Everything Changed with Rosie Fawehimi

Content note: this episode discusses domestic abuse, including physical violence. If you are affected, the free, confidential National Domestic Abuse Helpline is open 24 hours on 0808 2000 247. In an emergency, call 999.This episode is brought to you by RevitaLash Cosmetics. RevitaLash was founded by a physician who created a lash serum for his wife during her breast cancer treatment, because he wanted her to feel like herself again. Find them at revitalash.co.uk. Use code CHANGE20 for 20% off your order.Hollie Dowding survived coercive control and violence, saw her ex convicted, and then got an email telling her he had been released early. She tells Rosie Fawehinmi how the control began, why leaving did not end it, and why so many women go back, which she explains as a trauma bond. She also talks about House of H.E.R Hub, the private community and discreet app she built for women leaving abusive relationships. Find it at houseofherhub.com.

Content note: this episode discusses bereavement and online safety.In March 2022, George Nicolau lost his 15-year-old son Christopher. In the weeks before, the family watched a bright, loving boy become withdrawn, tired and glued to his phone. They only found his private chats afterwards, which they believe show he was in contact with people who meant him harm.George tells Rosie what he noticed, what he wishes he’d done differently, and the signs he wants every parent to watch for.To support George’s charity, the Christophoros Charity Foundation, visit ccfworld.org.If this episode has affected you, support is available. In the UK, Samaritans are on 116 123 and Childline is on 0800 1111.Ad: This episode includes a paid promotion for RevitaLash (see below). Get 20% off RevitaLash with code CHANGE20.0:00 Introduction1:12 Meet George and Christopher4:36 The games Christopher played5:50 The change we couldn't explain12:03 The holiday that never happened13:19 What the family found afterwards16:42 Unanswered questions and the police23:26 What George wants parents to know25:46 Are online games safe?27:30 The warning signs28:14 The last evening31:48 Talking to your children33:54 Why Christopher stayed silent34:16 The Christophoros Charity Foundation36:00 George's message to parents

AD | RevitaLash: get 20% off at https://revitalash.co.uk with code change20Rosie sits down, in front of a live audience, with the surgeon who told her she had breast cancer and later performed her double mastectomy and reconstruction. Mr Ullah, a consultant oncoplastic breast surgeon at Whipps Cross Hospital, part of Barts Health NHS Trust, answers five questions:1. Lumpectomy or mastectomy: how do you choose?2. What are the symptoms, and how often should you check?3. Is breast cancer rising in young women?4. Does everyone need radiotherapy?5. What is triple negative breast cancer, and how is it treated?Rosie also tells the story of the day she cried on hearing she did not need radiotherapy, and describes living with the fear that cancer will come back.CHAPTERS0:00 Cold open1:42 Meet Mr Ullah3:20 Breaking the news5:26 Seeing the same surgeon throughout8:24 Lumpectomy or mastectomy: how do you choose?10:28 Rosie's mastectomy and the nipple decision11:09 The day her surgery was cancelled13:04 Symptoms and how often to check15:51 Is breast cancer rising in young women?17:55 Pregnancy and breast cancer18:55 Does everyone need radiotherapy?20:24 Crying over radiotherapy she did not need22:52 Living with the fear of recurrence24:43 Triple negative breast cancer26:39 Why the same diagnosis can mean different treatment29:10 What patients have taught him31:16 A thank you, and his one piece of adviceABOUT MR ULLAHMr Ullah is a consultant oncoplastic breast surgeon at Whipps Cross Hospital, part of Barts Health NHS Trust. Oncoplastic surgery combines cancer surgery with reconstruction.IF THIS EPISODE RAISES ANYTHING FOR YOUSee your GP if you notice a change in your breasts or nipples that is not normal for you.Breast Cancer Now helpline: 0808 800 6000 (free)Macmillan Support Line: 0808 808 00 00 (free)This episode is for information only and is not medical advice. Mr Ullah speaks in general terms, so ask your own care team about your situation.Hosted by Rosie Fawehimi.

Harriet found a lump in the shower at 35 weeks pregnant. Three years, two recurrences and a stage four diagnosis later, she's still fighting, and she's doing it live for the first time on Everything Changed.In this episode, host Rosie Fawehimi sits down with Harriet Lawler to talk through her breast cancer journey: the diagnosis that arrived a week before she gave birth, the newborn daughter, Nellie, she raised through chemotherapy, the recurrence that turned stage three into stage four, and the therapy that helped her grieve the life she thought she'd have. Harriet also opens up about her current treatment in Frankfurt, and why she's chosen to keep fighting on her own terms, with her husband Joe by her side.Support Harriet's treatment: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-our-hThis episode is sponsored by RevitaLash. Use code CHANGE20 for 20% off at revitalash.co.uk.Follow Everything Changed: instagram.com/everythingchangedpodcastFollow Rosie: instagram.com/rosie_fawehimiFollow Harriet: instagram.com/harrietdSubscribe for new episodes of Everything Changed.0:00 Cold Open: "There's Magic in Every Day"0:24 Sponsor: RevitaLash1:13 Welcome to Series 3, Our First Live Episode1:36 Meet Harriet Novak2:13 "I Am a Mum First"3:05 Diagnosed at 35 Weeks Pregnant4:31 Birth, Then Straight Into Chemo5:36 Navigating a Newborn and Chemo7:08 Cancer Treatment as a Full-Time Job8:08 Surgery and Radiotherapy9:12 The Recurrence10:39 Stage 4: Five Nodules on Her Lungs11:58 Finding Out in Mauritius13:04 "I'm Not Going to Be a Number"14:21 The Darkest Time15:30 Therapy and Grieving16:40 Remembering Alice18:33 Why She's Going to Germany20:44 A New Chemo, an Endless Fight22:05 Life During Treatment Weeks23:42 Talking to Nellie About It25:15 Milestones and Why "Everything Changed"26:19 Losing Her Hair26:52 The Mohican Moment30:05 Advice to Another Young Mum31:05 "There's Magic in Every Single Day"32:05 How to Support Harriet34:43 Closing Thanks

Special offerUse code CHANGE20 for 20% off your order at www.revitalash.co.ukIn our season two finale, Rosie sits down with Dariel Sidney, daughter of RevitaLash's founders and the company's VP of Philanthropy, for the story behind our podcast sponsor.Dariel's mother was diagnosed with stage four metastatic breast cancer at just 32. As she went through chemotherapy and radiation, the hardest part wasn't the treatment itself, it was the damage done to her once-beautiful lashes and brows. Her husband, a practicing ophthalmologist, set out to fix that. What started as a homemade formula in a small vial became RevitaLash, a brand now marking its 20th anniversary, sold in international markets since 2008, and built on a mission that's raised over $13 million for breast cancer research and support charities, including the Crick Institute and Future Dreams House.Rosie and Dariel talk about growing up alongside her mother's illness, the early "no category" marketing challenge of selling a product that was an entirely new category of cosmetics, what it means to carry on a parent's legacy after loss, and the genuine hope Dariel's seeing in cancer research right now, from BRCA testing to pan-cancer drug trials that go after cancer cells before they can develop into breast or lung cancer at all.It's an honest, emotional conversation about turning grief into purpose, and a fitting way to close out the season.In this episode[00:01:43] How a vial and a Q-Tip became a 20-year-old global beauty brand[00:03:04] Growing up with a mother in and out of chemotherapy[00:07:20] Building a category that didn't exist yet.[00:12:30] RevitaLash's philanthropic arm and the "20 Years, 20 Million, One Mission" campaign[00:13:07] Partnerships with the Crick Institute and Future Dreams House[00:24:19] BRCA testing, genetic risk, and family planning decisions[00:25:52] Why one oncologist believes chemotherapy will one day be obsolete[00:31:52] A backstage moment at the Future Dreams fashion show that stuck with both of themLinksRevitaLash Cosmetics: www.revitalash.co.ukSponsor disclosureThis episode features RevitaLash Cosmetics, official sponsor of Everything Changed.

Natalie Day went into labour and nearly didn't come home. Following a catastrophic placental abruption, she lost 4.5 litres of blood — almost her entire blood volume — and needed six transfusions to survive. Her newborn son was transferred to a high-dependency neonatal unit at another hospital. It would be five days before she was able to meet him. Doctors had already prepared her family for the possibility that she might not make it through the night.She made it. But the aftermath was only the beginning.Back home, and straight into lockdown, Natalie had no idea she had developed PTSD. Isolated, overwhelmed and unable to process what she had been through, she turned to alcohol and cocaine to numb the pain. What began as an escape quietly spiralled into addiction, bringing chaos into her home and pulling her further from the mother she wanted to be.It was her son who finally made her stop and look honestly at her life. Through the 12-step programme, therapy and a determination to rebuild herself from the ground up, she found a way back. Today, Natalie is 15 months sober — living proof that recovery is possible, and that even after the darkest times, it is never too late to find your way back to yourself.Sponsor information:This episode is brought to you by RevitaLash Cosmetics. RevitaLash was founded by a physician who created a lash serum for his wife during her breast cancer treatment — because he wanted her to feel like herself again. Find them at revitalash.co.uk ✨Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:35 The birth: what happened that evening03:02 Calling 999 and the ambulance ride05:34 In theatre: no heartbeat, veins shutting down07:11 "Please don't let me die"09:00 Waking up in intensive care11:24 The piece of paper13:18 Five days without seeing her son14:39 What happened medically — and why blood donation saves lives16:12 Going back to the hospital for a debrief19:11 Meeting Vinny for the first time24:32 Coming home into lockdown25:58 Undiagnosed PTSD — the triggers, the obsessions, the anxiety30:53 Seeking help: CBT and the recording exercise33:25 When alcohol and drugs entered the picture39:08 What the addiction was doing for her44:28 The fork in the road46:43 What her son said in the car47:56 Walking into her first Narcotics Anonymous meeting50:18 15 months sober — what recovery looks like day to day52:46 Her husband's journey54:54 Revisiting the trauma in sobriety57:58 The message for anyone who is struggling01:00:36 Where she is nowFollow Everything Changed:Instagram: instagram.com/everythingchangedpodcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XH1S48Q9rubN7TaywfxVe?si=cd71458fbb06449b

Naomi Alexander joined the military at 16 because someone told her she couldn't do it. She served in Iraq. She came home, left the army, and seven months later said yes to driving drugs from Amsterdam to the UK without a second thought.She was caught at the Channel Tunnel. She went to prison. She had her son inside.Today she is a yoga teacher, holistic therapist and Buddhist practitioner who holds healing space for people finding their way back to themselves.In this episode Naomi talks about growing up as one of the only brown girls in a small Lake District town, being born into a home shaped by addiction, becoming a mum at 16, the ranking officer who told her to choose between her baby and her military career, what it felt like to sleep through mortar fire in Iraq, the phone call that changed everything, and why she believes there are no mistakes — only choices that lead you exactly where you are meant to be."Naomi Momodu was the young mum. Naomi Thripland was the drug runner. Naomi Alexander is the medicine woman."This episode is brought to you by RevitaLash Cosmetics. RevitaLash was founded by a physician who created a lash serum for his wife during her breast cancer treatment, because he wanted her to feel like herself again. Find them at revitalash.co.uk ✨Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:38 Childhood as initiation: addiction, the Lake District, being the only brown family01:20 Becoming a mum at 16, and naming her Aiesha02:27 Joining the military because someone said she couldn't04:14 Iraq: sleeping through mortar fire06:25 Leaving the military and hitting rock bottom07:37 The phone call and the decision09:36 Caught at the Channel Tunnel10:08 Arrest, bail, pregnancy and the year on pause11:16 Nine years, reduced to four: what prison was actually like13:31 The mother and baby unit16:01 Shame, guilt and the gap between who people thought she was17:43 Buddhism and the stranger who knocked on her door26:38 Three names, three women28:56 Turning poison into medicineFollow Everything Changed:Instagram: instagram.com/everythingchangedpodcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XH1S48Q9rubN7TaywfxVe?si=cd71458fbb06449b

Trigger warning:This episode contains descriptions of the sudden death of a child and the grief that follows. Please take care of yourself.Guest description:Danielle Jones's son Harvey was seven years old when he died on an ordinary Tuesday evening in September 2018. He was walking along a wall at their local pub when he came into contact with a live electrical casing -- the result of 32 safety defects that experts later described as the worst they had encountered in over 40 years. The pub owner was convicted of gross negligence manslaughter. Danielle has spent the years since fighting for mandatory electrical safety inspections in public places, raising two more children, and training as a sound healer and Reiki practitioner. Harvey's campaign has gathered over 55,000 signatures. This is her story.Sponsor message:This episode is brought to you by RevitaLash Cosmetics. RevitaLash was founded by a physician who created a lash serum for his wife during her breast cancer treatment -- because he wanted her to feel like herself again. Find them at revitalash.co.uk. ✨00:00 Intro01:54 Who was Harvey?02:46 The Three Musketeers -- life before03:42 The day everything changed04:35 The phone call -- Harvey has had an accident06:41 Harvey is taken to hospital08:24 The time was 18:3310:01 The last thing they said to each other10:37 What actually happened?12:20 The police knock at the door13:06 Harvey had been electrocuted13:48 Completely avoidable -- 32 defects, ten of them fatal15:25 How did it feel knowing someone was to blame?16:23 The trial -- two years of waiting17:06 The pub is still open18:33 How are you today?19:08 Turning pain into purpose19:34 Jackson, Ollie, and the angel brother21:05 Fighting for change -- 55,000 signatures21:35 The MOT analogy -- why regulation has to change26:14 A different path -- sound healing and Reiki29:34 Grieving differently as a couple32:18 Advice for anyone going through unimaginable loss34:22 He will be released from prison next year36:03 I am living the life sentence36:13 How would you like Harvey to be remembered?Everything Changed on Instagram: instagram.com/everythingchangedpodcastListen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XH1S48Q9rubN7TaywfxVe?si=cd71458fbb06449b

Trigger warning:This episode contains descriptions of childhood abuse and neglect, a suicide attempt, suicidal ideation, and non-consensual intimate image sharing. Please take care of yourself.Sponsor message:This episode is brought to you by RevitaLash Cosmetics. RevitaLash was founded by a physician who created a lash serum for his wife during her breast cancer treatment -- because he wanted her to feel like herself again. Find them at revitalash.com. ✨Guest description:Lacey Banghard grew up in a home without stability or love, moved out at 15, and tried to take her own life at 13. She went on to become one of Britain's most recognised Page 3 models and appeared on Celebrity Big Brother. In 2017, her iCloud was hacked and intimate images were shared publicly without her consent -- an experience that brought her to the edge again. What followed was a years-long journey through motherhood, her daughter's severe eczema, ayahuasca in the Amazon, and a spiritual awakening that she is still navigating today. Lacey is writing a book and building a platform called Remembering I Am Her.Chapters:00:00 Cold open00:53 Rosie's intro01:17 Growing up without love02:14 Moving out at 1505:28 At 13, she tried to take her own life06:11 How Page 3 found her07:48 Did she feel beautiful growing up?09:37 How Page 3 shaped her11:12 Celebrity Big Brother12:28 Acid threats -- a year in hiding13:00 The belief she was a bad person14:54 Having her daughter16:12 Her daughter -- her biggest mirror17:39 Solo mum, crying at 3am19:32 Her daughter's severe eczema21:29 Depression and anxiety attacks22:12 Her iCloud was hacked -- and her privacy destroyed24:22 Surrendering to what she couldn't control26:49 Fell pregnant two months later27:46 The calling to go to the Amazon29:36 What ayahuasca actually did32:46 The science -- it made her brain like Play-Doh33:31 Coming home to a life falling apart35:06 Who is Lacey today -- Remembering I Am Her36:12 What would you say to your 15-year-old self?37:35 The therapy revelation39:15 Grateful for the people God put in her path40:02 One thing she wants every listener to knowEverything Changed on Instagram: instagram.com/everythingchangedpodcastListen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XH1S48Q9rubN7TaywfxVe?si=cd71458fbb06449b

Letty McMaster was 18 years old when she travelled to Tanzania to volunteer at an orphanage. What she found there stopped her in her tracks. The children were being kept in deliberate poverty -- a cycle of neglect designed to attract donations from Western volunteers, with the staff taking the money for themselves. Letty stayed. She learned Swahili. She exposed the abuse. When the local council shut the orphanage down, she was registered as the legal guardian of nine children who had nowhere to go. She was 22 years old.Over the next ten years, Letty raised fifteen children in a family home she set up and ran herself in Tanzania. She founded Street Children Iringa, which now supports three houses -- a family home, a safe house welcoming over 100 street children a year, and a newly opened home for young mothers living on the streets. The children she raised have gone on to university, professional boxing, and international football. One of them achieved the best A-level results in the country and is now studying civil engineering at the University of Cape Town.This is one of the most remarkable stories we have heard on Everything Changed.To support Street Children Iringa visit www.streetchildreniringa.org or find them on Instagram at @streetchildreniringa.This episode is brought to you by RevitaLash Cosmetics. RevitaLash was founded by a physician who created a lash serum for his wife during her breast cancer treatment -- because he wanted her to feel like herself again. Find them at revitalash.co.uk. ✨00:00 Cold open00:59 Rosie's intro01:26 Life at 18 -- A-levels, saving up, the plan to volunteer01:42 Arriving at the orphanage -- and what Letty found01:52 The voluntourism business -- how the cycle of abuse worked03:34 How long did she stay?04:02 Learning Swahili -- and why it changed everything05:11 Were the children really orphans?05:54 Becoming legal guardian to nine children at 2207:38 Opening the home09:22 The challenges of raising fifteen teenagers10:23 Founding Street Children Iringa10:57 The three houses12:41 Why are there so many street children in Tanzania?13:30 The girl who ran away with her newborn at 1114:32 Life now -- splitting time between London and Tanzania15:45 How to support the charity -- and what 300 pounds does17:54 The children ten years on -- civil engineering, boxing, Real Madrid21:29 Why Letty takes no volunteers23:14 What would you say to your 18-year-old self?24:13 Did you ever feel scared or threatened?24:35 How the children shaped her25:15 Did you always want to help children?26:17 Find Street Children IringaEverything Changed on Instagram: instagram.com/everythingchangedpodcastListen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XH1S48Q9rubN7TaywfxVe?si=cd71458fbb06449b