How to Set Boundaries with Dr. Alison Cook

2023-08-21

The Alli Worthington Show

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Hey friend! Have you ever struggled to tell the difference between making sure your needs are met and being selfish? Is there a difference? Lean in – today’s conversation is for you!

As we continue to talk about Remaining You While Raising Them and the secret art of confident motherhood, I couldn’t miss the chance to bring you a replay of a conversation I got to have last fall with a friend who is a pro on boundaries and showing up to your life with the best of yourself. You’ll discover how to set boundaries with care and compassion.

My friend Dr. Alison Cook is a Boston-based psychologist and author of two books, Boundaries for Your Soul and The Best of You. She is a wife and mom to two adult children, and she specializes in bringing faith and psychology together for real change in people’s lives.

Join Alison and I for this conversation as we talk about:

How to find the healthy middle between never thinking of ourselves and only thinking of ourselves
Some commonly used (and misunderstood!) Scriptures that keep women playing small
Signs to look for when women give up on parts of themselves (and how to find our way back)
What it costs our loved ones when we shrink ourselves
Why noticing and naming struggles we see in ourselves is so essential to becoming whole

Favorite quotes:

“You can trust God and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, and broken inside.”
“When I hide myself, make myself invisible, or play like a doormat it is not only bad for me, I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.”
“When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be.”
“We are worth so much more than numbing through all the various ways we can check out. God wants so much more for us.”
“When women are healthy we change the world.”

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