Flawed and Fabulous -Honest conversations about the beautiful mess of being human.

Nobody talks about what divorce does to a father. Not really. There's no cultural script for it, no support group with good biscuits, no socially acceptable way to say: I lost my family and I'm not okay and I'm still making packed lunches twice a week trying to hold it together.In this episode of Flawed and Fabulous, Dr. Munita Grover and Shazia Datoobhoy sit down with Adrian Wildsmith — mental health advocate, radio host, and living proof that men can go deep without needing a full breakdown to get there — for a conversation about the grief that doesn't announce itself. The identity that quietly splinters when the life you built is suddenly split across two addresses. The guilt that becomes a father's most loyal, least helpful companion.They get into the loneliness of rebuilding from scratch. The complexity of loving your kids well through something that's also breaking you. The particular silence so many men carry — not because they don't feel it, but because nobody ever told them they were allowed to say it out loud.Plus: what healthy co-parenting actually looks like beyond the version people post about online, how children absorb everything parents think they're successfully hiding, and whether it's genuinely possible to open yourself to love again after real loss.Turns out it is. It just requires you to do some work you probably weren't expecting — and feel some things you've been very successfully avoiding.Worth it though. This conversation is a good place to start.CREDITS:Hosts: Shazia Datoobhoy and Dr. Munita GroverGuest: Adrian WildsmithCreative Directors: Shazia Datoobhoy and Dr. Munita GroverReach out on InstagramThis is a Maed in India production.Head of Production: Mae Mariyam ThomasProject Manager: Shaun FanthomeAudio Supervisor: Kartik Kulkarni Producer: Rachna SukuruAssistant Producer: Karan SolankiRecording Engineer: Kartik Kulkarni, Nihar TemkarSound Editor & Mix Engineer: Nihar Temkar

Nobody warns you that childhood is basically an unpaid internship for your nervous system — and that it keeps using those learnings long after you've moved cities, changed your number, and done three years of therapy.In this episode of Flawed and Fabulous, Dr. Munita Grover and Shazia Datoobhoy explore how the quiet, repeated moments of growing up — not just the big dramatic ones — shape the adults we become. The over-apologiser. The people-pleaser. The one who goes completely still when things get loud. All of them made perfect sense once. Most of them have significantly overstayed their welcome.They also get into intergenerational trauma — because sometimes the anxiety you're carrying isn't entirely yours. Some of it was your mother's. Some of it was hers before that. It moves through families quietly, like a habit nobody remembers starting but everyone somehow has.And then there's the harder, more hopeful part — what it actually takes to change. Not the overnight revelation kind of change. The slow, unglamorous, requires-you-to-sit-with-uncomfortable-things kind. The kind where you have to have feelings about your feelings, which is as tedious as it sounds and as necessary as it gets.The work isn't always pretty. But it is, genuinely, worth doing — and this conversation is a good place to begin.CREDITS:Hosts: Shazia Datoobhoy and Dr. Munita GroverCreative Directors: Shazia Datoobhoy and Dr. Munita GroverReach out on InstagramThis is a Maed in India production.Head of Production: Mae Mariyam ThomasProject Manager: Shaun FanthomeAudio Supervisor: Kartik Kulkarni Producer: Rachna SukuruAssistant Producer: Karan SolankiRecording Engineer: Kartik Kulkarni, Nihar TemkarSound Editor & Mix Engineer: Nihar Temkar

She used to tell you everything. Now it’s just door slams, eye rolls, one-word answers. Sound familiar? Good news: your daughter isn't broken, and neither are you. In this episode, psychotherapist Shazia Datoobhoy sits down with medic and life coach Dr. Munita Grover, who has made it her mission to decode the most gloriously complicated relationship known to womankind: mothers and daughters. From door-slamming teenagers (spoiler: it's not personal, it's developmental) to the mother who cried in a supermarket over food she’d been buying for 12 years, we get into the messy, tender, infuriating, and deeply human terrain of mother-daughter dynamics. We're talking generational patterns passed down like bad recipes nobody asked for, the grief of watching your little girl become her own person, and why your mother's emotional toolkit might have been packed by her mother, who got hers from a grandmother who was told that crying was basically a personality flaw.Plus: stepmothers, daughters-in-law, the mythical “mother wound”, and the art of the unreserved apology — no buts allowed.Fair warning: this one might give you a lump in your throat. CREDITS:Hosts: Shazia Datoobhoy and Dr. Munita GroverCreative Directors: Shazia Datoobhoy and Dr. Munita GroverReach out on InstagramThis is a Maed in India production.Head of Production: Mae Mariyam ThomasProject Manager: Shaun FanthomeAudio Supervisor: Kartik Kulkarni Producer: Rachna SukuruAssistant Producer: Karan SolankiRecording Engineer: Kartik Kulkarni, Nihar TemkarSound Editor & Mix Engineer: Nihar Temkar

Welcome to Flawed and Fabulous, where self-discovery happens somewhere between a delayed Tube ride and a minor emotional breakdown.Hosted by Dr. Munita Grover and Shazia Datoobhoy, this is a podcast about navigating modern life while being deeply flawed, slightly overwhelmed, and still somehow fabulous. From grief and imposter syndrome to family dynamics, identity shifts, and the pressure to have it all figured out, they unpack the things we’re all thinking about but don’t always say out loud.Messy conversations. Honest laughs. Flawed, yet fabulous!

Why is it still so hard for men to say, “I’m not okay”?In this powerful and timely episode, Shazia and Dr Munita shine a light on men’s mental health - the unspoken pain, the societal pressure to stay silent, and the cultural narratives that still tell men to “man up” instead of open up.We explore how masculinity has been shaped by outdated expectations, why emotional literacy is often denied to boys from a young age, and the ways depression, anxiety, and shame can manifest in men - often hidden beneath anger, overwork, or withdrawal.From male identity collapse to loneliness after divorce, and from cultural stigma to the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ men, this episode unpacks it all with insight, empathy, and urgency. Plus, we offer practical ways to support the men in your life - and empower them to support themselves.Whether you’re a man, love a man, or want to create a world where men are free to feel - this episode is for you.Edited and produced by Mike at Making Digital Real🎙️

The Happiness Trap – Why Chasing Joy Can Leave You EmptyIs your pursuit of happiness making you miserable?In this refreshingly honest episode, Dr Munita and Shazia explore the myth of constant happiness - and why the pressure to "be positive" all the time might be doing more harm than good. From cultural messaging to social media’s obsession with perfection, we unpack how modern life fuels a deep sense of disconnection, discontent… and guilt for not being happy enough.Expect real talk on emotional avoidance, the rise of toxic positivity, and why sadness, boredom, and even rage are not only valid - but necessary. We share personal stories, psychological insights, and soulful reframes to help you feel more at home with the full spectrum of your emotions.If you’ve ever thought, “I should be happy, but I’m not,” this one’s for you.Edited and produced by Mike at Making Digital Real🎙️

Ever felt like a fraud, even when you're thriving? You're not alone.In this episode of Flawed and Fabulous, Dr Munita and Shazia take a deep dive into the inner saboteur - that voice that whispers, “Who do you think you are?” We explore the roots of imposter phenomenon, how it shows up in high-achieving individuals, and why so many of us secretly struggle with self-worth, despite external success.Expect personal stories, psychological insights, and practical strategies to shift from self-doubt to self-trust. We unpack how imposter feelings link to early experiences, perfectionism, identity, and fear - and how to start reclaiming your confidence.If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re good enough, this one’s for you.✨ Join us as we uncover the truth behind the mask and start making peace with the parts of ourselves we’ve been told to hide.Edited and produced by Mike at Making Digital Real🎙️

Episode 2: Facing Fear – How to Understand It, Harness It and Stop It Holding You BackFear. It’s something we all feel, often more than we’d like to admit. In this episode of Flawed and Fabulous, we’re diving deep into the F word - what fear really is, how it shows up in our lives, and how to work with it (instead of letting it run the show).Shazia and Munita explore:The neuroscience behind fear (including your amygdala’s starring role)How trauma, culture and generational experiences shape our fearsThe impact of chronic stress and how it shows up in the bodyWhy fear sometimes drives perfectionism, people-pleasing or avoidanceStrategies to move from stuck to curious, from frozen to forwardFrom Yoda quotes and green pepper aversions, to stoic philosophy and childhood trauma – this conversation is raw, real and relatable.By the end of this episode, you’ll understand fear in a whole new way – and be one step closer to using it as fuel, not a full stop.Edited and produced by Mike at Making Digital Real🎙️

In our very first episode, we’re diving headfirst into a topic that’s close to both our hearts - perfectionism.Why do we feel the need to get everything “just right”? What’s really driving the pressure to be perfect — at work, in relationships, online, and even in our own minds? And most importantly, what happens when we stop striving and start embracing who we truly are?Join Shazia and Dr Munita as we unpack:Sneaky ways perfectionism shows up in everyday lifeHow childhood, culture, and social media shape our self-worthThe connection between perfectionism, fear, and burnoutPersonal stories of procrastination, pressure, and people-pleasingPractical tools and mindset shifts to help you let go and lighten upWe’re keeping it real, raw, and a little rebellious - because life isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present, being kind to ourselves, and finding freedom in the flaws.💭 Reflection for you: Where is perfectionism showing up in your life right now? What might shift if you loosened the grip, even just a little?We’re so glad you’re here. Stay flawed. Stay fabulous. And keep showing up as you.Edited and produced by Mike at Making Digital Real🎙️