… Again: How Childhood Shapes Love, Trauma & Relationships with Frankie’s Therapy | The Johnny Lawrence Podcast

In this powerful episode of The Johnny Lawrence Podcast, Johnny opens up about his transformative experience at a “Healing the Father Wound” workshop facilitated by renowned teacher Donna Lancaster. He explores how unresolved childhood trauma, the parent wound, and unmet emotional needs shape our adult behaviour, relationships, and sense of self-worth.Johnny dives deep into the impact of the father wound on personal development, the importance of grieving lost childhood experiences, and how suppressing early pain can influence our identity and life choices. Through honest reflection, he highlights why compassion for our inner child is essential for emotional healing, self-leadership, and breaking generational patterns.This episode is a powerful guide for anyone navigating childhood trauma, seeking inner healing, or looking to reclaim their future with courage, truth, and self-awareness. Whether you're on a journey of emotional growth or supporting others through theirs, this conversation offers insights that can help you reconnect, release, and rebuild.Takeaways👉 I never grieved the loss of a childhood.👉 The parent wound is created when a child doesn't receive something they needed.👉 Healing the parent wound isn't about fixing the past, it's about freeing the future.👉 Healing can change your relationships and self-talk.👉 I became addicted to escape from my emotions.👉 The child inside us doesn't grow up, we just become adults.👉 Healing the parent wound is the most courageous work a person can do.👉 Compassion towards oneself is essential for healing.👉 We must take care of the child inside us. Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this episode, Johnny Lawrence sits down with integrative therapist and mental health advocate Francesca Rawlinson from Frankie’s therapy for a deep and honest exploration of attachment styles, emotional patterns, and the hidden forces shaping our relationships.Whether you struggle with toxic relationships, emotional triggers, or simply want to understand yourself better, this conversation offers powerful insights rooted in real experience, compassionate guidance, and psychological understanding.Takeaways👉 Early experiences shape your attachment style, and it influences your relationships today.👉 Awareness of emotional patterns helps you make healthier choices.👉 Understanding others’ perspectives leads to better communication and connection.👉 Parts work gives you a framework to recognise and regulate emotional responses.👉 Authentic storytelling (like Frankie’s) creates relatable and powerful mental health content.Frankie’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/frankiestherapy/?hl=en The Self Love Hubhttps://stan.store/frankiestherapy/p/come-join-my-community-i72ztxrk Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this episode of the Johnny Lawrence podcast, Johnny reflects on his recent experiences with grief and the importance of taking time to do nothing. He discusses the challenges of stillness in a productivity-driven culture and offers practical advice on embracing moments of intentional rest. The episode emphasises that doing nothing is not laziness but a form of self-leadership that allows for emotional clarity and creativity.Takeaways👉 Grief can impact us physically and mentally, often in unpredictable ways.👉 Doing nothing is a challenge in a productivity-driven culture.👉 Stillness is essential for clarity and emotional well-being.👉 We often confuse motion with progress, leading to burnout.👉 Intentional rest is a form of self-leadership.👉 Scheduling time for nothing can help prioritise rest.👉 Our best ideas often come when we are calm and still.👉 Observing thoughts without judgment can lead to greater self-awareness.👉 Creating pockets of peace is crucial for mental health.👉 10 minutes of doing nothing can significantly impact self-leadership.Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course 

In this powerful episode of The Johnny Lawrence Podcast, Johnny reflects on the three most significant insights he’s learned after five years of being alcohol-free. Sharing openly about his journey through sobriety, he reveals how choosing a life without alcohol has transformed his emotional clarity, relationships, and overall well-being.Johnny dives deep into the transformative power of authentic conversations, explaining how real, meaningful interactions can spark profound personal growth. He discusses how honest communication builds deeper connections, creates a sense of excitement and fulfilment, and supports long-term emotional resilience.Whether you're sober-curious, navigating your own recovery, or passionate about emotional development, this episode offers actionable wisdom, heartfelt reflections, and inspiring insights to support your journey.Takeaways👉 Authentic conversations can be more fulfilling than substance use.👉 Sobriety opens up new avenues for meaningful connections.👉 Real connections can evoke excitement and joy.👉 The quality of conversations can significantly impact emotional well-being.👉 Engaging in deep conversations fosters personal growth.👉 Sobriety allows for clearer and more genuine interactions.👉 Feeling connected in conversations can lead to lasting fulfillment.👉 The excitement from real conversations can be intoxicating.👉 Building connections in sobriety enhances life experiences.👉 Authentic interactions are essential for emotional intelligence.Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this conversation, Johnny Lawrence speaks with Dan Shrigley about his mission to promote mental health awareness and the importance of connection and purpose in life. Dan shares his personal journey of self-discovery, the values that guide him, and the significance of understanding oneself before building relationships. They discuss the challenges of navigating mental health struggles, the importance of regular connection, and practical steps for fostering deeper relationships among men. The conversation emphasises the need for vulnerability, the role of failure in personal growth, and the S.O.L.I.D. acronym as a framework for building connections.Takeaways👉 Dan's mission is to prevent mental health struggles like those faced by his father.👉 Self-discovery is a journey that evolves over time.👉 Values such as adventure, autonomy, and relationships are crucial for personal fulfilment.👉 Knowing yourself helps in building authentic relationships.👉 Men often struggle with vulnerability due to societal expectations.👉 Failure is a part of growth and should be embraced.👉 Connection is essential for mental health and well-being.👉 Regular check-ins with friends can prevent deeper mental health issues.👉 The S.O.L.I.D. acronym provides a framework for meaningful connections.👉 Daily-ish efforts in self-care and connection are sufficient. Dan’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/danshrigley/?hl=en Shoulder to Shoulderhttps://shouldertoshoulder.carrd.co/ Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this powerful and thought-provoking episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the true meaning of self-worth and the dangers of constantly seeking validation from others. He breaks down how the opinions and judgments of people who disrespect us often stem from their own insecurities, fears, and emotional wounds, not from our truth or value.Johnny encourages listeners to shift their focus inward, prioritising personal growth, self-healing, and emotional independence over external approval. By learning to validate ourselves and recognise our own worth, we can break free from the cycle of people-pleasing, self-doubt, and low confidence, and instead live with authenticity and inner peace.This episode is perfect for anyone on a self-development, mental health, or emotional empowerment journey who wants to build confidence, strengthen self-belief, and find freedom from external validation through self-leadership.Takeaways👉 You don't need the approval of anyone who disrespects you.👉 Their opinion of you reflects their own insecurity.👉 The people who see your worth will never make you fight for it.👉 Let them underestimate you; focus on your own growth.👉 Healing and building a life doesn't require validation.👉 One day you'll realise you were never beneath them.👉 Stop kneeling to those who don't recognise your worth.👉 Your self-worth is not defined by others' opinions.👉 Focus on doing the real work of self-improvement.👉 Recognise your value and embrace it without seeking approval. Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this episode, Johnny Lawrence dives deep into the psychology of procrastination, exploring why we delay action even when we know what we want. He breaks down the emotional and mental barriers that keep us stuck — such as fear of failure, perfectionism, and self-doubt — and shares practical strategies to take that crucial first step toward progress.Johnny highlights the power of starting small, showing how lowering your expectations and focusing on small, consistent actions can help you build momentum, motivation, and self-confidence over time. This episode is packed with insights for anyone wanting to stop procrastinating, improve productivity, and take control of their life through simple, sustainable change.Whether you’re working on personal growth, self-development, or trying to overcome mental blocks, this episode will help you shift your mindset and lead yourself with clarity and purpose.Takeaways👉 If you are genuinely struggling with something and you're procrastinating.👉 Let's lower the bar a little bit.👉 Be strategic about how we're going to deal with this specific problem.👉 You don't have to do the whole thing.👉 Just do the first thing.👉 Your only job is to start.👉 Momentum creates motivation.👉 Start small to build confidence.👉 Overcoming procrastination requires a shift in mindset.👉 Taking the first step is crucial for progress.Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this episode, Johnny Lawrence speaks with Liz Ellery, a former fashion designer who has transitioned into web design and education. They discuss Liz's journey into web design, the importance of authenticity in branding, and how to connect with audiences through personal storytelling. Liz shares her unique approach to web design, emphasising intuition and emotional connection, and offers insights on how to present oneself online effectively. The conversation also addresses the challenges of pricing services and the importance of establishing trust through consistent branding.Takeaways👉 Liz Ellery transitioned from fashion design to web design, focusing on helping clients establish a strong online presence.👉 Authenticity is crucial in branding; it helps create a genuine connection with the audience.👉 Intuition plays a significant role in Liz's web design process, allowing her to capture clients' energy and personality.👉 Crafting a website involves understanding the client's goals and values to create an authentic representation of their brand.👉 Personal branding should reflect one's true self, not just a polished image.👉 Storytelling is essential in branding; sharing personal experiences can help build trust with potential clients.👉 Pricing services can be challenging, but it's important to charge what you're worth based on the value you provide.👉 Consistency in branding across all platforms builds trust and credibility with the audience.👉 Clients often struggle to articulate their value; working with a designer can help clarify their messaging.👉 Liz's course, 'Designer Life You Love,' focuses on aligning business goals with personal values for authentic success.Liz’s Websitehttps://www.elizabethellery.com/ Liz’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/elizabeth_ellery/ Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this episode of the Johnny Lawrence podcast, Johnny Lawrence delves into the complexities of human emotions, emphasising their significance in self-leadership and personal growth. He discusses how emotions are often misunderstood and how they serve as vital signals that guide us in understanding our needs. The conversation highlights three fundamental truths about emotions: they are messages to be understood, they are energy in motion rather than our identity, and they are connected to our human needs. By learning to listen to and interpret our emotions, we can foster emotional intelligence and lead more fulfilling lives.Takeaways👉 Emotions are messages, not problems to fix.👉 Understanding emotions can lead to personal growth.👉 Emotions are energy in motion, not our identity.👉 Every emotion is connected to a human need.👉 Listening to emotions can prevent escalation of issues.👉 Emotions provide insight into our needs.👉 Suppressing emotions can lead to greater problems.👉 Recognising emotions helps in self-leadership.👉 Emotional intelligence involves interpreting emotions.👉 Learning from emotions can enhance our lives.Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit 

In this episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the often misunderstood concept of self-development, emphasising that it is not about quick fixes or superficial solutions. He discusses the importance of genuine results, emotional control, and the ongoing nature of personal growth. Johnny highlights the benefits of self-development, including improved relationships and achieving meaningful goals, while also addressing common obstacles people face in their self-development journey. He concludes with practical advice on how to start making small, impactful changes in one's life.Takeaways👉Self-development is often misrepresented and can feel disingenuous.👉Real self-development focuses on tangible results rather than hype.👉It is about learning to run your life better and improving decision-making.👉Self-development is an ongoing process that requires continuous effort.👉Small, practical improvements can lead to significant changes over time.👉Understanding your emotions is crucial for better decision-making.👉Self-development enhances communication and relationship-building skills.👉Setting personal goals is essential for motivation and fulfilment.👉Self-development prepares you for life's challenges, making you more resilient.👉Starting with simple actions can lead to meaningful self-improvement.Websitewww.johnnylawrence.co.ukJohnny’s Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb The Slavey of Addiction Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin The Self M.A.D.E. Coursehttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audithttps://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit