225. What Your Spouse and Kids Need From You

There are so many parenting debates happening right now in the culture at large. Screentime. Discipline. Anxiety.  But what if we’re focused on the wrong things?  Instead of trying to fix and manage the problems, what if we cultivated the solution?  What if the environment we cultivate is the very thing our children need?  In this episode, Josh talks about their current parenting journey, the two competing worldviews that influence how kids experience joy, and how we can give our kids joy permission.  Here are some highlights:  How two competing worldviews influence the amount of joy in our homeWhy we need joy permissionWhy resourcefulness is a cheat code for helping kids live joyful livesThe one way to step into joy this week as a family, no matter how difficult the season you find yourself in right nowShow Notes:  Focus on the Family Broadcast: Click here to listen to Encouraging Your Kids to Discuss Their Feelingshttps://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/encouraging-your-kids-to-discuss-their-feelings/ Listen to Jamie Winship talk about abundance versus scarcity worldviews.Click here.https://youtu.be/2s3KWZFCH0A?si=YNR6bAF7ZW8xsZq_ The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt.Click here.https://amzn.to/3vWdgie 

One of our closest friends, Luke Smallbone, who is also one-half of the four-time Grammy award-winning duo For King & Country, joins Josh in the cabin to share stories from his own childhood, which are depicted in a brand new movie hitting theaters everywhere, called Unsung Hero.Unsung Hero is a true story about his family's adventure of coming to the States from Austrailia, and the ups and downs they experience along the way. In this epsiode, Luke shares how some of these heartfelt moments of prayer, faith, and miracles shaped who his family is today. Luke and Josh share plenty of laughs as Luke takes us behind-the-scenes of the making of the film, and how lessons from his own upbringing have influenced who he is today as a father. In this episode, Luke shares:A behind-the-scenes look at how the song Unsung Hero came about, and how it was then turned into a film.What it was like producing a movie about his own childhood.His most heartfelt, memorable moments as a boy from scenes in the film.Practical lessons he implements as a father today about faith, prayer, and miracles from his own childhood.Show Notes:Watch the trailer for Unsung Hero.https://unsunghero.movie/Get tickets to the theater to see Unsung Hero, which hits theaters April 26!https://unsunghero.movie/

Pastor Max Lucado joins us to talk about his new children’s book Just in Case You Ever Feel Alone. Josh’s 9-year-old daughter, Kennedy, joins the show this week to interview Pastor Lucado. In this episode, Pastor Lucado describes the consequences of anyone’s given worldview, and how the framework we give to our children influences how they view God and consequently sets them up to handle loneliness.Pastor Lucado discusses: A framework for helping our children and grandchildren develop a biblical worldview.How screens are contributing to the epidemic levels of loneliness of children and teens.Why it’s important to take initiative to start conversations.An assignment we can all do to establish a culture that combats loneliness. Show Notes:  Get a copy of Just in Case You Ever Feel Alone by Pastor Max Lucado.https://amzn.to/4ctKDtj Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 4, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Get a copy of the 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week.https://amzn.to/3IDTmLI

Christi joins us this week to walk through insights she's gaining from Isaiah 61. In doing so, she shares more about her heart behind and the process of Tender & Fierce. In Isaiah 61, Isaiah prophecies Jesus as the One to come and bind up all the broken pieces of our heart so that we can heal and live wholeheartedly. What does it mean to experience and walk in that freedom? In this episode Christi discusses with Josh: What it means to live freely, and the one way to know when we’re not walking in our freedom.The real reason Jesus wants to set us free and live out His identity for us.Why living with global high activation can be deceiving.A paradoxical definition of what it means to “run.”Show Notes: Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Get a copy of the 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week. https://amzn.to/3IDTmLI

Should we argue with our kids? How do we set boundaries with them? What kind of parent does it take to raise a strong and loving child? The President of Love & Logic Institute, Dr. Charles Fay joins us to talk about his new book, with colleague Dr. Daniel Amen, Raising Mentally Strong Kids. This might be one of the most light-hearted conversations we’ve ever had around what is arguably the most shaming role on the planet—parenting. Dr. Fay provides super practical insights on raising strong and loving kids.Here are some key quotes from this episode: On the goal of parenting: “We bond with people who are strong and loving. We don’t bond with people who are strong but they’re cold. And we don’t bond with people who are loving but they’re permissive and wishy washy. We want to, in the best way we can, emulate God. We want to be strong, and we want to be loving.” On cultural busyness: “Families don’t go off the rails because they do too many bad things; it’s because they do too many good things.” On sibling rivalry: “When it comes to sibling rivalry, who owns the relationship problem? When we jump in all of the time and become the hero, it makes it worse.”Dr. Fay helps us understand: What mental hygiene looks like for our kids.Why kids are going to fight the boundaries they know they need the most.The two ways to not get pulled into arguing with your kids and why they are so important.How to set boundaries with kids.What to do with phones and technology.How to manage sibling rivalry in innovative ways that help them own the relationship problem.Show Notes: Grab a copy of Raising Mentally Strong Kids by Dr. Daniel Amen and Dr. Charles Fay.https://amzn.to/48QldTx Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 4, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Grab a copy of Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Putting Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for Your Time, Attention, and Identity. https://amzn.to/438Crdt

As a parent, what are we truly aiming for? What really is the goal of all this stuff we put into a bucket called “parenting?” And, at a deeper level, have I thought about how my own spiritual journey influences how my children live out their faith and find purpose for how they live their lives? Does this matter to me as I think about how I’m engaging the task of “parenting?”In this episode, I (Josh) talk about what I'm learning from my own spiritual journey right now. From this, I propose a developmental spiritual growth model for fathers and mothers that moves us from a journey of being self-focused (fear) to others-focused (joy).I have seen these three stages of spiritual development come to light through my own spiritual growth in the past few years and would love to share them with you to see if, and how, you might resonate with them. They are:Becoming (internal healing and growth).Present (external presence where others feel seen).In community (inviting others into our journey).Show Notes: Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Grab a copy of Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Putting Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for Your Time, Attention, and Identity: https://amzn.to/438Crdt

Christi introduces a phrase God gave her in prayer for what it means to grow into fullness of life as a woman, wife, and mother—tender and fierce. In this episode, she defines both words, describes their function, and talks about how we can reclaim tenderness where we lost it and fierceness where it’s gone sideways. Christi also talks about why tenderness is critical for loving others but has become rare in today’s world, and how we can embrace fierceness not as a weapon, but as a gift to love others and ourselves.What does it mean to be tender & fierce? What is the structure of her new group coaching program? We talk about this and more in this episode. All of the information about Tender & Fierce can be found by clicking here or visiting www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceShow Notes: Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceThe MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ROWDc1UbeSY

Christi is back this week! Not only that, we have a new “studio” (check it out on Youtube). This week, Christi and I (Josh) sit down and talk about the lessons we’ve learned since God told us to “jump” last year and sell our house. The last six months have been a wild adventure. At first, we thought we’d be RV’ing the country. But, as God would have it, a different path was laid out before us. And on that path came lessons we may never have learned if we hadn't obeyed and jumped.In this episode, we talk about where we are now, why we pivoted, and the lessons we’re learning.God uniquely walks with each of us. We hope this episode is an encouragement to you that not only is He indeed walking alongside your family, but that He delights in it! We just have to be willing to listen and say yes.Show Notes: The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ZFhonjE82M8

Dr. Gary Oliver is a modern day Job. Though he holds some titles (theologian, psychologist, therapist), he is a Christ follower at heart, leading men and women into deeper walks with Jesus through Going Deeper Retreats. This episode is like free admission into a mastermind on life’s secrets to finding joy, coming from a man who’s lived through unbelievable loss and heartache. In the span of four years, Gary lost his entire nuclear family and half of his current family. If that weren’t enough, he battled 7 cancer surgeries during that time, lost 90% of his tongue, was told he’d never speak again, eat from a feeding tube, and was even told he had less than 3 months to live by one of the nation’s top cancer doctors. That was 13 years ago.What Gary discovered after years of serving God all over the world, writing books, and speaking to millions of men, was that God’s sovereign joy, in the moment, is what truly matters. He joins us this week to reveal beautiful, hard-earned lessons, to experience God’s joy every day, no matter our circumstances.Two of Gary’s quotes from this episode:⁃ “I don’t [seek God] to get something, but to obey.”⁃ “God’s promises are always more powerful than Satan’s pessimism.” In this episode, Gary talks about:
How he had to answer the questions, “Have I failed God?” and “Why would He do this to me?”How to seek God and experience His joy even when you’re raising little kids!The four lessons he learned about sovereign joy that we can practice, beginning todayInsights on what a rule of life is, how to practice gratitude, and the best book of the Bible for everyday readingShow Notes: To learn more about Going Deeper Retreats for both men and women, click here.https://www.goingdeeper.org/Listen to Dr. Oliver’s message called Sovereign Joy by clicking here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QS8V0JXxfQ8 Gentlemen, apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

In 2011, Pastor Davey Blackburn moved from South Carolina to Indiana to plant a church with his wife, Amanda. By late 2015, coming back from a staff retreat, Davey and Amanda were feeling encouraged and seeing the church beginning to establish roots. A few days after that retreat, Amanda, who was also pregnant with their second child, was caught up in a home invasion and shot three times. Their son, Weston, who was in his crib at the time of the invasion, was left unharmed. Unfortunately, Amanda died the next day, four years to the day they planted the church.The details of how God showed up, and what emerged out of the pain, was remarkable.Davey joins the show this week to discuss the trauma he endured, his journey toward healing, and how his newly blended family prioritizes being famous at home.What came out of his story is a ministry called Nothing is Wasted. He shares how this ministry began and the purpose behind it: Helping people partner with God to take back their story to find purpose in their pain. They match people all over the globe with someone who also went through a similar pain.In this episode, Davey talks about:
His own grief journey following the murder of his wife and unborn childHow to walk through our own trauma and how Jesus shows up in the middle of our storyWhat he means by “running towards the roar”Why not to look at triggers as the villain, but an invitation by God into deeper healingHow he and his wife Kristi blended their familiesHow they parent through the lens of, “Is this a trauma response,” or “Is this normal childlike behavior?”Show Notes: Text NIW to 66866 for a teaser of the Pain to Purpose devotionalCheck out the Nothing is Wasted podcast and coaching resources: https://www.nothingiswasted.com/The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutLadies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/9DfMUdsy71o