281 - Demystifying Self-Sabotage

You know that voice in your head that never cuts you any slack? The one that calls you a failure every time you overeat and tells you to just "snap out of it"? What if I told you that voice is actually making your overeating worse, not better? Most women think they need to be harder on themselves to see results, but the opposite is true. In this episode, we're diving into why self-criticism creates the exact cycle you're trying to break and what actually works instead. Click here to join vibe club  

Do you have a big weight loss goal but find yourself making choices that work against it every single day? You're not alone - and the problem might actually be the goal itself. In this episode, we dive into why focusing on your ultimate weight loss number can make daily food decisions feel impossible and keep you stuck in cycles of overeating. We'll explore the surprising psychology behind why that "60 pounds to lose" goal might be sabotaging your progress and discuss a completely different approach to thinking about weight loss that actually works. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the mountain you need to climb or found yourself giving up because the end feels too far away, this episode will shift everything. Click here to join vibe club  

You wake up every morning with the best intentions. Today will be different. Today you won't overeat. But by evening, you've done it again - and you're left wondering what's wrong with you. If you're tired of this exhausting daily cycle of promising yourself you won't overeat and then breaking that promise hours later, this episode is for you. Click here to join vibe club  

Ever find yourself saying "I'm stuck" in your weight loss journey and genuinely feeling like you can't move forward? What if that feeling of being stuck isn't actually something happening to you, but a choice you're making without realizing it? In this episode, we dive into why your brain keeps you in familiar patterns even when they're painful, and explore the surprising truth about confusion, overwhelm, and feeling paralyzed in your progress. We'll uncover why some people seem to hear the same advice over and over but can never actually implement it, and what's really blocking you from taking action even when you know what to do. This conversation will completely shift how you think about those moments when you feel like nothing is working and you don't know what step to take next.

If food is the highlight of your day and overeating feels like your only source of joy, relief, or excitement, this episode is for you. We're diving deep into why so many of us give overeating multiple jobs - from being our reward system to our only form of relaxation. You'll discover why treating overeating as the problem might be keeping you stuck, and why calorie counting alone never addresses what's really going on. This conversation goes way beyond typical weight loss advice to explore what happens when food becomes your entire life. Click here to join vibe club  

This episode is a rapid-fire mashup of my greatest rants from the past 4.5 years — no fluff, just the truth that actually helps women lose weight without dieting. If you're new here, this is the one to start with. If you’ve been around, you’ll hear the messages that hit hardest — again. Click here to join vibe club  

Do you have PCOS, menopause, or insulin resistance and feel like weight loss is completely different for you? You've probably joined Facebook groups, read books, and followed experts who told you exactly what to expect with your specific condition. But what if the beliefs you've borrowed from these communities are actually shaping your experience more than you realize? In this episode, we dive into how the stories we tell ourselves about our bodies might be creating the very struggles we're trying to solve. Get ready to question everything you think you know about why weight loss feels so impossible. Click here to join vibe club 01:09: Why People Think Weight Loss Won't Work Common beliefs about why conditions like PCOS, menopause, and insulin resistance make weight loss impossible. 03:30: How Online Communities Shape Your Beliefs The danger of adopting limiting beliefs from Facebook groups and influencers about your diagnosis. 10:00: It's Still About Overeating Real client examples showing that addressing overeating solves the problem, not the diagnosis itself. 18:30: Question Everything You've Been Told Why you should be careful about accepting beliefs from experts and be willing to test them yourself. 24:00: Your Beliefs Create Your Experience How what you think about your condition impacts you more than the condition itself.

Behavior change is hard - really, really hard. In this episode, Maggie gets real about why changing your habits feels impossible and shares her own current struggles with nervous system regulation. She explains how your brain and body will literally fight you when you try to change, throwing what she calls "the biggest tantrum" to keep you stuck in familiar patterns. But here's the thing: understanding why your brain does this actually makes the whole process less terrifying and more manageable. If you've ever wondered why you keep going back to old habits even when you know better, this episode will help you understand what's really happening inside your head. Click here to join vibe club 02:54: It's No Longer About the Trauma, It's About the Choices 08:36: The First Week Was Brutal 11:33: Your Body Will Throw the Biggest Tantrum 13:45: Retraining Your Body Like a Wild Animal 19:27: You Have to Go All In - No Dipping In and Out

Ever feel like you're crushing your weight loss goals for weeks or months, then suddenly find yourself right back where you started? You're not alone - this frustrating cycle of progress followed by what feels like "self-sabotage" is one of the most common struggles people face. In this episode, we dive into why your brain seems to work against you just when things are going well, and why that success can feel so dangerous and unpredictable. We'll explore what's really happening in your mind when you revert to old eating patterns, and challenge some of the dramatic stories we tell ourselves about why this happens. If you've ever wondered why you keep "going backward" despite your best intentions, this episode will give you a completely different way to understand what's really going on Click here to join vibe club 02:42: What Self-Sabotage Really Looks Like 07:30: How Your Brain Creates Habits 11:30: Why "Self-Sabotage" is a Loaded Term 16:00: The Real Reason You Revert to Old Patterns 21:25: Summer Weight Loss and Vibe Club

Rachel shares her remarkable journey of losing 40 pounds while navigating the challenges of moving countries and pregnancy. After trying countless diets including keto, Whole30, and Weight Watchers without lasting success, she discovered a completely different approach that finally worked. Join us as Rachel reveals the unexpected mindset shift that made losing weight on vacation possible for the first time in her life. She offers a refreshing perspective on maintaining progress during major life transitions and how her relationship with food transformed during pregnancy. This conversation is packed with insights for anyone who feels like they've tried everything without finding lasting success. Click here to join vibe club 01:46 Rachel's history with weight loss attempts 05:18: The turning point: losing weight on vacation  09:00: The power of focusing on one problem  14:30: How Rachel's relationship with urges changed  20:00: Seeing success through major life transitions  24:39: Rachel's experience with pregnancy  33:27: The unexpected exercise mindset shift  44:45: Final advice for those struggling with weight loss