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What do 500 kinky people really want. And does “watersports” include jet skis?Chief and Moineau are back, digging into responses to the new Kinky Events kink quiz. From praise and spanking to humiliation, playing with others and electrical toys, we explore the surprising results, question our assumptions and get thoroughly distracted along the way.We chat about what "open to it" actually means, how fantasy differs from real-life desire, and why comparing answers with a partner can open up conversations you might otherwise avoid. Plus: a memorable Never Have I Ever moment, questionable physics lessons, and a deeper discussion about pornography, erotica, fan-fiction and content warnings.Expect laughs, personal stories and some enthusiastic speculation. These results come from our own kinky audience. This is a conversation starter, not a scientific study.Take the kink quiz at https://kinkyevents.co.uk/kink-quiz/ and tell us what surprised you.For consenting adults. Contains frank discussion of sex, kink and BDSM, including discussion of disturbing themes in erotic fiction.In this episode00:00 Teaser: jet skis, electricity and physics-class laughs01:02 Content warning01:11 Chief and Moineau are back01:59 Introducing the new kink quiz03:13 What the survey can and can't tell us05:02 Watersports, swinging and surprising hard nos08:12 Humiliation, praise and gender differences11:18 Using the quiz to talk with your partner13:21 The most-loved activities16:01 Electricity, TENS toys and Never Have I Ever18:47 Dominants, submissives and switches20:28 Facesitting and the discussion about porn rules23:04 Personal preferences and what "open to it" means26:00 Fantasy, mood and the menstrual cycle27:25 Furniture play, hair pulling and praise30:03 Age and attitudes to playing with others33:13 The revamped quiz versus the original sex menu34:53 Pornography, erotica and where regulation draws the line41:09 Dark fanfiction, content warnings and younger readers43:10 Wrap-up and how to get in touchSupport the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau are back, answering your burning BDSM questions submitted via KinkyEvents.co.uk. Whether you're a solo submissive wondering how to start your journey, or struggling to find a dominant who’s more than just talk, they’ve got you covered.They provide candid advice on tackling BDSM as a solo submissive, ways to find a true dominant partner, overcoming challenges in kinky relationships, and dealing with anxieties and insecurities within the dynamic.Additionally, they discuss practical tips for integrating D/s dynamics discreetly in everyday life, handling dominance outside the bedroom, dealing with emotional drops after events, and the importance of clear communication in kinky relationships. Tune in for an engaging and insightful conversation filled with personal anecdotes, practical advice, and a touch of humor.00:00 Introduction01:02 Navigating Play Parties as a Solo Submissive Female05:19 Listener's Personal Journey into BDSM06:29 Challenges and Insecurities in Sexual Dynamics14:49 Exploring Kink and Self-Acceptance23:50 Advice for New Dominants33:58 Overcoming Fear and Mistakes in Knot Tying35:00 Navigating a Daddy-Sub Dynamic39:28 Finding a Genuine Dominant Partner46:04 Dealing with Event Drop and Polyamory Challenges52:17 Expressing Desires for Mental Domination54:30 Exploring Dirty Talk and Overcoming Nerves58:40 Balancing Kink and Long-Term Relationships01:11:05 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau are back, answering more of your burning BDSM and relationship questions!Ever wondered what to do if impact play isn’t your thing? Or whether all Doms need a title? They break down alternatives for brats and subs who aren’t into spanking, and debate the role of labels in the Dom/sub dynamic. Plus, what’s the best way to meet a unicorn?Moineau shares an update on mastering the cowgirl position and Chief reveals his latest quest for the ultimate male sex toy - this time, an octopus-like vibrating stroker.Support the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau dive headfirst into the first batch of juicy, reader-submitted questions about BDSM, dominance, submission, and everything in between. From spicing up oral with dominant energy to navigating long-distance D/s struggles, they tackle it all with humor, honesty, and practical advice.Ever felt your dominance wane? Wondering how to introduce kinks to a vanilla partner without freaking them out? Curious about the psychology behind impact play? They’ve got you covered. Expect candid discussions on pegging, face slapping, balancing desires in a D/s dynamic, and how to keep that dominant spark alive.With plenty of laughs, real talk, and insightful tips, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you deepen your BDSM relationships and own your kink with confidence.00:00 Introduction and episode overview 01:35 Chocolate and aphrodisiacs 02:16 Funny anecdotes and misunderstandings 03:19 First listener question: dominance during oral 05:53 Pros and cons of DS relationships 08:59 Losing dominance drive 12:32 Bringing up kinks with a new partner 14:10 Dealing with extreme kinks 23:45 Feeling like a fraud as a dom 30:07 Developing dominant skills 37:37 Navigating dominance and submission dynamics 38:09 Compromise and communication in kink 39:07 The rubber band analogy 39:49 Recommended reading: with sprinkles on top 40:50 Balancing desires in DS relationships 42:01 Exploring impact play and resistance 44:01 Discussing face slapping and personal limits 54:54 Spontaneity in BDSM 59:02 Finding time for DS scenes 01:09:07 Preparing for peggingSupport the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau discuss Stephanie Goerlich's book 'With Sprinkles on Top' and the importance of communication in bridging the gap between kinky and vanilla partners.We compare mental fantasies with real-world practicality (including threesome and more-some discussions!), as well as negotiating and compromising in relationships.We then try out two exercises from the book - a mad-lib style desire sharing exercise, and one to gauge our comfort levels with erotic language.If you're a kinky person looking for ways to improve your relationship and get more comfortable sharing your desires with a partner then this podcast is for you!Resources:Stephanie Goerlich's website: https://www.stefanigoerlich.comThe PDF of exercises: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/negotiationwkshts.htmlOur website: https://kinkyevents.co.ukTimestamps:00:00 Introduction00:58 Kinky Statistics02:28 Introducing the Book: With Sprinkles on Top04:39 Exploring Kink and Communication06:50 Personal Kink Experiences and Fantasies10:01 Discussing Threesomes and Boundaries24:06 Fantasy Worksheet Exercise33:42 Exploring Desires and Fantasies34:19 Power Dynamics and Control35:24 Communication and Connection37:05 Erotic Vocabulary ExerciseSupport the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief presents 30 varied exercises designed to improve communication skills within BDSM and D/s relationships. These activities aim to deepen the connection, enhance understanding, and ultimately lead to a better sex life. Ranging from joint journaling and desire mapping to more elaborate setups like role-reversal games and fantasy sharing, each exercise builds upon the previous ones.Each exercise is discussed briefly, including instructions and several resources for each activity, emphasising the flexibility of the exercises to suit individual dynamics.The episode encourages couples to actively practice these exercises to foster trust, empathy, and a more satisfying relationship.00:00 Introduction to 30 Communication Exercises00:30 Why Communication Matters in D/s Relationships01:28 How to Approach These Exercises02:03 Week 1: Foundation of Communication02:08 Day 1: Joint Journaling02:28 Day 2: Desire Mapping03:22 Day 3: Create Safe Words03:44 Day 4: Daily Check-Ins04:02 Day 5: Feedback Session04:40 Day 6: Communication Games06:11 Day 7: Weekly Reflection06:30 Week 2: Exploration and Education06:50 Day 8: Research Assignment07:19 Day 9: Sensation Play Experiment08:06 Day 10: Role Reversal08:29 Day 11: Boundary Testing09:35 Day 12: Kink Workshop or Webinar10:38 Day 13: Fantasy Sharing11:12 Day 14: Weekly Reflection11:40 Week 3: Deepening Trust and Connection11:47 Day 15: Trust Exercises12:08 Day 16: Gratitude Lists12:24 Day 17: Surprise Day12:43 Day 18: Vulnerability Night13:10 Day 19: D/s Day Out13:46 Day 20: Aftercare Focus14:06 Day 21: Weekly Reflection14:41 Week 4: Integration and Future Planning14:48 Day 22: Dynamic Goal Setting15:18 Day 23: Contract Review/Creation15:58 Day 24: Creative Play16:31 Day 25: Self Care Day16:47 Day 26: Community Engagement17:15 Day 27: Legacy Letter17:45 Day 28: Celebration Session18:27 Day 29-30: Reflection and Relaxation18:53 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau share a candid conversation about their recent intimate and sensual experience. They discuss reading explicit sexting exchanges, the buildup of sexual tension, and the psychological and physical aspects of their BDSM and DS relationship. The conversation covers themes of edging, teasing, and the importance of understanding and meeting each other's needs. They also highlight the roles of communication and consent in their dynamic, delving into a detailed recount of a night filled with massages, dirty talk, and slow, anticipatory teasing, culminating in deep emotional and physical connection.00:00 Introduction and Naughty Sexting01:51 Dreams and Desires04:56 Consent and Boundaries07:25 Anticipation and Preparation16:36 Unexpected Massage25:07 Teasing and Restraints30:39 Building Anticipation: The Art of Teasing31:19 Exploring Sensitivity: Techniques and Reactions33:30 Roleplay Dynamics: Daddy's Not Supposed to Touch34:09 Graphic Details: Fingering and Feedback35:58 The Fantasy and the Reality: Toys and Tools36:54 Psychological Elements in BDSM39:17 The Importance of Relaxation and Comfort43:23 Edging and Penetration: The Balancing Act46:21 The Climax: Achieving Multiple Orgasms51:55 Aftercare and Reflection52:27 Final Thoughts and ResourcesSupport the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau revisit their Sex Menus from March 2020, and chat through what's changed and what hasn't. This episode highlights why a Sex Menu is such a fantastic tool for open communication in relationships. They showcase how such candid discussions can significantly enhance intimacy and satisfaction, foster a deeper understanding between partners, encourage exploration, and ultimately improve your sex life. Whether you're deeply embedded in the BDSM community or just curious about enhancing communication and desire in your relationship, this episode provides a real-world example of how embracing change and being open about your sexual wants can lead to more fulfilling experiences.Support the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau spill the beans on finding BDSM events and making kinky friends. It’s a no-holds-barred chat filled with personal anecdotes, laughter, and a heap of useful tips for anyone curious about or already exploring the world of BDSM.They tackle everything from the ins and outs of FetLife to the unique charm of munches, all while keeping it real about the ups and downs of connecting in the community.Whether you're navigating the scene in a buzzing city or a quiet town, this episode packs everything you need to broaden your kinky social circle and step up your BDSM game, served with a side of cheeky humour and warmth.[00:01:16] Finding BDSM Events: The hosts discuss starting with FetLife and the significance of attending munches to meet the community.[00:03:03] Challenges for Women on FetLife: Moineau shares her experiences with the platform, highlighting the importance of safety and privacy.[00:04:11] Utilizing FetLife for Events, Not Dating: Chief elaborates on how FetLife serves best for finding events rather than forming personal connections.[00:09:30] Word of Mouth: Emphasizing the value of personal recommendations in discovering events and making kinky friends.[00:10:06] Collaborative Events: The hosts discuss how event newsletters from groups like Fox Den can introduce attendees to broader networks.[00:14:00] Finding BDSM-friendly Events on Vanilla Platforms: Suggestions for locating events with a BDSM twist on sites like Eventbrite.[00:16:48] Gender Dynamics at Munches: An observation on the male-dominated attendance and strategies for women to find more inclusive spaces.[00:18:00] Alternative Social Gatherings: Exploring book clubs and erotic poetry readings as unconventional avenues to meet kinky individuals.[00:22:31] Sex-positive Charities as Networking Hubs: Highlighting the role of charities in connecting people with the BDSM community.[00:24:11] Different Types of BDSM Events: Distinguishing between social, educational, and play-focused events to align with personal interests.[00:26:53] The Challenge of Finding the Right Events: Acknowledging the effort required to find fitting BDSM events and the rewarding nature of successful connections.[00:27:43] Imagining Future Gatherings: A light-hearted fantasy about forming an ideal kinky circle and dinner club.Support the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...

Chief and Moineau sit down with Liz who recently introduced D/s into an existing long-term relationship. With humour and candidness, Liz shares their initial steps, challenges, and the profound impact of BDSM on their connection and communication. From confronting fears and preconceptions to utilising practical tools like the sex menu for negotiating desires, this episode is a testament to the transformative power of open dialogue and trust in rekindling intimacy.Join us for an enlightening discussion that demystifies the transition into a D/s lifestyle, offering insights and encouragement for those curious about the path of sexual exploration and deepened partnership.Key Points & Timestamps:[00:00:26] Liz discusses beginning their D/s journey and overcoming challenges related to depression and medication.[00:03:21] Chief and Liz reflect on how D/s dynamics can revive intimacy in long-term relationships.[00:04:30] Introduction of the sex menu as a transformative tool for couples.[00:06:02] Liz shares the initial conversation with Tom about exploring a D/s relationship, highlighting the importance of communication.[00:07:59] Transitioning from minimal communication about sex to frequent, open dialogues.[00:12:34] Liz describes the liberating aspect of submission in her otherwise dominant life roles.[00:14:17] Discussion on the gradual introduction and evolution of D/s dynamics in a relationship.[00:15:22] Homework assignments as a method for exploring and expressing desires within the D/s context.[00:18:40] Overcoming a hiccup in a scene and the importance of safe words and aftercare.[00:23:20] Liz shares the positive changes and deeper connection in her relationship since embracing D/s, encouraging open discussions about sex and desires.[00:29:14] Surprises and adjustments made after filling out the sex menu.[00:32:39] Liz emphasizes the importance of overcoming fear and engaging in open communication with partners.[00:38:14] Looking forward to the future of their D/s dynamic and exploring new activities together.[00:41:48] Final thoughts: The significance of communication and not being afraid to discuss desires and boundaries with partners.Support the show--------------Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content availabl...