Babies in Common

On today’s show we will be discussing and busting some infertility myths with Kate Rosenkranz, a dear friend of Melissa’s who had an infertility journey before a successful pregnancy. Kate had to undergo a complicated surgery and one round of in-vitro fertilization and two failed transfers before conceiving her son on transfer number 3.  She later conceived her daughter on the first transfer. Kate shares her story and what she learned from her journey (and what she has learned from many others who have gone through infertility).Myths we discuss in this episode:Myth 1:  If you can’t get pregnant, you can quote “just do IVF”. Why is that a problematic way of thinking?Myth 2 & 3. The famous “It’s all in your head! Why don’t you relax and take a vacation! Then you’ll get pregnant!” followed by it’s evil twin the infuriating “Don’t worry so much, it just takes time. You’ll get pregnant if you’re just patient.”Myth 4: Infertility is a woman’s problem.Myth 5: But you’re so young. You have plenty of time to get pregnant.”We also discuss what things that family and friends can do (and what NOT to do or say) when you know someone who is on an infertility journey. Visit www.resolve.org for compassionate support and information about infertility. RESOLVE is a national non-profit organization providing free or low cost support and educational programs in local communities to meet the needs of women and men diagnosed with infertility.

Today we speak with Ketura’h Edwards-Robinson, a native Bostonian who is currently working in her home city as a Nurse Practitioner, primarily in the area of Women’s Health. One thing that makes Ketura’h special is that in the past year, Ketura’h trained to become a birth doula and is now serving clients in her community with Accompany Doula Care, a local doula agency that has developed a model of care where their doulas are reimbursed by the client’s health insurance, which is helping address health disparities.Ketura’h  has served as a women's health nurse practitioner at the Suffolk county jail, a Primary Care clinical care manager, OB-GYN nurse and even a pediatric nurse. She also has experience providing acute treatment for patients experiencing substance use disorders and is a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner for the Massachusetts Department of Public Health.During today's conversation, Ketura'h explains what a nurse practitioner is and how their expertise and scope of practice differs from other clinicians and she describes her path to becoming an NP.  She talks about what she loves about being a nurse practitioner and what aspects of OB/GYN care she does and doesn't do.We talked with Ketura'h about her her training in breastfeeding and infant feeding and what led her to become a birth doula (and how she manages being a clinician while attending births as a doula).We end our discussion with her providing listeners with several final words of wisdom for pregnant listeners.

Although today’s topic is not only utilized by LGBTQIA families, they are one of the biggest groups that do! This episode was recorded at the start of June, which is Pride Month, and with this episode we are celebrating just one of the many different ways to make a family. Our guest today is Certified Nurse Midwife Marianne Pelletier, who was inspired to enter birth work after the birth of her own children. After becoming a nurse, she worked for 12 years in labor & delivery in both a hospital and a birth center.  Then in 1998 she completed her education as a Certified Nurse-Midwife (CNM) at the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey.  Since then, she has worked in a variety of settings, including a free standing birth center, a small community hospital, and large teaching hospitals, providing holistic midwifery and gynecological care for people of all ages. After more than twenty three years of practice, she felt a calling to return to a more personalized, intimate form of midwifery care and began attending births at home.   In 2020, Marianne officially partnered with certified professional midwife Rachel Blessington to co-found Embrace Midwifery, providing full spectrum midwifery care, planned home birth and holistic gynecology care throughout Central Massachusetts, with offices in Worcester, Fitchburg and Dudley. In this episode, we discuss the definition of Artificial insemination (AI) and the two types of AI, Intracervical insemination (ICI) and Intrauterine insemination (IUI).  Marianne provides this service in her beautiful home office in Fitchburg for Embrace Midwifery.  We discuss with Marianne why someone would elect to come to her for this procedure instead of a fertility clinic, who her typical clients are and who makes a good candidate for this provider in a basic office setting.  We talk about what one can expect during a consultation, how they might get donor sperm, how they would arrange to have it at the office, the "washing" process and what to expect during and after.We also talk with Marianne about why she offers this service, given that it's rare for a homebirth or private practice midwife to provide this option.  If you are located in Central Massachusetts and would like to learn more about intrauterine insemination with Marianne, visit www.embracemidwifery.care/servicesIf you are not in Central Massachusetts, try “Alternative Insemination (AI) Programs near me” in your search engine to see if there are any holistic, family centered artificial insemination providers near you!

In this episode continue our conversation with birth and postpartum doula Arlene Lammy of New Wave Perinatal Services (https://www.newwavedoula.com).  In this episode, Arlene elaborates on how she would like to “change the narrative of the fourth trimester” and how postpartum is actually forever…and how we need to embrace a longer recovery and a new phase of life.  We discuss how comparing our experiences to the experiences of others and comparing our baby’s development to a previous baby or someone else’s baby isn’t a good thing.  We highlight how our postpartum resources should be sources of comfort instead of sources of anxiety.  Arlene shares her desire for birth work to be a form of activism. She shares her curiosity about how our American culture pressures us to get our babies to sleep or our own bodies to heal faster and how these expectations aren’t helping new parents. Her work as a postpartum doula is discussed and she shares about how she teaches people how to live with a baby and teaching your baby how to be a part of your family. Her background in child development is something she brings into her postpartum care with families, to normalize the different developmental patterns of babies. She encourages her clients (and all parents) to savor the moments with their babies. We discuss a little bit about cosleeping, SIDS and misinformation.  Arlene also discusses the “stigma of birth” for black birthing people related to the medical industrial complex and how birth is a disability, a problem and obstetrical violence. Black maternity mortality is higher than for white birthing people—we discuss the statistics about that and why systemic racism increases the risk of death for black birthing people but NOT race itself.  Arlene shares about how her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and how the diagnosis of breast cancer in black women mirrors black maternity mortality rates and why this may be.  She weaves her own stories through this episode to illustrate her points.  We move into the history of midwifery—that it was led by black midwives and how white doctors silenced the voices of these grand-midwives and how Arlene integrates traditional black American practices (and what some of those practices are) into her postpartum doula services. If you are looking for some especially encouraging words, her final thoughts (the last ten minutes) are especially supportive for anyone expecting a baby or with a new baby and those who support them. To learn more about Arlene and her services, see https://www.newwavedoula.com

In this episode we're talking with birth and postpartum doula Arlene Lammy of New Wave Perinatal Services (https://www.newwavedoula.com).  Warning: this episode is full of beautiful stories and laughter! You'll quickly notice that Arlene is a master storyteller, and you'll be drawn in, as we were, to learn how her West Indian family and culture influenced how she experienced her nephew's birth and how her immigrant parents described the births of Arlene and her sisters.  She also brings in how being raised in a predominantly white community north of Boston shaped her upbringing, as she shares experiences of getting her period for the first time and learning about how her body works.Arlene shares the loss of her mother to breast cancer and how that inspired her to be there for her sister.  She also describes the moment during her nephew’s birth which piqued her interest her to start working in the birth world and how her instinct to mother the mother in the birth room took over.  She shares her fascination with placentas along with a funny story about her nephew’s placenta and her family culture of discussing the topic.  Getting her period is also discussed because of how her West Indian culture influenced how her family approached that momentous event.  She shares her mother’s birth experiences here in the US and how different those experiences were from her sister’s birth experience and why she felt to emboldened by that event.  A discussion of induction comes up as well as prematurity and how her father was impacted by her nephew’s birth as a preemie. The thread of black maternal health starts to be seen as she talks about her sister’s prenatal care and the induction decision.  We talk about how her background as an early childhood education teacher  helped her prepare for helping her sister and becoming a doula.  And she reflects on how helping her sister postpartum allowed her to look at her work as a daycare teacher differently and appreciate the parents of the babies and kids she was taking care of at work.  She reflects on how her father being present for the early days of his grandson’s life was so important, especially because her mother wasn’t there but also because of how intergenerational Caribbean families so often are.  This episode ends on the topic of breaking rules for good reasons. She's a joy to listen to, we know you'll enjoy this episode so much AND you'll want to continue to listen to her in Episode 64.

Today we’re talking about Placenta Encapsulation! Our guest today is Michaela Shaw, the woman behind Ostara Birthwork & Botanicals. Michaela is a full spectrum doula serving families in Central & Eastern Massachusetts as well as Rhode Island. She is also a graduate of the Holistic Herbalism Program at Blue Ridge School of Herbal Medicine, Asheville, NC and has studied permaculture + sustainable cultivation practices throughout Central America and the US, and is a practicing herbalist. Placenta Encapsulation is a form of placentophagy, which is the act of consuming part or all of the afterbirth following birth and believe it or not, this behavior is characteristic of the birth giver in the majority of placental mammals. The use of placenta preparations can be traced back to historical and traditional practices in Western and Asian medicine but not necessarily as an individual postpartum remedy for the birth giver. The Centers for Disease Control issued a warning about this practice, which we discuss in this episode, as well.   Families continue to encapsulate placentas and encapsulators continue to argue that the benefits outweigh any potential risks.  We will talk with our guest today about the two main ways to prepare a placenta for encapsulation, safety, training of encapsulators, two to go about getting your placenta to take home if you give birth in a hospital, other times in life where one might ingest placenta capsules or tincture and other ways to honor one's placenta.If you would like to learn more about Michaela and her birth work, botanicals and placenta services, visit ostaracare.com. Her website also includes some additional reading and resources on this topic!

Today we’re talking about grandparenting with Dee Moore of MoreThanGrand.com! If you are are NOT a grandparent, YES, this show is still for you, as you’ll gain some good insights into what grandparents are going through and ideas you can share with them BUT it’s also helpful for grandparents, so we do hope that you’ll share it with ALL the grandparents in your life, whether they are related to you or not!In this episode we discuss boundaries, building a relationship from a distance, what grandparents can set up in their own lives to prepare for grand parenting, ideas for grandparents to do with their grandchildren virtual and her New Grandparent Welcome Kit You can find more information about Dee’s program for grandparents at https://www.MoreThanGrand.com

Recorded Sunday, April 11, 2021.  We are talking with Liz Sheehan Castro about the legislative effort that has been launched to get childcare to be FREE in Massachusetts.Liz works for the SEIU Education and Support Fund (ESF), which is a 501(C)3 non-profit organization founded for the purpose of developing and managing worker-centered education, training and professional development programs.  [SEIU = Service Employees International Union] Liz has worked for the SEIU Education and Support Fund since 2019 as the Massachusetts Program Director. In her role she supports the 2,500 unionized home child care providers in MA with training, professional, development and advocacy.   What is the Common Start legislation? The gist is that this legislation would move us really close to universal child care and early education in MA.  No family would pay more than 7% of their income towards child care, and many would have free care.  Child care providers / centers would be funded primarily through state funds (like K-12 schools!). See  https://www.seiueducation.org for more information.If you'd like to read the proposed legislation and talk with your community and legislative representatives about it, please see HD1960 and SD1307.  Use this link to search for them. https://malegislature.gov/bills/searchOther resources mentioned in this episode:https://www.childcare.govhttps://www.childcareaware.orghttps://www.ecLkc.ohs.acf.hhs.govhttps://www.childcareeta.acf.hhs.govhttps://www.patchhawaii.orghttps://www.irs.gov

Join us as we take a few minutes to celebrate the one year anniversary of the Babies in Common Show and reminisce about how it was started and we talk about how you can help keep us going!

In this episode, we talk with mother of two, Danielle Blanchard, about navigating pregnancy, Cesarean births, NICU stays and breastfeeding as a Type 1 diabetic.  After discussing the difference between gestational diabetes and Type 1 diabetes and then Danielle shares the interesting story of how she was diagnosed as toddler.  We discuss advice she received while planning to get pregnant, diabetes challenges during pregnancy and pressures she felt about her first birth.  She shares the emotional process of being pregnant with varying blood sugars as well as an unexpected NICU stay.  She also shares her struggles with breastfeeding both of her children and what she ultimately thought helped her with breastfeeding her second for longer than two years.  Danielle started a group on Facebook for adults living with Type 1 Diabetes in Massachusetts, the  Massachusetts Type One Diabetes Meet Up.  We also encourage listeners who are interested in learning more about gestational, Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes to see the website of the American Diabetes Association.Recorded Wednesday, March 31, 2021