Victim Mentality vs. Victim

Over and over again, I talk with students who describe feeling as if they can't turn the volume down on the thoughts in their minds. That incessant chatter gets relentless. The stories and ideas just swirl around until it all becomes a tornado. *exhausting* Today on ​The Transforming Anxiety Podcast​ I want to talk about ​how to get out of your head​ so that you can find some breathing room up there in your mind. You don't have to get lost in the cavern of your mind, going down rabbit hole after rabbit hole, hoping for an easy place to get some peace to show up. You can help yourself get OUT of your head, so that you can tune in to your life, your experience, your being. You are so much more than the thoughts you think. Let's talk about it together... Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/256  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. You can write me a message OR you can leave me a voicemail. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

Good morning, happy Wednesday! This week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast is a discussion about something pretty simple, but a powerful addition to the toolbox that we're all using to take care of ourselves around anxiety. And that is: the inevitable ​lapses in logic​ that occur in our minds. Our brains are shameless; they'll think absolutely *anything*. But this concept gives us a solid reminder that just because we think it, doesn't mean it's true. It's like there's a glitch in the matrix... Sometimes we can approach a challenge (work presentation!) or something icky (a snake!) or something scary (teens driving!) with clarity and rationale. Aaaaaand sometimes, we just totally lose the plot. What's the difference? Whether we can, or cannot, tell the whole story, all the way through, using reason and logic. Does our primal brain get in the way and perceive the situation as a threat? Or are we able to slow things down and calmly walk through the potential outcomes, seeing ALL possibilities as opposed to the one or two that point straight to the worst-case scenario? Let's talk about it. ​A lapse in logic​. This is something we ALL do. Fun! Join me and we'll sort it out together... Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/255  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. You can write me a message OR you can leave me a voicemail. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

Well, this may be (as close as we're gonna get to) the piece de resistance of the podcast: today, we're talking about ​living well​. Pretty much everything we do around here points to this: how can you feel okay in your skin? How can you move around the world being alright with who you are? ​How can you live well?​ We got pretty caught up in the daily stuff and I think we lose sight of what's most vital. I know I have. And this is something I'm staying really close to right now: living well. Taking care of myself by focusing pretty much *exclusively* on: mind, body, and heart. I also am asking simple, but powerful, questions like: What do I need right now? What do I want? How could I get a little more comfortable? Is there I'm thinking, feeling, or doing that seems icky? What am I feeling pulled towards? How can I be a little kinder with myself? Nothing time-consuming, nothing ground-breaking. But it is helping me to get really honest and clear about what I truly want and need in my life. Join me. Let's talk about it. Probably the first of many, but I'm looking forward to this conversation with you... Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/254  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

Ok, *today* we are going to focus on something that I know brings a lot of confusion, guilt, and pressure (aka anxiety) into our lives...and that is: ​what community looks like​. I have experienced this myself and I talk to students every week about it. The people in our lives. Get-togethers and social gatherings. Family and holidays and vacations. Friend groups, acquaintances, colleagues. How are we supposed to interact with all of these people? How many people should we have in our lives? ​What does community look like​? If you feel like you're constantly cycling through obligations, expectations, and trying to live up to some social-media-inspired lifestyle, full of people, this one is for you. Let's talk about community and take some time to define this for ourselves together today. Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/253  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

Good morning. ☀️ I hope this finds you well. That you're doing ok so far this week. That you're hanging in, finding some flow, letting yourself breathe, and being kind with yourself. On this week's episode of ​The Transforming Anxiety Podcast​ I wanted to explore how we can move through *all the things* without having quite such a death grip on life. Because, I mean, I think we DO. I've noticed we're holding on to it all pretty tightly...hoping that we can make it, that we can push through, that we can force it all to work and get all the people to cooperate and generally get things together. But I wonder: what if we loosened our grip? What if we relaxed our jaws, shook off some tension, and let go just a little bit? What if we ​hold it lightly​? We don't have to swing all the way into "screw it, nevermind, I give up" mode. We could just...chill. You've heard of this, yeah? The concept of chilling out. 🙃 Me too. Let's give it a go together. Join me for this week's conversation and let's take a look at where we're hanging on for dear life...and see if we could ​hold it lightly​ instead. I'll see you there. Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/252  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

Ahhhhh, it's good to be back...back to transforming anxiety. I missed you. In this week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast I'm sharing a bit with you about why I took a(n unplanned) break, how I personally struggle a bit, and what we have to look forward to together: work that I want to do, practices I want to steep myself in, teachings I want to stay close to. With you... I want you to know that I don’t take the fact that you're here lightly. I don’t for a second take it for granted that you’re here with me. That you listen in. That you share your inbox with me. That this work means something to you. It means the world to me, too. And that’s why I do it. That’s why I show up. That’s why I love on you and bring you these conversations, from my heart and my research and my curiosity and a deep love for all of us who feel and struggle and work with and around and inside of anxiety. I get it. I walk this path right alongside you. I'm so glad to be back. I've been thinking about you. And working hard. And also had to just take a moment to breathe and sit in the dark. But I missed you. Let's get back to transforming anxiety... Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/251  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

This week on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast we’re going to talk about that inner pileup of garbage that happens after days, weeks, months, YEARS of conversations, work, get-togethers, parenting, and activities. Alllll the garbage that starts gumming up the works, internally. The residue that happens when we ignore ourselves a little bit, when we bite our tongues, when we hold back, when we make ourselves small… And, more importantly, we’re going to talk about a few specific ways you can take out the trash for yourself so that you feel better and things run more smoothly. If you’ve ever felt bogged down at work, slow to make decisions, overly impatient with your family, or just like you can quite THINK clearly…it may be because the inner trash is piling up. These are all pretty common signals that something needs to be said, that it’s time to take a good, hard look at how you’re adulting, or that maybe a regular routine or pattern could use some adjustment. This one is full of practical approaches to emotional ick. Ways to take care of yourself and clear things out. A little preemptive spring cleaning mid-winter, y’know. Join me and let’s do this one together. Let’s take out all the trash… Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/250  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

I don't know about you, but I looooove to put my nose into other people's business. (Except I do know about you...I'm guessing you do this, too. Only about 100% of my students and friends and family do it. 🙃) I mean, from our vantage point, we can so clearly see what they should be doing, right? If they would just behave, if they would just cooperate, if they would just do it the right way then all our lives will be easier. * sigh * The cost of taking your eyes off your paper and nosing around to see what someone else is doing is HUGE. And that’s what we’re going to talk about on today’s episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast. Using a cute little story I like to call: the neighbor’s dandelions. What are we looking for when we try and control someone else? Are there any upsides? And what are the consequences? Join me for today’s show and let’s discuss… Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/249  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

I have something that sounds fun today, but is way more important than its cute little name and that is: time confetti. Have you ever had the feeling that you should have more time in your days and weeks than you do? Or sat down to relax for a few minutes and then looked at the clock to realize that an hour had flown by? Or felt so completely fragmented and distracted mentally that even when you get a moment to focus on something...you can't? We can't manage time itself, but we CAN manage ourselves around time. And looking how we shred our time into little itty bitty pieces of confetti and then bemoan the loss of it is a pretty powerful way to start the new year. It'll give us something to think about while we cook this month and gear up for 2024...more about that in last week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast. 😉 Join me for this conversation and let's gather up that confetti and stop tearing up our time. We'll do it together. 🩵 Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/248  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...

New year! But same me. Same you. Same all of us. This week's episode of ​The Transforming Anxiety Podcast​ is a "what's new in the new year" but also an acknowledgment of: not much. 🙃 Goals, resolutions, and plans are all *great*. Yup. And also...maybe we can just slow-roll the new year and spend this month (this quarter?) considering what we want it to look like. I'm putting the new year in hibernation-mode. And I offer a spin on how to come up with those grand plans and goals we all think about in the new year, too. Join me and let's talk about it. ​What's new in the new year?​ Everything..and nothing. Yeah? But let's do it together Full show notes are located at: www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com/podcast/247  Be sure to join my email list so you don't miss announcements, new classes, and podcast updates by visiting www.kellyhanlinmccormick.com  Submit your questions to me by CLICKING THIS LINK. I can reply directly to you and may use your question or comment on a future episode of the show! Also: I just love hearing from you. Let’s be in touch. 😊 Text PODCAST to +1 (816)354-1279 and I'll send mindfulness reminders, anxiety hacks, and little love notes your way from time to time...