UnMuted Love with Ce Eshelman

Parents of children from hard beginnings often carry one fear: Will my child ever hold a job, keep a relationship, stay out of trouble? That fear can turn everyday behavior into a verdict on character, and children learn to talk to themselves, and to us, the same way. Ce Eshelman, LMFT, attachment and trauma specialist and creator of the Love+ Parenting Approach, explains why most of what frightens parents is an executive function delay, not a moral failing, and how parents can lend their own brain while their children grow.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/Csui_fCR_aMSourcesExecutive function and early adversityOp den Kelder, R., et al. (2018). Executive functions in trauma-exposed youth: A meta-analysis. European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 9(1), 1450595. 55 studies, 8,070 participants. doi:10.1080/20008198.2018.1450595Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University. (2011). Building the brain's "air traffic control" system (Working Paper 11). developingchild.harvard.eduArnsten, A. F. T. (2009). Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 10(6), 410–422. PMC2907136Barkley, R. A., on knowing versus doing. Simply PsychologySirois, F., & Pychyl, T. (2013). Procrastination and the priority of short-term mood regulation. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 7(2), 115–127. White RoseGreene, R. W., kids do well if they can. University of YorkFear, words and modelingWang, M.-T., & Kenny, S. (2014). Longitudinal links between fathers' and mothers' harsh verbal discipline and adolescents' conduct problems and depressive symptoms. Child Development, 85(3), 908–923. PMC3875601Patterson's coercive family process, review. PMC10279972Bandura, A., Ross, D., & Ross, S. A. (1961). Transmission of aggression through imitation of aggressive models. Simply PsychologyZimmer-Gembeck, M. J., et al. (2021). Meta-analysis of parent emotion regulation, parenting and child adjustment. University of GreenwichAdoption outcomesVan IJzendoorn, M. H., & Juffer, F. (2006). Adoption as intervention: Meta-analytic evidence for massive catch-up and plasticity. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 47, 1228–1245. doi:10.1111/j.1469-7610.2006.01675.xAdopted children's emotional and behavioral trajectories and parental warmth. PMC8374623What parents can doGawrilow, C., & Gollwitzer, P. M. (2008). Implementation intentions facilitate response inhibition in children with ADHD. Universität KonstanzFrom Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

Somewhere between learning to tie their shoes and learning to drive, nearly half of adolescent boys master the art of disappearing while standing right in front of you—adhering to unwritten rules like hiding fear and avoiding tears just to survive the school hallways. This week, I sit down for a lively conversation with Adam McCormick, MSW, PhD, who has spent over 25 years working with boys in foster care, juvenile justice, and community programs. Drawing from his own childhood with an alcoholic father and his transformative experience at age 22 as a live-in foster caregiver, Adam unpacks how survival strategies like shutting down, swaggering, or grunting aren't signs of a broken boy, but rather brilliant nervous system adaptations to pain and shame.In this powerful episode, we explore what a house full of adolescent boys taught Adam about his own boyhood, how unwritten societal rules force kids to choose belonging over their true selves, and the heavy toll this lifelong disconnection takes on a man's future health, marriage, and friendships. We dig into who is really teaching these lessons to young boys and examine his core belief that all behavior is communication. If you are parenting a child who learned early that adults weren't safe, pull up a chair; this conversation will permanently change how you hear a slammed door. Be sure to share this episode with another parent and leave a rating and review to help more families find Unmuted Love.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/mYeXV9_nZLE📖 Check out Adam's book, Healing the Helping Professional → https://naswpress.org/product/healing-the-helping-professional/🌐 Find Adam on his website → https://www.stedwards.edu/directory/sociology-social-work/adam-mccormickAbout Adam:Adam McCormick, MSW, PhD, is a Professor of Social Work at St. Edward's University in Austin, a nationally recognized speaker, and the author of LGBTQ Youth in Foster Care. After 25+ years, he still facilitates trauma and masculinity groups with adolescent boys, which tells you everything about where his heart lives.His upcoming trade book digs into the hidden emotional costs of boyhood and how the boys we raise become the men they are (release date pending).From Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

This week Ce Eshelman, LMFT,  interviews Stephanie Culler: Caltech PhD, twenty-plus patents, and former cancer researcher. Then she became a mother, went looking for what shapes health at the very beginning, and found a hole in nearly every American baby's gut. What does this have to do with parenting children from adverse beginnings? A lot.Her My Baby Biome study — one of the largest of its kind in the U.S. — found that nine in ten infants are missing keystone strains of Bifidobacterium, and nearly a quarter have none detectable at all, rising to 35% of babies born by C-section.Our kids weren't in that study. Most of ours arrived without much of a birth story or what happened in the first 1000 days. So, Ce asked what that study didn't: What happens when the exposures stack? What comes home with a child at eighteen months, or at seven years? (And, Ce’s favorite part of the interview: how dogs fit in.)▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/NGbt6mPR7Lw💡 Check out Stephanie's Baby Biome study → https://www.nature.com/articles/s42003-025-08274-7🌐 Find Stephanie on her website → persephone.bioFrom Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

Ce Eshelman, LMFT, sits down with Jen Lumanlan — host of Your Parenting Mojo and author of Parenting Beyond Power — and starts by picking a fight. Not really. Jen once made an episode called "Most of what you know about attachment is probably wrong." Ce owns a place called The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. What follows is not a debate so much as a really good untangling: what the attachment research actually says, who it was built on, and what still holds up when your child arrived at age six with a file folder and a garbage bag.Then they get into the meatier stuff you can use today. Collaborative problem-solving when your child’s survival brain gets to the conversation first. What to do when the unmet need underneath the behavior is I don't believe adults keep children safe. Why the safest parent gets the worst behavior. And whether it's too late for a fourteen-year-old who came home at nine. (Spoiler: it isn't.)Bring your coffee. Bring your skepticism. Bring the part of you that's tired. Both of these women get you.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/XvmrtUVLgVo💡 Take one of Jen's free quizzes → https://go.yourparentingmojo.com/tl/312💡 Use code UNMUTED to get $10 off Jen's masterclass on why you're so angry with your child's age-appropriate behavior (and what to do about it) → https://go.yourparentingmojo.com/tl/303💡 Jen's Taming Your Triggers workshop → https://go.yourparentingmojo.com/t?orid=27633&opid=16From Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

What happens when reading stops feeling like learning and starts feeling like proof that a child is “not smart”? In this episode of UnMuted Love, Ce Eshelman talks with Ruth Rumack, founder of Ruth Rumack’s Learning Space and creator of The Yak Pack Comics, about the emotional side of reading struggles--the part parents do not always know how to name. For many striving readers, repeated reading difficulty is not just an academic problem. It can become a nervous system problem, a shame problem, a confidence problem, and eventually an identity problem. A child who is bright, creative, verbal, curious, or deeply capable may still melt down, avoid reading, refuse homework, guess wildly, shut down, or say heartbreaking things like, “I’m stupid,” or “I hate reading.”Ruth helps parents understand what may be happening underneath those behaviors.Ce and Ruth talk about why children with dyslexia, ADHD, autism, anxiety, executive functioning challenges, and other learning differences often need more than extra practice. They need reading support that protects emotional safety, preserves dignity, and keeps the parent-child relationship from becoming another place where the child feels behind.This conversation is especially helpful for parents whose evenings have turned into reading battles, homework stress, tears, avoidance, or power struggles. Ruth offers a compassionate, practical way to think about helping children build reading skills without adding pressure, shame, or fear. They also discuss The Yak Pack Comics, Ruth’s decodable phonics comic series created to help children reconnect with reading through humor, success, and joy.  This might be the episode that rings a bell for what your child really needs.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/WEDAZqLIxvs📖 Check out FREE sample Yak Pack comic → https://rumackresources.com/product/yak-pack-comics-free-sample/📖 Check out the Yak Pack phonics comic books → https://bit.ly/YakPackComics🌐 Find Ruth on her website → https://ruthrumack.com💡 Check out Ruth's resources and publications → https://rumackresources.comFrom Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

In this episode, Ce Eshelman, Attachment and Trauma Specialist, explores the impact on siblings in a house where one has big feelings due to complex developmental trauma symptoms. This episode is about the sibling in your house. The one who isn’t in crisis. The one who learned to read the mood in a room before they could read a book. The research says one thing protects these kids most, which is more doable than you’d think. No guilt in this one. You’ve got plenty already. Find out why the sibling isn’t a bystander, what being a “glass child” really means, and how unrecognized parentification can harm.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/rbYQqWXogOoFrom Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

In this episode, Ce sits down with Conscious Living and Parenting Coach, Vibha Arora, to unpack her “Control-Free Parenting” approach—a blend of Positive Discipline and Conscious Parenting that challenges the instinct to manage, correct, and control. Vibha is clear: this isn’t about being permissive. And it’s definitely not about stepping back and hoping for the best. This is about doing the harder, deeper work: understanding what’s driving your child’s behavior and what’s getting activated inside of you. If you’re parenting a child from difficult beginnings—where control battles, rejection, and dysregulation are part of daily life—this conversation will both stretch you and maybe intrigue you.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/bH-9GCC5umA💡 Check out Vibha's FREE Guided Reset audio & nervous system tools → https://www.vibha-arora.com/pause-listen-shift-reset💡 Take the Control Free Parenting Quiz → https://www.vibha-arora.com/control-free-parenting-quiz/📖 Check out Raising Teens Who Talk To You, a book Vibha contributed to → https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Teens-Who-Talk-You-ebook/dp/B0GYQ8R9VP🎧 Listen to Vibha's podcast, Kaleidoscope: Shifting Perspectives With a Twist → https://open.spotify.com/show/2Jqz8hcUnqAA4sVCnzhgYW🌐 Find Vibha on her website → https://www.vibha-arora.com/📷 Follow Vibha on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/vibhaarora_/(You can DM her for virtual and in-person speaking and workshop requests!)From Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

In this highly practical conversation, Ce Eshelman sits down again with somatic therapist and Life Balance founder, Layne Burkette, to move beyond talking about regulation to actually practicing it with children. Part 1 was focused on showing parents how to use regular breath work for their own wellness. In this second part, Ce and Layne demonstrate simple, usable breathwork and somatic practices parents can use with their children in real time. These aren't complicated techniques or something you need to “make” children do. These are small, body-based ways to build regulating breath into your children’s daily lives.  (If you missed last week’s conversation with Layne, you might want to step back an episode and start with Part 1. You will be glad you did!)▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/pyE8go-W4_I💡 Check out Layne Burkette's FREE e-Book, Five Days to Calm → https://lifebalancebeyou.systeme.io/🌐 Find Layne on her website → https://lifebalancebeyou.com/📖 Check out The Perfectly Imperfect Family, the book Layne co-authored → https://lifebalancebeyou.heymarvelous.com/buy/product/90033📷 Follow Layne on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lifebalancebeyou/From Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

In this highly practical two-part conversation, Ce Eshelman sits down again with somatic therapist and Life Balance founder, Layne Burkette, to move beyond talking about regulation and actually practice it. This episode focuses on regulating breath work for parents. Together, Ce and Layne explore why parents can know every good parenting strategy and still lose access to those skills when their child’s nervous system lights up the room. They unpack what happens in the body when parents feel pushed, flooded, frozen, or desperate to fix things fast, and why the first intervention is often not a better too, but a steadier body. You'll learn simple, usable breathwork and somatic practices that you can try in real time. These aren't complicated techniques or one-more-thing-to-master exercises. They are small, body-based ways to interrupt reactivity, soften the nervous system, and return to enough safety to parent from presence instead of upset.In Part 2 next week, Ce and Layne demonstrate how to use breath work to create a regulating way of engaging children every day. Don't miss it!▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/8TWulIyHJDQ💡 Check out Layne Burkette's FREE e-Book, Five Days to Calm → https://lifebalancebeyou.systeme.io/🌐 Find Layne on her website → https://lifebalancebeyou.com/📖 Check out The Perfectly Imperfect Family, the book Layne co-authored → https://lifebalancebeyou.heymarvelous.com/buy/product/90033📷 Follow Layne on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lifebalancebeyou/From Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!

For the 100th episode of UnMuted Love, Ce Eshelman, LMFT, steps back to name the conviction threaded through every conversation she's had on this show: a child's behavior is information, not an indictment. Behavior tells us what a nervous system is managing—it doesn't tell us who the child is or who they will become.Pulling from nearly four decades as an attachment specialist and her own years parenting children who came home through foster care, Ce explains why the standard parenting playbook falls apart for kids whose earliest experiences were shaped by fear and loss. Punishment doesn't generate safety. Lectures don't produce calm. And the adults sweating it out every day deserve the same understanding they're asked to give to their child.She talks candidly about caregiver depletion, draws a firm line between therapeutic parenting and going soft, and circles back to the truth she keeps returning to: rebuilding trust is possible, but it can't be rushed or demanded. Part reflection, part celebration, part permission slip for every parent who's quietly wondered if they're doing it all wrong.▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/amVmY_ksrdcFrom Ce Eshelman:Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love+ Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." It's a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!Free Resources✨ Access handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!Additional Resources:📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials👉 Find Ce on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparentingUnmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of The Love+ Parent Program and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode!