Writers Jacob Nordby and Scott Stabile sharing their uncut take on living in the world as sensitive people – keeping open hearts, learning, growing, and loving. Tune in and join the conversation.
How to steal joy from uncomfortable situations with a key question
1:04:42In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about Scott’s rough entrance into New Orleans and his attempts to jibe with the Mardi Gras vibe, even though drunken crowds are decidedly not his thing. They discuss the importance of honoring where you are, and at the same time not being bound to stories about yourself that may prevent you from moving forward. The friends talk about the witness again, that place within each of us that only observes the mind and its thoughts, without becoming attached to any of them. They leave listeners with a question to consider, in general, and especially when we find ourselves in a circumstance we’re not excited about: what do I need right now? Scott’s Writing Yourself Workshop on Feb. 25th: https://writingyourself.eventbrite.com Scott’s Spain Retreat with David Gandelman: https://www.meditationschool.us/spain-retreat-2023 Scott’s Breathwork Journeys: https://www.scottstabile.com/events
Episode 51: Enough light for the next step on the path
53:22In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the ways in which they’ve been navigating despair and overwhelm in recent months. For Jacob, keeping steady with his daily journaling practice has been a consistent source of grounding. For Scott, remembering to bear witness rather than become the thoughts of his despairing mind has helped create a bit more peace. The friends talk about accepting rather than resisting what is, and moving forward and creating change from this place of acceptance. As well, they remind us that we all have an inner knowing that will (if we let listen) guide us to choices and practices that are likely to serve our growth and healing. Scott’s Spain retreat with David Gandelman: https://www.meditationschool.us/spain-retreat-2023 Breathwork with Scott on Wednesday, January 25th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/online-breath-belonging-with-scott-stabile-tickets-520667028097 Breathwork with Scott on Thursday, January 26th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/online-breath-belonging-with-scott-stabile-tickets-520676997917
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Episode 50: Developing meaningful rituals, community, and the truth of "this too shall pass"
55:21In this conversation — the 50th episode of Hey Jacob, Hi Scott! — Jacob and Scott talk about the importance of community, and the power within each of us to create community in our lives, whether in person or online. Sometimes, when we’re in compassionate communion with others, we are most able to find our way back to ourselves. They talk about integrating rituals into our lives, especially during the times of year that tend to be most difficult. Jacob offers up some great ideas for easy rituals that can be integrated at any time. The friends speak to how difficult the holiday season can be for many, and to remember the importance of the mantra, “this too shall pass.” Sometimes that’s the one thing we can hold onto when we’re going through a funk. Scott’s visualization workshop “Imagine It” to start 2023: https://imagineimagine.eventbrite.com Order signed copies of Scott’s books for the holidays: https://www.scottstabile.com/books-1 Julia Cameron Virtual Workshop: Write for Life – https://www.healcreate.org/write-for-life-creative-tools-for-every-writer-workshop-with-julia-cameron/ December Stress Relief Sessions: https://www.healcreate.org/december-stress-relief-sessions/ These include Breathwork with Scott Stabile and Therapeutic Doodling with Carin Channing!
Episode 49: Processing the funk when things feel destabilizing and overwhelming
1:03:50In this conversation, Scott talks about the funk he’s been in, the loneliness he’s been feeling, and how his mind has had the reins for days and is hellbent on making him miserable. The friends talk about feeling destabilized and how difficult it can be sometimes, even if you’ve got all the tools, to work your way back to a more grounded place. They discuss holding space for life’s many contradictions, and that truth can live in exact opposite perspectives. They talk about how, as teachers, they approach discussing the times they’re struggling: whether to share while you’re in the midst of the struggle or to wait until you have some insights on the other side of it.
Episode 48: How to empower ourselves with good questions, choices, and five-minute actions
55:42In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the shift from "Can I …?" (or "Why can't I ...?")to "How can I…?" – and the way in which the latter question automatically assumes a yes and invites into play our creativity and imagination. They talk about conditioned responses versus authentic responses, and how one necessary component of self-growth is bringing awareness to the ways in which we’ve been conditioned, followed by concrete actions that represent what is most true for us. The friends also invite us all to look at the ways in which we can integrate healing actions into our days in bite-sized increments, trusting that even five minutes of intentional action each day will add up to sizable payoffs in time. Heal + Create Writer’s Retreat: https://www.healcreate.org/writer-retreat/ref/5/ Scott’s new workshop, How to Love Yourself (when your mind is determined not to): https://howtoloveyourself.eventbrite.com Scott’s breathwork session on October 26th: https://breathbelong.eventbrite.com
Episode 47: Living with a scarcity mindset robs you of the life you are meant to live – and what to do about it
1:13:46*Note: The previous episode 47 was deleted due to Scott’s audio disappearing at the 10-minute mark. This is the rerecorded episode 47. In this conversation, Jacob and Scott take a deep dive into creating more abundance in our lives — financial, spiritual, creative, emotional, and every other type of abundance we seek to call forth. They talk about their current experiences doing the daily practices from The Abundance Book, by John Randolph Price, and how beneficial resting in the boundless energy of abundance can be for even five minutes a day. They describe their shared understanding that the Source energy within us all is the foundation and the supply for unlimited abundance, and their belief that this energy is working on our behalf. Though some of the ideas may seem a bit woo-woo, Jacob and Scott bring a clear groundedness to the topic of abundance and offer up practices that can help shift you from a scarcity to an abundant mentality. Heal + Create Writers' Retreat with Anne Lamott, Julia Cameron, SARK, and other teachers: https://www.healcreate.org/writer-retreat/ref/5/ Join Scott for Online Breath & Belonging on Wednesday, October 19th: https://yestothebreath.eventbrite.com Join Scott for Online Breath & Belonging on Thursday, October 20th: https://breathworkrocks.eventbrite.com Join Scott for a FREE guided breathwork session through Jacob’s Heal + Create community on Sunday, October 23rd: https://www.healcreate.org/event/breathe-your-way-home-a-special-breathwork-session-with-scott-stabile/ Check out The Abundance Book, by John Randolph Price, that Jacob and Scott refer to throughout this episode: https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Book-John-Randolph-Price/dp/1561703478
Episode 46: Shamanic Journeys, the Life-Changing Medicine of Abundance and Gratitude, and more
1:03:32In this conversation, nearly six weeks after their last episode, Jacob and Scott catch up on their final weeks of summer and talk about rituals for heading into the Autumn Equinox. Jacob takes us through his recent plant medicine journey in the City of Rocks in Idaho, detailing some wildly profound experiences within which are lessons for us all. The friends talk about the importance of transcending expectations and assumptions, about others and about our own lives, thereby centering us more readily in the present moment. Jacob shares some of the healing he’s created in his relationship with money and how much more available to abundance he’s become. Jacob’s Writer’s Retreat with Anne Lamotte, Julia Cameron, and SARK! CLICK HERE FOR ALL DETAILS AND TO ENROLL Scott’s online breathwork journey on Wednesday, September 21st: https://inhaleandexhale.eventbrite.com The Abundance Book – 40-Day Practice (Jacob mentioned this book) Six Rituals for Honoring the September Equinox (provided by Chani Nicholas)
Episode 45: Holding space, owning our private hypocrisies, and centering in our souls to navigate a destabilized human era
1:06:52In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about what it means to hold space for others – and yourself – in an honest way, and how doing so elicits not only more depth of connection but also a more authentic and heart-centered response. They also discuss the importance of owning our hypocrisy, as Scott shares a story about his own blatant hypocrisy related to podcast reviews and ratings. They take a deep dive into their understanding of the soul, and the importance of connecting to the ever-present peacefulness of that soul-centered place within yourself, while at the same time honoring your very human humanity. Scott’s Detroit breathwork gatherings Saturday, August 20th: https://saturdaybreath.eventbrite.com and Sunday, August 21st: https://sundaybreath.eventbrite.com Scott’s online breathwork journey on Thursday, August 11th: https://onlinebreathing.eventbrite.com Grab Jacob's book, The Creative Cure, on Kindle for just 99¢ or equivalent in the US, Canada, UK, and Australia: Audio or reading sample at https://www.CreativeCureBook.com
Episode 44: Breaking out of jail – how self-discovery opens the door to self-acceptance and freedom
1:02:06In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the difference between trying to fix yourself and working to accept yourself, quirks and all. They discuss how the self-help culture makes it easy to get lost in the desire to change ourselves, when what serves us better is acknowledging who we really are, with compassion and love. They talk about the benefit of teachers, as long as they recognize the power to create healing lives within the students, and dependence upon a teacher or guru is not only unnecessary but likely harmful. The friends dive into the Enneagram a bit (as Scott tries to figure out his type) and acknowledge whether it’s with the Enneagram, astrology, Meyer’s-Briggs, or any other system of understanding oneself, the aim is to create more acceptance and healing around whatever personality traits are yours to work with. Oh, and they talk about envy and the other less desirable aspects of the human mind. “I was a neurotic for years. I was anxious and depressed and selfish. Everyone kept telling me to change. I resented them, and I agreed with them, and I wanted to change, but simply couldn't, no matter how hard I tried. What hurt the most was that, like the others, my best friend kept insisting that I change. So I felt powerless and trapped. Then, one day, he said to me, "Don't change. I love you just as you are." Those words were music to my ears: "Don't change. Don't change. Don't change . . . I love you as you are." I relaxed. I came alive. And suddenly I changed! Now I know that I couldn't really change until I found someone who would love me whether I changed or not.” - Anthony DeMello Scott’s Santa Fe workshop this weekend with Ruthie Lindsey: https://loveyourselfwhole.eventbrite.com Scott’s Detroit Breathwork workshops in August: Saturday, August 20th: https://saturdaybreath.eventbrite.com Sunday, August 21st: https://sundaybreath.eventbrite.com
Episode 43: How to live through the apocalypse
1:05:07In this episode, Jacob and Scott talk about the time we’re living through as an actual apocalypse, or an “unveiling,” as the word used to be defined. They ask the question, whether we see the world as crumbling or as flourishing, who do you want to be within it? How do you want to show up in your life, no matter how life around you is showing up? The friends talk about the overturning of Roe v Wade, how that is affecting them, and the ways in which we humans are entirely too comfortable wanting to control others when we ourselves would never want to be controlled in the same ways. Jacob gets forceful (for him) in his plea to all of us to live into choices that create more peace and grounding in our lives. It’s not enough to want it without doing anything to create the “it” you want. As usual, there’s lots of heart and many laughs throughout the conversation. Scott’s newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Jacob’s “peace of heart and mind healing Rx program” https://www.healcreate.org/creative-self-journaling-program-gift/