E #410: The Audacity of Self-Validation - how to live with out likes & move past social approval

In this episode, Kehla shares her transformative experience during 5.5 weeks in Portugal, where a family conflict brought up deep insights about boundaries, safety, and personal growth. Reflecting on her past, she explores how hypervigilance and black-and-white thinking shaped her responses to conflict and business challenges. Kehla introduces the concept of treading water with trauma—holding onto past struggles as a way to show resilience but never fully moving forward. Through the lens of the 49th, 52nd, 6th, 53rd & 55th Gene Keys, she explains how cultivating safety in the present moment shifted her approach to both life and business. Listeners will hear how Kehla embraced her identity as the best Human Design and Gene Keys business coach in Canada, and why expanding one’s capacity to handle everything is key to breaking through plateaus and achieving true growth.   The mentioned IG post   Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla sits down with Elizabeth, who specializes in helping high-achievers overcome anxiety and everyday stress by tapping into the power of the unconscious mind. With her unique approach through Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT), Elizabeth empowers individuals to regain control and build resilient minds capable of navigating life’s challenges with calm and confidence. Elizabeth shares her powerful story of releasing a traumatic life experience in just one RRT session. She explains how RRT differs from other therapeutic methods like Hypnosis, Parts work, NLP, EMDR, and traditional talk therapy. They also discuss the nuances of holding onto traumatic memories for decades, despite their brevity, and why pre-recorded RRT sessions often fail to capture the individual nuances necessary for true memory release. Elizabeth also opens up about how RRT helped her son heal from the trauma of his near-death experience. Follow Elizabeth on Instagram   Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla dives into the game-changing power of doing less while making a bigger impact. Inspired by her time in Europe, where the slower pace of life made her rethink the need to constantly hustle, Kehla shares how ditching the jam-packed calendar has transformed her approach to business and life. She opens up about her past addiction to struggle—how she used to believe that grinding harder and filling every minute justified the results she got. But after embracing a new mindset, she discovered the magic of "silent boundaries"—saying less, doing less, and still making waves. At first, it felt risky to pull back, but Kehla found that this shift gave her more freedom, energy, and clarity. Now, Kehla’s all about creating space instead of cramming in more. She doesn’t feel the need to stuff her conversations, posts, or emails with fluff, and she’s here to show you how to do the same. This episode is a wake-up call to stop overloading and start making every move count.   Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla cuts the crap and gets straight to the point about the real difference between intent and impact in business. She tears down the fantasy that just doing the energetic work and setting intentions will somehow make your business thrive. Intentions are important, sure—but they’re useless if you don’t back them up with real, concrete action. Kehla doesn’t sugarcoat it: clinging to the idea of impact without actually moving forward is just an excuse to stay stuck, and it’s sabotaging your business’s potential. She calls out the tendency to dodge responsibility for inaction and lays out no-nonsense advice to break free from this cycle. This episode is a reality check: intentions might get you started, but it’s the actions you take that actually make things happen. Kehla hands you the tools and mindset shifts you need to quit stalling and start making serious progress in your business. Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla sits down with leadership coach Courtney, who specializes in helping conservative female coaches harness their sass, spice, and values to increase their visibility, impact, and income. Courtney dives deep into the connection between feeling safe in our bodies and how that translates to success in business, relationships, and finances. She shares her personal safety practice for reconnecting with the body to cultivate a grounded, secure experience. The conversation explores why slowing down is essential for cultivating safety and how to regulate yourself during that process. Courtney also tackles the dangers of self-indulgence in negative emotions and offers insights into breaking free from the constraints of cancel culture. She emphasizes the importance of self-trust and integrity in overcoming people-pleasing tendencies. Courtney wraps up by sharing her bold philosophy: living as if you've already been canceled. By embracing this mindset, she reveals how you can unlock the confidence to show up unapologetically and take bolder actions in both life and business. This episode is packed with valuable lessons on stepping into your true power and getting paid what you’re truly worth.   Follow Courtney on Instagram   Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

Join host Kehla for an inspiring conversation with Alissa, a 6/3 Projector and Leadership & Performance Coach for Coaches. Alissa is the founder of Coaching Craft Academy, where she empowers coaches to break through their own and their clients' blocks, tripling their business and transforming one-time clients into lifelong advocates with heartwarming testimonials. In this episode, Kehla and Alissa explore: The pivotal role of ontology in leadership as a coach. Why providing answers in coaching doesn’t foster self-led clients. The reflective nature of the coach-client relationship. Balancing responsibility for clients' results without owning their outcomes. The power of nuanced, impactful questions. How radical self-responsibility expands your clients' growth. Strategies for consistently re-signing clients with your exceptional coaching. If you're looking to elevate your coaching practice and create lasting impact, then you'll want to tune in because this episode is packed with insights that will transform your approach to coaching! Follow Alissa on IG Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla dives into the raw truth about what makes you insensible to needing recognition and validation from others or the world around you. She will guide you through the transformative process of deciding to have your own back, no matter what. Discover why relying on external validation sets you up to quit before you even begin, leaving you with zero foundation to stand on. When you back yourself, you’re not up against anyone else—you’re up against yourself, and that’s where the real game begins. Kehla will break down how to sell two crucial things: your offers and, more importantly, yourself. She will delve into understanding how much validation and recognition you truly need, revealing that knowing the answer puts you in control and helps you stop giving your power away to fulfill your ego. Learn that the need for validation and recognition is a self-construct that can be dissolved. Kehla will highlight how this need comes from a place of ego and how it prevents you from showing up and selling in the way you deeply desire. This self-fulfilling prophecy keeps you stuck, but she will show you how accepting that you don’t have control actually gives you control. DM Kehla the word "EDGE" to chat about next steps to join The Edge Mastermind. Get the video session of this episode here. Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this insightful episode, Kehla sits down with Beverleigh, a dynamic 1/3 Sacral Generator Business Coach specializing in content and brand strategy. Beverleigh shares her inspiring journey from being an aesthetician to becoming a sought-after brand and content coach, revealing how embracing her Human Design has been pivotal in stepping into her genius. Listen as Beverleigh discusses the unique ways her 1/3 profile empowers her to lead and connect deeply with her clients. She offers a fresh perspective on transforming seemingly irrelevant life stories and challenges into compelling brand content, emphasizing the power of authenticity over conventional marketing strategies. Kehla & Beverleigh also explore the significance of the 1/3 profile within the lower trigrams of the 6-line expressions, providing a nuanced understanding of leadership and personal growth. Tune in for a conversation filled with wisdom, practical tips, and a dose of unconventional thinking. As Beverleigh aptly puts it, “An unpopular opinion is just someone who is thinking outside the box.” Follow Beverleigh on Instagram   Work with Kehla: The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design Get the Gene Keys Podcast Compendium   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla dives into the inspiring journeys of Julia and Morgan, two dynamic professionals who transitioned into the fields of nutrition and personal training. Julia and Morgan share their insights on the most underrated methods for creating success in health and wellness, particularly for busy entrepreneurs. They emphasize the importance of habit stacking as a key strategy for shifting behaviors toward better self-care. Tune in to hear their vision for the future and how they plan to continue supporting entrepreneurs on their health journeys!   Follow Morgan and Julia on Instagram Check out their podcast The Matriark Website Book a complimentary call Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer

In this episode, Kehla dives into the third pillar of entrepreneurial success: Engagement & Growth. When discussing ‘aligning with your ideal clients,’ Kehla addresses the common misconception of relying solely on energetic alignment. Instead, she emphasizes the importance of speaking the language of your ideal clients so they resonate with your leadership, actions, and business results. Kehla explains how crafting this specific language can stem from your values and how it will evolve as you consistently show up in your business. The second topic Kehla explores is increasing your visibility and engagement as an online service provider. She highlights the power of showing up consistently, regardless of metrics, as this is what truly attracts your ideal clients. Kehla also shares her personal experience of the impact on sales and client acquisition when she included a call-to-action at the end of every post, podcast, story, and email since April. The final segment of this conversation is about embracing radical self-leadership and taking full responsibility for yourself and your business. Kehla discusses the depth and courage required to allow your reality to align with your identity. She emphasizes the importance of doing the identity work first, rather than waiting for external validation, to fully realize your potential and impact.   Work with Kehla: DM the word EDGE on Instagram to sign up for The Edge Mastermind The Edge Mastermind ft. Signature Program by Design   Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla’s Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer