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Who are you? How do others view you? And why do we care so much about what others think of us, especially when they probably aren't spending as much time thinking about us as we think they are? When they do think about us, they see us through their own lens. It’s time to discover who you are. So, how exactly do you do that?
Tony Overbay, LMFT, reads a heartfelt letter from a long-time listener, Jamie, who is struggling with issues in her marriage and recognizing patterns from her childhood that affect how she interacts with her spouse and children. Tony explores the concept of the 'Looking Glass Self' by Charles Horton Cooley, discussing how our self-identity is shaped by our perceptions of how others view us. He explains how these early experiences impact our self-esteem and relationships, using examples from listeners and clients. Tony introduces the modern-day concept of the 'reflected sense of self' from David Schnarch's theories of differentiation and provides practical advice on overcoming the need for external validation, forming healthier attachments, and developing a stable self-identity.
Join Tony as he navigates these deep psychological concepts and offers insights into creating more emotionally secure and fulfilling connections.
00:00 Listener's Heartfelt Letter
02:31 Introduction to Episode 424
03:10 Exploring the Concept of the Mirror
03:29 Charles Horton Cooley and the Looking Glass Self
09:00 Real-Life Examples of the Looking Glass Self
16:16 Differentiation and Emotional Independence
16:57 Balancing Connection and Individuality
18:47 The Reflected Sense of Self
27:00 Understanding Identity and Self-Worth
27:55 The Role of External Validation
29:25 Parent-Child Dynamics and Conditional Love
30:53 Emotional Neglect and Its Impact
33:21 Attachment Styles and Emotional Support
40:13 The Concept of Shame and Guilt
46:26 Overcoming Childhood Wounds
49:35 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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