Episode 130: 5 Things I Want You to Know About Rupture & Repair

Conflict is inevitable — but disconnection doesn’t have to be the end of the story. In this episode, I share five foundational truths about rupture and repair in relationships. Whether you’ve struggled to speak up after being hurt, feel overwhelmed by others’ pain, or just want to build more honest and resilient connections, this episode will reframe repair as a path to deeper intimacy — not just something you do when things go wrong.In this episode, I cover:• Why avoiding conflict doesn’t protect your relationship — it erodes it• What real repair actually requires (hint: it has to do with having a resourced regulated nervous system)• Why repair needs to happen in ALL relationships, not just romantic ones• How you can still reconnect even if you don’t agree on what happened• Why successful repair builds safety, trust, and deeper emotional intimacy Mentioned in this episode:→ LL's Guide to Rupture & Repair: a 40-page guide to walk you step-by-step through how to navigate rupture, hold your center, and initiate or receive repair with integrity.→ ⁠Join the Waitlist for Rooted WebMy off-Instagram community for women who are weaving relational safety, authenticity, and embodied connection — together.

In this episode, Lindsey speaks directly to men about a common pattern in emotionally intimate relationships with women: the instinct to fix instead of feeling. Lindsey dives deep into why men often respond with solutions or shutdown when their partner is emotional, what emotional capacity actually looks like, and practical ways to stay present instead of seeking control.Topics Covered:Why the instinct to fix emotional distress in women doesn't actually work.Understanding emotional capacity vs. emotional intelligence or maturity.How cultural conditioning leaves men with low emotional capacity.Practical, real-life strategies to build your emotional capacity.Three simple, powerful steps to respond to your partner’s emotions differently.A special invitation to Lindsey’s men's cohort of Feel Without Fear, beginning June 19th.Key Insights:The need to fix is often a nervous system defense mechanism, not malicious intent.Emotional presence means being with feelings, not immediately fixing or escaping them.Low emotional capacity shows up as defensiveness, withdrawal, anger, or shutting down—but it's not emotional immaturity; it's overwhelm.Building emotional capacity is about practicing awareness, regulation, and staying present even when uncomfortable.Practical Tips for Men:Regulate before responding: Slow your breath, notice sensations in your body, and ground yourself.Reflect and validate: Instead of advice, reflect feelings back to her ("That sounds really hard.") and validate her experience.Clearly ask for space while staying connected: Communicate your needs without severing emotional connection.Join Lindsey’s Men’s Cohort:Enrollment is open for Feel Without Fear, starting June 19th, 2025. This program guides men in expanding emotional capacity, becoming more emotionally present partners, and improving relationships through body-based nervous system training.Links Mentioned:Join Feel Without Fear (Men’s Cohort)Thanks for listening! Share this episode with a man you respect or love who could benefit from building emotional capacity and presence.

In this episode, Lindsey and Chelsea strip away the gloss of influencer culture to reveal what it really takes to build a conscious, integrity-driven business. From the primal survival wiring around money to the shame we carry when our bank balance dips, they share the unspoken struggles that every service-based entrepreneur faces — and how leaning into that discomfort becomes the alchemy of true growth.What You’ll LearnThe Myth of Followers = FortuneWhy a six-figure audience doesn’t guarantee six-figure earnings, and what really moves the needle.Money as Survival CodeHow childhood wounding shows up in your relationship with cash and the inner work to rewire it.Embodying Wealth in All FormsThe five domains of “wealth” (financial, relational, time, nervous-system, and soul), and why you’re already richer than you think.The Entrepreneurial AbyssA guided free-fall into your worst-case scenario, and how hitting rock-bottom can spark your most creative breakthroughs.Behind-the-Scenes Real TalkIntimate confessions about bank statements, savings thresholds, team paychecks, and the hidden rituals that keep Chelsea and Lindsey moving forward.Resources & Next StepChelsea's Somatic Coach Certification Program — Learn to lead from embodied wisdom. Chelsea's Rock Solid Relationship — Learn to open your heart to love and life.Stay Connected — Hit "Follow" above so you never miss the unfiltered conversations that matter.Connect with UsChelsea: @healing.embodiedLindsey: @iamlindseylockett

Links:One Thread At A Time: A Somatic Mini-Course For Shifting Relational PatternsLindsey Lockett's Instagram @iamlindseylockettLindseyLockett.comIn this episode, I’m joined by Drew Wild for a raw and layered conversation about what it really means to be authentic — especially in relationships that are shaped by trauma, addiction, and nervous system dysregulation.We dive into the web of relational dynamics — how our survival patterns play out in intimacy, how addiction can be a form of self-regulation, and why co-authenticity (not just self-authenticity) is essential for real connection.We unpack the difference between rupture and harm, the danger of bypassing emotional truths, and why vulnerability isn’t just a buzzword — it’s a necessary practice for relational healing.This isn’t a fluffy convo about “better communication.” It’s a deep dive into the messy, sacred, uncomfortable work of being seen, staying open, and choosing truth over performance — even when rejection or disconnection is on the table.We talk about:— The nervous system’s role in how we relate— Why couples work is such potent terrain for transformation— How to tell when it’s time to stay … or go— Letting go of surface-level “connection” and choosing depth instead— Confronting self-abandonment, emotional shutdown, and the protective parts of us that avoid intimacy— What it takes to build trust through conflict and disagreementThis episode is a wide, honest, and unfiltered exploration of relational healing — woven with metaphor, emotion, and lived experience. If you’re craving deeper connections, more honesty, and a map for navigating relational complexity… this one’s for you.

In this episode, Lindsey Lockett dives into the frustrating reality that many people face in their healing journey: why does healing still feel so damn hard? Even after years of therapy, self-work, nervous system education, and deep intellectual understanding, many still feel stuck in the same patterns. Lindsey challenges the mainstream approach to healing, revealing that it’s not a lack of knowledge that’s holding you back—it’s your nervous system.She explains how your body, not your mind, determines whether healing is possible and how perfectionism, pressure, and an overemphasis on cognitive awareness can keep you on an endless healing hamster wheel. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the "right things" but still aren’t seeing the change you want, this episode is a must-listen.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:🔹 Why your nervous system may actually be blocking your healing.🔹 The difference between knowing about healing and actually embodying it.🔹 How trauma, safety, and familiarity shape your nervous system’s resistance.🔹 The four key areas necessary for true healing: cognitive, somatic, energetic, and relational.🔹 Why healing isn’t about eliminating triggers or always being regulated.🔹 The difference between genuine safety and perceived safety in the body.🔹 How healing needs to feel like permission, not pressure.🔹 Why your healing journey is NOT about perfection or “finishing” healing.Special Invitation:Join Lindsey for her FREE Masterclass on February 27th at 12 Noon Central: "Why Your Nervous System Won’t Let You Heal (Yet)". This live workshop will go deeper into the blocks that keep you stuck, how to shift from intellectualizing healing to embodying it, and practical tools for moving forward.🔗 Sign up here: https://LindseyLockett.com/heal/Connect with Lindsey:🌐 Website: LindseyLockett.com📸 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett

In this deeply insightful and raw conversation, Lindsey Lockett and Kat Lee come together tounpack the complex layers of codependency—what it feels like in the body, how it shapes our relationships, and how we can begin to break free from its patterns.Drawing from personal experiences, childhood conditioning, and real-life relationship dynamics, Lindsey and Kat dive into:Why codependency often shows up infamily relationships and partnershipsHowchildhood survival responses (like fawning, people-pleasing, and dissociation) shape adult relational patternsWhatcodependency feels like somatically in the bodyThenuanced difference between genuine support and codependent enmeshmentThe importance ofboundaries, personal responsibility, and differentiation in healing from codependencyHowauthenticity is the antidote to codependencyResources & Links:🔗Follow Kat Lee:Instagram |Website🔗Follow Lindsey Lockett:Instagram |Website🔗Check Out Lindsey’s Book:Nourish Your Nervous System –Click here

In this powerful episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey Lockett dives deep into what she calls the climax of the series: Authenticity. Authenticity isn't just about being true to yourself—it’s the entire point of nervous system healing. It’s what lies beneath layers of conditioning, survival patterns, and emotional malnourishment. When we uncover our authenticity, we reclaim our power, our freedom, and our true voice. Join Lindsey as she unpacks why living inauthentically feels terrible, how trauma and conditioning disconnect us from our real selves, and why nourishing your nervous system is the foundation for standing in your truth. Resources & Links: 🔗 Get Lindsey’s Book: Nourish Your Nervous System – Click here (Includes eBook & 7.5-hour audiobook)🔗 Connect with Lindsey: Website | Instagram | YouTube

In this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey Lockett dives into one of the most essential yet misunderstood aspects of nervous system healing: emotional nourishment. Many of us have been conditioned to judge, suppress, or intellectualize our emotions rather than fully feeling and embodying them. But true healing requires a shift from avoidance to presence, from judgment to curiosity. Join Lindsey as she unpacks why emotions are not the problem, how childhood trauma conditions us to suppress our authentic feelings, and why embracing the full spectrum of emotions—without labeling them as "good" or "bad"—is critical to nervous system regulation. Resources & Links: 🔗 Take the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Test: Click Here🔗 Book: Nourish Your Nervous System (eBook & Audiobook) – Get it here🔗 More from Lindsey: Website | Instagram | YouTube Support the Podcast: 💖 Love this episode? Leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Your support helps spread this healing work to more people.

In this episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with part 10, exploring the topic of ancestral nourishment. While acknowledging that ancestral healing is an area where she still feels like a student, Lindsey shares her personal experiences with genealogy, ancestral trauma, and connection to those who came before us. She dives deep into how ancestral trauma is passed down through generations, from emotional wounds to adaptive survival patterns like addiction, scarcity mindset, and chronic illness. Lindsey also explores the historical impacts of colonization, Christianization, and systemic overculture trauma on our collective and individual nervous systems. Through personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and practical steps, this episode offers a powerful reflection on how we can nourish our relationship with our ancestors, honor their struggles, and embrace the resilience that allowed us to exist today. 8 Practical Ways to Connect with Your Ancestors: 1️⃣ Research your ancestry and build a family tree using resources like Ancestry.com or FamilySearch.org2️⃣ Ask living relatives to share stories and write them down for future generations3️⃣ Display photos of ancestors in your home to honor them4️⃣ Visit gravesites or ancestral lands and leave small offerings5️⃣ Call on your well-in-spirit ancestors for guidance, protection, and support6️⃣ Create an “ancestor plate” at special family meals and offer a portion of food to them7️⃣ Hold onto meaningful heirlooms like jewelry, tools, clothing, or art8️⃣ Choose a symbolic sign (e.g., a hummingbird, number, or object) to represent an ancestor’s presence Resources Mentioned: 🌿 Lindsey’s book Nourish Your Nervous System – ⁠Download the eBook + audiobook⁠ for $19.99 📖 It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn – Get the book📖 Ancestral Medicine: Rituals for Personal and Family Healing by Dr. Daniel Foor – Get the book📖 Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker – Get the book Stay Connected: ✨ Follow Lindsey on Instagram: ⁠@iamlindseylockett⁠ and ⁠@authenticitywitch⁠ 🎙 Subscribe to the podcast: ⁠Spotify⁠ | ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ | ⁠YouTube⁠ ⭐ Leave a review! Your ratings help more people discover the show.

In this powerful episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with Part 9: Relational Nourishment. Humans are deeply relational creatures, just like pack animals, and the health of our relationships directly impacts our nervous system regulation, emotional well-being, and overall resilience. Lindsey explores how emotional abandonment, modern disconnection, and trauma patterns shape our relationships and why nourishing, reciprocal connections are essential for healing. She shares insights from Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, her personal experiences, and practical tools to build conscious, supportive relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with finding your people, setting boundaries, or communicating vulnerably in relationships, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📖 Nourish Your Nervous System by Lindsey Lockett – Get the eBook & Audiobook📖 Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker – A must-read for trauma healing.📖 Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion by Marshall Rosenberg – Learn conscious communication techniques. Connect with Lindsey: 📲 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett🌎 Website: www.lindseylockett.com If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with Lindsey on Instagram. Your support helps spread this message of healing and relational nourishment!