Fathering Our Future

Most of us believe we will remember the little moments with our children. The funny words, unexpected performances, quiet conversations, and ordinary experiences feel unforgettable while they are happening.But many of them disappear.In this episode, I share the simple phone habit my wife and I use to preserve the moments with our children that are worth remembering. I explain how this practice is helping me notice more throughout the day, include my wife in moments she may have missed, and practice gratitude beyond November.I also share a few recent memories involving my daughters Jules and Reagan that I likely would have forgotten if I had not written them down.Gratitude requires remembering. This practice can help you become a more grateful husband, father, and follower of Jesus.Resources for dads:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Support Fathering Our Future:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/

Ever walked away from a moment with your kids thinking, “Why did I get so angry over that?”I have. In this episode, I share an interaction with my son that I immediately regretted and explore what can sit beneath our reactions as fathers.We talk about parenting patterns, the pressure of constantly rushing, and the difference between feeling angry and allowing anger to direct our behavior. Through Ephesians 4:26 and Galatians 5:22–23, I explore what it means to grow in patience and self-control as a Christian dad.If you want to stop reacting in anger to your kids, this conversation offers an honest place to start and a practical challenge for the week.Resources for dads:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/

Make your kids laugh every day. That simple goal can reduce stress, strengthen your relationship, and remind your children that your presence is a place of joy.In this episode, I use Scripture, research, and one ridiculous wrestling game to explain why laughter belongs in the daily rhythm of fatherhood.Laughter cannot fix every problem, but your willingness to be playful tells your children something important: they are worth your time, energy, and attention.Your challenge is simple—make your kids laugh today.Find practical Christian fatherhood resources:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Support Fathering Our Future:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/

Your kids will eventually manage money without you. Let them practice while you are still there to guide them.In this episode, I share five practical ways we teach money in our home. We talk openly about real costs, connect money to work, practice delayed gratification, let our children experience purchases, and make their savings progress visible.These are not complicated financial strategies. They are ordinary lessons that can help children become responsible adults who understand money as a resource rather than an obstacle.RECOMMENDED PIGGY BANKThis clear piggy bank lets children see their savings grow:https://amzn.to/4xeEASs (Amazon)USE CASH APP TO OPEN ACCOUNTS FOR YOUR KIDSCreate your account:https://cash.app/refer/QMWBNPXUse code: QMWBNPXTerms apply.RELATED EPISODEShould Your Teen Get a Job? The Responsibility Lesson Parents Miss:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2026/08/31/should-your-teen-get-a-job-the-responsibility-lesson-parents-miss/Explore practical Christian fatherhood resources:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Support Fathering Our Future:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/Contact me:[email protected] disclosure: I may receive a referral reward if you create a Cash App account using my link or code and meet Cash App’s qualifying requirements.

The pain passed to you can affect your children—even when you are determined to give them something better.In this episode, I look at the stories of Mephibosheth, Joseph, and the lost coin to explore how unresolved pain moves through families and shapes the way children see themselves. More importantly, I challenge fathers to consider what protecting their children from the past might require of them today.You did not choose everything that happened to you. But with God’s help, the pain does not have to continue through you.Explore practical Christian fatherhood resources:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Listen to “Heal For You” by Lloyd Nicks:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=linKtArox_YSupport Fathering Our Future:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/Connect with me:[email protected]

Are timeouts bad for kids? Or does the real problem come from how parents use them?Research does not show that every properly used timeout is harmful. But there is a significant difference between a brief, intentional consequence and angrily banishing a child because their behavior has become inconvenient.In this episode, I examine timeouts through the lens of Christian parenting and biblical discipline. I challenge dads to consider what their children are actually learning when they are sent away and whether the consequence teaches better behavior or simply provides temporary relief for the parent.I also share practical alternatives to timeouts that allow us to correct behavior, preserve connection, redirect our children, and turn difficult moments into discipleship.Get Before You Correct:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/before-you-correct?step=checkoutExplore practical resources for dads:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Support Fathering Our Future:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/

Children do not automatically become confident communicators as they get older. They learn by watching us, practicing with us, and being given opportunities to speak for themselves.In this episode, I explain why teaching our kids to communicate is part of discipleship—not merely preparation for school or a future career. I also share practical ways dads can help children develop confidence, clarity, eye contact, strong body language, and the ability to speak graciously with different kinds of people.The goal is not to force our kids into uncomfortable situations. It is to prepare them, practice with them, and gradually let them handle real conversations for themselves.Explore practical resources for dads:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Get Talk Time—Dads & Kids:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/talk-time-dads-kids-50-simple-questListen to my conversation with Dr. Tim Elmore:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2026/05/18/raising-kids-in-a-world-we-never-knew-with-dr-tim-elmore/Support Fathering Our Future:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/

For nearly six years, I made pancakes for my children on Saturday mornings. I thought I was simply making breakfast and giving my wife a break.I did not realize how closely my children were watching.Then one Saturday morning, the routine came full circle.In this episode, I share why simple family traditions can carry far more influence than we realize. A small act of consistency can show love, give children something to anticipate, create opportunities to teach, and demonstrate what serving a family actually looks like.You’ll hear:• Why children need traditions they can depend on• How consistency gives children hope• Why visible service is an essential part of fatherhood• How children learn leadership by participating with us• What happened after my son watched this tradition for yearsYou do not need an elaborate activity or a perfect record. Sometimes meaningful discipleship looks like a box of pancake mix, a Saturday morning, and a dad willing to keep showing up.Want the complete pancake tutorial? Email me at [email protected] Our Future resources:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Related episode, Your Family Is Too Busy: 4 Routines Your Kids Need:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2026/09/14/family-routines-for-kids/SUPPORT FATHERING OUR FUTUREBecome a financial partner:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriffContact Anthony:[email protected]

Is your family always rushing from one obligation to the next?When dinner, bedtime, church, and leaving the house constantly become last-minute emergencies, our kids feel the pressure. A reel from Scot Anderson got me thinking about Ephesians 6:4 and how easily fathers can frustrate their children without intending to.But the answer goes beyond giving our kids a ten-minute warning.In this episode, I share four family routines that can create stability, strengthen communication, and make room for meaningful discipleship. I also explain why these patterns require margin, why dads must learn to say no, and why even good commitments can become harmful when they repeatedly pull us away from our families.Your family is your primary ministry. Your calendar should reflect that.RESOURCESFathering Our Future resources:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/Talk Time: Dads & Kids:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/talk-time-dads-kids-50-simple-questNanit Sound + Light Machine:https://amzn.to/4x8NYXH (Amazon)SUPPORT FATHERING OUR FUTUREBecome a financial partner:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriffContact Anthony:[email protected] an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

Most parents think they need to find the right words for “the talk.” But if difficult subjects are the only time we deliberately talk with or teach our children, even the perfect script can feel strange.In this episode, I explain what needs to happen before you talk to your kids about sex. We look at why this cannot be a one-time conversation, how children learn whether Dad is safe to talk to, and how everyday communication and family discipleship prepare them for conversations about bodies, sexuality, and growing up.I also share practical tools my family has used to make talking and learning together a normal part of our home.RESOURCES MENTIONEDTalk Time: Dads & Kids:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/talk-time-dads-kids-50-simple-questAs an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Questions for Humans: Parents and Kids Second Edition by Dr. John Delony:https://amzn.to/4zLCR9u (Amazon affiliate link)Tiny Truths children’s devotional:https://amzn.to/3SgCVNV (Amazon affiliate link)God’s Big Picture Bible Storybook by N. T. Wright:https://amzn.to/4gEaukW (Amazon affiliate link)RELATED EPISODESTalking to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame with Dr. Danny Huerta:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/02/03/talking-to-your-kids-about-sex-without-shame-with-dr-danny-huerta/How to Address Pornography With Your Kids with Hadley Baker:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/03/how-to-address-pornography-with-your-kids-with-hadley-baker/What to Know When Talking to Your Kids About Sex with Dr. John Delony:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/24/what-to-know-when-talking-to-your-kids-about-sex-with-dr-john-delony/The Importance of Ongoing Talks About Sex and Sexuality With Your Kids with Adam and Karissa King:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/04/14/the-importance-of-ongoing-talks-about-sex-and-sexuality-with-your-kids-with-adam-karissa-king/Explore more practical Christian fatherhood resources:https://fatheringourfuture.com/resources/