Heal Yourself Podcast

Send us Fan MailFOMO can sound harmless, but it  trains your brain and body to live on alert: always scanning, comparing, and second-guessing your choices. We get honest about how fear of missing out shows up in the real world, from scrolling vacation photos to feeling pressure to attend every plan, say yes to every request, or “keep up” with what everyone else seems to be doing. And yes, we record this one while feeling a little under the weather, because healing still happens in real time.We walk through the cousin to FOMO that we want more of in your life: JOMO, the joy of missing out. We unpack why so much of what we chase is not the car, the party, or the next milestone, it is the feeling we think it will bring. We talk ego versus true desire, validation versus genuine pleasure, and why your nervous system was not designed for constant stimulation and nonstop measuring. If you have been running on stress, guilt, or people-pleasing, this conversation helps you find the off-ramp.We also go deep on boundaries and the guilt that comes with saying no. “No” is a complete sentence. You do not owe anyone an explanation for protecting your time, energy, health, and peace. We share personal examples, practical reflection questions, and a simple way to start building the “no” muscle with smaller choices first. We close with calming breathwork and a mantra we want you to borrow anytime scarcity shows up: “My life is complete as it is.”If this resonates, subscribe, share the show with a friend who needs permission to rest, and leave a review so more people can find these healing conversations.Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailIf you have ever caught yourself spiraling over a small moment, replaying a conversation, or asking “what is the lesson here” until you feel exhausted, this one is for you. We get honest about a belief we used to lean on hard: everything in life is a lesson. There is truth in it, but there is also a shadow side, where lesson-hunting becomes obsession and healing turns into constant self-correction.We talk through what balance actually looks like for overthinkers and high achievers, including a real example of taking on a client case that felt misaligned. Is it a boundaries issue you can clean up next time, or is it intuition and the right person slipping through for a reason? We share a simple filter to check quickly, learn what you can, and then release it so you can get back to living your life. You will also hear how nervous system patterns show up when you are used to chaos, including the urge to scan for problems even when things are finally going well.We also call out the noise in the spirituality and healing world: the rules, the contradictions, and the subtle message that you must be “fixed” to be worthy. Not every experience needs analysis, and not every repeating situation means you failed. If this resonates, subscribe for more grounded healing conversations, share the episode with a friend who overthinks, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What is one “lesson” you are ready to stop chasing?Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailThe fastest way to stay stuck is to keep clenching what your body and spirit are begging you to release. We go there with a surprisingly practical metaphor: spiritual constipation. When you hold on to old beliefs, outdated relationships, guilt, labels, and worn out identities, you feel heavy, foggy, and reactive, then wonder why healing feels so hard. From our lens, that “blocked” feeling is information, not a personal flaw. We walk through how repeated patterns in your health, finances, friendships, and relationships often trace back to a belief you have rehearsed for years. Then we take it a level deeper, because beliefs sit on top of identity. If your identity is built around suffering, being “the sick one,” or staying small, you can make progress for a moment and still snap back. We talk about why visualization and vision boards are only tools, and why the real shift happens when you practice the future version of you right now, one small moment at a time. We also ground this in reality with a nod to neuroscience and neuroplasticity: change is not magic, it is repetition and reinforcement. Finally, we share ways to find the gap, that quiet space where clarity shows up. If sitting in silence makes you spiral, try walking, movement, or a focused activity that naturally turns down the mental noise. Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailFear doesn’t always show up as panic. Sometimes it shows up as “I should,” a packed schedule, a need to control every outcome, or that looping thought that you’re one wrong move away from failing. This week we dive into what happens when fear gets in the driver’s seat of your life.We talk about the sneaky ways fear hides inside perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and the constant chase for certainty. Then we get practical about a question we hear all the time: how do you know whether a voice in your head is intuition or anxiety? Our take is simple, body-based, and immediately useful. If it shrinks you and fills you with doubt, it’s usually programming. If it’s clear and steady, even when it pushes you out of your comfort zone, it’s more likely intuition.We also unpack what “living fearlessly” actually means. Spoiler: it’s not becoming fearless. It’s learning to stay present, tolerate uncertainty, and take the next small step while fear is still there. We connect this to health anxiety, identity, ego, embarrassment, and the way many of us were taught that mistakes are dangerous instead of developmental. If this hits home, share the episode with a friend, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, and leave a review to help more people find the show. Where do you notice fear making decisions for you right now?Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailYour ego is not just arrogance or being self-absorbed. The way we see it, ego is the identity you’ve constructed out of what you have, what you do, how you look, what you’ve survived, and what other people say about you. And while it can protect you and push you to grow, it can also keep you stuck in control, comparison, and constant self-evaluation. So Denise and I slow it down and get practical about what ego is actually doing in your day-to-day life, and how it shows up in your body, your stress levels, and your choices. We use Wayne Dyer’s framework of six ego beliefs and talk through each one with real-life examples: “I am what I have,” “I am what I do,” and “I am what other people think of me.” We also dig into the deeper separation stories like “I am separate from everyone else,” the endless “I’ll be okay when…” mindset, and the spiritual piece of feeling disconnected from Source, God, or something bigger. If you’ve been chasing the next goal, the next purchase, the next version of yourself, this conversation offers a calmer, clearer way to pursue what you want without letting it define you. Then we bring it home with two simple tools: the “peel back the mask” question (strip away roles, accomplishments, relationships, and history to see what remains) and the orange-squeeze analogy (when life squeezes you, what comes out shows what you’re carrying). If this lands with you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailThe most tempting form of avoidance is the kind that looks like self-improvement. When you’re stressed, symptomatic, or stuck in old patterns, it feels responsible to search for the next root cause: another lab, another supplement, another therapy modality, another round of shadow work, another nervous system practice. But what if all that “digging” is keeping you in limbo because it gives you answers without asking you to change your life?We get real about the difference between helpful curiosity and endless investigation. We talk about why people crave a single clean explanation, how that need for certainty can push you to over-analyze your past, and why healing doesn’t require you to remember every origin story to move forward. From functional nutrition basics to mindset and self-love, we keep coming back to one practical filter: will this new information change what you do tomorrow, or are you postponing the uncomfortable next step?You’ll hear our take on spiritual rabbit holes, inner child work, and nervous system regulation, plus why rigid routines can backfire for anyone who already leans perfectionistic. We share simple, grounded alternatives you can use in real time: moment-by-moment support, fewer “projects,” and more follow-through on boundaries, sleep, circadian rhythm, food choices, and the small actions that actually move the needle.If you’re tired of feeling like healing is a full-time job, press play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who’s stuck in the research loop, and leave a review so more people can find a calmer way forward.Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailYour body isn’t “breaking” in midlife. It’s asking for a new strategy. In today's episode, Kira is joined by Kelly Lupshaw for a grounded conversation on how women can stop chasing symptoms and start rebuilding the systems that drive real energy, calm, and longevity.We dig into what “systems over symptoms” actually looks like in everyday life: why swapping a pharmaceutical for a natural supplement can still keep you stuck, and why ownership is the missing piece for so many health journeys. Kelly shares how her background in physical therapy and brain based rehab shaped her approach to mindset and behavior change, including how your nighttime self-talk and first moments in the morning can reinforce old patterns or create a new identity.We also connect health and wealth in a way that feels practical, not woo. When your nervous system is fried and your metabolism is struggling, it’s harder to think clearly, show up consistently, or build the life you want. That’s why we keep coming back to foundations for midlife women navigating perimenopause and menopause: comprehensive blood work, inflammation support, metabolic health, strength training, and sleep that actually restores you. The big takeaway is permission with a plan: rest and play are not laziness, they’re part of a real recovery program.About Kellie:Kellie Lupsha is the founder of Wellness Activated™, host of the Thriving in Midlife podcast, and creator of the Activation First™ methodology and Systems Over Symptoms™ philosophy.After more than 30 years in healthcare as a Physical Therapist, Kellie realized that most women aren’t struggling because they lack information, they’re exhausted because their system isn’t activated. Today, she helps women reclaim energy, strength, and clarity by activating their biology, rebuilding metabolic resilience, regulating the nervous system, and stepping into leadership over their health, what she calls becoming the CEO of your health.She is also the co-founder of the Wellness Activated Collective™ and creator of The Activated Woman, supporting both women and practitioners in creating vibrant health and meaningful impact.Kellie’s mission is simple: help women stop chasing symptoms, activate their whole system, to live extraordinary.Find Kellie:https://www.instagram.com/kellielupsha/https://www.tiktok.com/@womenslongevityexpertFree Quiz: https://quiz.kellielupshawellness.com/take-the-quizPreview Kellie's membership:https://womenslongevityandwellness.com/hubexperienceSupport the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailYour attention is being trained every day, and it’s rarely training you toward peace. We’re talking about “living in the matrix” not as a movie concept, but as the real-life box of 3D distractions that hijack your nervous system: social media spirals, email stress, traffic rage, political outrage, and the endless feeling that something is always wrong. When we live there, we don’t just feel anxious, we lose touch with the bigger story of why we’re here and what our bodies are trying to heal.We unpack what we mean by 3D versus a more grounded, expansive way of living and why “zooming out” is one of the most underrated healing tools. Perspective changes physiology. When you remember how vast life is, the day-to-day triggers don’t get to run your mood, your choices, or your identity the same way. We also get honest about being human: it’s normal to want to escape, to scroll, to seek validation, and to slip back into old patterns. The shift is learning how to participate without getting consumed.If this hits home, share it with someone who’s stuck in the box, subscribe for more nervous system and self-healing conversations, and leave a review telling us what helps you get back to you.Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailThe fastest way to turn healing into misery is to treat your life like a checklist you’re failing. We’re talking about the specific kind of guilt that shows up when you believe you’re not doing enough: not enough movement, not enough meditation, not enough supplements, not enough productivity, not enough “emotional maturity.” That belief doesn’t motivate most of us. It keeps the nervous system stuck in stress, makes self-care feel like punishment, and creates a constant background hum of shame.We also name the pressure cooker so many of us live in right now: social media wellness culture. One scroll and suddenly you “should” be doing everything at once, and if you aren’t, you must be behind. We challenge that idea head-on. Behind compared to who? Whose timeline are you grading yourself on? When you stop borrowing other people’s standards, your habits get simpler, your mind gets quieter, and healing becomes something you can actually sustain.From there we get very practical. We talk about all-or-nothing thinking and why small actions matter, how stress and self-criticism can affect digestion and your relationship with food, and why rest is not something you earn by finishing your list. We share a simple self-coaching tool you can use in the car or in a five-minute pause: ask what you need today, not what you “should” do. We close with a grounding breath and a mantra worth repeating when the pressure spikes: “I am not behind.”If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a break from the perfectionism spiral, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one “should” you’re ready to let go of?Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

Send us Fan MailIf your “healing journey” has turned into tracking, fixing, optimizing, and endlessly researching, we want to offer a different lens: your body might be asking for trust, not micromanagement. In this episode we get real about the fine line between listening to your body and trying to control it. When every symptom becomes a crisis and every emotion becomes a project, healing stops feeling like support and starts feeling like pressure. We dig into the question people rarely ask out loud: what does healing even mean, and when do you arrive? From functional nutrition and nervous system regulation to the emotional and spiritual side of growth, we talk about why there may never be a perfect “done” moment, and why that’s not a failure. We connect this to wellness culture, supplement stacking, biohacking trends, and the fear that shows up around perimenopause and aging. Sometimes the most powerful move is a pause, a breath, and an honest check-in: what do I need today? You’ll hear practical ideas like taking a “supplement holiday,” making small one percent shifts in your routine, and releasing the belief that you’re broken. We close with two simple mantras and a calming breath you can use when you feel yourself gripping too tightly. If this brings you relief, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs permission to slow down, and leave a review so more people can find the show.Support the showFollow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IGFollow Denise on IGClick here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira