Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast

Does your teenage daughter ever feel like she just can’t catch a break?When life’s challenging events stack up, it’s almost impossible to ‘look on the bright side’ and offering a bit of optimism just feels dismissive.We’ve all had those Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day - kinds of days. But bad days are going to happen.Instead of letting them ruin everything, you’re going to learn a simple 90-Second shift that can change everything.IntroHey Parents, welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.I’m your host, Shawna Warner. And as always, it’s an honor to spend this time together. Let’s dive in.When your daughter’s life feels heavy, she tends to handle big emotions like anxiety, disappointment, and rejection in one of three ways: o   She’ll bury it.o   She’ll catastrophize it.o   Or she’ll drown in it. The hard part is none of these approaches move your daughter through her emotions.But here’s what all teenage girls don’t know…Emotions are like waves.And waves have three stages - they rise, crest, and dissipate.Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Have you ever watched one careless comment completely reshape how your daughter sees herself?One word. One moment. And suddenly, she’s smaller.Today we’re talking about what’s actually causing your daughter’s pain and confusion.Because it’s usually not the comment. It’s the belief and the identity she builds around it.IntroHey Parents,Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.I’m your host, Shawna Warner.As a parent, I know the gut punch that comes with hearing what another teenager said to your daughter. The heartbreak. The wanting to fix it.But here's the truth: your daughter is not someone else's words. And when she learns to question the stories - everything changes.The Real Problem: When a Label Becomes an IdentityI see this issue all the time…clients come to me because they feel invisible and undervalued.A client once came in saying that every time she went to lunch with friends, she automatically sat in the back seat. Often alone. She couldn’t hear the conversation happening in the front - and every time, she felt more excluded.But here’s what was really happening, what created this pattern:Someone had once called her “boring.”One offhand comment. And she believed it.So, she started acting in alignment with that belief:Boring people sit in the back. Boring people don’t speak up.The hard part is that as a child, she was outgoing, funny, and fought her brother for the front seat.As you can see, the pain she was feeling wasn’t the car seat.The real pain was the gap between who she actually was and who she thought she was supposed to be. Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Hey Parents,Is your teenage daughter coming home from school snappy, completely drained and you can just feel the heaviness as she retreats to her room?And if you try to support her your involvement somehow makes things worse instead of better…this episode is for you. And you’re not alone.Eight out of ten families who complete the Work with Shawna form on my website report: - They feel emotionally depleted trying to carry or offset their daughter’s big feelings. - Their involvement creates more tension. - And somewhere along the way, a sense of resentment (that you never saw coming), starts to creep in.So today we’re going to lighten that load with three simple steps your daughter can use to effectively manage her emotional load in the moment - so you don’t have to.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast. I’m your host, Shawna Warner.This episode continues our Chaos to Clarity mini-series, based on the five simple steps we introduced in Ep – 47 How to Guide Your Daughter Through Misunderstandings and Messy Friend DramaIf you’re new here, welcome. I’m really glad you’re here with us. This community now spans 75 countries and more than 2,000 U.S. Cities. It’s truly an honor to connect with all of you. What’s Happening - The Hidden Weight Your Daughter is CarryingOkay, let’s dive in and address the hidden weight your daughter may be carrying.As parents, you can feel it the second she walks in. The edge. The weight. Her 'I'm fine' that doesn't match what you're seeing.She held it together all day at school and now she's home - the unraveling begins.The snappy reactions. The closed bedroom door. This isn't just teenage drama - this is a sign of overload. Emotional overload.And here's something that’s often overlooked…many teenage girls carry emotions they aren't even aware of. They find their feelings exhaust them and they don’t know why...Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

 Hey parents, have you ever watched your daughter tie herself in knots in order to clear up a misunderstanding or fix messy friend drama? Maybe she’s bending over backwards to repair a friendship that’s gone sideways, rewriting her texts a dozen times before hitting send – or the one thing I hear often – taking the blame for something she didn’t do just to restore a sense of peace and stability. Even though her attempts to control the situation may feel proactive, that approach is likely keeping your daughter in fight or flight mode. We’re going to change that today by offering your daughter an approach that’ll bring her the peace and stability she needs – and deserves. Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast. I’m your host, Shawna Warner, and it’s my mission to help you empower your teenage daughter with confidence, integrity, and resilience for all her adventures in life. Today’s episode kicks off a new mini-series called “From Chaos to Clarity” based off the 5 Simple Steps from Chaos to Clarity that we introduced in the previous episode Ep – 47 How to Guide Your Daughter Through Misunderstandings and Messy Friend Drama. We’re starting with Step One: Reflecting on what ways your teenage daughter might be trying to control the outcome. For the complete show notes please visit  cultivatingresilientteens.com Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Hey Parents,Have you ever noticed how fast words like…                                          “Don’t ask - I can’t even right now” tumble out of your teenage daughter’s mouth when she’s totally overwhelmed?That’s exactly what happened at the start of a recent session. Before I even finished pouring my glass of water, the newly enrolled client blurted out, “No clue what just happened, but I’m in serious need of some tools at the moment!”“Perfect,” I said. “That’s what we’re here for.”And as she described her confusing and painful situation, the heart of the matter slowly revealed itself – something so many teen girls experience in one way or another.Whether your daughter is part of a big friend group, a small circle, or floats between the two, I think she’ll relate to today’s topic. Because when emotions are high and it’s not clear what to do next, your daughter needs something effective she can use in the moment.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens  Cultivating Resilient podcast.I’m your host, Shawna Warner, and it’s my mission to help you empower your teenage daughter with confidence, integrity, and resilience for all her adventures in life.Today’s episode follows a What to Do When format because let’s be honest, when your daughter finds herself in the middle of a tricky social situation, you don’t need theory, you need tools. So if your daughter feels like she’s ever been called out, misunderstood, or caught in the middle of something that feels totally out of her control, this episode is the guidance you’ve been searching for. Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Has your daughter ever experienced a memory from the past that’s so vivid she can recall it as if it happened yesterday? Maybe it’s a cringe-worthy moment she wishes she could erase or maybe it’s an incredible experience that redefined her. Either way, THAT moment may be playing a crucial role in your daughter’s behavior, development, and relationships without her awareness.I’ve certainly had my fair share of cringe-worthy and redefining moments and today we’re diving headfirst into one of them. But fear not, the more important part of this conversation is the powerful exercise your daughter is going to learn so she can honor all her experiences and use them to take inspired action towards measurable growth.Hey parents, I’m so happy to be with you all – from the US, to Canada, Europe, Asia, South America and Australia, thank you so much for being part of the Cultivating Resilient Teens community today as we talk about and unpack your daughter’s “stories.” And by stories I’m referring to your daughter’s interpretation of her past experiences and how she explains or describes them to you. StoriesMaybe your daughter is long winded, and shares every single detail, or maybe she just throws out a few details on the fly. Either way, all your daughter’s adventures in life…the beautiful ones and the painful ones are ultimately filtered through her internal operating system, or personal decoding system, and then shared via her unique narrative. But in this fast-paced, distraction-filled world it can be tough as parents to:·         Identify which details or events to pay attention to·         And how to remain a steady presence when your daughter’s dealing with an unsettling situation So today I want to share with you the importance of listening deeply as your daughter’s story is unfolding…how your daughter refers to her role, or talks about herself, when she’s sharing her story with you.The Heart of the MatterBecause this is where the real information lies, or what I call the the heart of the matter. By identifying the heart of the matter you’ll be able to quickly provide your daughter with what she really needs.Please don’t let your daughter go through another day just zoning out, numbing out, or disconnecting from her unique gift because inspired action doesn’t happen by accident, nor does growth.ResourcesIf you’re not sure where your daughter may need support right now now, please take the quick quiz Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures? so you can identify the heart of the matter and where to best support her. Okay my friends, from near and far, until next time, here’s to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life’s adventures. LinksEpisode - 16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Brene Brown Quote from The Gifts of Imperfection “Loving ourselves through the process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.”Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures?Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Have you seen it yet? That moment when your daughter comes home from school after the long break and looks at you with wary eyes, a furrowed brow and lips that appear to be moving but she’s stumbling over her words and there’s no audible sound.I feel like we’ve all been there. That moment in time where you want to clearly articulate the thoughts swirling around in your head and release the mixed emotions weighing you down, but the sense of overwhelm creates a frustrating mental block and prevents you from saying anything at all. The clients in my 90 Days to a More Resilient Teencoaching program are reporting that the all the big emotions, especially their mixed emotions about being back in school after a long break is causing them to grapple with their desire to see their friends and get back to a productive routine AND manage their long list of expectations, and the inevitable social uncertainties and ‘what ifs’. That’s why we’re going to talk about 3 simple tips that’ll make your daughter’s mind work FOR her instead of against her by dissolving her mental blocks, so she has the clarity she needs to walk confidently into her future. You’ll find the full episode and more resources for parenting your teenage daughter at cultivatingresilientteens.comHere's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

I’ve never been a fan of new year’s resolutions. Maybe it’s because the conversations I had with my mom were more about reinventing ourselves. And so, I’ve always been a believer that you don’t need to wait until tomorrow, next month or for a big milestone – you can begin again – anytime.Beginning again is simply about tuning in and being honest with yourself. Which, I’ll admit, wasn’t always easy for me. Growing up I was labeled as the ‘shy’ girl. But in reality, my shy demeanor was a byproduct of being highly sensitive.And, if your daughter is a big feeler, please know that it’s a natural instinct to want to ignore or disengage from life’s challenges, especially if they feel too big and unsolvable.The game changing point and the first step to cultivating a resilient teen for all her adventures in life is to develop self K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E or a clear sense of self.This approach helped me embrace my gifts so I could begin again with an open-heart and clear mind and be who I wanted to be and show up how I wanted to show up in life.That’s why I’m excited to share a fan favorite strategy with you in today’s episode. It’s a strategy that you and your daughter can start using right now – no need to wait until the ball drops at midnight or you open up your 2024 calendar.You can find the full episode and more resources for parenting your teenage daughter at https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

We all know that comparison is a confidence killer. But ‘what if’ you flip the coin and look at the other side of comparison as a catalyst, a sign, that you’re ready to create more for yourself? Begin again. The cool thing about learning how to flip the coin and begin again is it’s not as hard as your daughter might think it is and here’s why…her experiences – all of them - the messy ones and the amazing ones serve as a personal signpost, to offer guidance for all her adventures in life.The million-dollar question is…is your daughter paying attention to the signs as she moves through her journey, or is she just going through the motions, allowing her external environment to dictate her mood and her past to dictate her future?In today’s episode we’re going to unpack why it’s so important for your daughter to learn how to stop, look and listen so she can become adept at interpreting what each life lesson, each signpost, is offering. Because when she’s tuned in and exercising agency over her adventures in life, she’ll naturally see her significance, that she matters and that see that she has something unique to offer the world.Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Is it time to calm your daughter's exam anxiety?Hey Parents,Parenting teenagers is no small feat, but being a parent during final exams is akin to stepping into the realm of unsung heroes. I remember thinking that I could write my final psych paper while also listening to Prince’s new album, Purple Rain. I also remember my mom walking into my room, shaking her head, and telling me this approach wasn’t going to work.   Unfortunately, my lack of self-awareness at the time left me sitting with a blank sheet of paper for the better half of my Sunday afternoon until I finally turned off the tape and got to work. But hey, I memorized all the lyrics – that counts for something, right?Anyway, the funny - not funny thing is the real issue, what was ACTUALLY keeping me from writing my paper, was never addressed. The focus was only on time management. And while time management is important, there’s something more important because it’s probably keeping your daughter from doing what she needs to do.A crucial skill she hasn’t learned – yet. So, in today’s episode, we’re going to address that crucial skill – mind management. We’re going to dive into 3 Stress-Busting Steps that will prime your daughter’s mind so she can maximize her mind and her time.You’ll find the full episode and more resources for parenting your teenage daughter at https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/Links: Ep – 41 The 3 Main Issues That Cause Social Anxiety and How to ‘Grow Through’ These ChallengesHere's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!